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"Just after some friendly advice as to why im not getting any replies to my msgs? What constitutes a good initial msg? Its frustrating to write long msgs when you don’t get any replies so I have just been keeping mine sweet and to the point after having no success with longer msgs to peopl. Id be gratefull for any advice. Also could it be that my profile is rather short? Again I don’t see the point in going on and on Id much rather people got to know me by having a chat and meeting in person even if just for a social. Thanks again . " Maybe stop calling them msgs, saving yourself 2 e's, an s and an a isn't worth looking like a text speaker for | |||
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"Just after some friendly advice as to why im not getting any replies to my msgs? What constitutes a good initial msg? Its frustrating to write long msgs when you don’t get any replies so I have just been keeping mine sweet and to the point after having no success with longer msgs to peopl. Id be gratefull for any advice. Also could it be that my profile is rather short? Again I don’t see the point in going on and on Id much rather people got to know me by having a chat and meeting in person even if just for a social. Thanks again. " Too many people put too much emphasis into messaging to get meets. Reality check - not that many will respond positively. Get out from behind a pc screen (or whatever you use), get along to a club, social, private party etc to meet people and network! Stand out from the crowd - get seen, be seen, meet others! | |||
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"Okay I'll try and say this as nicely as possible, your profile is useless. Your profile is the window you have to sell you in, yours doesn't do that and it doesn't make you stand out from the hundreds of other guys on here. Your profile needs to say what you are looking for and what you can offer. If you are going to have pics up make them different, yours are all very much the same and put the cock pic in friends only, most women on here don't want to see them. Run a spell check on the whole thing and loose all the text speak in it too, it's a turn off for most on here. As for messages, you don't need to write war and peace, but make the message personal to show you have read and understood the profile you are replying too, attach a face pic and never send a cock shot on an initial message, you wouldn't walk up to someone in a bar and lob it straight so don't do it in here. For more tips on you profile do a forum search & read the numerous threads asking about this." Nailed it tbh xx | |||
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"I think a time waster is someone who you chat to for awhile, then changes there mind for a silly reason, often at the last minute" actually i dont agree your time hasn't been wasted at all.... you would probably have been on the site anyway, and you haven't done anything out of what you would have done anyway, you never left the house.... people always have the perogative to change their minds at any point, and sometimes it is the "little things" as you put it, that can turn people off..... | |||
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"I think a time waster is someone who you chat to for awhile, then changes there mind for a silly reason, often at the last minute actually i dont agree your time hasn't been wasted at all.... you would probably have been on the site anyway, and you haven't done anything out of what you would have done anyway, you never left the house.... people always have the perogative to change their minds at any point, and sometimes it is the "little things" as you put it, that can turn people off....." I agree ... If you went out for the evening met someone in a bar had a good evening chatting and laughing ... But they did not want to go home with you .. Would you go home thinking , that was a waste of an evening! I'm guessing not ! Just because its a swinging site does not mean everyone will want to shag everyone ! As for profiles ... I read the profile before the message ... If it shows some personality and the pics are good then I will look at the message, if that makes me smile then you are 3 steps forward! Best thing to do is look at other men's profiles...get a feeling of what works good luck x | |||
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"Okay I'll try and say this as nicely as possible, your profile is useless. Your profile is the window you have to sell you in, yours doesn't do that and it doesn't make you stand out from the hundreds of other guys on here. Your profile needs to say what you are looking for and what you can offer. If you are going to have pics up make them different, yours are all very much the same and put the cock pic in friends only, most women on here don't want to see them. Run a spell check on the whole thing and loose all the text speak in it too, it's a turn off for most on here. As for messages, you don't need to write war and peace, but make the message personal to show you have read and understood the profile you are replying too, attach a face pic and never send a cock shot on an initial message, you wouldn't walk up to someone in a bar and lob it straight so don't do it in here. For more tips on you profile do a forum search & read the numerous threads asking about this. Nailed it tbh xx" | |||
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"And dont forget about the couples that arnt that bothered how long your profile text is and dont mind short messages because at the end of the day as long as you have good photos ( which they find attractive) and are the kind of guy they are looking for within the age and miles range then you will probably do ok. If we were meeting guys and you were within our miles range we would meet you " | |||
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"I'd lose some of the 'interests' (even if they're all true). Ticking every box can come across as lazy or desperate. I suspect some Fabsters would tick safe sex AND bareback (were there such an option)." I disagree, I dont see it as lazy but someone who is up for trying most things | |||
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"Just after some friendly advice as to why im not getting any replies to my msgs? What constitutes a good initial msg? Its frustrating to write long msgs when you don’t get any replies so I have just been keeping mine sweet and to the point after having no success with longer msgs to peopl. Id be gratefull for any advice. Also could it be that my profile is rather short? Again I don’t see the point in going on and on Id much rather people got to know me by having a chat and meeting in person even if just for a social. Thanks again. " Spellchecking. | |||
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"I've now updated my profile and would be grateful for any further feedback since the update. Thanks everyone! " Much, much better!! Well done you and I'm not patronising you, I think you will notice a huge difference now! I would actually read and reply to a message from you based on the new profile | |||
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"I've now updated my profile and would be grateful for any further feedback since the update. Thanks everyone! Much, much better!! Well done you and I'm not patronising you, I think you will notice a huge difference now! I would actually read and reply to a message from you based on the new profile " | |||
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"I've now updated my profile and would be grateful for any further feedback since the update. Thanks everyone! Much, much better!! Well done you and I'm not patronising you, I think you will notice a huge difference now! I would actually read and reply to a message from you based on the new profile " Much better profile | |||
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"Thanks CJ. I ran the text through MS word which did not pick up on anything. If you've noticed something in my newly updated profile text please let me know! Cheers." Nothing important. Others should be others' in your first paragraph. That's about it. Reads very well now. If only uni hadn't beaten plagiarism out of me... | |||
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"Thre is basically one reason, ratio is 100 men to 1 woman thats why we dont get replies lol." I don't see this as a problem to be honest. The way I see it you're selling into a buyer's market (not a gripe just a fact) your marketing strategy has to be pitched accordingly. It's not just about a) having the best product but also b) having the best pitch and if possible c) offering something unique. The OP's profile now does that. Will be very surprised if he doesn't do well. | |||
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"Thanks CJ. I ran the text through MS word which did not pick up on anything. If you've noticed something in my newly updated profile text please let me know! Cheers. Nothing important. Others should be others' in your first paragraph. That's about it. Reads very well now. If only uni hadn't beaten plagiarism out of me... " | |||
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"I'd lose some of the 'interests' (even if they're all true). Ticking every box can come across as lazy or desperate. I suspect some Fabsters would tick safe sex AND bareback (were there such an option). I disagree, I dont see it as lazy but someone who is up for trying most things" | |||
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"I've now updated my profile and would be grateful for any further feedback since the update. Thanks everyone! Much, much better!! Well done you and I'm not patronising you, I think you will notice a huge difference now! I would actually read and reply to a message from you based on the new profile Much better profile " | |||
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"Just after some friendly advice as to why im not getting any replies to my msgs? What constitutes a good initial msg? Its frustrating to write long msgs when you don’t get any replies so I have just been keeping mine sweet and to the point after having no success with longer msgs to peopl. Id be gratefull for any advice. Also could it be that my profile is rather short? Again I don’t see the point in going on and on Id much rather people got to know me by having a chat and meeting in person even if just for a social. Thanks again. " Nice profile, I assume you altered it as suggested. Nice pics too, not loads of cock shots. Re messaging, Hi how are you doesnt cut it. Tell the person you are messaging a bit about yourself and mention something about them or their profile too, specially if they have a word they require in the message, put that in. good luck | |||
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"I think a time waster is someone who you chat to for awhile, then changes there mind for a silly reason, often at the last minute" Totally disagree with this definition. A Time waster in my book is someone that arranges a meet and doesn't turn up, thats it . If someone cancels then its not a time waster, its real life just getting in the way. On occasions I've had to cancel a meet at late notice, I don't think that makes me a time waster, I think it means something came up that was more important that a shag. | |||
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"Thanks Scorpio girl! I think it's important to take advice from others, no such thing as bad criticism and I'm very happy everyone here has been willing to provide it! " welcome | |||
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"I must agree, it's all in the profile. There has to be something in it that will catch someone's attention. And I personally get a message from someone I've never chatted to before I will check his/her profile 1st & must confess have either deleted without answering or just sent polite no thanks, just based on the content of a profile. xx" | |||
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"Well done on taking the advice and doing some thing about it Your profile looks really good and a good selection of pics...Not knit picking but which pics are recent as you have hardly no hair in a few and a load in another " | |||
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"As for messages, it's really difficult sending a decent message. Try reading a profile, and popping something in it that shows you have read it, and that gives the recipient something to answer. I say in mine (when it's on show) that make me laugh, and it's a battle half won, also that I like chatting random bollocks with random strangers. Someone sent me a message asking my opinion on stew. Made me giggle, made him cum 3 days later!! " | |||
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"I'd lose some of the 'interests' (even if they're all true). Ticking every box can come across as lazy or desperate. I suspect some Fabsters would tick safe sex AND bareback (were there such an option). I disagree, I dont see it as lazy but someone who is up for trying most things" Prime example of why these types of posts are pointless: you CAN'T please everyone so don't try! Sell you, with a view of attracting likeminded people for hedonistic pleasure. | |||
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"Thanks guys Most recent ones are with medium length hair. Any preferences for a profile pic? Or is the one I have up good enough? Well done on taking the advice and doing some thing about it Your profile looks really good and a good selection of pics...Not knit picking but which pics are recent as you have hardly no hair in a few and a load in another " I like the one where it looks like you are on a boat, near the wooden bunks? | |||
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"Is this a post about not getting meets or a cunning way to get a critique on someone's profile so improvements can be made? If the latter, can I ask why so many of my messages go unanswered??? " Your age, you are married, some of a few things that will go against you on this site. Unfortunate, but that's the way it is at times. | |||
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"Is this a post about not getting meets or a cunning way to get a critique on someone's profile so improvements can be made? If the latter, can I ask why so many of my messages go unanswered??? Your age, you are married, some of a few things that will go against you on this site. Unfortunate, but that's the way it is at times. " Tell me about it! | |||
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"A simple no ty would be gd huh " Read all the other posts that tells you why it is too much hassle to say 'thanks but no thanks' | |||
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"A simple no ty would be gd huh " Not judging the standard of your messages, but we had 2 today, one was 12 words long (well I say words some were just letters or numbers) and the other was 3 words long. I know for a fact that some women get countless messages like that, what possible reason is there to reply? | |||
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"A simple no ty would be gd huh Not judging the standard of your messages, but we had 2 today, one was 12 words long (well I say words some were just letters or numbers) and the other was 3 words long. I know for a fact that some women get countless messages like that, what possible reason is there to reply?" I wright longish massages lots of effort and no reply soviets no wonder some guys only wright one or two lines | |||
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"Hehe. Yes that's a good guess! You are correct! " If you click on the word "quote", we will all understand to which post you are responding. | |||
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"Hehe. Yes that's a good guess! You are correct! If you click on the word "quote", we will all understand to which post you are responding." | |||
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"Ok sorry about that Alan. I'm still fairly new to the forum on the site. Hehe. Yes that's a good gusset ! " | |||
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"Ok sorry about that Alan. I'm still fairly new to the forum on the site. Hehe. Yes that's a good guess! You are correct! If you click on the word "quote", we will all understand to which post you are responding." No need to say sorry. I was just being helpful. | |||
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"We don't meet single guys a a couple but we have friends who do, and we also have met "couples" at clubs who are actually 2 singles who turn up as a couple - and we swap with them. So if you're a single guy and you would like to be chosen by the couples, by the single ladies, and to go as the male half of a "couple" to clubs and enjoy the swaps you need to do what the successful guys do. The guys we have met who do this are outstanding gentlemen and we mean this literally, the Stand Out. Their profile is not about what they want and what they are looking for, they are about what they offer. Have a look at the profiles of the single guys here, look at a lot of them. Now which one has a long list of veris from single ladies and couples? What do the say about him? How can YOU be that guy? What in his profile makes him outstanding, different from the guys you'll see with no veris. Why is the ONE guy who seems to be fucking all the ladies and 5O guys getting nowhere? Go figure it out " | |||
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