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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just a question.... For no reason but it was part of a conversation I was having we couldn't answer it cos we didn't know.........

Do fuck buddy's tell each other they love each other... And if they do... Then do you really mean you do or is it in the heat of the moment?

Many thanks for help

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London

Well if I was in love with someone I wouldn't be calling them my fuck buddy...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well if I was in love with someone I wouldn't be calling them my fuck buddy..."

Thankyou that is exactly what we said.... That person wouldn't be fb they would be lover? Yeah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well if I was in love with someone I wouldn't be calling them my fuck buddy...

Thankyou that is exactly what we said.... That person wouldn't be fb they would be lover? Yeah "

my understanding of a fb relationship is two ppl who meet for sex...there is no love involved and certainly no intimacy as in a normal loving relationship!

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"Well if I was in love with someone I wouldn't be calling them my fuck buddy...

Thankyou that is exactly what we said.... That person wouldn't be fb they would be lover? Yeah

my understanding of a fb relationship is two ppl who meet for sex...there is no love involved and certainly no intimacy as in a normal loving relationship! "

That's how i view it too. However, some people here would tell you otherwise. Maybe there are different stages/ tiers of fuck buddy? I dunno...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh gawd dont say that i got fb's if one said the L word to me i would run a mile lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

..Once those few words are mentioned. The relationship has taken a whole new different level.

Its going to be a different ball game now..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well if I was in love with someone I wouldn't be calling them my fuck buddy...

Thankyou that is exactly what we said.... That person wouldn't be fb they would be lover? Yeah "

I don't think counting as being lovers is same as saying I love you.. I bloody hope not as always tell my playmate he's my lover lol.

If I was to have that word used the dreaded l word I'd imagine it wouldn't be just playmates any more.

unless said in a way like.. love you too... Maybe after a cheeky comment..

Although guess it could depend on how close a friendship...as I tell two of my best friends I love them.. but it's not romantic love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well if I was in love with someone I wouldn't be calling them my fuck buddy..."

^^^^ this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I wouldn't, love implies relationship as in boyfriend and girlfriend, my fwb and I are not that, would be over stepping the mark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell me how does one get one of these elusive F/B preferably a younger one

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By *attykitWoman
over a year ago

leeds

Friends with benefits for me the friends bit is just as important at the Sex. I "care" about them and wouldn't want to hurt him. That's different from love but also different from an emotion less fuck with a stranger.

In answer to the question - no I don't tell him that I love him because I don't!

Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Friends with benefits for me the friends bit is just as important at the Sex. I "care" about them and wouldn't want to hurt him. That's different from love but also different from an emotion less fuck with a stranger.

In answer to the question - no I don't tell him that I love him because I don't! "

The friends bit is really important, for me anyway. If you see each other on a fairly regular basis then you need to be able to get on with them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thankyou everyone for your comments x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a difference between lust, loving and being in love.

I love lots of people but I'm not in love just now.

Lust is fleeting. Love endures.

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By *onestjohn1962Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

There is no intimacy other then sex with an fb - quick gratification only - which is fine of course. When you meet more frequently there are obviously more times that are spent together when you are not having sex and I think that counts as a lovers relationship.

I had a fb, now we are are lovers - but we don't love one another - if that doesn't sound too daft ! ! ! ! ! (And being a cheating married man I met up with her from another site!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is no intimacy other then sex with an fb - quick gratification only - which is fine of course. When you meet more frequently there are obviously more times that are spent together when you are not having sex and I think that counts as a lovers relationship.

I had a fb, now we are are lovers - but we don't love one another - if that doesn't sound too daft ! ! ! ! ! (And being a cheating married man I met up with her from another site!)"

not daft at all and proves my point.All in perspective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if they do then they are fucking idiots

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By *unnysmileWoman
over a year ago

wakefield area ish

I had a fb for four years..the L word was never used but we were great friends...now we are no longer fbs but he is still a great friend...we still meet and can t imagine what I d do without him...but I care about him n vice versa but the L word isn't needed. We are there for one an other as friends do .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now this is a very pertinant thread as we are exactly what is being asked. Myself & S were a swinging couple to begin with, but as time progressed we feel that we are much more than just fwb. We do tell each other that we love each other and we do, (even though S is married, her hubby does know, read our profile, its all there lol) I like to think (as was mentioned earlier in the thread) that there is perhaps levels of love, as it were, because we are more than just two people who meet for unintimate, passionless less sex.....and as we all know you can't have good sex without those essential elements....intimacy and passion. So we throw our judgement out to you, our peers, what does this make us??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think, as with any human relationship, fuck buddies can fall in love but when they do they in effect cease to be a FB and become a lovers.

I also agree with the other posters that although FB is a substantially loveless situation it does not rule out liking, caring and friendship.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

My FB is my best friend. I tell him I love him all the time, I also tell his wife I love her all the time, because I do love them both. But I don't love them in a "I want to run away with you and spend the rest of my life with you, and have your babies" kind of way. I love them because they are my best friends and we do anything for each other kind of way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one that's after a while told me he loved me during our play so I ended things. For me being FB's I'd about mutual no strings sexy fun I've had that terrible STD called "feelings" before I'd rather stay clear of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Friends with benefits for me the friends bit is just as important at the Sex. I "care" about them and wouldn't want to hurt him. That's different from love but also different from an emotion less fuck with a stranger.

In answer to the question - no I don't tell him that I love him because I don't!

Xx"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My FB is my best friend. I tell him I love him all the time, I also tell his wife I love her all the time, because I do love them both. But I don't love them in a "I want to run away with you and spend the rest of my life with you, and have your babies" kind of way. I love them because they are my best friends and we do anything for each other kind of way. "

aww that is really nice and does make perfect sense... I think to many people think the l word means you want to have a normal relationship etc xxx

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By *ohjaneCouple
over a year ago

south staffs

Hmm, they are all labels to me.

Why worry about which label to put on this person or that when only you and the person in question knows what you have together or feel about each other ?

Jane x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps people start out as FBs and grow attached to have feelings and perhaps lovers. Regular good sex is a great way of cementing a friendship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perhaps people start out as FBs and grow attached to have feelings and perhaps lovers. Regular good sex is a great way of cementing a friendship. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have a fb but I have never used the l word with any I have had even if strong feelings are involved that's not what fb,s are for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suppose love is subjective you can apply it to describe feelings for different levels of affection you have for different people

An fb (no autocorrect not FBI) is a sexual partner you meet for mutual gratification without the rigmarole of day to day relationship, your feelings can be very strong even love as it is the act of sex without the relationship that makes an fb not the feelings that you have for them,

My opinion

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"Well if I was in love with someone I wouldn't be calling them my fuck buddy...

Thankyou that is exactly what we said.... That person wouldn't be fb they would be lover? Yeah

my understanding of a fb relationship is two ppl who meet for sex...there is no love involved and certainly no intimacy as in a normal loving relationship! "

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Just a question.... For no reason but it was part of a conversation I was having we couldn't answer it cos we didn't know.........

Do fuck buddy's tell each other they love each other... And if they do... Then do you really mean you do or is it in the heat of the moment?

Many thanks for help "

Well it's never happened between me and mine in the past two years and it's never likely to happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My fb and I loved one another as friends and told each other so.

There was no romantic love, only the kind of love I have for my close friends.

It wasn't ever gonna be anything more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never happened to me the L word thing with a FB , sometimes strong feelings develop as bad the jealousy thing once in public . With these kinda arrangements just need to take precautions etc...e.g. Have a once a week or month rule ...don't talk too much outside the bedroom , things like that .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never happened to me the L word thing with a FB , sometimes strong feelings develop as bad the jealousy thing once in public . With these kinda arrangements just need to take precautions etc...e.g. Have a once a week or month rule ...don't talk too much outside the bedroom , things like that ."

My fb would often stay with me for a week at a time. We did social things together and even spoke about doing a tour of NZ...but we still both knew what the relationship was and wasn't

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