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where do people find these spur of the moment meets?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We've been on the site 4 a while now and are yet 2 meet a single male female or couple off here had a few nibbles but absolutely no bites! We see on peoples profiles on there verifications all the time "met these on a spur of the moment" we've tried and failed so many times all our meets have been at the club. But we would like 2 meet a like minded couple local who would enjoy a quiet drink that leads 2 more NSA, are we doing something wrong!? Is it because were young?

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By *eisenberg2Man
over a year ago

Rochester

Probably your timing just a bit wrong ... As a single guy, most my meets were spur of the moment ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With us its just been luck... it just so happened when couples emailed us at short notice we were free, we do prefer short notice meets though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've been on the site 4 a while now and are yet 2 meet a single male female or couple off here had a few nibbles but absolutely no bites! We see on peoples profiles on there verifications all the time "met these on a spur of the moment" we've tried and failed so many times all our meets have been at the club. But we would like 2 meet a like minded couple local who would enjoy a quiet drink that leads 2 more NSA, are we doing something wrong!? Is it because were young? "

Your age might be a barrier for some, but certainly not for all.

Are you only trying to arrange 'spur of the moment' meets?

I can only speak from personal experience, but all of my meets have developed out of chatting and meeting socially first, and from what I gather, that tends to be the way that the majority of people on here prefer to do things.

Maybe lighten your profile up a bit (I know things can get a bit frustrating, but the shouty caps lock stuff is quite off-putting), and add a little more detail about what you guys are looking for, what you can offer, and what you're looking for in a potential meet.

Other than that, all I could recommend really is patience and perseverance. There are plenty of genuine people on here who would be willing to meet you, I'm sure, if people have been happy to play with you at clubs already. I know I would! x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The fact that there literally seems 2 be no1 in our local area in the lifestyle proberly doesn't help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The fact that there literally seems 2 be no1 in our local area in the lifestyle proberly doesn't help "

Where abouts in Brum are you based (if you don't mind me asking in the public forum)?

'Cause trust me, there are plenty of us! x

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

It's just luck really. A lot aren't really spur of the moment. They have been chatting and keeping options open.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"The fact that there literally seems 2 be no1 in our local area in the lifestyle proberly doesn't help "

If reading the forums is any indication, Birmingham is the most active section of the UK for swinging.

Successful meets take perseverance. You're not doing too badly already so just keep trying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of our previous meets on here were 'spur of the moment'.

We've found most of the 'get to know you'/'couple of socials' people tends to be lots or chat but nothing more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well I dunno how u normally conduct ur meets, noticing ur using the camrooms moreso lately???- I actually find the more people sit in cam rooms, the less they actually go and meet.

Can honestly say, ive in the recent 2/3years not had a meet that came from needing to cam

and if ur seeking not single males..its really helpful if u both have pics on ur profile...save time and energy for urselves and other parties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never had an issue living in bham for meets

planned or spontaneous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find spur of the moment meets are fine with single guys, as it only really has to be me (Lynne) who'd happy with him.

When and if we meet couples though, we always have a social meet first as the dynamics are so different, all four of you has to be happy with one another. If that doesn't happen it's not so embarrassing on a social, but if it was a spur of the moment play meet, it could be a bit awkward. That's obviously just our way of thinking though, you may feel totally different about it.

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