FabSwingers.com forum: Accommodating!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How many people expect to stay over if they meet and play?

We can meet and play, but don't want people to stay over. Hate to wake up in the morning and found the house empty, lol

Guess it even worst if you meet a single man, he knows where you live, and as we know many (not all) are very pushy and desperate (just read the forums for evidence). Just picture it, we played last month and was passing, so though I would pop in and have a play again...

What do other people think about meeting at home?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont mind accommodating but need to know and trust the person real well first.

As a single fem it could be quite dangerous to have just anyone stay over.

So safety at all times .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well all our mets are done at ours or another cpls if they wish.we quite enjoy it we know its not everyones cup of tea do to that but we dont mind.and we dont make people stay its there choice if everyones happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont mind accommodating but need to know and trust the person real well first.

As a single fem it could be quite dangerous to have just anyone stay over.

So safety at all times .

yeh same here really

i have also got a spare bedroom for those that not wanting 2 have fun after the 1st meet but they can stay over with no problems there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only let people that I know well stay here, other wise I use a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many people expect to stay over if they meet and play?

We can meet and play, but don't want people to stay over. Hate to wake up in the morning and found the house empty, lol

What do other people think about meeting at home?"

Granted, you might meet a single male who is pushy. But surely on the first meet you meet somewhere else first to get to know them. If you just give complete strangers your address you're a bloody idiot. Or a terrible judge of character.

Incidentally, when i was part of a swinging couple, we only had 2 problems with people we met...

First was a single girl who decided she'd fallen in love with my ex gf and wanted her to leave me for her.

Second was the female half of 2 couple who's husband left her and blamed us. We'd met them for a drink as a couple because they were thinking of trying the scene but decided not too. He then left her. Probably one of those many, husband wants it but wife just agrees to keep the marriage going things.

The single males were fine.

But then i would say that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

only do that if the person is very genuine

i have net a few woman already at there place as well as 1 met at mines with no problems

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over the many years of "swinging"

i have never (crossed fingers when i say this ) had a BAD meet.

be it at a club, through a social meet or at in a party environment .

i go with my "gut instinct" everytime.

This should also apply to having people in your home.

Some people like to keep the whole thing away from their home life. a seperate life so to speak and thats fine. I have to do things a little different as i dont drive so find it harder to arrange things.

If i didnt meet at my home on the odd occasions, i would have to wait a long time to get to a club or party.

and that just wouldnt do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have no problem letting ppl stay over if they've travelled to meet us. If we go out for a drink etc before we play,we might not finish playing while 3 or 4 in the morning.Who's going to kick someone out on the streets at that time,certainly not us.

Besides after a refreshing sleep and a shower theres always time for round two.Then some bacon butties and a cuppa,lol.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have always taken "can accomodate" to mean that if sex is going to happen, it will at the person's who can accomodate. Never expected to stay the night or have anyone stay overnight at our's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a 'We were just in the area' scenario last year .... someone who we'd played with previously just decided to pop in because they were 'in the area'

Now how rude is that ... ? Thank Christ we didin't have family round our house - how the Hell would we explain our new found friends ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single swinger but single parent too, both my child and my own privacy and safety is tantamount.

I do not accommodate at my home, but meet at clubs or hotels and will pay for the privilege. I also have a fellow single friend who often allows me to stay over at his with or without 'meets' after clubs parties etc.

I personally know of two single females with young family at home who have been in the 'just in the neighbourhood' scenario and have been on the verge of calling the police.

I know it is our personal choice to swing but we are not at home waiting for some horny guy to happen along for a quicky in the afternoon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i accom, over night....but wen i lock up i hide the keys, lol so they cant escape my evil clutches, lol serious tho, if they wanna get out i have to let em out, at least i know they wont rob me, lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I personally know of two single females with young family at home who have been in the 'just in the neighbourhood' scenario and have been on the verge of calling the police.

But the cheek of some people !!!!! We'd never in our wildest dreams ever ever contemplate just turning up at someones door without prior arrangement

The gall of some people just blows me away. Just when you think you've seen and heard everything - think again loll

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By *icknDeeCouple
over a year ago

hartlepool

Guess it depends on how far people have travelled...

If it's our next door neighbours, they can take themselves home lol. However, if they've come a long way, there's no problem in them staying the night...

Likewise, we've stayed over on meets - but we've never expected to and if we do, it's an added bonus.

Mike & Dee

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

If we get as far as inviting another couple here, we have no problem with them staying the night. The sleeping arrangements can be a great part of the fun - in the king-size together, staying swapped in separate rooms all night, swapping for just half the night then changing back... sometimes nobody gets much sleep! It's very sexy to cuddle up and sleep with somebody else, almost more intimate than fucking with them.

Then of course there's always the morning get-together for a final 4some before we get up! If you're going to get together with another couple for sex you might as well make the most of it.

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By *im53Man
over a year ago

Boldon

as a single male living alone the thought of a lady knocking on my door for some fun is most appeling ,lol

but would never think of just dropping in to a ladys house even if i knew them well it just so rude

jim

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've let people stay but they've always been people that we have met previously somewhere neutral such as a social.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I do all my one to one meets at home, but as and when i feel comfortable. If i havent met the person before this can take a number of weeks, but once the first initial meet is over im happy for them to feel comfortable here and its relaxing for me. Plus i dont have to get dressed and go home afterwards. Never had a bad experience, as if im not 100% sure then they dont get invited over.

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

to the OP there is a woman on here that has happened to ..she met a guy and he stayed over ...then 2 weeks later ...knock on her front door ..I am a mate of so and so and he reckons you will like me ....

she told him to feck off ...but makes you realise some blokes are real wankers .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its all about bieng comfortable with the situation really.

If im extremely comfortable, hell i will even cook dinner. lmao

well you gotta eat , bonking makes me hungry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We never play at home .... we have our boys here but even when we have the house to ourselves it's something we keep separate from swinging fun. Mostly we book a hotel or ocassionally accept an invitation to someone elses house as long as they are cool with that. Where we live if someone's dog poo's on your lawn the whole village knows about it lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh i got neighbours like tat here

So much so , when i had parties here the whole street would be talking for months after

They summised and guessed what went on...

Be it wrongly most of the time.

FAME at long last , for all the wrong reasons lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

tat.= that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have accomodated people.. we don't mind when we know them.. We have also stayed over but thats equally rare if honest.. again depends how well we all get along as such..

We don't just meet and have peeps stay though.. nor just meet and stay even.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We state "can accommodate including overnight" which clarifies the situation from the outset without the other party having to ask us if they can stay over, for us it's easy we have a guest house so plenty of room and well used to looking after strangers anyway and since we only cater for swingers visiting local clubs it doesn't even matter if we have guests and friends round at the same time .... nakedness abounds here all the time

of course this doesn't suit everyone .

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"We state "can accommodate including overnight" which clarifies the situation from the outset without the other party having to ask us if they can stay over, for us it's easy we have a guest house so plenty of room and well used to looking after strangers anyway and since we only cater for swingers visiting local clubs it doesn't even matter if we have guests and friends round at the same time .... nakedness abounds here all the time

of course this doesn't suit everyone ."

And such a great place and welcome too

Personaly we never expect to be able to stay, though neither of us drive, so if we travel we tend to ask if the area has any accomidation availible..

We can't accomidate due to we have kids, but we can play daytimes at home, since its easy to arange for the kids to go away for the day, that way wiggles gets to play with her bdsm furniture (but only with the right couples)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely agree- accommodating depends on the whole situation- have only had one stay over, but we'd met before.

Though I do have the best chaperone in the world- have a lovely rottie who strangely puts people off being naughty in the wrong way :o)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm reluctant to go to a guys house on a first meet as I don't think I'd feel comfortable and therefore feel unable to relax and enjoy myself.

I'm single and don't want to accommodate - just because its where I live with my son and I want to keep the two parts of my life completely separate. I won't even arrange sitters on "my nights".

My ideal arrangement is to meet for a couple of drinks and perhaps a bite to eat with hotel arrangements after.

However saying that ..... I've been lumbered with the hotel bill when guys haven't turned up .... won't be doing that one again!!

But my two "best friends" (after staying in hotels with me on a number of occasions are I'm willing to break my rules and are now more than welcome to stay at mine (you know who you are) xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we prefer playing at home, have hosted two parties which went quite well, also we do like speak to people for a while get the 'feel' of them before inviting to our place, well you dont want a homicidal axe murderer around do ya , we have let a cpl stay over and a single before as they had travelled a distance to get here .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always accom at mine........there is nothing better than a morning shag mmmmmmmmmmmmmm

anyone free lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

always free anytime 2 have some fun

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By *eavensg84uCouple
over a year ago

Harrow

We rarely play at home because we've had some bad experiences (not many, but enough to make us wary).These include :-

* A single guy who was just 'passing by'

* A couple who looked ok but smelt!

* A couple who were 10-15 years older than their pix.

Even when we do play at home (or go to someone elses), we dont expect to provide, or be provided with, overnight accommodation - we're looking for people to shag, not become life-long friends with.

So we tend to play at swingers clubs only. We're lucky that there are so many good ones in London and anyone who moans about the cost should get real - £20/£30 and a bottle or two of wine is less than a night at the pictures, popcorn and a couple of s.....and a lot more fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To just pop in and hope for a shag is just plain rude.

I mean surely that would come with time if that was the arrangement.

I did have a F buddy years ago and I would call her from where ever I was at the time and ask if it was ok to pop around for some fun and she likewise but that was after we had been having regular fun for a few months.

But I could never just turn up on someone's doorstep and seriously expect a warm welcome LoL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel that it's fine if you really know the couple or individual to stay over .like as in you are regular as I like myself to keep seeing same ppl we all meet ppl n then think hmmmm don't really actually like them however as boy mentioned in earlier post above there is spare room .Life has changed in our every day society being carefull is part of life now .true svarey thing to wake up n have no contents left well that's where trust comes in I suppose I wouldn't let a1 stay over so far tgc Namaste x mwah

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