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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If you change your mind about meeting someone are you cruel and just stop talking to them, block and delete? Or are you kind and say something? Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you change your mind about meeting someone are you cruel and just stop talking to them, block and delete? Or are you kind and say something? Xx"

say something, even if its only a sorry

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By *ammyDodgaMan
over a year ago

Nottingham/and everywhere my location says i am ;)

Be honest.. Yeah you may get a mouthful from some off here.. But ultimately it's your choice..

Me personally would prefer to know, rather than be left wondering

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife is the biggest cause of me having to cancel... She gets home unexpected... I can get out to meet but can't get to cancel.. Then they delete me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife is the biggest cause of me having to cancel... She gets home unexpected... I can get out to meet but can't get to cancel.. Then they delete me..."

Leave your wife then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well we would say something otherwise it would be considered the actions of a time waster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always honest.. but block after the message has been sent if they keep trying to change my mind.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always honest.. but block after the message has been sent if they keep trying to change my mind.

Cali

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By *ammyDodgaMan
over a year ago

Nottingham/and everywhere my location says i am ;)


"My wife is the biggest cause of me having to cancel... She gets home unexpected... I can get out to meet but can't get to cancel.. Then they delete me..."

Yeah that's just improved the chances of majority deleting you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife is the biggest cause of me having to cancel... She gets home unexpected... I can get out to meet but can't get to cancel.. Then they delete me...

Yeah that's just improved the chances of majority deleting you "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you change your mind about meeting someone are you cruel and just stop talking to them, block and delete? Or are you kind and say something? Xx"

I only make arrangements when 99% sure.

As for the guy I always give a get out clause the morning of the meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's best to be kind and honest to say that you don't want to meet anymore so aleast everyone know where they stand than leave them guessing and hoping there is a possible meet again, it's a waste of energy for everyone with that. If they don't like it and get nasty then block them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife is the biggest cause of me having to cancel... She gets home unexpected... I can get out to meet but can't get to cancel.. Then they delete me..."

Wow, she sounds super inconsiderate. Shame on her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all depends on why you don't want to meet, I still think you have to be honest, but in a nice way.

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.

There's no excuse for ignorance.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you change your mind about meeting someone are you cruel and just stop talking to them, block and delete? Or are you kind and say something? Xx

I only make arrangements when 99% sure.

As for the guy I always give a get out clause the morning of the meet."

a get out option is always a good idea, if they no show after that then its bye bye button time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

say i have changed my mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's no excuse for ignorance....."

Ignorance of what?

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Say something...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive changed my mind on meeting people before

Ive had it a few times where I have agreed to meet someone then they have said something that has made me re think, we have the rights to change our minds at any time, but I think you should always tell them, put yourself in their position if you had arranged a meet and they changed their mind would you rather they ignored you and didn't turn up or tell you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife is the biggest cause of me having to cancel... She gets home unexpected... I can get out to meet but can't get to cancel.. Then they delete me..."

some people just have no understanding do they

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife is the biggest cause of me having to cancel... She gets home unexpected... I can get out to meet but can't get to cancel.. Then they delete me..."

I'm pretty shure that such inconsiderate behaviour has legal ground for divorce.

Women....

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By *unglerivermonkeyMan
over a year ago

Scarborough


"My wife is the biggest cause of me having to cancel... She gets home unexpected... I can get out to meet but can't get to cancel.. Then they delete me..."

Now that I know that I will make sure to fuck her for an extra couple of hours next time just to try and help you out.

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By *uthTVDerbysTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby


"My wife is the biggest cause of me having to cancel... She gets home unexpected... I can get out to meet but can't get to cancel.. Then they delete me...

Now that I know that I will make sure to fuck her for an extra couple of hours next time just to try and help you out."

What a totally selfless gesture

This way all parties are satisfied...quite literally!

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By *unglerivermonkeyMan
over a year ago

Scarborough


"My wife is the biggest cause of me having to cancel... She gets home unexpected... I can get out to meet but can't get to cancel.. Then they delete me...

Now that I know that I will make sure to fuck her for an extra couple of hours next time just to try and help you out.

What a totally selfless gesture

This way all parties are satisfied...quite literally!"

That's my problem. Always put other people first

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By *ucy and CarlCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs


"My wife is the biggest cause of me having to cancel... She gets home unexpected... I can get out to meet but can't get to cancel.. Then they delete me..."
What a bitch eh? She just don't realise what a lucky woman she is having you.

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By *uthTVDerbysTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby


"My wife is the biggest cause of me having to cancel... She gets home unexpected... I can get out to meet but can't get to cancel.. Then they delete me...

Now that I know that I will make sure to fuck her for an extra couple of hours next time just to try and help you out.

What a totally selfless gesture

This way all parties are satisfied...quite literally!

That's my problem. Always put other people first "

And a MasterBaker into the bargain too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If ive said ill meet someone and then I change my mind it would have to be a really good reason in which case ill tell them exactly why ive changed my mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try not to let it get that far to be honest and the one time it did, I was honest and then they blocked me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife is the biggest cause of me having to cancel... She gets home unexpected... I can get out to meet but can't get to cancel.. Then they delete me..."

lol some people just dont get it do they.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"It all depends on why you don't want to meet, I still think you have to be honest, but in a nice way."

You don't "have to" do anything!

If I change my mind about meeting and let the person know, I don't need to spell out the reason why: *I've* changed my mind.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"ive changed my mind on meeting people before

Ive had it a few times where I have agreed to meet someone then they have said something that has made me re think, we have the rights to change our minds at any time, but I think you should always tell them, put yourself in their position if you had arranged a meet and they changed their mind would you rather they ignored you and didn't turn up or tell you?"

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Ive removed those posts commenting on a profile when it wasn't asked for. If you quoted them then those have gone too sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest if we've seen pic's and have agreed to meet we would do the meet after all you don't have to play and we prefer to go down the social route first so it avoids awkward situations...oh unless we're at a club when we're wanting to play

Having said that if we did cancel we would contact the person involved as we believe manners cost nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"There's no excuse for ignorance.....

Ignorance of what?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you change your mind about meeting someone are you cruel and just stop talking to them, block and delete? Or are you kind and say something? Xx"

I always tell them. I may be a little economical with the reason why as it's no excuse to hurt anyone's feelings, but I feel it's better to bring closure to even the shortest of 'relationships' - even one's just carried out through messages here - as you never know what hopes the other person had for that potential meeting.

ted.

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