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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We all know that some people get nervous before a meet but how much alchol is acceptable when your not drinking at all??

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

as long as they can perform sexually and behave accordingly

if they have too much, walk away if it makes you feel uncomfortable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they're throwing up in plant pots and pissing into the fireplace and then ordering kebabs to be delivered its fair to say they may have had enough to drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I the male never drink and mrs gilly will have a few sometimes on long nights say at chams by the end of the night she can be bladdered, me personally people who are too d*unk are a no no

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

"as long as they can perform sexually and behave accordingly

if they have too much, walk away if it makes you feel uncomfortable."

Like anything it's what's right for you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own. But personally, as I am a control freak, I do like to stay in charge of my faculties

It should also be pointed out that you should never drink alcohol whilst swinging on the pole, it's only ever going to end in tears and a big fat bruise!!

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

Well I love a few drinks on a meet but its nowt to do with nerves

I always warn them before they get here tho cos they can either join me or not

After working hard all week I love to relax with a couple of bacardis when we have someone here

They do have the choice to cum or not

lol

xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

D*unk men are crap in bed, speaking from my own experiences. Thought of putting an alcohol ban on meets at one point

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

"Each to their own. But personally, as I am a control freak, I do like to stay in charge of my faculties

It should also be pointed out that you should never drink alcohol whilst swinging on the pole, it's only ever going to end in tears and a big fat bruise!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I the male never drink and mrs gilly will have a few sometimes on long nights say at chams by the end of the night she can be bladdered, me personally people who are too d*unk are a no no "

While being nicely tipsy makes for a relaxed and fun time,there is nothing more unattractive than an obnoxious overbearing d*unk that wants your attention in a club,they're scary people because you never know which way they're going to turn,one minute they love you the next they want to fight the world,they're best avoided at all costs too unpredicatable and playing with people like that is dangerous .......not saying thats what mrs gilly is like that at all but your post has made me think about the state some people get into and they're wanting to have sex with strangers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we were at a party once and the one female part of a couple got steaming.

made it very uncomfortable to everyone else.

H doesnt drink anyway, V has a couple of glasses of whatever she fancies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very rarely drink any alcohol at all, particularly when swinging. If I wouldnt do something sober then I dont want to get into a state where I might do it. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple of my favourite tipples for swinging and never if I am playing and bdsm is involved, prefer a clear head for safety reasons,

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Jayne sometimes has a few drinks, but she knows when to reign it in and will often drink soft drinks in between the alcoholic ones.

I am usually driving, so I don't drink at all then, but if there's a chance for me to drink, I prefer to take it slow and steady, and don't drink a lot.

Nothing worse than seeing domestics or other bad behaviour fueled by booze, or finding a nice couple to play with only for one, or both, to get so d*unk that they either can't play, or you feel that they are too d*unk to play with.

Nothing wrong with having a drink, just don't hammer it lol!

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I don't drink at all, either before meets or during them.

I am normally driving anyway and I don't need dutch courage.

I dislike playing with pissed people; I want to feel they are playing because they want to and not because they are pissed !!!

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"I don't drink at all, either before meets or during them.

I am normally driving anyway and I don't need dutch courage.

I dislike playing with pissed people; I want to feel they are playing because they want to and not because they are pissed !!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not to keen on drink on meets to be honest like the other persOn to know what is going on and also some people drink does strange things to them once meet a great lady really got to know her got on well had many a fun nite with her then one nite she had a few too many and ended up attacking me with a bottle that was one nite i will never forget but she never did drink any time we meet after that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have odd glass of wine, all fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to find it always get spilt when the bed starts rocking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I very rarely drink any alcohol at all, particularly when swinging. If I wouldnt do something sober then I dont want to get into a state where I might do it. X"

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By *all-Eddies QosCouple
over a year ago

wirral

Wish I could drink enough not to be nervous but still coherent but I'm such a lightweight.....so nerves get the better of me and I sit rocking in the corner haha

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

I either have a drink OR play!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know this might sound unbelievable but I can actually drink alcohol and somehow still be in control of what I do! Shockingly I can drink alcohol and mamage to have great sex, not vomit, fall over, or make a total idiot of myself! What can I say but I guess its just a skill I have. miss xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

`I seem to get fucked much more if the guys are pissed,

whats the difference between a straight bloke and a bi bloke..about 5 pints

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

do not need a drink really bur glass wine or to is ok my prob is spunking to fast as i get over exc is very upsetting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely drink so it's never an issue for me, sooner drink coffee or water anyhow!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Everything in moderation.

If you know you have a tendency to go overboard, then maybe......don't.

I've never drank, so no idea how much alcohol constitutes "dutch courage" but there is a big chasm between calming nerves and making an absolute fool out of yourself.

I'd expect most adults to hopefully learn by now, how to stay on the right side of that divide.

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By *ombshellWoman
over a year ago

islington

doesn't drink much for a meet or at a club, staggering around and not being in control is sooooo not a good look!

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

"Everything in moderation.......(...)

I'd expect most adults to hopefully learn by now, how to stay on the right side of that divide."

Quite right....but they dont!

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By *elmc1Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Each to their own. But personally, as I am a control freak, I do like to stay in charge of my faculties

It should also be pointed out that you should never drink alcohol whilst swinging on the pole, it's only ever going to end in tears and a big fat bruise!!

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And how did we find that out. pmsl. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a good question .

Too much Dutch courage for Mrs J and I become more wary , looking after and out for her .

I tend not to drink as I want to be on my best performance .

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By *lleyCat1969Man
over a year ago

Folkestone

I never drink anything stronger than coffee on a meet as it affects my performance (one very embarrassing evening I won't forget) but don't mind if they do, so long as it's not one too many.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We drink when we go to clubs. If there are people that we want to play with then we're usually too busy to have more than a couple. If its one of those nights where nothing is going to happen we tend to hang out in the social area and have a few more!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both like a d*unk but never get d*unk or anywhere near d*unk. Have met a a few where either gets too d*unk and it really puts us off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to a know a couple, they would go to a club, she would let him have a few drinks and get a bit tiddly, then he talks and talks, she goes off and has a great time...

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"I used to a know a couple, they would go to a club, she would let him have a few drinks and get a bit tiddly, then he talks and talks, she goes off and has a great time..."

Interesting way to do it, haha

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"We all know that some people get nervous before a meet but how much alchol is acceptable when your not drinking at all?? "

Don't think that you can put a set limit on how much is too much. Some people can handle their drink better than others.

Personally we will only have a couple of drinks on a meet and that's our limit.

We won't play with those that we consider to be d*unk or tipsy.

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By *irtyAndCh33kyCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We very rarely drink anyway but have no objection to a couple of drinks....especially at a club for example.

We wouldn't want to play with someone who's d*unk though! there could be issues regarding 'consent' then.

Mrs Dirty

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By *orseydaveMan
over a year ago

Norwich NR5

I don't know if other single guys will be honest enough to agree, but meeting a couple for the first time is feckin scarey;

My first time I felt asthough I was standing in the dock waiting for 10 years, so when couples come here and its our first meet, i do have a couple beforehand to steady the nerves and drink is available, but touch wood Ive never known anyone get plastered though one couple (my fav's) always stay overnight and yes we do have quite a few between bouts of playing

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Drink and meets don't mix in my opinion other than a couple. Although one guy I meet we make a whole night of it and a few drinks always go down well during the evening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love a big night out and then some sexy fun afterwards. Makes it seem more natural.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We love a big night out and then some sexy fun afterwards. Makes it seem more natural."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I the male never drink and mrs gilly will have a few sometimes on long nights say at chams by the end of the night she can be bladdered, me personally people who are too d*unk are a no no

It's just it can be a long night sometimes we are there 7 hours and it's just a build up of drinking through the evening to be honest she can hold her liquir on the occasions I think she has had enough I tell her I'm tired and we go back to the hotel but it's never at the stage where she is staggering around waving her finger at people, it's like what has already been said a little in moderation is fine I don't like d*unks to be honest and don't drink at all and personally think dint think it goes with swinging people need to make informed choices

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

"I very rarely drink any alcohol at all, particularly when swinging. If I wouldnt do something sober then I dont want to get into a state where I might do it. X"

I am teetotal, and decided not to meet a guy who said he would prefer me to have a few drinks to 'relax' and 'be more uninhibited'. I don't need a drink to relax and have a good time, and it worried me that he was wanting to get me in an inebriated state....I like to be fully in control of myself and have no regrets the next day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I drink too much (haven't on a meet ever), I lose my inhibitions, have done something I wouldn't normally do. So drink and me aren't a good mix really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I drink too much (haven't on a meet ever), I lose my inhibitions, have done something I wouldn't normally do. So drink and me aren't a good mix really.

Same with Mrs J , which is why I become more wary and end up keeping an eye on her .

I am responsible for her after all , in the club, and I would expect the same if it was me .

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"as long as they can perform sexually and behave accordingly

if they have too much, walk away if it makes you feel uncomfortable.

Like anything it's what's right for you... "

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I very rarely drink any alcohol at all, particularly when swinging. If I wouldnt do something sober then I dont want to get into a state where I might do it. X

Same here and have been laughed at by a guy who couldn't understand why I didn't use alcohol to relax

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

For me I have no more than a pint....and that is in a club......,

It helps the nerves but still means I can perform

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I drink too much (haven't on a meet ever), I lose my inhibitions, have done something I wouldn't normally do. So drink and me aren't a good mix really.

Same with Mrs J , which is why I become more wary and end up keeping an eye on her .

I am responsible for her after all , in the club, and I would expect the same if it was me ."
I've never been to a club, this was just me out at the pub with my fem friend and some unexpected attention from the opposite sex

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

I only have one drink .then keep to water the wife will have a couple of wines to steady nerves .once steadied she will pace herself with drink and men lol having soft drinks inbetween

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I NEVER drink and play - the two don't mix in my humble opinion (for what it's worth...)

As for anyone I might play with, I tend to be a 'people watcher' - which is NOT a perv before you all start accusing me! - and, certainly at a party or in a club, make a mental note of how the 'state' of anyone I'm interested in is ... er,... 'progressing'..? If I think someone has gone beyond the line where they are FULLY in control of what they are doing, then it's a no-go with me.

Two reasons for this: first, if you NEED a drink to Swing, you shouldn't be doing it. Second, if someone needs a drink to play with me, then I don't want to play with them. I may be a Swinger, but I have some pride left.....

ted.

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By *ombshellWoman
over a year ago

islington

brew anyone? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had tea in past

I do like a glass of wine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never have d*unk sex, even vanilla. Past experiences have told me I'm just not good at it! I have fell off the bed , tripped over things naked etc. Its not a pretty sight.

So for swinging I don't usually drink unless at a club or one or two during or after play

Lynn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met our fav swinging friends on holiday last week, stayed with them for a week.

On night one we went for dinner and dancing with LOTS of beers and wine flowing.

Back in their appt afterwards with more drinks being consumed however the sex was about as horny as we have ever experienced in our 14 years of playing and culminated in me sleeping with her and him sleeping with my other half.

None of us have ever done that before, it was not really discussed and just happened. All 4 of us are adults and could of said no at any point but happily let things develop.

Waking up to another women in the early hours was sexy as hell and my other half loved her experience. In fact it was all the four of us could talk about the following day.

Sober may well be good but d*unk is certainly not always bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some holier than thou types about!

We like a drink, not going to deny it. Some of the best nights we have had are when everyone is a bit merry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some holier than thou types about!

We like a drink, not going to deny it. Some of the best nights we have had are when everyone is a bit merry."

Absofeckinlutely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just sat downd to a clod can of fosters after a long day at, just need some one to swing with haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"just sat downd to a clod can of fosters after a long day at, just need some one to swing with haha

Clod ............. Sure it's your first today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

told you it was long,im looking through one eye and a pickled onion haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never drink and meet as I am often driving and don't need it to relax or get in the mood so to speak.

I had two bad meets regards to drinking, one couple the lady was so ill she was sick and the other (also a couple) were staggering and slurring words.

I refused a meet with me and D a couple months back because they requested I get them a nice big bottle of vodka so they could get smashed and have a chat while deciding if they wanted to play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never drink while swinging. I prefer to keep my mind on things and enjoy the moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally, I NEVER drink and play - the two don't mix in my humble opinion (for what it's worth...)

ted."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There seems to a few folk hung on the difference between NEED and LIKE.

Apart from when being they are the designated driver we can't think of anyone we have ever played with who hasn't enjoyed a drink as part of the preamble

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There seems to a few folk hung on the difference between NEED and LIKE.

Apart from when being they are the designated driver we can't think of anyone we have ever played with who hasn't enjoyed a drink as part of the preamble

Indeed. We drink without falling over or puking into the nearest plant pot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Indeed. We drink without falling over or puking into the nearest plant pot."

Drinking, remaining in total control of ones faculties, enjoying the sexual fun to it fullest..........is that possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would find it very rude of someone to turn up d*unk to a meet ! But to sit and have a few together before is fine and flirt abit

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By *ettering-couple76Couple
over a year ago

Kettering

Drinkis fine, as it is often a nice ice breaker. However from experience now playing with d*unk people isn't as much fun.... moderation is good, for drink, not sex :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know this might sound unbelievable but I can actually drink alcohol and somehow still be in control of what I do! Shockingly I can drink alcohol and mamage to have great sex, not vomit, fall over, or make a total idiot of myself! What can I say but I guess its just a skill I have. miss xx

we are the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have learnt the hard way and alot of drinking with swinging does not make a good team. I tend to drive to meets and hotels now so i can swing without any alcohol at all.

But I love the way that a little can help relax your inhibitions and push your boundaries a little further than what you would normally do !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally, I NEVER drink and play - the two don't mix in my humble opinion (for what it's worth...)

ted."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally, I NEVER drink and play - the two don't mix in my humble opinion (for what it's worth...)

ted.

Maybe a little relaxation (not alot) would do some the power of good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally, I NEVER drink and play - the two don't mix in my humble opinion (for what it's worth...)

ted."

You don't mention anything about those that actually LIKE to have a few drinks while they play and have fun. Like me, I like a few glasses of wine during the evening and to be totally honest some of my best nights were when we had MORE than a few.

By no means do I always drink but I do prefer a few.

Would a Lady that sets herself a 3 glass limit thorough the whole evening be enough to maintain your "pride"?!

Hats off to the sober types too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally, I NEVER drink and play - the two don't mix in my humble opinion (for what it's worth...)

ted.

By no means do I always drink but I do prefer a few.

Would a Lady that sets herself a 3 glass limit thorough the whole evening be enough to maintain your "pride"?!

Hats off to the sober types too

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Personally, I NEVER drink and play - the two don't mix in my humble opinion (for what it's worth...)

ted.

By no means do I always drink but I do prefer a few.

Would a Lady that sets herself a 3 glass limit thorough the whole evening be enough to maintain your "pride"?!

Hats off to the sober types too

Totally agree, there is a big difference between having a few drinks because you enjoy it and having a few drinks because you need it...especially where swinging is concerned!

Now who is mixing the espresso martinis?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally, I NEVER drink and play - the two don't mix in my humble opinion (for what it's worth...)

ted.

By no means do I always drink but I do prefer a few.

Would a Lady that sets herself a 3 glass limit thorough the whole evening be enough to maintain your "pride"?!

Hats off to the sober types too

Totally agree, there is a big difference between having a few drinks because you enjoy it and having a few drinks because you need it...especially where swinging is concerned!

Now who is mixing the espresso martinis?"
lol

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