FabSwingers.com forum: Can't Believe It

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just got back from a 30 mile round trip. The girl never turned up. They even logged out just after I'd set off. I wouldn't mind if I'd got a message to say sorry, but nothing. Grrrrrrr so mad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

remember nothing in cyber space is real, do a few more checks before doing the same again, think with your head not your balls x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Check how or what I'm quite new to this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no experience meeting women, but I know a lot on here will be able to help you, if you ask, and when they wake up will do.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

phone numbers, phone chats, a date in a social place first,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are they verified,did u speak to her on phone to establish she a woman

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.

Sadly, from what we gather, this happens quite often on here.

But don't let it put you off. Report them for failing to meet and find someone else more genuine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah single girls seem to be a waste of time on here even when they plan a social.bestw ay is to chat on cam in the chat rooms or skype .they normally hide their profile to seems kind of pointless.hope u have better luck next time x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No I didn't speak on the phone but I will do to whoever I intend to meet next. Great advice from you all and thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah single girls seem to be a waste of time on here even when they plan a social.bestw ay is to chat on cam in the chat rooms or skype .they normally hide their profile to seems kind of pointless.hope u have better luck next time x"

Oh i know we are tut tut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately - this is what happens on fab - get talking next time before you meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had this too. I always turn up, haven't cancelled on a guy. Life and time are too short but she may have had a valid reason and not had time. Have you asked her why?

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By *ustyBrunette35Couple
over a year ago

birmingham

"No I didn't speak on the phone but I will do to whoever I intend to meet next. Great advice from you all and thank you xx"

Any verfications from previous meets?

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By *reasyontheeyesMan
over a year ago

out in the sticks

I chatted to a girl on the phone, she had lots of verifications so off I set. Drove to Minehead not the best of roads from here. Tried to ring when outside Butlins , straight to answer phone. Looked on fab, not been logged on since we chatted hour ago. Nothing for an hour, so went home.

Tried to contact again next day and got hold of her. Her reason for not replying or answering phone ? Her phone died and she'd fallen asleep on sofa

So check all you like you'll still get timewasters! !

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

I thought this was gonna be a thread about butter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess there are just nasty ppl on here as there are all over the cyber world! I'm a single girl and if I arrange a meet and can't make it I cancel!

Sometimes my life outside fab ( and yes I have one ) comes first.

As for chatting on the phone still won't make them genuine but it is better than meeting cold turkey, but I won't do phone chats not cause I'm not genuine just cause I'm partially deaf and can't talk on the phone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What absolute rubbish!! I don't use the chat rooms nor cam nor Skype and I turn up! Don't tar us all with the same brush just because you have had a few time wasters

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

What absolute rubbish!! I don't use the chat rooms nor cam nor Skype and I turn up! Don't tar us all with the same brush just because you have had a few time wasters

Me either. And after having a stalker I don't swap phone numbers till we've met. But if I arrange a meet I turn up.

OP report her and block and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

They've deleted there profile and yes I am moving on now. I always turn up for meets even been to London for one 200 miles and they met but not from this site though xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What absolute rubbish!! I don't use the chat rooms nor cam nor Skype and I turn up! Don't tar us all with the same brush just because you have had a few time wasters

Me either. And after having a stalker I don't swap phone numbers till we've met. But if I arrange a meet I turn up.

OP report her and block and move on.

Yeh she's gone off here now love

Yes I'm moving on too after reading a lot of good advice. No doubt it'll happen again but will be more careful in the future

Love all and happy swinging xx

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By *illwill69uMan
over a year ago

moston

Dont forget to report it to admin...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately there is no fool proof way to avoid a time waster regardless of how many checks you put in place, you just have to go with your gut instinct which will get better the more you meet. We all still get caught out every now and again though, hence some of the bitterness in an earlier post.

I rarely do the chat on the phone unless the other person asks for it, but that's because I don't like phone sex and am wary of a potential meet trying to turn it into that...I am however happy to text. I've done socials on occasion too, but again at the request of the person I'm meeting not something I ask for. We don't all fit into the nice little 'genuine' boxes, but a verified profile is a good place to start...and maybe a definite address of where you're meeting, not half an address with the rest when you get close. A vague location would make me wary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not quite had that experience. Had some meets. some good, some not so. However, what annoys me is chat great online for ages. I am very polite and well mannered to all. Meet is arranged at a later date sometime. Just a social even. Then get either ignored or blocked for no reason. Did not think manners or a no thanks cost anything but I am obviously wrong. Not tarring everyone with same brush. Most are nice and good banter is had.

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By *e88lesWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

It happens to us single ladies too, only last night I was supposed to meet a guy I had been texting for a few weeks. When he was an hour late he said he was running late and would be with me with 15 minutes and I am still waiting!

I think he had no intention of meeting me at all just enjoyed the build up, what a waste of time!

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

hope you have better luck in the future x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah single girls seem to be a waste of time on here even when they plan a social."

Gee thanks ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sadly, from what we gather, this happens quite often on here.

I don't think it does. I don't think the forums are a fair representation of the norm as people are far more likely to start a thread when they get messed around than when they have a succesful meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sadly, from what we gather, this happens quite often on here.

I don't think it does. I don't think the forums are a fair representation of the norm as people are far more likely to start a thread when they get messed around than when they have a succesful meet.

Me me me!! I had one today, so good I even got a badly grazed knee where I fell over, actually does that mean a good and bad meet all at once?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had this a few times .

The worst was a couple we were going to meet at a Travelodge .

They were FBs ,and after arranging stuff and making sure all was going well we booked said Travelodge .

A couple of days before ,he got in contact with us and said a male friend wants to come along was that ok ?.

Mrs J speaks to the lady and its ok ,this guy is alright etc.

On the day we got told another couple had been in touch with them and have a large garden and can accommodate ,are we interested ?.

We asked who they were and message them and got no reply .

The female of the original couple then texts us she is ill but carry on anyway.

Then he texts and says the same and wants to knock it on the head .

Ho hum , you win some you lose some .

But,

Being the suspicious sods that we are we use Mrs J's profile ( she has her own as well ) to see theirs as they have blocked ours and surprise surprise they are giving each other rave feedback .

Not nice !.

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By *epperzx_69Man
over a year ago

Basildon

Hi, I have couples profile on here and we had arranged to meet at our place with a guy we had met the week before for an icebreaker/ social. We all got on we'll and my wife and I were looking forward to some fun ( as was he with a good build up to the weekend fun). On the day my wife got waxed and prepared for the meet. I txt's the guy to check all was good for later... No reply. At that point thought nothing of it ( he could be driving etc.). Txtd again about an hour before - again nothing ( alarm bells but gave him the benefit). An hour after the arranged time still nothing and then a txt saying he was in a different county, sorry but can't make it. I mean FFS, this wasn't a last minute disaster that made it difficult for him. He must have known for a long time before.

Anyway, long story short. There are deluded souls out there that just assume that we'll put up with their pissing around. Not the case. There's no easy way to spot a time waster but sudden radio silence is one. Half arsed excuses is another.

Bottom line, don't be put iff as there are many fantastic people on here. Good luck

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By *irtyDee33Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

Hey I'm single and never let a meet down so I think that's quite unfair!!

I've been let down quite a bit lately even my regular FB's

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By *ot pussy and big cockCouple
over a year ago

Nr Newtown

"It happens to us single ladies too, only last night I was supposed to meet a guy I had been texting for a few weeks. When he was an hour late he said he was running late and would be with me with 15 minutes and I am still waiting!

I think he had no intention of meeting me at all just enjoyed the build up, what a waste of time!

There are far too many people doing this these days sadly, and its spoiling the site. We do exactly what it says on the tin...if we arrange to meet, then we're there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't get into chat rooms on my mobile or get skype. Dosnt stop people meeting me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can not believe the response I've had here glad but sad to see I'm not the only one to be let down here, and not the last

You've all made me feel much better about it all, cos was just going to delete myself. Not now I'll fight on lol

Happy Swinging Everyone

Thanks

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By *irtyDee33Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

"Can not believe the response I've had here glad but sad to see I'm not the only one to be let down here, and not the last

You've all made me feel much better about it all, cos was just going to delete myself. Not now I'll fight on lol

Happy Swinging Everyone

Thanks

Yeh keep at it!!!! We're not all like that!!! You'll learn and develop a thick skin, don't let one person ruin your experience xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are other ways to be stood up, I guess. When I started on this site I was contacted by one gent. We wrote and wrote, and there was a good bond. Discussed lots of subjects that went beyond sex. There's quite a distance involved, but he was adamant that he was coming one day soon. My offer to travel either half-way or all the way was not accepted - he wanted to come to my place. Of course we yet have to meet. I am running out of 'understanding' life, circumstances, work. When people here say that they wrote for a long time before meeting, do they mean months and months? If it does take that long to meet, do they wrote constantly or are there weeks with silence? I don't want to delete this friend, I'm still hoping to meet him. BTW- his verifications are wonderful; he's sincere, respectful etc etc. *feeling muddled"

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By *irtyDee33Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

"There are other ways to be stood up, I guess. When I started on this site I was contacted by one gent. We wrote and wrote, and there was a good bond. Discussed lots of subjects that went beyond sex. There's quite a distance involved, but he was adamant that he was coming one day soon. My offer to travel either half-way or all the way was not accepted - he wanted to come to my place. Of course we yet have to meet. I am running out of 'understanding' life, circumstances, work. When people here say that they wrote for a long time before meeting, do they mean months and months? If it does take that long to meet, do they wrote constantly or are there weeks with silence? I don't want to delete this friend, I'm still hoping to meet him. BTW- his verifications are wonderful; he's sincere, respectful etc etc. *feeling muddled""

That happened to me a while back and turned out he was married with a heavily pregnant wife!!! Lol so glad it's all over with now and I never actually met him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Check how or what I'm quite new to this "

New to fab is one thing but stupidity is nowt to do with fab.

Surely common sense approach is confirm before setting off and also halfway too as i do if going fair distance.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That happened to me a while back and turned out he was married with a heavily pregnant wife!!! Lol so glad it's all over with now and I never actually met him"

Really can't believe the things I've read on here it's just unreal x

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

No we're not. Plenty of us do meet and do so regularly.

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By * Jay69Man
over a year ago

Bridgwater - Somerset

Timewasters, pah! They are just a fact of life, they come in all shapes, sexes and sizes.

However, given that they have no empathy and mess people about with no regard for the expense, inconvenience and upset - shouldn't we feel glad that they don't actually turn up?

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"Just got back from a 30 mile round trip. The girl never turned up. They even logged out just after I'd set off. I wouldn't mind if I'd got a message to say sorry, but nothing. Grrrrrrr so mad

report them.

its on the left hand side of their profile

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