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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Any advice on how to make it more comfortable? Husband loves it and more often than not...I don't. We use a numbing cream, but that numbs him as well which kind of defeats the purpose lol

I really don't want to deprive him of this and there has been times where it's been enjoyable for me. Any suggestions and advice are much appreciated!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of lube.

Maybe some poppers.

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By *ingjayMan
over a year ago

exeter

Definitely get him took look up on how to make it better - I would say practise more ..... but tell him not to just jump in and work your hole a lot until it does feel comfortable, and then try to relax yourself half the girls I have got into anal tense with the thought its going to hurt and if he's Hung like a donkey then get Another husband lol

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By *toneblueMan
over a year ago

Southampton

I don't believe in numbing creams myself - the whole point is to feel it isn't it? Plus you may not be able to tell if you are harming yourself if you can't feel anything, pain is the body's way of telling you to back off.

You say you have enjoyed it before...what was different about it those times? Did he take more time over it? Perhaps he needs to slow down a bit and let you relax fully.

If you really don't like it, don't do it. I would hate for someone to pretend they like something just to please me. Half the turn-on for me is knowing that she loves it as much as I do, if I suspected she was just 'letting me' have anal that would kill the mood. Does he know how you feel about it?

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Numbing cream

So how will you know if you are doing it wrong? Oh that's right, you ARE doing it wrong and the pain is to tell you that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any advice on how to make it more comfortable? Husband loves it and more often than not...I don't. We use a numbing cream, but that numbs him as well which kind of defeats the purpose lol

I really don't want to deprive him of this and there has been times where it's been enjoyable for me. Any suggestions and advice are much appreciated!

I no longer do it as it hurts me too much but once I had had a lot to drink and actually orgasmed that way. So alcohol?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

believe it or not i can only do anal laying on my back with a pillow under my ass and legs on his shoulders i love it this way i find im more relaxed oh and lots of lube he has to be slow to start with or i tense up again bekki xxx

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By *inkyScot22Man
over a year ago

Anniesland

"So alcohol?"

Alcohol is never the answer

Try a (well lubed) butt plug about an hour before play and go slow!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So alcohol?

Alcohol is never the answer

Try a (well lubed) butt plug about an hour before play and go slow!"

Alcohol does help a bit but I'm not a big fan of butt plugs...maybe I should try it again tho lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"believe it or not i can only do anal laying on my back with a pillow under my ass and legs on his shoulders i love it this way i find im more relaxed oh and lots of lube he has to be slow to start with or i tense up again bekki xxx"

That position does seem to work best but he wants to mix it up a bit lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It definitely helps!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Numbing cream

So how will you know if you are doing it wrong? Oh that's right, you ARE doing it wrong and the pain is to tell you that.

Lol we don't go overboard with it...I tense up. When relaxed it's fine, but that's rare

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Lots of lube.

Maybe some poppers."

Poppers? Plugs?

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By *inkyScot22Man
over a year ago

Anniesland

"Poppers? Plugs? "

Some regular (solo) play with a dildo?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't believe in numbing creams myself - the whole point is to feel it isn't it? Plus you may not be able to tell if you are harming yourself if you can't feel anything, pain is the body's way of telling you to back off.

You say you have enjoyed it before...what was different about it those times? Did he take more time over it? Perhaps he needs to slow down a bit and let you relax fully.

You're right on many levels lol I guess what he can't get passed is the fact that I have enjoyed it quite a bit a few times. He doesn't understand it's not that simple for me. Slowing down would help tremendously, told him today it won't happen again if that doesn't happen lol

As far as the numbing cream, we only use a tiny bit to get going

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Definitely get him took look up on how to make it better - I would say practise more ..... but tell him not to just jump in and work your hole a lot until it does feel comfortable, and then try to relax yourself half the girls I have got into anal tense with the thought its going to hurt and if he's Hung like a donkey then get Another husband lol"

Lol yes for sure! Not quite a donkey, but close lol thanks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dnt get why you want to do it at all if it hurts you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I dnt get why you want to do it at all if it hurts you."

Because sometimes I really do like it and he really loves it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lube, lube and more lube. Also relax and have lots of anal play before going for sex, there are lots of Anal toys other then plugs, try vibrating beads or an anal probe.. It's about training your muscles to relax slightly and you're best doing that at your own pace alone.

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

"Lube, lube and more lube. Also relax and have lots of anal play before going for sex, there are lots of Anal toys other then plugs, try vibrating beads or an anal probe.. It's about training your muscles to relax slightly and you're best doing that at your own pace alone."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty of lube, I will come round and show u if u want? Karl lol

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By *eordie JoJoTV/TS
over a year ago

Newcastle

It does take a while......before you learn to relax ( natural reaction is to push, tense up) but with plenty of lube (defo suggest poppers if you tense as this relaxes your anal Walls) but also tell your fella to take his time! .... Have some foreplay..... Rimming you and fingering before he SLOWLY! slides it in.......Well lubed... The poppers and learning to relax (through practise) will ensure every time is an enjoyable experience not just with alcohol

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

"I dnt get why you want to do it at all if it hurts you."

Can often hurt, but hopefully only a little, initially and then massively pleasurable. At least thats often how it is for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lube, lube, lube and more lube.

That, along with time and patirnce should do the trick.

Also, the position you adopt can help enormously. Try a foetal position, that really helped me when i first started doing anal.

Above all, only do what you are comfortable doing. If you dont like it, dont do it.

Hope this helps, xx.

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

Lots of foreplay followed by even more anal foreplay. Rimming or gently stroking without penetration initially help me relax then spending time warming up with one, then two and finally three fingers, beyond three though tends to be counter productive for me.

I also find inserting 3-5ml of lube using a lube shooter (wide plastic tipped syringe) helps.

Finally working out a position that works for you. On my back in a swing seems best for me if unfortunately not always available.

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By *ree8iveMan
over a year ago

CORNWALL

Yep, like the rest say...time! Slowly slowly with lots of lube...and maybe a little finger first....

Ohhh, and don't stick 'Anal Angels 7'

on the DVD player before hand...might send the wrong message, lol.

Of course, you could always try it on him, so he gets an idea of what's going on!

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

"Yep, like the rest say...time! Slowly slowly with lots of lube...and maybe a little finger first....

Ohhh, and don't stick 'Anal Angels 7'

on the DVD player before hand...might send the wrong message, lol.

Of course, you could always try it on him, so he gets an idea of what's going on! "

Although it may only furthet encourage him if he finds it pleasurable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep lots of lube although different lubes work better than others ? Practice on your own with toys so you know what works use a verity or involve your OH by getting home to join in the foreplay but not touching your ass till you are comfortable with it all then go slow with you in control

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Idk about alone, but the rest sounds great. Training the muscles and lube should help! Thanks!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Plenty of lube, I will come round and show u if u want? Karl lol "

Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It does take a while......before you learn to relax ( natural reaction is to push, tense up) but with plenty of lube (defo suggest poppers if you tense as this relaxes your anal Walls) but also tell your fella to take his time! .... Have some foreplay..... Rimming you and fingering before he SLOWLY! slides it in.......Well lubed... The poppers and learning to relax (through practise) will ensure every time is an enjoyable experience not just with alcohol

Is poppers just toys? Lol but yes rimming and fingers help a lot!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Lots of foreplay followed by even more anal foreplay. Rimming or gently stroking without penetration initially help me relax then spending time warming up with one, then two and finally three fingers, beyond three though tends to be counter productive for me.

I also find inserting 3-5ml of lube using a lube shooter (wide plastic tipped syringe) helps.

Finally working out a position that works for you. On my back in a swing seems best for me if unfortunately not always available."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yep, like the rest say...time! Slowly slowly with lots of lube...and maybe a little finger first....

Ohhh, and don't stick 'Anal Angels 7'

on the DVD player before hand...might send the wrong message, lol.

Of course, you could always try it on him, so he gets an idea of what's going on! "

Hahahahaha

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I dnt get why you want to do it at all if it hurts you."

yep, my wife had a bad experience of this with a previous lover, so it's a definite no-go area for me

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By *ickingFantasticMan
over a year ago

Fareham

what about trying a position where you are in control of the penetration - speed/depth etc as only you know how relaxed you feel, so you on top perhaps?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Search anal threads for further advice

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By *eebieCouple
over a year ago

SWScotland

Poppers n alcohol lol n lots o lube mmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use toys and fingers first. Start small and increase the size until your relaxed. Leaving a butt plug in for a bit will help too. Oh, and lots of lube..

Happy bumming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Relax..try not to tense your ass up. Don't just go straight for anal..lots of foreplay & kissing will help you relax too. Make sure you are well lubed. Tell him not to rush it or shove it in..just take it easy & before you know it you'll both be loving it! Enjoy! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Numbing cream won't eliminate all pain from anal sex anyway.

Even the strongest numbing creams will not make you oblivious to a cock in the arse, at best you're numbing the outermost skin of your asshole and the discomfort comes from deeper.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Is poppers just toys? "

Everyone seems to be avoiding this question but poppers are drugs that you inhale. Search wikipedia for 'Poppers' for loads more info

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty of good quality lube. There are specific lubes available from sex shops. Also be gentle to start with and above all relax.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get pissed

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By *1KandiCouple
over a year ago

Jacksonville

My guy is really good at anal. He has me do all the pushing until I am ready for him to go at it. At first it is a little slow but it does not take long for me to get relaxed enough and have him going at it with everything he has. He has me tell him when I am ready... up to that point I do it all. Awesome!!!

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By *azyOldGitMan
over a year ago

leicestershire

"Any advice on how to make it more comfortable? Husband loves it and more often than not...I don't. We use a numbing cream, but that numbs him as well which kind of defeats the purpose lol

I really don't want to deprive him of this and there has been times where it's been enjoyable for me. Any suggestions and advice are much appreciated!

We tried it on a 4 foot by 18 by 18 inch table, her feet were resting on my shoulders and I was sat on the table. She reached orgasm very quickly which was quite unusual. We thought it was because the position allowed easy access while she could relax. A copious amount of lube was also used, I forget the name but it was an anal specific lube

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