FabSwingers.com forum: Breaking ice on single guy meet

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We've met a few different single guys but in hotel rooms so we're always in the same room. We've got a meet with a guy at his flat. This gives the option of letting wife and guy get started without me in the room (can visit the loo or something) and join later.

I think this may be less off putting for both as they can concentrate on each other and then I join when they are too excited to care.

How does everyone who does this prefer to handle this situation? Getting started is always awkward when there is three of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See with three I don't find it hard.. 4... Oh my god I don't know where to start lol

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By *ark CharmerMan
over a year ago

Horsham

Assuming all 3 have agreed its going to go ahead simply ask a question - so do we get to see this room where the magic happens

- if its a hotel, u can always go out with the key and come back, some people the lady goes to change into something sexy (maybe wore appropriate clothing to leave the house) if she is already dressed sexy ask the guy what he thinks of what she is wearing, its all about communication and signals.

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

"Assuming all 3 have agreed its going to go ahead simply ask a question - so do we get to see this room where the magic happens

The room where all the magic happens

bwahahahaha!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Assuming all 3 have agreed its going to go ahead simply ask a question - so do we get to see this room where the magic happens

We'll meet in bar first so if we end up back at his flat then something is definitely going to happen. The question really is if it's more comfortable for the single guy and wife to get started without husband watching (i.e out of room for a few minites) ? Is it more natural and less self conscious for single guy and wife?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single guy I think you are sending a clear signal by leaving the room. Even I would get that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a single guy I think you are sending a clear signal by leaving the room. Even I would get that!"

yup same here!

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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester

I try to make sure that initial convo is fun and full of cheek, it helps lighten the mood and relaxes everyone.

Then if I'm not already sat next to the fem, then I'll do so and begin to stroke her, this usually leads her to want a kiss. Then The chat can continue and she can touch me likewise and the mood relaxes some more or the foreplay starts for real. It depend on how horny we're all feeling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think leaving the room and returning to see them at it would be extremely horney but for her, it may not be.. She may feel safer with you there at all times and a threesome is a threesome from the start. With us, he wouldn't want me to leave her alone for any duration of the meet..

I appreciate everyone is different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think when hubbie says "just going for a little walk/or to the bar" - that's a great hint

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By *ark CharmerMan
over a year ago

Horsham

"Assuming all 3 have agreed its going to go ahead simply ask a question - so do we get to see this room where the magic happens

It doesn't bother me if the hubby is in the room, I will make a move when I feel the time is right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't bother me if the hubby is in the room, I will make a move when I feel the time is right."

That sounds like a onesome not a threesome.

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

Personally I wouldn't want/need the OH to leave, as someone else said its a threesome after all!

Part of the buzz is surely how the evening unfolds and reading body language.

In my world though I'd probably be instructed early on by Master to get on my knees and suck his cock

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford

It would probably be me, Dave, who starts things and then the single joins in.

If i had to leave the room for him to feel comfortable, he's probably not for us anyway. We like guys to be relaxed and comfortable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It would probably be me, Dave, who starts things and then the single joins in.

If i had to leave the room for him to feel comfortable, he's probably not for us anyway. We like guys to be relaxed and comfortable.

Totally agree!!!

Ant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

glad this has cum up lol

with our first single guy meet,me and the wife was sat next to each other and him on other chair. The convo was flowing (think we got carried away due to nervs

and the drinks were flowing and felt relaxed. Then he came out with it 'shall we head upstairs'. Once in the room we stripped off,got on the bed and the wife and him started kissing and went from there.

'twas a good night

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm always the second guy but would expect in a 3sum for all involved to stay in the same room. I have no qualms about saying "shall I get my kit off?".

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By *lleyCat1969Man
over a year ago

Folkestone

"I'm always the second guy but would expect in a 3sum for all involved to stay in the same room. I have no qualms about saying "shall I get my kit off?".

Yep, that's me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think leaving the room and returning to see them at it would be extremely horney but for her, it may not be.. She may feel safer with you there at all times and a threesome is a threesome from the start. With us, he wouldn't want me to leave her alone for any duration of the meet..

I appreciate everyone is different."

Similar to our feelings too .

We tend to have a drink and if we, re all up for full on threesum then I usually start kissing my hubby whilst reaching a hand out to the other guy to basically give him the go ahead to maybe caress me ( legs or whereever he wishes

) & once he takes the " hint " I, ll maybe turn to kiss him or let my hands do the wandering lol .

I wouldnt like to be left alone by hubby going to loo or somewhere just to get things " started " , as already said ........its a threesum not a twosome with an extra .

But hey , we, re all different I suppose so each to their own on what works for everybody .

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By *ark CharmerMan
over a year ago

Horsham

It doesn't bother me if the hubby is in the room, I will make a move when I feel the time is right.

That sounds like a onesome not a threesome."

Its not a onesome its me realising someone has to make a move.

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By *am8312Man
over a year ago

Brighton

For me I like all three to be there and wouldn't it be great for hubby to prepare her by slipping his hand into her bra and asking the guy to suck her erect nipple or slipping his hand down her pantie and telling the guy how wet she is and come and have a feel

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