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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

is it ok if you go to a club for the first time and don't do anything for the first time if we don't feel it enough? but want to just see how we feel around all the sex and naughtiness?..was thinking of going to a couples night maybe at secrets in totnes.or are we gonna look stupid being approached all night and turning people down,i know that people respect a no,but we just want to take it easy for nw..we are very secure together..thanks for any replys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You arent obliged to have fun at a club, dip your toes in have a lookie at all the rooms but dont feel pressured into having fun on the first night, see how you both feel and go from there! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As the other poster says, you do not have to do anything in a club. You can just go and look. No one pressurised you into anything you don't want to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just go chill watch and if the mood takes you have fun ....your body your rules

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

We have only been to a club once and didn't play, still had a great time though. You only need do what you feel comfortable with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I go to a club by myself I rarely if ever play as I like to play together now... So no one thinks it's odd after all clubs are as much about the social side too.

Cali

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Debs and I used to go to one particular club 3 or 4 times a week, we lived nearby, but probably only played a few times a month. There is a lot to be said for the social aspect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our first club visit we did just that, chatted socialised but didn't play, it's up to you what you do and when, and there's no pressure ( or at least we didn't feel pressurised ) had a great evening and met some lovely people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's perfectly ok to go to a club and not go with anyone on your 1000th visit not just your first

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thankyou guys for your replies,am thining maybe going to secrets in totnes and was wondering also what to wear ,I guess a sexy dress and stockings etc is a safe bet,do people walk around pretty much naked?sorry if these sound like stupid questions.xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They aren't stupid questions at all, I'm sure we've all been there, I know Jaz and I have!

I would advise checking the clubs website, but I wore the kind of dress I'd wear for a night about town, with some nice undies and heels. Men are normally advised to dress to impress- shirt, jeans and smart shoes as a minimum hope this helps.

And remember to enjoy, even if you only watch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We did not play for the first few times we visited a club. We got used to the concept and enjoyed the surroundings we were happy playing with each other and putting on a show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"is it ok if you go to a club for the first time and don't do anything for the first time if we don't feel it enough? but want to just see how we feel around all the sex and naughtiness?..was thinking of going to a couples night maybe at secrets in totnes.or are we gonna look stupid being approached all night and turning people down,i know that people respect a no,but we just want to take it easy for nw..we are very secure together..thanks for any replys"

Vouyerism is participation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Secrets is a wonderful place. From our experiences there everyone is respectful. Lots of different areas for you to watch. Or spend time socialising downstairs.

Go and enjoy it. Might even see you there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont go in thinking its a fuck fest and people are at it everywhere or that youll be constantly approached.

Our first time in club we never played and neither did many others was more of a social gathering.

Just go in with no fears or expectations and go at your own pace and im sure youll be returning for more.

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

On our first club visit we didn't interact sexually with anyone else, just spoke to people in the bar, watched people in playrooms and then went in and joined them but just played together. We went again a couple of weeks later and had our first soft-swing. It's best to take things easy until you're familiar with the scene and not expect to fuck other people from the moment you arrive - clubs are not like that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks all for the replies,puts me at ease,love to you all.xxxxx

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