FabSwingers.com forum: why am i not getting any meets

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

hi, iv been on here probably on and off for about a year. i have only had 1 meeting. i know i dont have any pics on show (but i do have a private pic - which is a clean pic). yes in reality id like a partner, but happy to have fun with a like minded lady. there just does not seem to be many (or any) genuine people (ladies) on here. can anyone help? Im from hants. just looking for mate/best friend, more ideally. i want to get settled ideally but happy with female company. im a genuine guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is empty? you typed more writing this thread than you have trying to sell yourself

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I think the fact your post seems to be longer than your profile might have something to do with it.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Your profile is empty? you typed more writing this thread than you have trying to sell yourself

snap!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i see so many profiles with verifications and people having met and i just dont seem to at all.

i will put a few more words, but i dont think its that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

been here for over a month no meets an you already had a meet

patience is the key

as said in others threads get yourself known into socials chat rooms an ofcourse the forums

takes time an be understanding

happy swinging

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

I am going to be absolutely honest with you now....

Your profile is painfully devoid of any information, in short it is nothing less than lazy.

You accuse ladies on here of not being genuine when you have made absolutely no effort in compiling a half decent profile....compared with hundreds if not thousands of other guys profiles you haven't got a hope in hell.

Sorry but had to be straight with you

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City

"I think the fact your post seems to be longer than your profile might have something to do with it."

Having a full, clear detailed profile dos`nt mean you will get meets on here.

ive seen a lot of male profiles on here with one ,or at most two line profiles ,yet they have had loads of meets ,where as some males with full profiles(myself included ) have had no luck at all.

so i wouldnt say his profile is the problem .

i get the feeling some of us single guys on here will never get a meet .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

hi jane,

iv added some more text.

do i have to add all sorts of sexual lanaguage also? That would be predictable. Im a normal guy - I like everything to do with sex. Im not into anything weird. i have kept my profile simple and to the point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the fact your post seems to be longer than your profile might have something to do with it.

Having a full, clear detailed profile dos`nt mean you will get meets on here.

ive seen a lot of male profiles on here with one ,or at most two line profiles ,yet they have had loads of meets ,where as some males with full profiles(myself included ) have had no luck at all.

so i wouldnt say his profile is the problem .

i get the feeling some of us single guys on here will never get a meet . "
just take time

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Sorry Sheff but from a womans point view you are wrong.

His profile says to me...lazy...expects lots but gives nothing...

So take it from an active swinging woman on here.....his profile is pants!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the fact your post seems to be longer than your profile might have something to do with it.

Having a full, clear detailed profile dos`nt mean you will get meets on here.

ive seen a lot of male profiles on here with one ,or at most two line profiles ,yet they have had loads of meets ,where as some males with full profiles(myself included ) have had no luck at all.

so i wouldnt say his profile is the problem .

i get the feeling some of us single guys on here will never get a meet . "

They probably get out and attend socials or visit clubs though

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

hi sheffield guy,

you are mirroring my thoughts.

i think that the single ladies are looking for (1) brad pitt and (2) pick of big willy. Instead of being open minded and giving a chance to someone who looks half decent and honest

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

"hi jane,

iv added some more text.

It's better but compared to most of the guys on here who contact me it's still woefully short of info, I can't speak for other women on here but I take a lot from the initial profile that I read.

For me it's one of the 'first base' things, from that I take things further and potentially meet guys.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

whats even more annoying is when you do get some correspondence going with a girl and then "delete, delete" of your messages..when you havent even said anything out of the ordinary. i wonder if these are the ones who try to collect pics/numbers then hit delete? (i.e are not genuine)? It is a bit worrying who are behind some of these profiles. I think that the administrator should provide a button that you can press that highlights the fact that the profile you just spend time chatting to has collected your details then done a runner!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hi sheffield guy,

you are mirroring my thoughts.

i think that the single ladies are looking for (1) brad pitt and (2) pick of big willy. Instead of being open minded and giving a chance to someone who looks half decent and honest"

Thats the wrong attitude for a start, no point asking for advice if you've already made your mind up, especially when you haven't even put much effort in to sell yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hi sheffield guy,

you are mirroring my thoughts.

i think that the single ladies are looking for (1) brad pitt and (2) pick of big willy. Instead of being open minded and giving a chance to someone who looks half decent and honest"
as i said early

patience is the key

remember a lot of woman get a lot of mails sent to them theres not enough 2 go around it takes time

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

He's clearly bitter and looking for an arguement....am guessing that was his intent in the first place....it wasn't advice he was looking for but conflict.

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City

"Sorry Sheff but from a womans point view you are wrong.

His profile says to me...lazy...expects lots but gives nothing...

So take it from an active swinging woman on here.....his profile is pants!"

you have viewed my profile , and you must admit its full, clear and detailed ,but i may as well have a one line profile ,as its made no difference what so ever.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"I think the fact your post seems to be longer than your profile might have something to do with it.

Having a full, clear detailed profile dos`nt mean you will get meets on here.

ive seen a lot of male profiles on here with one ,or at most two line profiles ,yet they have had loads of meets ,where as some males with full profiles(myself included ) have had no luck at all.

so i wouldnt say his profile is the problem .

i get the feeling some of us single guys on here will never get a meet . "

Hence the "something" to do with it.

It had 3 or 4 words on it.... that will turn a lot of people off from the start.... you only have to look how many say the profile is the most important thing they want to read. But no it's not the only thing. And even with a detailed profile, let's not forget they will need to read what they want to read for it to have any impact.

I have met guys with just a couple of lines on their profiles... but they sent messages which I liked and what was on there profile didn't get any non-ticks.

Profiles with pics will generally queue jump those without.... if the message and the profile are OK.

It's then about the individual's preferences than general trends.... so the list goes on and on.

On a personal note... I'd stay well away from guys who say they are looking for a real life partner and/or only looking to meet one woman. It may be assuming but I would like to avoid people who may get clingy.

The rest is all about the other runners in the race.

So yes I would agree there are some guys on here who may never get a meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

hi jane,

someone to come into my life would be nice. women are looking for 3-somes which to me (each to their own) but Ive just been told theres not enough to go round!

Im single looking for a lady.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"hi, iv been on here probably on and off for about a year. i have only had 1 meeting. i know i dont have any pics on show (but i do have a private pic - which is a clean pic). yes in reality id like a partner, but happy to have fun with a like minded lady. there just does not seem to be many (or any) genuine people (ladies) on here. can anyone help? Im from hants. just looking for mate/best friend, more ideally. i want to get settled ideally but happy with female company. im a genuine guy"

Being a single male on here too and been on fab for around 18 months have had quite a few meets by being just me.

Honestly though if I was a single female reading this i would avoid a meet with you as you keep saying it's a relationship/partner you are after more than just swinging with them

Just my tuppence worth

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"hi sheffield guy,

you are mirroring my thoughts.

i think that the single ladies are looking for (1) brad pitt and (2) pick of big willy. Instead of being open minded and giving a chance to someone who looks half decent and honest"

Well thanks for telling me and every other woman on here what we are looking for.

BTW - did I say that 'attitude' plays a big part in getting meets

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

"Sorry Sheff but from a womans point view you are wrong.

His profile says to me...lazy...expects lots but gives nothing...

So take it from an active swinging woman on here.....his profile is pants!

you have viewed my profile , and you must admit its full, clear and detailed ,but i may as well have a one line profile ,as its made no difference what so ever.

Actually you have a very good profile Sheff.....trust me you will over time have more success than the other guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe i change my profile to word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hi jane,

someone to come into my life would be nice. women are looking for 3-somes which to me (each to their own) but Ive just been told theres not enough to go round!

Im single looking for a lady. "

See thats where your going wrong, this is a swinging site, it sounds like its a dating site your after

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Directs the OP to leftontheshelf.com

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City

Actually you have a very good profile Sheff.....trust me you will over time have more success than the other guy"

I can point you yo many profiles where in a short space of time single guys with no info on their profile ,no pics have had a lot of meets , so i can see where the OP is coming from .

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Actually you have a very good profile Sheff.....trust me you will over time have more success than the other guy

I can point you yo many profiles where in a short space of time single guys with no info on their profile ,no pics have had a lot of meets , so i can see where the OP is coming from ."

I know a few guys like that also. They are either:

A) Been around on another site for sometime and already knew the people who verified them from the other site.

B) Approach people through the chatrooms and use their webcam. In fact I have seen a few guys have the ladies clambering after them when they could see what they were talking to and could see he didn't chat like a dickhead.

I am sure there are other reasons... but they are the two I know of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually you have a very good profile Sheff.....trust me you will over time have more success than the other guy

I can point you yo many profiles where in a short space of time single guys with no info on their profile ,no pics have had a lot of meets , so i can see where the OP is coming from ."

Something that would put us off on your profile is the references to your success in swinging yet you choose to hide your verifications and your friends list, we never meet people who do that, we think they have something to hide, not everyone will see it that way but some of us do.

The next big thing is that you will only accommodate, most single fems and couples prefer to accommodate themselves and there are enough guys who can travel to them not the other way round so you are limiting your meet chances dramatically.

The most successfull guys on here have been to social events and clubs, it may not say that in thier profiles but if you mail them and ask them I am sure many will confirm this, and why not mail them, I am sure most will see it as a compliment.

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City

I know a few guys like that also. They are either:

A) Been around on another site for sometime and already knew the people who verified them from the other site.

I am sure there are other reasons... but they are the two I know of."

Not everyone wishes to use their webcam in the chatroom , as some of us chhose to be discreet ,as you never know who is on sites like this.

my boss could be on here ,so i never have my cam on in chatroom.

Also , although i use the chatroom on here , i just sit and read what people are talking about ,as ive found through expereince , that unless you are either a couple or a single woman its very difficult to get anyone to speak to you -and ive tried.

i only cam on MSN , which is discreet .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As for the OP, your profile and what you have said makes us think your looking for a relationship more than a swinging meet.

Some of the ladies on here would be happy to get into a relationship but most are here because they like variety and NSA sex.

Those that would consider a relationship would like to meet a guy on a "no strings" basis first, as swingers, with no other agenda, if something then develops I am sure they would be happy but there are far too many stories of "stalkers" to make a lot of them risk meeting someone who is looking first for a relationship.

Someone else commented about trying dating sites and I think they were spot on with thier advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do like to see that the guy has read my profile and trys to fit the tick boxes and then talks in chat room or pm before asking to see pics.

Or in chat room comes on camera and makes conversation about anything but sex, makes me laugh and reads profile not just lookds at pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to chat in the chatroom, so some people will ignore you, thats great it just shows you who to avoid anyway, some people will talk to you and 1000 who are ignorant and 1000 who won't meet you pale into insignificance next to the 2 or 3 who will treat you as a human being and perhaps even meet you.

This next bit is not aimed specifically at you but to anyone who doesn't realise it but ......

You only get out of swining what your willing to put into it, it's hard work for couples and singles alike, you need to put effort into every aspect of it, getting to know people, your profile, your approach to the people you want to meet, your photos and your attitude.

A 6 pack helps

Good looks are no bad thing

PERSONALITY gets you laid

The best advice I can give to everyone is to put yourself in the position of those you want to meet ..... think about what you would look for in thier position, what information you would like, what approach you would like people to make etc.

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City

Thanks for your comments ,which i value. to answer your points .

many people on here dont show their friends list , and i hide it because basically most of the people on my friends list are just people who have sent me a friends invite so they can see my face pics ,then never contacted me again .

As for the travelling situation , well , i have had many conversations already in this forum about my no travel under any circumstances policy , but its a personal choice ,and no different to what lots of couples do .

And concerning hiding my one and only verification , i did explain that to yourselves the other day . my verification is from a single guy who lives very close to me who i was chatting too in the chatroom before christmas ,and we were both bored so decided to meet for a pint and a game of snooker in my local pub, so it has no relevence at all .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing against your no travel policy, we rarely travel but we do understand that we get less meets because of it, what I was saying is that is one of the reasons why you wont get as many meets as someone who will travel.

Its a good thing to trim your friends list now and again, personally we dont even use it, our friends know who we are and we keep track of them with the hotlist, we will add friends to see pictures they want to show us but then we delete them immediately.

Some lists are 1000 strong with 1, 2 or no meets and that puts us off people so a hidden list does as well

just our view but might give you an insight into how some of us think

Personally I would delete that verification, it probably does more harm than good, not having a verification never puts us off people because we know single guys can wait years for a meet but that doesnt mean they are not worth meeting.

What you have to do is read my advice, read everyone elses advice and decide which bits are good for you and which arent

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City

"A 6 pack helps

Good looks are no bad thing

PERSONALITY gets you laid

I can always offer a six pack - my fridge is always stocked well .

Good Looks - sorry ,cant help there

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City

"Ok

Some lists are 1000 strong with 1, 2 or no meets and that puts us off people so a hidden list does as well

just our view but might give you an insight into how some of us think

What you have to do is read my advice, read everyone elses advice and decide which bits are good for you and which arent"

i have already tried to delete that verification ,but dont know how to be honest ,and ive already been thinking about trimming my friends list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Left hand column when your on "MY ACCOUNT" page just scroll down to MANAGE VERIFICATIONS it gives you the option to display the verifcation or remove, I think but cannot be certain that if you opt to remove it takes it off completely if that is not the case just contact the site admin for advice they will probably remove it for you especially if you explain your reasons why.

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City

"Left hand column when your on "MY ACCOUNT" page just scroll down to MANAGE VERIFICATIONS it gives you the option to display the verifcation or remove, I think but cannot be certain that if you opt to remove it takes it off completely if that is not the case just contact the site admin for advice they will probably remove it for you especially if you explain your reasons why."

ive tried ,but cant remove it ,so i will have to contact admin tomorrow . thanks anyway

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over a year ago

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

"hi sheffield guy,

you are mirroring my thoughts.

i think that the single ladies are looking for (1) brad pitt and (2) pick of big willy. Instead of being open minded and giving a chance to someone who looks half decent and honest"

(1) I am a single lady and BP does nothing for me - too much of a pretty boy

(2) seen one then you have seen them all - seen better decorated Christmas trees on their last legs/branches

Please do not tar everyone with the samebrush - there are honest, genuine, open-minded females out there who DO NOT put looks before all else!!!

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

"I think the fact your post seems to be longer than your profile might have something to do with it.

Having a full, clear detailed profile dos`nt mean you will get meets on here.

ive seen a lot of male profiles on here with one ,or at most two line profiles ,yet they have had loads of meets ,where as some males with full profiles(myself included ) have had no luck at all.

so i wouldnt say his profile is the problem .

i get the feeling some of us single guys on here will never get a meet . "

Sheff, I will have you baby x x x x

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City

"hi sheffield guy,

you are mirroring my thoughts.

i think that the single ladies are looking for (1) brad pitt and (2) pick of big willy. Instead of being open minded and giving a chance to someone who looks half decent and honest

(1) I am a single lady and BP does nothing for me - too much of a pretty boy

(2) seen one then you have seen them all - seen better decorated Christmas trees on their last legs/branches

Please do not tar everyone with the samebrush - there are honest, genuine, open-minded females out there who DO NOT put looks before all else!!!"

thats good to hear - i live in hope

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By *onkeydickspartiesMan
over a year ago

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your dead right jane you have to work very hard on your profile just look at mine its a prime example i have put in a lot of very hard work but look i have 68 verifications and i have meets most days too and get 30 messages a day so i must be doing something right its noit all about having a big dick either ric x

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City

Sheff, I will have you baby x x x x

can i have that in writing please .

All genuine offers considered - in fact ANY offers are considered, and accepted .

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City

"your dead right jane you have to work very hard on your profile just look at mine its a prime example i have put in a lot of very hard work but look i have 68 verifications and i have meets most days too and get 30 messages a day so i must be doing something right its noit all about having a big dick either ric x"

Cheers mate - just what i needed . A single male who has that many meets .

I think im going to Quit while im behind after looking at all your meets .

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By *aughty_kittyWoman
over a year ago

finger licking good

Cheers mate - just what i needed . A single male who has that many meets .

I think im going to Quit while im behind after looking at all your meets .

god u sound like a moaning woman

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

Sheff, I will have you baby x x x x

can i have that in writing please .

All genuine offers considered - in fact ANY offers are considered, and accepted ."

Sheff, it IS in writing ya muppet, mwah x x x

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City

god u sound like a moaning woman"

well , when you are up against that ,there really aint much point is there .

I know when im beat

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By *aughty_kittyWoman
over a year ago

finger licking good

god u sound like a moaning woman

well , when you are up against that ,there really aint much point is there .

I know when im beat "

are u trying to get a pity fuck? not sure if many people do pity fucks these days, do u moan while fucking too?

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City

are u trying to get a pity fuck? not sure if many people do pity fucks these days, do u moan while fucking too?

I cant remember - its been that long

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By *aughty_kittyWoman
over a year ago

finger licking good

are u trying to get a pity fuck? not sure if many people do pity fucks these days, do u moan while fucking too?

I cant remember - its been that long

cant see why

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

Confused here as to why you are advising him to have the verification deleted completely by Admin, he doesn't have it shown on his profile and it can stay hidden for the rest of time if he wants.

That's why the option is there to show or hide whatever verifications we all want to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think im going to Quit while im behind after looking at all your meets .

Please do, the sooner the better, so that you do not continue to bore us with your negativity.

Some people will never get a meet, and you springs to mind!

FFS!

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over a year ago

It seems the OP has been forgotten about and just lately every thread regarding lack of meets gets hijacked and turned into the same old woe is me by the same person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what annoys me about people is when they put threads up saying theres no genuine people just because they cant get a meet

As a single woman, who does meet by the way, i wouldnt messgae you because your profiles crap and you have no pics, ok you say you have private ones but if im looking thro profiles for someone to meet im sorry but i am going to message the guy with a pic if it appeals to me, rather than someone without

harsh? maybe but thats life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confused here as to why you are advising him to have the verification deleted completely by Admin, he doesn't have it shown on his profile and it can stay hidden for the rest of time if he wants.

That's why the option is there to show or hide whatever verifications we all want to!

Duh! for the reasons I suggested to him when I suggested he delete it in entirety.

But I will say it again just so you are not confused.

Many people see a hidden verification as worse than no verification at all or worse than cam and phone verifications.

Some people hide verifications because they are from people whose own profiles state that they only play bareback.

Some hide them because they are just cam or phone verifications and they want people to think they are meet verifications.

Some people choose to hide them because they don't want people to know they only have one.

Some people hide them simply because they don't think showing them is necessary.

Some hide them because they are from other males and they don't want to publicise the fact that they are bi-sexual.

In his case he freely admits that the verification came from a male friend who introduced him to the site, but people are going to see that for what it is, a mate verifying a mate, it doesn't really tell a couple or a female what he is really like, if he will be pushy, if he will be able to make conversation with strangers in a meet situation, if he will turn up at all.

He was very honest about that and he accepts the downside of such a verification, he does not want to mislead anyone so admirally tried to delete it but couldn't.

As I also pointed out to him, it is his choice but he asked for advice and I simply told him what I would do if I had such a verification.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to brighten up your profile. There is absolutely nothing there that would make us want to meet you. Your profile is the trigger that makes people decide "yes or no". It's your advert. I'm sure if you were selling your car you would describe the good points, so tell us your good points. Don't worry too much about your looks or body shape, because both are subjective. A decent body pic will be a big plus point. If the profile displayed now, is the "improved" one, then you need to improve it more. Add a few whitty comments, drop the negetive ones.

Also if you are looking for a partner, try a dating site. People do pair up after meeting here, but they are few and far between. Good luck.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I know a few guys like that also. They are either:

A) Been around on another site for sometime and already knew the people who verified them from the other site.

I am sure there are other reasons... but they are the two I know of.

Not everyone wishes to use their webcam in the chatroom , as some of us chhose to be discreet ,as you never know who is on sites like this.

my boss could be on here ,so i never have my cam on in chatroom.

i only cam on MSN , which is discreet .

Whether you have your cam on in chat or not is your choice and a choice you are free to make.... just don't bitch about it when guys who choose to have theirs on get a meet.... you'll sound like 'Kevin' ... "It's so unfair!".

There’s one thing an awful lot of people should remember when they join a swinging site (or swinging club for that matter)…. becoming a member doesn’t come with a ‘free shag guarantee’.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"hi sheffield guy,

you are mirroring my thoughts.

i think that the single ladies are looking for (1) brad pitt and (2) pick of big willy. Instead of being open minded and giving a chance to someone who looks half decent and honest"

For me, I go for men who don't whinge about not getting a meet.

It turns me right off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

pics m8, get pics up. as without them on public vue, u wont even get told to feck off on here ha,,,, true

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Confused here as to why you are advising him to have the verification deleted completely by Admin, he doesn't have it shown on his profile and it can stay hidden for the rest of time if he wants.

That's why the option is there to show or hide whatever verifications we all want to!

Duh! for the reasons I suggested to him when I suggested he delete it in entirety.

But I will say it again just so you are not confused.

Many people see a hidden verification as worse than no verification at all or worse than cam and phone verifications.

Some people hide verifications because they are from people whose own profiles state that they only play bareback.

Some hide them because they are just cam or phone verifications and they want people to think they are meet verifications.

Some people choose to hide them because they don't want people to know they only have one.

Some people hide them simply because they don't think showing them is necessary.

Some hide them because they are from other males and they don't want to publicise the fact that they are bi-sexual.

He was very honest about that and he accepts the downside of such a verification, he does not want to mislead anyone so admirally tried to delete it but couldn't.

As I also pointed out to him, it is his choice but he asked for advice and I simply told him what I would do if I had such a verification."

There is another reason you may have forgotten.

Some people don't show their verifications or friends lists because they like to use discretion as to who they choose as friends or who they meet.

We choose this option, BUT we accept that people have a choice of what they do.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"pics m8, get pics up. as without them on public vue, u wont even get told to feck off on here ha,,,, true

Feck off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i like the ugly ones they put more effort in and can usually laugh the knickers off me!!

and big willys are worth fuck all if they attached to a prat!!

u get out what u put in pretty simple!!

moanin doesnt help it puts people off !

there are loads of genuine females out there and just cause they dont immediately run to meet u its because they have respect for themselfs and know what they want!!

wee bit patience never goes wrong!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ye feck off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i like the ugly ones they put more effort in and can usually laugh the knickers off me!!

Please please please fax me a photocopy of that joke book !!!!