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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi guys just a quick question.is there anything i can do to get some meets?.im new to this so not sure what to expect.i admit im no brad pitt,far from it lol.but im not getting any response at all!.ive got my pictures in private so its not as if i wont show them.cheers s x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont understand it myself.

you have been here an entire week AND paid.

you should have had a dozen meets.

think its everyone else fella.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A week lol wait till your here for 6 months with no meets then ask

If your limits are so wide it looks like you want anyone that comes along

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not expecting miracles just some replies would be nice!.and no need to be sarcastic either.did i mention paying?no,so why you should feel the need to mention it baffles me?.i just think that with soooo many profiles asking for more than a "fancy a fuck" message,that when you reply decently the least you could do is reply with a quick no thanks.to be honest i was looking for advice id rather you didnt waste my time with comments like that.cheers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Problem is the is probably 10 times more single guys on her than Ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not expecting miracles just some replies would be nice!.and no need to be sarcastic either.did i mention paying?no,so why you should feel the need to mention it baffles me?.i just think that with soooo many profiles asking for more than a "fancy a fuck" message,that when you reply decently the least you could do is reply with a quick no thanks.to be honest i was looking for advice id rather you didnt waste my time with comments like that.cheers "

Keep at it mate, it's very difficult at first but you will get results if you persevere, take on board the positive advice and ignore the negative, good luck

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Ive moved this the the Advice forum.

The guy is asking for advice, not fly comments

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

While I appreciate the attempt at humour in your profile, for me, the lack of punctuation and spelling outweigh everything else.

You can't accommodate, so at your age, rightly or wrongly, people will assume you are married, and will choose not to be involved with someone cheating.

Just stick at it, it takes time, effort and patience for single men on here. Keep at it, you'll get there eventually.

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By *CM3Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

I've been on this profile for over a year (on and off due to relationships etc), and only managed to set up one "last minute" meet with a couple... I drove 45mins to there home, and no one answered the door! I think they'd been drinking and fallen asleep or something. Now that was annoying

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

cheers for the comment! think I must of been excited about all the sex I was going to get (joke) when I wrote my profile so didn't worry about the spelling!.either that or im as thick as pig poo,lol!im not married I just live with family so cant accommodate.thanks for the advice though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

realise that now mate!lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your pics are in private?

Not going to help! This is the internet - where visual images and the written word are all you have to attract someone's attention.

Having no public images will usually mean people pass you by in favour of those they can see and establish at least some element of attraction!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Therre is nothing appealing about your profile. The tag line would put us off. The profile is one dimensional, crude, dull, poorly written and not particularly funny. The combination of age, not being able to accomodate, no face pic and a status looking for outdoor fun screams cheat. Telling people how to use the site and expecting replies is disrespectful and naive.

Your profile is your shop window so ask yourself would you reply to it?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

My advice is to unblock men from messaging you as one might have invited you to join him (on here as single) and his female fuckbuddy and you will have missed the chance. Get some photos up and sort your capitals and spelling etc and lose the moany bit at the end of your profile. The reference to paying was your gold membership. Put more in your profile about what you CAN offer rather than what you can't, ie. Positive spin. Look at all the other thread help advice etc threads, chat in the chatroom and look out for social meets in the meets section and go to a club.

I managed to type all that in one breathe. Fast typing eh? BOOM!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

telling people how to use the site?.don't know what you mean.Im not disrespectful at all,but wanted helpful comments so sarcastic comments were going to get short shrift.I take on bored your other comments though.Thanks for that.As a newbie to this I really don't know what to expect or how to approach it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks for that great advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"telling people how to use the site?.don't know what you mean."

You tell people that they should reply to your messages and that they are rude if they don't. It's up to them whether they reply and it's not rude not too.

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By *ubberdollieWoman
over a year ago

Stoke


"thanks for that great advice "

I'd pass you by immediately because of the lack of pics hun.

Also when I read your profile it reads like you are putting yourself down. Whilst i'd much rather that then someone droning on about ' how I can make any lady gush, I can fuck for hours' yawn. It wouldn't do you any harm to sell yourself a bit more. Hope that helps!

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

People can seem a bit blunt when giving advice mate, but that's because there's an endless stream of posts from men asking why they can't get meets. You weren't to know that, but look at the forums regularly and, to be honest, you'll be thinking "blimey, another one - this isn't rocket science".

The women on here can afford to be very picky because there's so many blokes on the site. I thought it was rude that they didn't reply when I first joined, but it you saw the sheer weight of messages they got you'd realise why. I meet someone socially off here and she showed me her messages. She'd had 43 that day and I believe women when they say they get more than that.

Most were poorly spelt, poorly worded nonsense from idiots who assumed she (a classy, intelligent women) would welcome a message like "fancy me f**king your brains out". It made looking at her inbox a chore and less than pleasant experience. Replying to all, or even the minority of decent messages would be impossible for her, as she's a busy person. It's nothing personal - move on.

Be yourself, be friendly, be humorous, be very patient.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People can seem a bit blunt when giving advice mate, but that's because there's an endless stream of posts from men asking why they can't get meets. You weren't to know that, but look at the forums regularly and, to be honest, you'll be thinking "blimey, another one - this isn't rocket science".

The women on here can afford to be very picky because there's so many blokes on the site. I thought it was rude that they didn't reply when I first joined, but it you saw the sheer weight of messages they got you'd realise why. I meet someone socially off here and she showed me her messages. She'd had 43 that day and I believe women when they say they get more than that.

Most were poorly spelt, poorly worded nonsense from idiots who assumed she (a classy, intelligent women) would welcome a message like "fancy me f**king your brains out". It made looking at her inbox a chore and less than pleasant experience. Replying to all, or even the minority of decent messages would be impossible for her, as she's a busy person. It's nothing personal - move on.

Be yourself, be friendly, be humorous, be very patient. "

Well put !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yawns.....dude join the club and get on with it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

getting meets is easy in fact you can have one tonight if you want.

check out the club listing and go.

or

Wednesday go to the Lodge on the social night and then go to the Bi night next Saturday..

Should be right up your alley !!!

get a verification.

hey presto meets galore...

really it is that simple. Don't thank us.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Hi guys just a quick question.is there anything i can do to get some meets?.im new to this so not sure what to expect.i admit im no brad pitt,far from it lol.but im not getting any response at all!.ive got my pictures in private so its not as if i wont show them.cheers s x"

patience... patience....patience...

1 week in isn't really showing patience...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep trying...

I've not had ameet yet..but keep chatting , keep mailing ..who knows after a while you may geet lucky!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep trying I've had no sex meets yet but I've met two people for a chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your pics are in private?

Not going to help! This is the internet - where visual images and the written word are all you have to attract someone's attention.

Having no public images will usually mean people pass you by in favour of those they can see and establish at least some element of attraction!"

Agreed totally. If there are no pictures I don't even read the profile. Saying that, bad pictures are worse than no pictures!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi guys just a quick question.is there anything i can do to get some meets?.im new to this so not sure what to expect.i admit im no brad pitt,far from it lol.but im not getting any response at all!.ive got my pictures in private so its not as if i wont show them.cheers s x

patience... patience....patience...

1 week in isn't really showing patience..."

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

What you need to display in your profile and messages is the triple H factor,,

Honesty,,,

Humour,,,,

*Hung like a horse,,

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The first two are vital, the third isn t,

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By *1KandiCouple
over a year ago

Jacksonville

When I am up for a guy night I don't go shopping for guys on the site. I will answer any message that comes my way and save my favorites and check them out and chat a little - but there must be a picture of at least 1 of face/body and 1 of cock.

If I get 14 cock pics and no face pic - sorry to say I delete and block - I love the cock but I am not dating just the cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

S'all good bro, you'll get there someday

get in the chatrooms sometime, and you'd be a 'superwoman' not to block every guy on here

Times I really can't be bothered to type a message, even when I see I'm very much attracted to the profile. So I wink or just smile and let it go. Simple because I know it'll require some effort to write what I'd really want to say...

I enjoy reading and learning from the chatrooms. Give it a try sometimes

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

I personally ignore any messages sent from a profile that has NO pics (or just cock pics)

A decent body pic works for me...Doesnt have to naked....and I dont expect a face to be shown on public profile either...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate to say it but I think coming on a website like this as a single bloke is probably a bit of a waste of time and effort. I should go and find a proper girlfriend, When you've got to know each other ask her if she is only into mongomous relationships or would she like to have some fun with other couples.

It's all about trust and I ask would you trust a single blokes profile on a website. I mean would you ? Some lucky random blokes do get to meet us but it's usually very spur of moment and to be brutally honest your profile wouldn't interest us.

Also some peeps say on here that you have to be patient. I'm not so sure that is true. If your face doesn't fit then you will probably get fed up of waiting.

Just being honest and the same applies to 100s of other blokes on here. It's why we block single males because the deluge of replies to our profile get's very tedious even though it states categorically no single males unless we fancy it for a change. I bet 90% of the couples on here are the same.


"Hi guys just a quick question.is there anything i can do to get some meets?.im new to this so not sure what to expect.i admit im no brad pitt,far from it lol.but im not getting any response at all!.ive got my pictures in private so its not as if i wont show them.cheers s x"

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"Hate to say it but I think coming on a website like this as a single bloke is probably a bit of a waste of time and effort. "

Im sure the couples/men/women on here only looking for single men would disagree with you....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fair enough. Just trying to help all those guys out there that wonder why on earth they are not deluged with offers to come and fuck.


"Hate to say it but I think coming on a website like this as a single bloke is probably a bit of a waste of time and effort.

Im sure the couples/men/women on here only looking for single men would disagree with you...."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like everything in life effort equals rewards, not that I'm hugely successful on here and maybe not successful enough to comment but from reading forums and speaking to friends would say not to send only cock pictures, not expect replys and don't insult the women if get turned down. Good luck and happy swinging

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"Fair enough. Just trying to help all those guys out there that wonder why on earth they are not deluged with offers to come and fuck.

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My guess would be that so far they havent found someone that is attracted to them yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting a meet takes time and effort, my profile is by no means perfect but I have a feeling that the amount of pictures and not just pictures of my johnson as helped with making contact. If you approach people you are interested in I think it's wise to be polite and try and incorporate something in your message to do with their profile. This will show you have read it and not just copy and pasted a generic "want to fuck" message, which again is a big no no. If you said that to someone whilst out and about you would probably get a kick in the balls. Also get yourself photo verified at the very least. Your profile does look like you have something to hide.

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

Patience grasshopper

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the replies guys good and bad lol.taken it all in and changed it around a bit!.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Four meets in seven days is good then, I take it ?.

Thought it was really bad lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Four meets in seven days is good then, I take it ?.

Thought it was really bad lol."

Good work stud!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You make a post that loads of other single me do on here saying no luck etc and folk including me get bored hence what you call sarcastic replies.

You will need to develop a thicker skin if the replies thus far are winding you up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to a club get verified it help me to get started. always be your self and have fun. good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No pics,no meets.

A single guy has to do some work.post pics or get ignored

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and its nothing to do with luck.you have to work for it

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By *ob08Man
over a year ago

Macclesfield

To all the couples being sarcastic and arsey , id say if you want respect from single guys then show respect to them as well. I am now part of a couple but when I joined I was a single guy, and for some reason some couples on here seem to think that they somehow can have a double standard and be arsey to guys even when they've been nothing but polite and nice, so as my grandma used to say "If you cant say anything nice , don't say anything"

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I agree with Pob08, a lot of people are negative towards single guys just because they are single.

Many guys I get messages from are perfectly polite and when I reply, even if it's a no, they are often surprised that I answered. These are not even the 'fancy a f**k' types who get ignored.

Plus everyone is new at some point and needs a helping hand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't reply to one-liners or messages that are obviously copied 'n pasted, and not a reaction to my profile. But if they are originals and I am not interested, I'll always send a polite 'no, thanks', together with my best wishes for them. And invariably I get a very nice response; most are surprised that they do get a reply, and return the best wishes. Perhaps I'm just an old fart, but oldfashioned politeness often works well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't reply to one-liners or messages that are obviously copied 'n pasted, and not a reaction to my profile. But if they are originals and I am not interested, I'll always send a polite 'no, thanks', together with my best wishes for them. And invariably I get a very nice response; most are surprised that they do get a reply, and return the best wishes. Perhaps I'm just an old fart, but oldfashioned politeness often works well. "

thanks.i always reply thanking people for getting back to me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I agree with Pob08, a lot of people are negative towards single guys just because they are single.

Many guys I get messages from are perfectly polite and when I reply, even if it's a no, they are often surprised that I answered. These are not even the 'fancy a f**k' types who get ignored.

Plus everyone is new at some point and needs a helping hand."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To all the couples being sarcastic and arsey , id say if you want respect from single guys then show respect to them as well. I am now part of a couple but when I joined I was a single guy, and for some reason some couples on here seem to think that they somehow can have a double standard and be arsey to guys even when they've been nothing but polite and nice, so as my grandma used to say "If you cant say anything nice , don't say anything" "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Were a couple been on here just over a month and so far had 3 let downs nobody seems to be genuine

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"No one is genuine" is heard so often on here and in chat yet loads of us have veri's from real meets.

This kind of moaning is unnecessary and unhelpful and shows the moaner in a negative light, which reduces their chances of a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""No one is genuine" is heard so often on here and in chat yet loads of us have veri's from real meets.

This kind of moaning is unnecessary and unhelpful and shows the moaner in a negative light, which reduces their chances of a meet "

OK, I will re-word it, lots of the people we have encountered so far have not been genuine, and we can't wait to meet up with those that are!!

We have in fairness, been unlucky but I think that is in part due to us being totally new to this and somewhat naiive x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been here a relative short time, and my meets, be they coffee or otherwise, have been with Real People, and bloody nice ones, too.

Been stood up for coffee meets 3 times. Their loss.

A few cancellations, but that could not be helped. Life sometimes interferes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What you need to display in your profile and messages is the triple H factor,,

Honesty,,,

Humour,,,,

*Hung like a horse,, the third might not be vital but if i didnt put that inwas hung like a horse i be dishonest

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The first two are vital, the third isn t, "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

unless you have at least one pic on your profile, very doubtfull you will get replies, people make a decision in 5 seconds, no pic, no replies, usually.

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By *exyLancs2Couple
over a year ago

Manchester


"Therre is nothing appealing about your profile. The tag line would put us off. The profile is one dimensional, crude, dull, poorly written and not particularly funny. The combination of age, not being able to accomodate, no face pic and a status looking for outdoor fun screams cheat. Telling people how to use the site and expecting replies is disrespectful and naive.

Your profile is your shop window so ask yourself would you reply to it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""No one is genuine" is heard so often on here and in chat yet loads of us have veri's from real meets.

This kind of moaning is unnecessary and unhelpful and shows the moaner in a negative light, which reduces their chances of a meet "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"unless you have at least one pic on your profile, very doubtfull you will get replies, people make a decision in 5 seconds, no pic, no replies, usually."

not true.sorted the text out on profile and i am having lots of replies now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im in the same boat as you mate. No replies equalls no meets, no meets equalls no sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think of your profile as a shop window, would you shop there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hard to say as often not looking for someone like yourself.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"unless you have at least one pic on your profile, very doubtfull you will get replies, people make a decision in 5 seconds, no pic, no replies, usually.

not true.sorted the text out on profile and i am having lots of replies now"

That's great news

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