FabSwingers.com forum: going on top

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've always struggled with self confidence but what really bothers me is that I feel too self conscious to go on top! I worry I'm gonna be rubbish or something & I end up not enjoying it. Can anyone give me some advice to help please?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've always struggled with self confidence but what really bothers me is that I feel too self conscious to go on top! I worry I'm gonna be rubbish or something & I end up not enjoying it. Can anyone give me some advice to help please?

Sounds like you want the man or other ...to do all the work xxjust think when you're on top you're

In controlled. Of the action. ....

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Going on top is my least enjoyed position. I always end up out of sync with the guys thrusting, and I get ferocious backache after about 10 mins. It's actually better to do it on a chair or sofa, as it then puts your boobs just about on a level with the guys mouth, and gives him something to do.

I can guarantee that as soon as you climb on top, all the guy will be thinking is 'awesome, a woman riding me!!!'. Give it a go and, if you still don't enjoy it, just stick to the positions you do enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I prefer the guy to be in control, my sub tenancies like to come out when it comes to sex. I'm not lazy in bed tho x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Going on top is my least enjoyed position. I always end up out of sync with the guys thrusting, and I get ferocious backache after about 10 mins. It's actually better to do it on a chair or sofa, as it then puts your boobs just about on a level with the guys mouth, and gives him something to do.

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

perfectly well put.. agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not the easiest position, can take time to get in sync...try it in a kneeling position at the top of the bed or like said before in a chair so you can support your weight with your hands, vary your rhythm to see what he enjoys and try and overcome your self consciousness and just enjoy, he will too, you can always try reverse cowgirl if its the staring him in the face that gets to your self consciousness, I'm naturally submissive in the bedroom but reverse cowgirl is one of my favourites

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By * n zCouple
over a year ago

leamington spa

I think when it comes to the woman on top a lot of people think of the "porn style" woman on top which tends to be the woman bolt upright, hardly touching the guy just going up and down probably majorly getting thigh ache, but of course great for the camera !!!

In the real world its about listening to your body, you can lean forward and still kiss, he can touch your boobs, you don't have to go for it hell for leather, deep grinding is very erotic, swiveling your hips in circles as well as the up and down motion.

Great for eye contact, but if your feeling shy, blind fold him

Certain angles on top are fab for getting the g spot, more when you lean forward.

Have fun

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By *allen MadonnaWoman
over a year ago

In my own little world

My favourite starting position, gets me all wet and I love teasing the guy stupid before he either holds my hips down on him or throws me onto the bed and screws me senseless.

Certainly gives you control on penetration, after that I don't mind what happens!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here so you are not alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are not on your own about being uncomfortable with being on top.

Definitely my least favourite position, and do not get as much enjoyment from it as other positions. Feel very conscious when on top and never cum in that position.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone, some great advice that I will certainly try.

I wish it was just a case of my not cumming in that position. I've never had an orgasm yet

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By *lanwoodMan
over a year ago

Alton

One woman I know prefers that position as she cums more easily than in any other position. She says its because her clit is rubbing against my pubic bone. Nice for me too, especially when she leans forward so I can suck her breasts.

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By *ot-tottieWoman
over a year ago

derbyshire

I can only cum in this position and reverse cow girl wish I could find ways to cum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer the guy to be in control, my sub tenancies like to come out when it comes to sex. I'm not lazy in bed tho x"

I get where your coming from but look at it like this.. if he is wanting you on top, it's pleasing him... You can be on top and the man remain in control. Submission is a mindset not any specific sexual act.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I get where your coming from but look at it like this.. if he is wanting you on top, it's pleasing him... You can be on top and the man remain in control. Submission is a mindset not any specific sexual act. "

thats a really good point. I'll keep persevering

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know what you mean. I'm not the most coordinated of women, nickname is calaMity Jane! I just can't seem to stay/ get into the rhythm and it kills my knees / back being a rather rotund BBW! I'm better with reverse cowgirl, tends to be easier for me and plus I don't feel as self conscious. In face to face on top my wobbly belly wobbling away on there's puts me off!

I much prefer a bit of missionary to start me off and then a bit of hard doggy followed by scissors/spoons and then swops again

I've also never cum vaginally. Can only cum clitorally unfortunately. Sex still feels a,axing tho and some cocks are stimulating my G spot, I can just never get there...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just get on top and give it a good dont worry about what you look like hust ride him hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just get on top and give it a good dont worry about what you look like hust ride him hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can honestly say I used to hate going on top, I used to feel paranoid and on display with my ex. It became a chore that I hated and refused to do.

the guy i'm with now however its the opposite, its my favorite position with him, his cock hits my gspot and every grind/movement of my hips is me controlling my own pleasure..... I think that the first time I went on top with him I did try to cover up, but then I realised he's seen me naked in every position possible why should I care about it now.

As for if i'm any good at it, who cares?? We both have fun and both cum!!

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By *he BendoversCouple
over a year ago

Carlisle

Getting cramp in my legs just as I start cumming is my major concern

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if you get cramp in ur leg then ur man can throught u off and finnish u on ur back

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By *he BendoversCouple
over a year ago

Carlisle

"Well if you get cramp in ur leg then ur man can throught u off and finnish u on ur back

Often happens this way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good on ya if 1 position isent working or carnt last no longer change positions keep te passion going and a ur about to cum change position again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good on ya if 1 position isent working or carnt last no longer change positions keep te passion going and a ur about to cum change position again

Being women we can cum then change positions lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always loved a girl on top because it's about the only time I can lie back and enjoy the view

Sounds lazy, but nearly every other position involves me hammering away and most of me is concentrating on that!

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

Men absolutely love women on top, so don't be shy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we do watching the tittys bouncing all over. Mmm heaven

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By *attykitWoman
over a year ago

leeds

Used to feel the same - very self conscious! Not I think what the hell. He wouldn't be here if he didn't fancy me! Love the control able to tease the end of his Cock then push down hard. Can have some of the most intense orgasms when he plays with my clit at the same time! Go for it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Playing with the lasses clit while she ride has go to be te best position ever

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