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That "awkward" moment

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We've met some great people from here and had plenty of good fun so far (always wanting more though ). But whenever we meet new people we always get to that "awkward" moment when it's blindingly obvious that you all want to have fun with each other but no one knows how to make the first move. So we often end up sort of stumbling into it all. Once things get started though, the problems all go away

Anyone got any clever or fun ways to get over that bit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last time we came across this, was when we had a guy over, Coll disappeared upstairs and shouted down, are you two joining me, I'm all wet, lol

It did the trick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kate goes out of the room at some point and comes back in dressed for play. Our playmates get the message and we're off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i usually ask for a kiss n it just goes from there xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i usually ask for a kiss n it just goes from there xx "

That's all very fine, but what happens if the guy has green teeth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i usually ask for a kiss n it just goes from there xx

That's all very fine, but what happens if the guy has green teeth "

Ya shuts ya eyes lol xx

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By *roovytwoCouple
over a year ago

burnley


"We've met some great people from here and had plenty of good fun so far (always wanting more though ). But whenever we meet new people we always get to that "awkward" moment when it's blindingly obvious that you all want to have fun with each other but no one knows how to make the first move. So we often end up sort of stumbling into it all. Once things get started though, the problems all go away

Anyone got any clever or fun ways to get over that bit?"

We usually start by either N starting to stroke and caress J under her skirt or J stroking N,s cock and getting it our of his pants!! The other couple usually start to play together then J usually says "Right kit off then N !!" and we then all undress each other and the fun leads on from this.

But agree it is difficult at times...some flirting,showing stocking tops before also helps to start the fun.

There are various games that can help and there was a thread on here a short while ago with several ice breakers suggested but we havnt needed to try any as yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All my meets have started off with a good long chat, I always meet as a single guy so when the female half of the couple ends up on my lap I can be pretty sure that things are going to start happening lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

strip off, cock out and watch Tamzins face!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Strip off naked and serve canapes lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There have been a few occassions where its been so obvious that I've wanted to burst out laughing!! Theres suddenly a complete stop in the conversation and you everyones dying to get their kit off but no one (me included) knows what to say without looking like a rampant sex fiend! pmsl!! Its always ended in lots of fun so its all part of the experience!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There have been a few occassions where its been so obvious that I've wanted to burst out laughing!! Theres suddenly a complete stop in the conversation and you everyones dying to get their kit off but no one (me included) knows what to say without looking like a rampant sex fiend! pmsl!! Its always ended in lots of fun so its all part of the experience!!"

That's exactly what we've found on many occassions! Thanks for the thoughts, we'll give some of them a try, well, the fun ones anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There have been a few occassions where its been so obvious that I've wanted to burst out laughing!! Theres suddenly a complete stop in the conversation and you everyones dying to get their kit off but no one (me included) knows what to say without looking like a rampant sex fiend! pmsl!! Its always ended in lots of fun so its all part of the experience!!

That's exactly what we've found on many occassions! Thanks for the thoughts, we'll give some of them a try, well, the fun ones anyway "

If you've gotten into a great conversation, it doesn't matter how many times you've met someone, theres always that awkward pause!! Lol! Next time I think I'll just drop my trousers! That'll get rid of the awkwardness!! Lol!

Looking at your profile, I'm sure you guys will have LOTS more fun!

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By *otswoldMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

When think you have come to that moment, try just swapping the seating arrangements (you next to him and her next to me). It is quite a good ice breaker.

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

one example we met a single lass went to hers cpl of drinks i went to the toilet come back down and my mrs was on sofa snogging her 20 mins later they were in the shower playing soapy games its usually the mrs that starts it off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Kate goes out of the room at some point and comes back in dressed for play. Our playmates get the message and we're off "

That's another tactic we use.

Another fave, particularly of Coll's is, I leave the room, for drinks or summat and then she makes the move on the guy (if just guy/s), or she may make a move on a lady whilst I'm there.

I tend to leave it to Coll to dictate how our time goes, and with her, there are few awkward moments, she has more balls than most men. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Steve usually just drags me upstairs as soon as there's a pause in the conversation and then calls out to say that others are welcome to join us I should be used to it really, especially as he sometimes tells me that's what he's going to do, but it still takes me by surprise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trace usually says to the other woman something like "I'll show you your room".

Me and the other guy will maybe have a drink and chat for a while and then make our way up.

By that time things are.......er......umm.....warming up nicely!

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexy party games

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

We have a sexy game from Anne Summers, plus some sexy dice with forfeits on etc, so we have a chat, a few drinks (not too many, we dont play with people who need to get d*unk before they will play!) and then ask if they want to play the game, things move on rapidly from there. Funny thing is, we have never managed to finish the game lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On our first meet we had this situation, Squeak was ready with no panties on.

Squeak and our play friend were sat on sofa and I was on floor. I suggested to squeak to change the cd, as she was changing it on all fours I pulled up her skirt to expose her and our guest did not need a second invite to dive in. That broke the ice.

Other than that a stroke of the leg and a little kiss normally gets the ball rolling.

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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago

north manchester

In anticipation of a hopefully horny night at ours on Saturday, and as we've no off the shelf games from Ann Summers or similar, any tried and tested ideas for ice-breaker, forfeit-type games that can be made Blue Peter style from ordinary, household chattels?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i usually ask for a kiss n it just goes from there xx

That's all very fine, but what happens if the guy has green teeth "

If the guy has green teeth we wouldn't want things to get started anyway, green teeth - can you imagine what the hygiene might be like in other areas - yuk

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"In anticipation of a hopefully horny night at ours on Saturday, and as we've no off the shelf games from Ann Summers or similar, any tried and tested ideas for ice-breaker, forfeit-type games that can be made Blue Peter style from ordinary, household chattels? "

Spin the bottle, loser takes off an item of clothing or performs a forfeit?

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Or..... write out some basic functions on little bits of paper such as lick, kiss, touch, finger etc.... and then write out parts of the body (do I really have to make a list lol?) but put some innocent ones in too like erm.... ears lol. fold them up and put into two cups.

Each person throws a dice, the lowest score picks two bits of paper, one from each cup, and performs the actions on the one with the highest score. Obviously normal swingers rules apply (no-one has to do anything they are not comfortable with), just in case the two guys (assuming its couples) end up paired off lol

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Might be an idea to set a time limit too, in case someone gets carried away lol

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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago

north manchester

good tips, cheers all!

Now where did I put those dice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mr h just leaves the room for a short while when i give the guy a quick smuch and let my hands wander. slowly undoing his trousers. or if really frisky guide him up the stairs and start there

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By *andyfeckerMan
over a year ago

houghton

its the famous british reserve thats to blame,i bet the germans or the swedes and dutch dont need any encouragment to get the ball rolling....lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well, if one of those ideas doesn't work.....we'll keep trying until we find one that does!!

Thanks to all for some great ideas. Will let you know how they go after our next meet.

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

London

We just stand up and say - do you want to watch us play?

And then strip off..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nothing can be as awkward as our meet last nite,lol (refer to 'Judgement' thread for details)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"nothing can be as awkward as our meet last nite,lol (refer to 'Judgement' thread for details)"

Oh I don;t know, we had one where all was well, this "repeater" had finished once, during a 69 with Ms Rooney, then popped outside to his car for his fags, yeah we guessed it too, he jumped in car and drove off, lol. later messaging he was sorry, etc etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

omg, what an experience. the guy last nite didn't smoke tho, so he couldn't use that excuse lol

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By *otwelshbabeWoman
over a year ago

cardiff

LOL too funny!! I once sat chatting with a guy for about 6 hours with nothing happening even tho both of us were clearly horny as hell! Us british need to loosen up a bit

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