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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Was talking about this last night with my buddy,

Do you think it goes well together or do you avoid it?

I like to view my playmates as friends & must admit to enjoying a cuddle & chat

But its not like I will be picking out curtains

I have no desire for a relationship with my buddies beyond what we already have but I enjoy being able to talk with them about life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was talking about this last night with my buddy,

Do you think it goes well together or do you avoid it?

I like to view my playmates as friends & must admit to enjoying a cuddle & chat

But its not like I will be picking out curtains

I have no desire for a relationship with my buddies beyond what we already have but I enjoy being able to talk with them about life"

i prefer those i meet to be friends ( as we have friends on different levels)

i have 2 guys i know..who i chill with as friends do but we also have sex through the night..good banter..drink and laugh etc!

but we both free do what we want..but we give each other good company and sex..which has got better now as we know each others likes etc and turn ons.

for me social side is just as important and connection with someone as i find sex better and for me im more relaxed too..and nothing wrong with affection i dont think at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have two types of meets.. those that have some sensuality...some that don't..

intimacy is only for those I feel something for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes


"Was talking about this last night with my buddy,

Do you think it goes well together or do you avoid it?

I like to view my playmates as friends & must admit to enjoying a cuddle & chat

But its not like I will be picking out curtains

I have no desire for a relationship with my buddies beyond what we already have but I enjoy being able to talk with them about life"

I much prefer having playmates as friends too. It does make for better and more relaxed fun I find. Love them to bits, but love my space even more! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't meet many or often so I like to have a connection with those I do. I'm not the most confident and I have to feel comfortable and relaxed with anyone I'm going to have sex with

I like the intimacy and the tender moments as well as the banter and chats, it's all part of it for me but that doesn't mean I want a relationship with that person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was talking about this last night with my buddy,

Do you think it goes well together or do you avoid it?

I like to view my playmates as friends & must admit to enjoying a cuddle & chat

But its not like I will be picking out curtains

I have no desire for a relationship with my buddies beyond what we already

have but I enjoy being able to talk with them about life"

Me too .... It's all part of it for me ! I like to b able chat about life's ups and downs ... And have a giggle and a cuddle ... It feels good after to chill and chat !

Rather than just ok then off home ! Lol

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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago

most fundamental aspects

I can have a lot more fun if I know more about people. There seem to be some, who actively distance themselves from becoming involved as friends with play partners. For me, that is disappointing and makes me feel like an inanimate household appliance!

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By *affy72Woman
over a year ago

Herefordshire


"I can have a lot more fun if I know more about people. There seem to be some, who actively distance themselves from becoming involved as friends with play partners. For me, that is disappointing and makes me feel like an inanimate household appliance!"

There are a few people who seem to just want cold hard sex with strangers, but for me part of the turn on is getting to know someone and beng comfortable enough to find out what each other likes. I don't mind the odd "shag" but I prefer my meets to be with what I feel are potential friends rather than someone who I know no more about after sex than I did before, doesn't make me feel great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends what kind of intimacy your talking about. Yes I have physical intimacy and friendship with the people I swing with.

I would only ever want emotional intimacy with someone if they were my significant other though.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Was talking about this last night with my buddy,

Do you think it goes well together or do you avoid it?

I like to view my playmates as friends & must admit to enjoying a cuddle & chat

But its not like I will be picking out curtains

I have no desire for a relationship with my buddies beyond what we already have but I enjoy being able to talk with them about life

i prefer those i meet to be friends ( as we have friends on different levels)

i have 2 guys i know..who i chill with as friends do but we also have sex through the night..good banter..drink and laugh etc!

but we both free do what we want..but we give each other good company and sex..which has got better now as we know each others likes etc and turn ons.

for me social side is just as important and connection with someone as i find sex better and for me im more relaxed too..and nothing wrong with affection i dont think at all"

Totally agree with all you have both said!

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By *a petite madameWoman
over a year ago

London / Essex


"Was talking about this last night with my buddy,

Do you think it goes well together or do you avoid it?

I like to view my playmates as friends & must admit to enjoying a cuddle & chat

But its not like I will be picking out curtains

I have no desire for a relationship with my buddies beyond what we already have but I enjoy being able to talk with them about life

i prefer those i meet to be friends ( as we have friends on different levels)

i have 2 guys i know..who i chill with as friends do but we also have sex through the night..good banter..drink and laugh etc!

but we both free do what we want..but we give each other good company and sex..which has got better now as we know each others likes etc and turn ons.

for me social side is just as important and connection with someone as i find sex better and for me im more relaxed too..and nothing wrong with affection i dont think at all

Totally agree with all you have both said! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't meet many or often so I like to have a connection with those I do. I'm not the most confident and I have to feel comfortable and relaxed with anyone I'm going to have sex with

I like the intimacy and the tender moments as well as the banter and chats, it's all part of it for me but that doesn't mean I want a relationship with that person. "

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By *lleyCat1969Man
over a year ago

Folkestone

Echoing what's been said above, for me there has to be a connection that goes beyond the physical. I don't mean being BFFs, just being able to get on, have a chat, etc. even if it's a one-off meet.

There are people on here I play with regularly who've become good friends and we'll also meet up socially, I suppose it's just friends with benefits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry but i say yes as sexy can only get better and the intermacy help make the sexy and the forplay i see it as a big part of the sex side so i say sorry if people think in wrong but my views xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most people would agree, that sex gets better the more you meet someone. But you can do that without emotional intimacy.

Or do you mean you want to have emotional intimacy with everyone. In which case thats dangerous.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think most people would agree, that sex gets better the more you meet someone. But you can do that without emotional intimacy.

Or do you mean you want to have emotional intimacy with everyone. In which case thats dangerous."

No am not after emotional intimacy, as I said would rather have a friendship with amazing sex.......

I don't understand cold clinical sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met as singletons and a bond developed, so strong that we decided to try a relationship, and so far it is working out well as we have been together for a couple of years. We used to spend alot of time together cuddling and talking about life and general stuff, and it became clear that we had alot in common. Now we have this amazing relationship - and I wouldn't change it for the world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See I think people are confusing intimacy with sensuality... I find with the right person I enjoy sensual times.. the stroking and touching etc..

however intimacy I find for me is on an emotional level... I've found one person only I am prepared to be intimate with on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"See I think people are confusing intimacy with sensuality... I find with the right person I enjoy sensual times.. the stroking and touching etc..

however intimacy I find for me is on an emotional level... I've found one person only I am prepared to be intimate with on here. "

Spot on with what i think. The same way some people mistake sensual sex for making love.

Intimacy is an emotional attachment, and if that were to happen with every meet it would cause a lot of problems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"See I think people are confusing intimacy with sensuality... I find with the right person I enjoy sensual times.. the stroking and touching etc..

however intimacy I find for me is on an emotional level... I've found one person only I am prepared to be intimate with on here.

Spot on with what i think. The same way some people mistake sensual sex for making love.

Intimacy is an emotional attachment, and if that were to happen with every meet it would cause a lot of problems."

mmmmmm oooucch take the knife out it hurts

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Id much rather enjoy a close, affectionate relationship with my buddies than nothing.... Emotions are something I'd be concerned about if I felt more than a friendly affection but I see nothing wrong with enjoying intimacy

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford


"I have two types of meets.. those that have some sensuality...some that don't..

intimacy is only for those I feel something for. "

exactly this... and it can be lost easily to.. maintaining communication is essential for fwb... if you want more than just sex you enter that grey area. I have people I care for that I have Sex with... but I also just have plain old sex and go meets. I prefer the ones who care a little I must say but I am aware there is a line that must not be crossed.

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London

The best intimacy we always have is with each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's an odd one. I learnt that if I tell them to much ... Share to much I can't be as dirty as I want to b. so now I'm looking for playmates who don't want to get to involved in each others life

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