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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi em here, i need some help with how to cope with my nerves. We have met 4 single males and had a four some with some friends of mine. I was fine when we had the four some but i think that was because they we knew them. Whenever we meet single males i get really really nervous. Once it all gets started i love it but feel so uncomfortable before. How do you girls cope with it or do you not get nervous anymore? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

me personally im a nervous gibberin wreck when i meet someone for the first time even if it is just for coffee!! and thats after iv been chattin with them for ages!! luckily most have wanted to meet again so cant be that much of a wreck lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi em here, i need some help with how to cope with my nerves. We have met 4 single males and had a four some with some friends of mine. I was fine when we had the four some but i think that was because they we knew them. Whenever we meet single males i get really really nervous. Once it all gets started i love it but feel so uncomfortable before. How do you girls cope with it or do you not get nervous anymore? X "

Maybe you are not nervous just very excited.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol. We meet for drinks with them before we do anything but i just sit in silence and look the other way. We always carry on as planned but I wish i could feel more comfortable. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Probably

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have learned to "act" very confident but underneath I am as nervous as hell. Recently met a guy who actually admitted he was nervous also. To be honest I think it is part of the excitement. If you stopped feeling that it would all become very mundane and ordinary. Keep on having fun sweetie, think we all feel like you do just pretend a little better. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice. I will try next time. Usually im really confident. Probs just excited like you said. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i still get very nervous with every meet.even get the shakes lol..even if ive chatted to then for awhile before hand lol

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Once we stop being nervous mixed with excitement before a meet then we will probably give it up.

I ( mrs) get so nervous sometimes I think I can't breath, but once the fun starts it goes away

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Feeling nervous and excited is all part of the fun, I get nervous as well but just pretend I'm not as previous poster said! I do tend to natter like mad tho which can be as bad as silence! There's no remedy I don't think, can only say, enjoy the fear and have fun! Z xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when got a meet i feel excited but

some on here would say im 2 daft

to be nervous lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Feeling nervous and excited is all part of the fun, I get nervous as well but just pretend I'm not as previous poster said! I do tend to natter like mad tho which can be as bad as silence! There's no remedy I don't think, can only say, enjoy the fear and have fun! Z xx"
yes i agree, i'm sure we all get nervous and i feel it's all part of the excitement of the swinging lifestyle

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"Hi em here, i need some help with how to cope with my nerves. We have met 4 single males and had a four some with some friends of mine. I was fine when we had the four some but i think that was because they we knew them. Whenever we meet single males i get really really nervous. Once it all gets started i love it but feel so uncomfortable before. How do you girls cope with it or do you not get nervous anymore? X

Maybe you are not nervous just very excited. "

Too true. The feeling of exicetement and nervousness is the same. We just put different labels on them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol. We meet for drinks with them before we do anything but i just sit in silence and look the other way. We always carry on as planned but I wish i could feel more comfortable. X "

Why not try a club.

You can chat and have a drink and just go with the flo.

That way things "just" seem to happen

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Have thought about a club but think that would be way to scary lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wouldn't say we feel nervous but we do feel anxious in case the other couple are disappointed when we meet.

Or if things don't work out and something spoils the night.

So with us its more a case of anxiety than nerves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get nervous before meeting , even worse with couples , incase we dont get on . Then I talk broken biscuits , I think things move on just to shut me up .. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have to say do feel very horny the night before a meet. and nervous the day of meet. need a few mins alone with guy to give him a quick peck and ask if he feels nervous too. so then we are both on the same level and i feel more comforable. generally then go with flow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel a little nervous on meets and find that most of the ladie I meet is too.

I often find that a kiss on the lips, if you are in public or don't like to kiss, if one of you puts a hand on the others leg while you are talking, helps a lot. Settles everything realy quickly.

But nerves are part of the excitement, you are obviously a confident lady or you wouldn't be swinging. relax and enjoy yourself

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By *haven767Man
over a year ago

plymouth

Before you meet and during chatting to them on e-mail, try to find a common subject!! One that you like. as soon as you meet start to talk about that! even though you have nerves it makes you look confident!! Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always get really nervous and i shake with the nerves but i think its all part of the excitement...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Feeling nervous and excited is all part of the fun, I get nervous as well but just pretend I'm not as previous poster said! I do tend to natter like mad tho which can be as bad as silence! There's no remedy I don't think, can only say, enjoy the fear and have fun! Z xx"

Bingo ! First meet nerves are fun, scarey and something I imagin ethe majority go through. The second time I meet a couple its always much easier, less performance anxiety and a knowledge of each others tastes just builds the quality in the relatioship - but we have to take that first step...

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