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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Would appreciate any tips or advice on how to get a conversation going, Messages a lot of women and not getting any replies and I think it's my approach lol it can't be my pics LOL! Cheers x

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By *azzaahhWoman
over a year ago

north wales / chester


"Would appreciate any tips or advice on how to get a conversation going, Messages a lot of women and not getting any replies and I think it's my approach lol it can't be my pics LOL! Cheers x "

Popcorn ?

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Patience & Timing

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Just received this one - I can recommend for an INSTANT delete!

"Balls are hurting due to being full of juice"

Not even a kiss on the end, tut, tut....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just received this one - I can recommend for an INSTANT delete!

"Balls are hurting due to being full of juice"

Not even a kiss on the end, tut, tut...."

Dammit! That's where I'm going wrong. Must put a kiss at the end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just received this one - I can recommend for an INSTANT delete!

"Balls are hurting due to being full of juice"

Not even a kiss on the end, tut, tut...."

The kiss would of made all the difference lol.

My best one is "fit for an old bird x" now that got a reply - fuck off wanker x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would appreciate any tips or advice on how to get a conversation going, Messages a lot of women and not getting any replies and I think it's my approach lol it can't be my pics LOL! Cheers x "

Be yourself! Simples!!

There is no magic formula.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just received this one - I can recommend for an INSTANT delete!

"Balls are hurting due to being full of juice"

Not even a kiss on the end, tut, tut...."

Classy - bet that guy gets lots of meets!!!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Just received this one - I can recommend for an INSTANT delete!

"Balls are hurting due to being full of juice"

Not even a kiss on the end, tut, tut....

The kiss would of made all the difference lol.

My best one is "fit for an old bird x" now that got a reply - fuck off wanker x"

"

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

God, I had an even better one which started "Condoms stocked up, cock hard and in hand...."

Oh puleeeze!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honesty, actually show you have taken the time to read their profile, and humour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your not alone. I have the same thing. I be polite and get no where. Sometimes I wonder why I bother.

I think it is highly rude of the ladies on here not to reply to messages and instrad just press that delete message button. How long does it take to type. "Thanks for your message but no thank you"? After all if a chap said hello to you anywhere else would you ignore him? No I dont think so.

And you put things like if I dont reply dont get offended I just get to many messages to reply to them all. Rubbish if you have time to read the message then make time to reply.

So ladies who are quick to use the delete button just stop and think, maybe I should send a quick reply after all it is only polite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your not alone. I have the same thing. I be polite and get no where. Sometimes I wonder why I bother.

I think it is highly rude of the ladies on here not to reply to messages and instrad just press that delete message button. How long does it take to type. "Thanks for your message but no thank you"? After all if a chap said hello to you anywhere else would you ignore him? No I dont think so.

And you put things like if I dont reply dont get offended I just get to many messages to reply to them all. Rubbish if you have time to read the message then make time to reply.

So ladies who are quick to use the delete button just stop and think, maybe I should send a quick reply after all it is only polite."

I delete messages all the time - as do many!! If there's no interest, you've had no previous contact and they've not paid attention to anything in your profile then how can it be rude?

I suggest checking the site FAQ's - which I've cut and pasted on so many previous threads. But really can't be arsed any more!

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Your not alone. I have the same thing. I be polite and get no where. Sometimes I wonder why I bother.

I think it is highly rude of the ladies on here not to reply to messages and instrad just press that delete message button. How long does it take to type. "Thanks for your message but no thank you"? After all if a chap said hello to you anywhere else would you ignore him? No I dont think so.

And you put things like if I dont reply dont get offended I just get to many messages to reply to them all. Rubbish if you have time to read the message then make time to reply.

So ladies who are quick to use the delete button just stop and think, maybe I should send a quick reply after all it is only polite."

Errrrr no!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your not alone. I have the same thing. I be polite and get no where. Sometimes I wonder why I bother.

I think it is highly rude of the ladies on here not to reply to messages and instrad just press that delete message button. How long does it take to type. "Thanks for your message but no thank you"? After all if a chap said hello to you anywhere else would you ignore him? No I dont think so.

And you put things like if I dont reply dont get offended I just get to many messages to reply to them all. Rubbish if you have time to read the message then make time to reply.

So ladies who are quick to use the delete button just stop and think, maybe I should send a quick reply after all it is only polite.

I delete messages all the time - as do many!! If there's no interest, you've had no previous contact and they've not paid attention to anything in your profile then how can it be rude?

I suggest checking the site FAQ's - which I've cut and pasted on so many previous threads. But really can't be arsed any more! "

FYI I do you the profile and then send a message around the profile.

Like previously stated I am not rude or offensive just polite.

The very least is I would lke the same in return. Just because the message is on a website and not face to face it should make no difference.

I see all to often on ladies profiles saying things like "will not tolerate rudeness" so why should we when we send you a polite message to which you dont reply.

So ladies that like the delete message button. How about you take your head out of your arse and show something respect and be polite after all that is what you ask for??????

Ok so I know this will ruffle some feathers but do I care no. Because this kind of rudeness is not nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your not alone. I have the same thing. I be polite and get no where. Sometimes I wonder why I bother.

I think it is highly rude of the ladies on here not to reply to messages and instrad just press that delete message button. How long does it take to type. "Thanks for your message but no thank you"? After all if a chap said hello to you anywhere else would you ignore him? No I dont think so.

And you put things like if I dont reply dont get offended I just get to many messages to reply to them all. Rubbish if you have time to read the message then make time to reply.

So ladies who are quick to use the delete button just stop and think, maybe I should send a quick reply after all it is only polite.

I delete messages all the time - as do many!! If there's no interest, you've had no previous contact and they've not paid attention to anything in your profile then how can it be rude?

I suggest checking the site FAQ's - which I've cut and pasted on so many previous threads. But really can't be arsed any more! "

FYI I do you the profile and then send a message around the profile.

Like previously stated I am not rude or offensive just polite.

The very least is I would lke the same in return. Just because the message is on a website and not face to face it should make no difference.

I see all to often on ladies profiles saying things like "will not tolerate rudeness" so why should we when we send you a polite message to which you dont reply.

So ladies that like the delete message button. How about you take your head out of your arse and show something respect and be polite after all that is what you ask for??????

Ok so I know this will ruffle some feathers but do I care no. Because this kind of rudeness is not nice.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"

I see all to often on ladies profiles saying things like "will not tolerate rudeness" so why should we when we send you a polite message to which you dont reply.

"

So which bit of 'It's not rude to not reply' do you not understand?

The main reason people don't reply, as far as I can make out, is that people just won't get a clue and take no for an answer.

I wonder what gave them that idea?

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Your not alone. I have the same thing. I be polite and get no where. Sometimes I wonder why I bother.

I think it is highly rude of the ladies on here not to reply to messages and instrad just press that delete message button. How long does it take to type. "Thanks for your message but no thank you"? After all if a chap said hello to you anywhere else would you ignore him? No I dont think so.

And you put things like if I dont reply dont get offended I just get to many messages to reply to them all. Rubbish if you have time to read the message then make time to reply.

So ladies who are quick to use the delete button just stop and think, maybe I should send a quick reply after all it is only polite.

I delete messages all the time - as do many!! If there's no interest, you've had no previous contact and they've not paid attention to anything in your profile then how can it be rude?

I suggest checking the site FAQ's - which I've cut and pasted on so many previous threads. But really can't be arsed any more!

FYI I do you the profile and then send a message around the profile.

Like previously stated I am not rude or offensive just polite.

The very least is I would lke the same in return. Just because the message is on a website and not face to face it should make no difference.

I see all to often on ladies profiles saying things like "will not tolerate rudeness" so why should we when we send you a polite message to which you dont reply.

So ladies that like the delete message button. How about you take your head out of your arse and show something respect and be polite after all that is what you ask for??????

Ok so I know this will ruffle some feathers but do I care no. Because this kind of rudeness is not nice. "

It's not rude. I used to reply to every message which when you have other things to do can be quite time consuming. But after a number of messages back ranging from 'why not' to 'well I wouldn't want to meet you anyway because you're fat/ugly blah blah blah' or they try and convince you to change your mind because they think the fact you've even bothered to message them back must mean you secretly want them to turn up on your doorstep naked in 10 minutes.

Other option is to reply no thanks them block... On no we can't do that coz then they're on the forums bleating about how unfair and rude it is to get blocked when they've done nothing wrong.

So you see. You can't win, your damned if you do and damned if you don't. But you don't know the decent ones who will take it on board until its too late so its easier not to bother.

So to the men who like complaining about the way us woman do things... How about you take your head out of your arse and look at things from both sides before you think we are rude? Because the only ones to blame for our behaviour is you lot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your not alone. I have the same thing. I be polite and get no where. Sometimes I wonder why I bother.

I think it is highly rude of the ladies on here not to reply to messages and instrad just press that delete message button. How long does it take to type. "Thanks for your message but no thank you"? After all if a chap said hello to you anywhere else would you ignore him? No I dont think so.

And you put things like if I dont reply dont get offended I just get to many messages to reply to them all. Rubbish if you have time to read the message then make time to reply.

So ladies who are quick to use the delete button just stop and think, maybe I should send a quick reply after all it is only polite.

I delete messages all the time - as do many!! If there's no interest, you've had no previous contact and they've not paid attention to anything in your profile then how can it be rude?

I suggest checking the site FAQ's - which I've cut and pasted on so many previous threads. But really can't be arsed any more!

FYI I do you the profile and then send a message around the profile.

Like previously stated I am not rude or offensive just polite.

The very least is I would lke the same in return. Just because the message is on a website and not face to face it should make no difference.

I see all to often on ladies profiles saying things like "will not tolerate rudeness" so why should we when we send you a polite message to which you dont reply.

So ladies that like the delete message button. How about you take your head out of your arse and show something respect and be polite after all that is what you ask for??????

Ok so I know this will ruffle some feathers but do I care no. Because this kind of rudeness is not nice. "

It won't ruffle any feathers at all!

Because the majority of people recognise that they are not owed anything on this site - a reply, a meet or any kind of interaction. No reply is simply an indication of no interest.

And if that bothers people so much then they will find life on here very frustrating!

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By *obbygggMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Hate to tell you but it is the pics.

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish


"Your not alone. I have the same thing. I be polite and get no where. Sometimes I wonder why I bother.

I think it is highly rude of the ladies on here not to reply to messages and instrad just press that delete message button. How long does it take to type. "Thanks for your message but no thank you"? After all if a chap said hello to you anywhere else would you ignore him? No I dont think so.

And you put things like if I dont reply dont get offended I just get to many messages to reply to them all. Rubbish if you have time to read the message then make time to reply.

So ladies who are quick to use the delete button just stop and think, maybe I should send a quick reply after all it is only polite.

I delete messages all the time - as do many!! If there's no interest, you've had no previous contact and they've not paid attention to anything in your profile then how can it be rude?

I suggest checking the site FAQ's - which I've cut and pasted on so many previous threads. But really can't be arsed any more!

FYI I do you the profile and then send a message around the profile.

Like previously stated I am not rude or offensive just polite.

The very least is I would lke the same in return. Just because the message is on a website and not face to face it should make no difference.

I see all to often on ladies profiles saying things like "will not tolerate rudeness" so why should we when we send you a polite message to which you dont reply.

So ladies that like the delete message button. How about you take your head out of your arse and show something respect and be polite after all that is what you ask for??????

Ok so I know this will ruffle some feathers but do I care no. Because this kind of rudeness is not nice. "
Heard you the first time! There are 64 messages unread in my in box, and as I can see the first few words in them they will be mostly be deleted without being read.

Stop moaning about it, do something productive and send messages to others you think might want to meet you.

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


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My best one is "fit for an old bird x" now that got a reply - fuck off wanker x"

"

He was right though

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Whoa lol thanks for the advice folks! Good talk lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have 3 standard messages, that I cut and paste every time, each message is polite, friendly and upbeat.

one, showing interest,

one, thanks, but no thanks,

one, get over here now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bless the little man who thinks us ladies have our heads up our arse. Gosh if I could do that I'd make money, alternatively I could rim myself after showering

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would appreciate any tips or advice on how to get a conversation going, Messages a lot of women and not getting any replies and I think it's my approach lol it can't be my pics LOL! Cheers x "

Don't worry nobody does they talk more in here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since when did it become rude to pay no attention to messages that dont appeal to you.

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