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"Hi, We met a couple recently and really enjoyed the time we had with them and they really seemed to enjoy it aswell. We provided them with a verification, but they have not accepted it and have not provided one for us. We can only assume that they did not enjoy it as much as we thought they did. Has this ever happened to anyone else on a meet? Please help, as my confidence has really taken a nosedive!! " yes I've done same as you. Made me think I was crap and I felt crap but it's life if you enjoyed yourself then good, like been said they probably haven't got round to it | |||
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"I understand your frustration. I have met guys who display my verification but don't write one back. But what I find insulting is when I write them one, it is not displayed, and none is wrote for me, but the next meet they have a verification is wrote by both parties and is displayed. Makes me think they are embarrassed to have met me. " Or after a social when you notice yours is the only veri not displayed. I felt that they didn't want others to know they'd met me (we didn't even play!) and it did hurt. But at least I know where I stand now with them and know not to contact them for future meets. | |||
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"see... had this the other day and I think I am about to say the same thing... what is the fixation????? if you are writing a verification to get one back... then it is being done for the wrong reason.... think of them as little gifts... its all very petty and playground ish..... " We're not all as phlegmatic as you Fabio. | |||
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"I understand your frustration. I have met guys who display my verification but don't write one back. But what I find insulting is when I write them one, it is not displayed, and none is wrote for me, but the next meet they have a verification is wrote by both parties and is displayed. Makes me think they are embarrassed to have met me. Or after a social when you notice yours is the only veri not displayed. I felt that they didn't want others to know they'd met me (we didn't even play!) and it did hurt. But at least I know where I stand now with them and know not to contact them for future meets. " Exactly. At least you can rule them out. | |||
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"see... had this the other day and I think I am about to say the same thing... what is the fixation????? if you are writing a verification to get one back... then it is being done for the wrong reason.... think of them as little gifts... its all very petty and playground ish..... " Saved me from typing a very long message trying to say the same thing but failing badly | |||
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"Hi, We met a couple recently and really enjoyed the time we had with them and they really seemed to enjoy it aswell. We provided them with a verification, but they have not accepted it and have not provided one for us. We can only assume that they did not enjoy it as much as we thought they did. Has this ever happened to anyone else on a meet? Please help, as my confidence has really taken a nosedive!! " I never ask for or provide verifications, what I do in my swinging life is private, | |||
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"see... had this the other day and I think I am about to say the same thing... what is the fixation????? if you are writing a verification to get one back... then it is being done for the wrong reason.... think of them as little gifts... its all very petty and playground ish..... " can't they gift back then | |||
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"I understand your frustration. I have met guys who display my verification but don't write one back. But what I find insulting is when I write them one, it is not displayed, and none is wrote for me, but the next meet they have a verification is wrote by both parties and is displayed. Makes me think they are embarrassed to have met me. But your profile is hidden...... " | |||
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"I really don't understand the problem. I've met people who haven't left me a veri and I don't veri everyone I meet either. Not bothered either way. If it's about insecurities and being worried about them maybe not enjoying the meet as much as you thought or something (which may very well not be the case) then you need to deal with your own insecurities and not make it someone else's problem. Besides, leaving a veri is not a requirement of the site." | |||
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"I always have my lap top tand and insist a nice verification is written before I allow my meet to leave. Saves the trauma of any mental anguish afterwards." omg! I hope you are joking! | |||
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"I always have my lap top to hand and insist a nice verification is written before I allow my meet to leave. Saves the trauma of any mental anguish afterwards." , really ? | |||
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"I always have my lap top to hand and insist a nice verification is written before I allow my meet to leave. Saves the trauma of any mental anguish afterwards." Haha, can't be done, something about the same ip address can't verify another account on the same ip address, but.... | |||
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"We all know the logic and reasons why people don't leave verifications. Unfortunately most of us are emotional rather than logical creatures. Therefore some of us feel offended, even when we shouldn't be. " | |||
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"It's not eBay, lol" It certainly isn't. Negatives are shown on eBay, which is what people get if they bug me for feedback. Usually with the comment "Here's the feedback you bugged me for" | |||
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"We all know the logic and reasons why people don't leave verifications. Unfortunately most of us are emotional rather than logical creatures. Therefore some of us feel offended, even when we shouldn't be. " It happened a few times to me. I wasn't so much offended when it happened as apprehensive - had he enjoyed less than he said he had? But we stayed in touch, and all's well. Another non-confirmer hasn't been back but says he will, and he'll be more than welcome. All in all - my memories are happy ones, so I guess that's more important than the verification. | |||
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"It's not eBay, lol" Lmao! But just like ebay, some leave feedback, some don't, as long as you're happy with the goods, just move on | |||
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"I always have my lap top to hand and insist a nice verification is written before I allow my meet to leave. Saves the trauma of any mental anguish afterwards." Somebody get me out,, | |||
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"Ask them if they want one. I told my last meet I'd verify him as he had no verifications. He responded with not needing it as a badge. I explained it would open doors for him as many people will not meet unverified members. He then offered to verify me to which I responded it was purely his choice. Bottom line the most important veri is that initial one to go some way in proving you're somewhat genuine." | |||
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"Hi, We met a couple recently and really enjoyed the time we had with them and they really seemed to enjoy it aswell. We provided them with a verification, but they have not accepted it and have not provided one for us. We can only assume that they did not enjoy it as much as we thought they did. Has this ever happened to anyone else on a meet? Please help, as my confidence has really taken a nosedive!! " I wouldn't read to much in to it. Yes it's a bit disappointing but there could be so many reasons. For all you know they could be having a bust up because the male or female part of the couple enjoyed the male/female part of you a "little to much". You just don't know what's going on inside their heads. If it bothers you so much and you got on well then why not try messaging them. Some people just don't bother with veri's though | |||
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"I always have my lap top to hand and insist a nice verification is written before I allow my meet to leave. Saves the trauma of any mental anguish afterwards." I do something similar...I allow my meets to THINK they'll be able to leave after writing a glowing veri, then it's down to the cellar for them - that reminds me, must pick up a few more bags of quicklime, it's starting to pong down there again | |||
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"Hi, We met a couple recently and really enjoyed the time we had with them and they really seemed to enjoy it aswell. We provided them with a verification, but they have not accepted it and have not provided one for us. We can only assume that they did not enjoy it as much as we thought they did. Has this ever happened to anyone else on a meet? Please help, as my confidence has really taken a nosedive!! " Some prefer not to verify. Some like to only display certain ones. If you over think this you're only hurting yourself. | |||
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