FabSwingers.com forum: A single bloke who is really freaking me out!

By *ubberdollie OP Woman
over a year ago

Stoke

How do I deal with this one? A bloke off here has mailed me several times and every time I block him he comes back a few days later with a whole new profile, new name etc and tries again. This time its been a few weeks , but here he is again today with a whole new persona! Tell me, why the hell is he bothering? And is it just me?

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

I have one of these too... I guess just keep blocking is all you can do and if he says anything at all worth reporting do that too

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Report it, it does happen alot.

Ill pm you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do I deal with this one? A bloke off here has mailed me several times and every time I block him he comes back a few days later with a whole new profile, new name etc and tries again. This time its been a few weeks , but here he is again today with a whole new persona! Tell me, why the hell is he bothering? And is it just me?"
as others has said is best report n keep blocking it

if you dont want single males mailing u u can change yer mail settings

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Set your filters to block newbies. Sorted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had that too

Its does happen a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Set filters so men can't contact you but as your profile says only looking for men put a bit on your profile saying you are looking for men but you have the filters set so you can contact the men who interest you rather than being bombarded by messages. Good luck x

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By *ocketrocket80Man
over a year ago

Walsall

I'd message you to if only I was taller and older.

I'm off to google stretching techniques and find a fake passport

On a serious note if you just ignore him he wont know youve blocked him and may get bored waiting for a reply

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Yep set up a newbie filter, and any other filters that you think might help, non verified etc x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep sadly ive had it too but a couple... blockity block block

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By *ucy and CarlCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Go along with it and pretend you are interested. Arrange to meet then just don't turn up. Not that he would anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Set your filters to block newbies. Sorted

Totally.

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By *lueDevylMan
over a year ago

Barnsley

Admin should be able to trace via the IP address

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well the only way that i can think of is to let fab swingers no about it and see if there can so some thing about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have this problem too .

All u can do is keep blocking him and hope he gets the message xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you should also be able to block people from vewing your cam...i was stalked by a tv/ts last night whilsts in the chatroom

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"you should also be able to block people from vewing your cam...i was stalked by a tv/ts last night whilsts in the chatroom"

You can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep set up a newbie filter, and any other filters that you think might help, non verified etc x "

Blocking newbies and unverified members may not totally stop him but it will make it a lot harder and still allow other me to message you.

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By *ubberdollie OP Woman
over a year ago

Stoke

Thanks all, I hadn't thought but as he has no verification and keeps opening new profiles I could change my message filters. Off to do that now and by the way ladies. If anyone persistently mails you and signs of with ' Love T x ' you'll know what to do lol. Thanks again all x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you should also be able to block people from vewing your cam...i was stalked by a tv/ts last night whilsts in the chatroom"

Lol yeah you wish!

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"Ive had that too

Its does happen a lot "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Echo above but I can't blame him for trying, you're bloody gorgeous!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had people create new profiles just to have the last word when I block them. And worse. Fake profile created to get my attention and be malicious about my relationship. Some people don't have happiness and need to entertain themselves through bizarre means. I think it's all so beneath me... I Don't block... Just ignore and delete without reading. People soon move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Set your filters to block newbies. Sorted

Good thinking batman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely if this guy persists then Fab should be looking to block his IP address

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there a chance that this man is just blanket mailing everyone in the area when he sets up a new profile? ive blocked newbies because people come and go all the time and I just assumed the messages that kept coming from the same people were because they forgot who they messaged the last time they were here

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By *ubberdollie OP Woman
over a year ago

Stoke

No he thinks if he messages me over and over he will wear me down, but I took all the good advice and changed my filters so hopefully that's it now. From what he wrote in his messages I think he lives in a fantasy world , strange chap .

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

we had one that changed his name three times ,got in touch with admin and they sorted it ,thanks admin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mailed you hun x

I'm in same position!

Come on admin get rid of these wierdos and make sure they don't come back!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we had one that changed his name three times ,got in touch with admin and they sorted it ,thanks admin "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surely if this guy persists then Fab should be looking to block his IP address

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway

my friendly advice is, change your profile altogether, unless you have already done that

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

report him and admin will sort it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"my friendly advice is, change your profile altogether, unless you have already done that "

Why should she change her profile because of someone elses behaviour?

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Block newbies

Block unverified people

problem solved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Block newbies

Block unverified people

problem solved.

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway

"my friendly advice is, change your profile altogether, unless you have already done that

Why should she change her profile because of someone elses behaviour? "

I'm just saying...

it wouldn't be a suggestion that she did anything wrong...and I'm not saying he shouldn't be blocked from the site altogether...it would just make it easier for her to avoid the annoying guy

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

he shold be banned for what hes doing

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

excuse my spelling ,on the wine lol

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Go along with it and pretend you are interested. Arrange to meet then just don't turn up. Not that he would anyway. "

Then she'd get reported for being a no-show!

Oh and blocking IP addresses doesn't work now that we all use mobile devices, the IP address changes. And you can change your home one too easily.

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By *aybecoupleCouple
over a year ago

handlope

Have you simply told him you're not interested?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Set your filters to block newbies. Sorted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As much as i can see this would do your head in and be an inconvenience BUT

he's not breaking the site rules by joining and deleting and coming back UNLESS he is abusive and harassing you! then report it to the admin

Bur personally i think hes just trying it on, best you can do is apply the filters

I have no newbies and ones without a public photo cant message me and that seems to work for me

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

the more people react, they more they play the fool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surely if this guy persists then Fab should be looking to block his IP address

Which is a completely pointless thing to do, as IP addresses can be changed, hidden and spoofed very easily.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why bother blocking him if he just keeps coming back with new profiles. Just leave his mails unread and don't respond at all. I don't like to block the really weird people as they will only come back again a little bit more irate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why bother blocking him if he just keeps coming back with new profiles. Just leave his mails unread and don't respond at all. I don't like to block the really weird people as they will only come back again a little bit more irate."

i tend to do this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surely if this guy persists then Fab should be looking to block his IP address

didnt know deleting your profile and restarting one was against the terms and conditions as if so fuck me id be in breech

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just keep blocking him. That takes seconds. Him creating a whole new profile etc. Takes much longer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's your own fault really for being gorgeous! !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Set your filters to block newbies. Sorted

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.

"Set your filters to block newbies. Sorted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Admin can get his ip address and report it to his ISP as a abusive/stalking user. Also they can inform the police.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had the same problem with a couple from here(who are still here) who I said NO to a meet with them.

I don't know why but they just couldn't handle the word "no thanks".

After blocking them he!!!!! came right back within minutes with another profile and uttering lots of abuse and swearing etc

I guess it goes with the course that some on here should be adult enough not to throw their dummy out when someone says no and just think.................

ok their loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people just cant take rejection and god id say if they cant there in the wrong place im sorry to hear of all these problem some of you woman are having from stupid men that cant take a simple no iv had many a lady say sorry your not what im looking for or your not my type and iv just said thanks anyway and good luck no point in getting upset about it or staking them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one that opened several accounts to get round block. Reported all profile names to admin, within hours all profiles disappeared from site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive had that too

Its does happen a lot "

Yeah me too....same guy pops up every couple of weeks lol... Block and forget

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By *ickeymousesCouple
over a year ago

Lich

Admin should be able to trace via the IP address

You mean trace the MAC address, which doesn't change. However IP addresses issued by the DNS sever change constantly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Admin can get his ip address and report it to his ISP as a abusive/stalking user. Also they can inform the police. "

Inform the police of what? Unless he actually threatens her they won't do much and I'm pretty sure they should be using their money catching real stalkers.

Yes it is irritating the OP and he is being a pest and may be odd I haven't heard the op mention threats or that he a threat to her safety. He hasn't actually done anything other than pester, has he? I've had persistant mailers here (same profile so they know they are doing it) and on another site and if I reported them all to get their IP address and report to the police I could give them enough work to last them all year!

The advice of blocking new users is the best advice.

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