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"Anyone got any advice on where I am going wrong or what I need to change?" Your profile pic has a urinal next to you which I don't find sexy. You have a great body so maybe more pics of that. | |||
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"ive been trying for a while now to get my first verification but i cant seem to get that. " I see you are based in Huddersfield so you could go to the Empire Cinema and get a verification or two. | |||
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"I don’t know what am doing wrong but no one ever hardly replies or only will if you have been verified.ive been trying for a while now to get my first verification but i cant seem to get that. Anyone got any advice on where I am going wrong or what I need to change?" Some people don’t like tunnels or caving so you’re after quite a niche market. | |||
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"I thought by descent fun it means he likes going down on meets" oh, I thought it was a tunnel fetish - a hole, or cave or cavern. | |||
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"I don’t know what am doing wrong but no one ever hardly replies or only will if you have been verified.ive been trying for a while now to get my first verification but i cant seem to get that. Anyone got any advice on where I am going wrong or what I need to change?" Do you really want honest advice? Ok so firstly, the emoji covering the face is a bit cringe. The low effort, bland ‘about me’ bit of your profile will not appeal to anyone. What you have written: ‘ Fun, open-minded and easy-going. Here for good vibes and wanting to meet like minded people’ describes 99% of people on here so it says nothing about you that would stand out. Your photos aren’t great - the pic of you with another woman will put some women off and just isn’t necessary. Just start over. | |||
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"Personally I find sex pics with others on a single guys profile Sus I don't know if she has consented to that photo being on there" Exactly this! | |||
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"Personally I find sex pics with others on a single guys profile Sus I don't know if she has consented to that photo being on there Exactly this! " We echo this. It's an instant delete for us. We want to see the person the profile belongs to, not some random who may, or may not have consented to being on display. | |||
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"Personally I find sex pics with others on a single guys profile Sus I don't know if she has consented to that photo being on there" Agreed. I also feel the same about couples showing others though. The only people on your account should be yourselves. Mrs. | |||
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"Personally I find sex pics with others on a single guys profile Sus I don't know if she has consented to that photo being on there Agreed. I also feel the same about couples showing others though. The only people on your account should be yourselves. Mrs. " Completely agree with both of these statements! Your profile is your shop window, go and look at it as if you were the person your messaging, based on the few words you have written would you honestly be interested? | |||
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"I don’t know what am doing wrong but no one ever hardly replies or only will if you have been verified.ive been trying for a while now to get my first verification but i cant seem to get that. Anyone got any advice on where I am going wrong or what I need to change?" Writing a decent profile is a good start. And having a urinal in your photo isn't a good look | |||
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"I don’t know what am doing wrong but no one ever hardly replies or only will if you have been verified.ive been trying for a while now to get my first verification but i cant seem to get that. Anyone got any advice on where I am going wrong or what I need to change? Writing a decent profile is a good start. And having a urinal in your photo isn't a good look " Piss poor, in fact. | |||
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"I don’t know what am doing wrong but no one ever hardly replies or only will if you have been verified.ive been trying for a while now to get my first verification but i cant seem to get that. Anyone got any advice on where I am going wrong or what I need to change?" Hey Marley! I was once in the same boat. I get a lot of replies now. I’d say over 50%. Basically, a few things that I’ll say: Your pics are poor: completely get rid of any overtly sexual pics - that doesn’t work. Use a quality pic that you’d use for the likes of Tinder. Your profile text is poor: imagine you’re an advertisement in a newspaper. You’re with 50 others. What are you going to write? “Car for sale, 10 years old. Runs.” No, you’re not going to write that. You’re going to try to appeal. You’re going to say what’s special about it. The profile text is a hook. Messages: do not send shit messages. Imagine this; “Wow, pretty babe, u good?”. Bitches are getting hundreds of these a day. It’s worthless to them. Carefully select your target, gather intel from her profile, then try to say something that’s unavoidable. The first few lines have got to hit hard. Something that the babe cannot ignore. For example “IKEA hotdogs! Yeah, so our new Ikea opened up and….. blah blah blah, what did you buy from there last?”. Or “Women and their prams, some woman ran over my foot, and blah blah blah, what injury did you get last”. You get the idea. You’ve really got to capture her poor little female mind! 
Anyway, then, DO NOT, DO NOT, DO NOT chase. Let her breathe. Let her do the talking, don’t pester. Don’t be too interested. Ignore her a bit, treat her like your sister, you know?
About targets, don’t waste your time messaging attention-seekers. If she’s got something like “Alone tonight” as her status, move on. Select your targets well.
Then if she’s ignores after 24hrs, block and move on. That way, you keep your pride in tact, you won’t bother her again, and she loses out.
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"I don’t know what am doing wrong but no one ever hardly replies or only will if you have been verified.ive been trying for a while now to get my first verification but i cant seem to get that. Anyone got any advice on where I am going wrong or what I need to change? Hey Marley! I was once in the same boat. I get a lot of replies now. I’d say over 50%. Basically, a few things that I’ll say: Your pics are poor: completely get rid of any overtly sexual pics - that doesn’t work. Use a quality pic that you’d use for the likes of Tinder. Your profile text is poor: imagine you’re an advertisement in a newspaper. You’re with 50 others. What are you going to write? “Car for sale, 10 years old. Runs.” No, you’re not going to write that. You’re going to try to appeal. You’re going to say what’s special about it. The profile text is a hook. Messages: do not send shit messages. Imagine this; “Wow, pretty babe, u good?”. Bitches are getting hundreds of these a day. It’s worthless to them. Carefully select your target, gather intel from her profile, then try to say something that’s unavoidable. The first few lines have got to hit hard. Something that the babe cannot ignore. For example “IKEA hotdogs! Yeah, so our new Ikea opened up and….. blah blah blah, what did you buy from there last?”. Or “Women and their prams, some woman ran over my foot, and blah blah blah, what injury did you get last”. You get the idea. You’ve really got to capture her poor little female mind!
Anyway, then, DO NOT, DO NOT, DO NOT chase. Let her breathe. Let her do the talking, don’t pester. Don’t be too interested. Ignore her a bit, treat her like your sister, you know?
About targets, don’t waste your time messaging attention-seekers. If she’s got something like “Alone tonight” as her status, move on. Select your targets well.
Then if she’s ignores after 24hrs, block and move on. That way, you keep your pride in tact, you won’t bother her again, and she loses out.
Good look sir. ""Her poor little female mind"?! Why not say what you really think of women! But thats obvious from your nonsensical message suggestions. IKEA hotdogs? Prams? Wtf?! | |||
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"I don’t know what am doing wrong but no one ever hardly replies or only will if you have been verified.ive been trying for a while now to get my first verification but i cant seem to get that. Anyone got any advice on where I am going wrong or what I need to change? Hey Marley! I was once in the same boat. I get a lot of replies now. I’d say over 50%. Basically, a few things that I’ll say: Your pics are poor: completely get rid of any overtly sexual pics - that doesn’t work. Use a quality pic that you’d use for the likes of Tinder. Your profile text is poor: imagine you’re an advertisement in a newspaper. You’re with 50 others. What are you going to write? “Car for sale, 10 years old. Runs.” No, you’re not going to write that. You’re going to try to appeal. You’re going to say what’s special about it. The profile text is a hook. Messages: do not send shit messages. Imagine this; “Wow, pretty babe, u good?”. Bitches are getting hundreds of these a day. It’s worthless to them. Carefully select your target, gather intel from her profile, then try to say something that’s unavoidable. The first few lines have got to hit hard. Something that the babe cannot ignore. For example “IKEA hotdogs! Yeah, so our new Ikea opened up and….. blah blah blah, what did you buy from there last?”. Or “Women and their prams, some woman ran over my foot, and blah blah blah, what injury did you get last”. You get the idea. You’ve really got to capture her poor little female mind!
Anyway, then, DO NOT, DO NOT, DO NOT chase. Let her breathe. Let her do the talking, don’t pester. Don’t be too interested. Ignore her a bit, treat her like your sister, you know?
About targets, don’t waste your time messaging attention-seekers. If she’s got something like “Alone tonight” as her status, move on. Select your targets well.
Then if she’s ignores after 24hrs, block and move on. That way, you keep your pride in tact, you won’t bother her again, and she loses out.
Good look sir.
"Her poor little female mind"?! Why not say what you really think of women! But thats obvious from your nonsensical message suggestions. IKEA hotdogs? Prams? Wtf?!
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"I don’t know what am doing wrong but no one ever hardly replies or only will if you have been verified.ive been trying for a while now to get my first verification but i cant seem to get that. Anyone got any advice on where I am going wrong or what I need to change? Hey Marley! I was once in the same boat. I get a lot of replies now. I’d say over 50%. Basically, a few things that I’ll say: Your pics are poor: completely get rid of any overtly sexual pics - that doesn’t work. Use a quality pic that you’d use for the likes of Tinder. Your profile text is poor: imagine you’re an advertisement in a newspaper. You’re with 50 others. What are you going to write? “Car for sale, 10 years old. Runs.” No, you’re not going to write that. You’re going to try to appeal. You’re going to say what’s special about it. The profile text is a hook. Messages: do not send shit messages. Imagine this; “Wow, pretty babe, u good?”. Bitches are getting hundreds of these a day. It’s worthless to them. Carefully select your target, gather intel from her profile, then try to say something that’s unavoidable. The first few lines have got to hit hard. Something that the babe cannot ignore. For example “IKEA hotdogs! Yeah, so our new Ikea opened up and….. blah blah blah, what did you buy from there last?”. Or “Women and their prams, some woman ran over my foot, and blah blah blah, what injury did you get last”. You get the idea. You’ve really got to capture her poor little female mind!
Anyway, then, DO NOT, DO NOT, DO NOT chase. Let her breathe. Let her do the talking, don’t pester. Don’t be too interested. Ignore her a bit, treat her like your sister, you know?
About targets, don’t waste your time messaging attention-seekers. If she’s got something like “Alone tonight” as her status, move on. Select your targets well.
Then if she’s ignores after 24hrs, block and move on. That way, you keep your pride in tact, you won’t bother her again, and she loses out.
Good look sir.
"Her poor little female mind"?! Why not say what you really think of women! But thats obvious from your nonsensical message suggestions. IKEA hotdogs? Prams? Wtf?!
Not to mention the "bitches" and "babes." What a charmer?!"I know right!! Gross. Not exactly the right person to be giving out advice. And as for those chat up lines, nope! These are as bad as the shoebox one he suggested in another thread. | |||
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"I don’t know what am doing wrong but no one ever hardly replies or only will if you have been verified.ive been trying for a while now to get my first verification but i cant seem to get that. Anyone got any advice on where I am going wrong or what I need to change? Hey Marley! I was once in the same boat. I get a lot of replies now. I’d say over 50%. Basically, a few things that I’ll say: Your pics are poor: completely get rid of any overtly sexual pics - that doesn’t work. Use a quality pic that you’d use for the likes of Tinder. Your profile text is poor: imagine you’re an advertisement in a newspaper. You’re with 50 others. What are you going to write? “Car for sale, 10 years old. Runs.” No, you’re not going to write that. You’re going to try to appeal. You’re going to say what’s special about it. The profile text is a hook. Messages: do not send shit messages. Imagine this; “Wow, pretty babe, u good?”. Bitches are getting hundreds of these a day. It’s worthless to them. Carefully select your target, gather intel from her profile, then try to say something that’s unavoidable. The first few lines have got to hit hard. Something that the babe cannot ignore. For example “IKEA hotdogs! Yeah, so our new Ikea opened up and….. blah blah blah, what did you buy from there last?”. Or “Women and their prams, some woman ran over my foot, and blah blah blah, what injury did you get last”. You get the idea. You’ve really got to capture her poor little female mind!
Anyway, then, DO NOT, DO NOT, DO NOT chase. Let her breathe. Let her do the talking, don’t pester. Don’t be too interested. Ignore her a bit, treat her like your sister, you know?
About targets, don’t waste your time messaging attention-seekers. If she’s got something like “Alone tonight” as her status, move on. Select your targets well.
Then if she’s ignores after 24hrs, block and move on. That way, you keep your pride in tact, you won’t bother her again, and she loses out.
Good look sir.
"Her poor little female mind"?! Why not say what you really think of women! But thats obvious from your nonsensical message suggestions. IKEA hotdogs? Prams? Wtf?!
Not to mention the "bitches" and "babes." What a charmer?!
I know right!! Gross. Not exactly the right person to be giving out advice. And as for those chat up lines, nope! These are as bad as the shoebox one he suggested in another thread. "Oh dear me! Girls girls girls - this stuff is basic marketing. How do you think companies sell shampoos, etc? There are hundreds of shampoos on the market, so how will they make you buy theirs? They make them stand out by being different. They don’t show a bottle of shampoo and say “buy this”. They work hard to sell it. They really push it to retailers. They tell retailers that it’s the next new fad. They make things jump out at you! They show a female wash hair with shampoo, and then a hot guy coming up to her! They make you think your family will be happy, they make you think you’re doing your best for your kids, and so on. They will use any dirty tactic to grab your attention. Colours, discounts, emotions, loyalties, posters, anything!! Anything to stand out! This is how it works, and fab honesty isn’t much different. You realise that majority of guys on fab get ZERO messages a day? Messaging and profiles form the very gateway to success for men on here. Let me tell you with certainty that what I’ve said works, just as it does in the retail world. PS. I learnt all of this from a woman. | |||
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"I don’t know what am doing wrong but no one ever hardly replies or only will if you have been verified.ive been trying for a while now to get my first verification but i cant seem to get that. Anyone got any advice on where I am going wrong or what I need to change? Hey Marley! I was once in the same boat. I get a lot of replies now. I’d say over 50%. Basically, a few things that I’ll say: Your pics are poor: completely get rid of any overtly sexual pics - that doesn’t work. Use a quality pic that you’d use for the likes of Tinder. Your profile text is poor: imagine you’re an advertisement in a newspaper. You’re with 50 others. What are you going to write? “Car for sale, 10 years old. Runs.” No, you’re not going to write that. You’re going to try to appeal. You’re going to say what’s special about it. The profile text is a hook. Messages: do not send shit messages. Imagine this; “Wow, pretty babe, u good?”. Bitches are getting hundreds of these a day. It’s worthless to them. Carefully select your target, gather intel from her profile, then try to say something that’s unavoidable. The first few lines have got to hit hard. Something that the babe cannot ignore. For example “IKEA hotdogs! Yeah, so our new Ikea opened up and….. blah blah blah, what did you buy from there last?”. Or “Women and their prams, some woman ran over my foot, and blah blah blah, what injury did you get last”. You get the idea. You’ve really got to capture her poor little female mind!
Anyway, then, DO NOT, DO NOT, DO NOT chase. Let her breathe. Let her do the talking, don’t pester. Don’t be too interested. Ignore her a bit, treat her like your sister, you know?
About targets, don’t waste your time messaging attention-seekers. If she’s got something like “Alone tonight” as her status, move on. Select your targets well.
Then if she’s ignores after 24hrs, block and move on. That way, you keep your pride in tact, you won’t bother her again, and she loses out.
Good look sir.
"Her poor little female mind"?! Why not say what you really think of women! But thats obvious from your nonsensical message suggestions. IKEA hotdogs? Prams? Wtf?!
Not to mention the "bitches" and "babes." What a charmer?!
I know right!! Gross. Not exactly the right person to be giving out advice. And as for those chat up lines, nope! These are as bad as the shoebox one he suggested in another thread.
Oh dear me! Girls girls girls - this stuff is basic marketing.
How do you think companies sell shampoos, etc? There are hundreds of shampoos on the market, so how will they make you buy theirs? They make them stand out by being different.
They don’t show a bottle of shampoo and say “buy this”. They work hard to sell it. They really push it to retailers. They tell retailers that it’s the next new fad. They make things jump out at you! They show a female wash hair with shampoo, and then a hot guy coming up to her! They make you think your family will be happy, they make you think you’re doing your best for your kids, and so on. They will use any dirty tactic to grab your attention. Colours, discounts, emotions, loyalties, posters, anything!! Anything to stand out!
This is how it works, and fab honesty isn’t much different. You realise that majority of guys on fab get ZERO messages a day?
Messaging and profiles form the very gateway to success for men on here. Let me tell you with certainty that what I’ve said works, just as it does in the retail world.
PS. I learnt all of this from a woman.
"Are you really trying to mainsplain to a load of women how to appeal to a woman? This is you marketing yourself? Because personally I'm absolutely repulsed and disgusted by you and your profile and your complete lack of verifications would tend to support that. | |||
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"I don’t know what am doing wrong but no one ever hardly replies or only will if you have been verified.ive been trying for a while now to get my first verification but i cant seem to get that. Anyone got any advice on where I am going wrong or what I need to change? Hey Marley! I was once in the same boat. I get a lot of replies now. I’d say over 50%. Basically, a few things that I’ll say: Your pics are poor: completely get rid of any overtly sexual pics - that doesn’t work. Use a quality pic that you’d use for the likes of Tinder. Your profile text is poor: imagine you’re an advertisement in a newspaper. You’re with 50 others. What are you going to write? “Car for sale, 10 years old. Runs.” No, you’re not going to write that. You’re going to try to appeal. You’re going to say what’s special about it. The profile text is a hook. Messages: do not send shit messages. Imagine this; “Wow, pretty babe, u good?”. Bitches are getting hundreds of these a day. It’s worthless to them. Carefully select your target, gather intel from her profile, then try to say something that’s unavoidable. The first few lines have got to hit hard. Something that the babe cannot ignore. For example “IKEA hotdogs! Yeah, so our new Ikea opened up and….. blah blah blah, what did you buy from there last?”. Or “Women and their prams, some woman ran over my foot, and blah blah blah, what injury did you get last”. You get the idea. You’ve really got to capture her poor little female mind!
Anyway, then, DO NOT, DO NOT, DO NOT chase. Let her breathe. Let her do the talking, don’t pester. Don’t be too interested. Ignore her a bit, treat her like your sister, you know?
About targets, don’t waste your time messaging attention-seekers. If she’s got something like “Alone tonight” as her status, move on. Select your targets well.
Then if she’s ignores after 24hrs, block and move on. That way, you keep your pride in tact, you won’t bother her again, and she loses out.
Good look sir.
"Her poor little female mind"?! Why not say what you really think of women! But thats obvious from your nonsensical message suggestions. IKEA hotdogs? Prams? Wtf?!
Not to mention the "bitches" and "babes." What a charmer?!
I know right!! Gross. Not exactly the right person to be giving out advice. And as for those chat up lines, nope! These are as bad as the shoebox one he suggested in another thread.
Oh dear me! Girls girls girls - this stuff is basic marketing.
How do you think companies sell shampoos, etc? There are hundreds of shampoos on the market, so how will they make you buy theirs? They make them stand out by being different.
They don’t show a bottle of shampoo and say “buy this”. They work hard to sell it. They really push it to retailers. They tell retailers that it’s the next new fad. They make things jump out at you! They show a female wash hair with shampoo, and then a hot guy coming up to her! They make you think your family will be happy, they make you think you’re doing your best for your kids, and so on. They will use any dirty tactic to grab your attention. Colours, discounts, emotions, loyalties, posters, anything!! Anything to stand out!
This is how it works, and fab honesty isn’t much different. You realise that majority of guys on fab get ZERO messages a day?
Messaging and profiles form the very gateway to success for men on here. Let me tell you with certainty that what I’ve said works, just as it does in the retail world.
PS. I learnt all of this from a woman.
Are you really trying to mainsplain to a load of women how to appeal to a woman? This is you marketing yourself? Because personally I'm absolutely repulsed and disgusted by you and your profile and your complete lack of verifications would tend to support that."I hate to say it, but in this case; yes I am mansplaining! If you take a look at the comments above, you can probably see why. Instead of looking for negativity in comments, why don’t you use your superior knowledge to HELP him out? How about that? Suggest a better approach than mine! I dare you! Even I’m open to new ideas. How do you think I learned all this stuff to start with? Don’t worry about me, my profile, and your personal views - I’m entirely irrelevant. I’m repulsed by Reese’s pieces, but who cares? There are a million people who like them, and sales and marketing still continue! The bottom line, as I’ve been emphasising is that on here, guys need to stand out. I’ve told the guy how to do that. The proof is in the pudding. Xx | |||
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"I don’t know what am doing wrong but no one ever hardly replies or only will if you have been verified.ive been trying for a while now to get my first verification but i cant seem to get that. Anyone got any advice on where I am going wrong or what I need to change?" I would have thought "being on top of your hygiene" was a given. Bit of a sad indictment of society if hygiene is an optional extra. To be fair only met a couple of guys over the years who, for some unknown reason, didn't seem to understand the concept of soap, deodorant and toothpaste. Oral hygiene is another big one for us. Takes seconds to notice poor dental care, long before the odour hits...yuk. | |||
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