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By *sLillyMrWolfe OP   Couple
3 weeks ago

near you...

Does anyone have experience with this? What are the best rules or setup for something like this?

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By *ast_jjMan
3 weeks ago

Dublin

It's a very difficult one to gwt right in my opinion.

It works best with someone you meet regularly and trust to visit you in your home. And someone who can stay a while to fully engage in it.

Have you got a scenario in your heads that you think might work?

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago


"Does anyone have experience with this? What are the best rules or setup for something like this?"

It’s very hard to do safely! Without allot of

Risks! You can reduce the risks by using tested groups

Who you can meet regularly rather than anyone who could have anything? We’re setting up a wank group for stuff like this? Tested more than randoms? Dm if interested x

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By *sLillyMrWolfe OP   Couple
3 weeks ago

near you...

We do have a few guys we meet regularly, one of which has suggested this.

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By *pandjMan
3 weeks ago

sparkford

Always thought it was mostly when you were with a sexual partner there would be times where they could use and whenever they wanted? Such times could be agreed upon there and then or you could indicate this time by wearing something.

In a group situation then the group need to know your limits and when you're available to be used?

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By *ast_jjMan
3 weeks ago

Dublin


"We do have a few guys we meet regularly, one of which has suggested this."
It can be fantastic if all partners are comfortable and understand what everyone is comfortable with.

I'm sure he has described what he thinks it might look like? If he hasn't then definitely ask loads of questions of him, to get a clear understanding of what he thinks it might look like.

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By *WB85Man
3 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Is this basically doing whatever he wishes? I'm not sure of the terminology.

It just feels like a lact of respect in my opinion....maybe he needs to realise how lucky he is to be meeting someone in the first place and stick within your boundaries.

Ultimately, its whatever the three of you are comfortable with.

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By *ooking for the dreamWoman
3 weeks ago

Aughton

May not be a lack of respect, some people enjoy it

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By *olo_89Couple
3 weeks ago

Kettering

I would ask them to explain how they think it would work/their idea of it. We have this in place for just us but that is more the kink side of our relationship and not in place when we are meeting others or in a swinging environment. It could potentially cause some issues depending on what they perceive it and how that would work in your existing relationship/dynamic x

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By *avid BlackhardtMan
3 weeks ago

Walsall


"Does anyone have experience with this? What are the best rules or setup for something like this?"

Are you talking about no limits, or free for use as it sex with anyone or multiple people?

In a group scenario you just have to ensure everyone is on the same page, as people have very different ideas of what people's limits are.

Just make sure you do it in a somewhat safe environment.

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By *eediousMan
3 weeks ago

Smallville


"Does anyone have experience with this? What are the best rules or setup for something like this?

It’s very hard to do safely! Without allot of

Risks! You can reduce the risks by using tested groups

Who you can meet regularly rather than anyone who could have anything? We’re setting up a wank group for stuff like this? Tested more than randoms? Dm if interested x"

A wank group

Now I have heard it all.

What the group going to be called - Wankers Union?

How will the leader of the group be picked - the person who set it up or the one with the biggest cock?

What’s the head of the group going to be called - Wankmaster General, DS Wankington?

Sorry this is just too funny!

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By *sLillyMrWolfe OP   Couple
3 weeks ago

near you...

This is going to be with one guy and within agreed boundaries. I just wondered if there was anything I needed to know x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Central

Give explicit consent to exact actions only, rather than a blanket yes. This way, you have discussed what is wanted and consented to. It can still be withdrawn at any point, just as you can add other things, by discussing and consenting to them. If you don't know people very well, it is preferable to have each activity to be explicitly discussed and consented to. Also discuss how you might stop activity

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By *ineapple_turnoverCouple
3 weeks ago

London

Like a lot of similar things you need a safe word which stops the free use at any time

Takes a lot of trust, and you can still set boundaries

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3 weeks ago

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By *sLillyMrWolfe OP   Couple
3 weeks ago

near you...

We've got experience in bdsm style play (safe words, boundaries etc) - this feels different though

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By *ast_jjMan
3 weeks ago

Dublin


"We've got experience in bdsm style play (safe words, boundaries etc) - this feels different though "
It is different. It should be more free flowing and include you stopping normal activities to allow him have his way with you and then simply returning back to whatever it was you were doing!

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By *exyPlayTimeWoman
3 weeks ago

Bournemouth


"We've got experience in bdsm style play (safe words, boundaries etc) - this feels different though It is different. It should be more free flowing and include you stopping normal activities to allow him have his way with you and then simply returning back to whatever it was you were doing! "

That sounds horrendous.

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By *uckCpl26Couple
3 weeks ago

London


"Does anyone have experience with this? What are the best rules or setup for something like this?"

Consent at all times, clear and well set boundaries. It varies from scenario to scenario etc

The times we've practiced it with our regular (note how I say regular, so there is already some well established "relationship") it has been amazing for all of us!

I do love to be of free use ❤️

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By *tlanshiaWoman
3 weeks ago

Medway

Lots of clothes on, sat down communication first.

Is your person responsible because being free use to someone means you need to trust that someone to put your needs first sometimes?

Are you sick? Overwhelmed? Major trauma. You need someone who will think with their brain in those situations.

In my experience free use is amazing but you need to trust that person to know what you need, even when you don’t know you need it yourself.

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By *aandLoCouple
3 weeks ago

Southampton


"We've got experience in bdsm style play (safe words, boundaries etc) - this feels different though It is different. It should be more free flowing and include you stopping normal activities to allow him have his way with you and then simply returning back to whatever it was you were doing!

That sounds horrendous."

I wouldn't say horrendous but I just can't grasp how people have the time and flexibility. Some bloke turning up on my doorstep uninvited for sex there and then?!. And I work in a secure environment so that's a none starter also.

Family, friends, work and running my home are all more important than sex. If he called to check I'm free then fine, but that's not free use really is it? 🤷

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By *aisyMayStarWoman
3 weeks ago

Brighton


"We've got experience in bdsm style play (safe words, boundaries etc) - this feels different though It is different. It should be more free flowing and include you stopping normal activities to allow him have his way with you and then simply returning back to whatever it was you were doing!

That sounds horrendous.

I wouldn't say horrendous but I just can't grasp how people have the time and flexibility. Some bloke turning up on my doorstep uninvited for sex there and then?!. And I work in a secure environment so that's a none starter also.

Family, friends, work and running my home are all more important than sex. If he called to check I'm free then fine, but that's not free use really is it? 🤷"

It’s not permanent. You can allocate a time and place.

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By *aisyMayStarWoman
3 weeks ago

Brighton


"We've got experience in bdsm style play (safe words, boundaries etc) - this feels different though It is different. It should be more free flowing and include you stopping normal activities to allow him have his way with you and then simply returning back to whatever it was you were doing!

That sounds horrendous."

Not to everyone

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By *ast_jjMan
3 weeks ago

Dublin


"We've got experience in bdsm style play (safe words, boundaries etc) - this feels different though It is different. It should be more free flowing and include you stopping normal activities to allow him have his way with you and then simply returning back to whatever it was you were doing!

That sounds horrendous.

I wouldn't say horrendous but I just can't grasp how people have the time and flexibility. Some bloke turning up on my doorstep uninvited for sex there and then?!. And I work in a secure environment so that's a none starter also.

Family, friends, work and running my home are all more important than sex. If he called to check I'm free then fine, but that's not free use really is it? 🤷"
It doesn't have to be like that. It can for periods where everyone has time and are relaxed. A day and night over a weekend where everyone is relaxed and has time to play that way. It could be over the course of an evening either.

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By *ighjinxMan
3 weeks ago

banbury

I'm really surprised at how judgmental some of you are being to this, though I'm not often in the forums so maybe I'm just naive...

I assumed people were pretty open minded and able to accept that what someone else likes to do, they might not.

Live and learn I guess

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By *uckCpl26Couple
3 weeks ago

London


"We've got experience in bdsm style play (safe words, boundaries etc) - this feels different though It is different. It should be more free flowing and include you stopping normal activities to allow him have his way with you and then simply returning back to whatever it was you were doing!

That sounds horrendous.

Not to everyone "

Certainly is not horrendous for us we enjoy it a lot..

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By *ast_jjMan
3 weeks ago

Dublin


"We've got experience in bdsm style play (safe words, boundaries etc) - this feels different though It is different. It should be more free flowing and include you stopping normal activities to allow him have his way with you and then simply returning back to whatever it was you were doing!

That sounds horrendous.

Not to everyone

Certainly is not horrendous for us we enjoy it a lot.. "
Would love to hear about your free use experiences. PM if you fancy chatting.

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By *r DiverseMan
3 weeks ago

Home


"Does anyone have experience with this? What are the best rules or setup for something like this?

It’s very hard to do safely! Without allot of

Risks! You can reduce the risks by using tested groups

Who you can meet regularly rather than anyone who could have anything? We’re setting up a wank group for stuff like this? Tested more than randoms? Dm if interested x

A wank group

Now I have heard it all.

What the group going to be called - Wankers Union?

How will the leader of the group be picked - the person who set it up or the one with the biggest cock?

What’s the head of the group going to be called - Wankmaster General, DS Wankington?

Sorry this is just too funny! "

Head of the group? 😂 think it’s just wanking for them

Thank god you chose your words carefully saying you “heard it all” rather than “seen it all” 😂😂😂

Think I am laughing at it as much as you, they are meeting for wanking Wednesdays

😳

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By *ante72Man
3 weeks ago

Suffolk

It's like any kink. You negotiate beforehand and set any boundaries etc and check in when necessary. Had free use in my Domme and sub relationships for years.

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By *oupleInSyncCouple
3 weeks ago

Falkirk


"Does anyone have experience with this? What are the best rules or setup for something like this?"

Missy and I sometimes indulge this dynamic when we are spending time together. The biggest thing is to talk about it explicitly beforehand. Although you are consenting to "free use" there will still be boundaries and limits (I would guess). Just make sure all taking part know what they are and definitely use some sort of safe word or traffic light system to ensure your safety.

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By *aandLoCouple
3 weeks ago

Southampton


"We've got experience in bdsm style play (safe words, boundaries etc) - this feels different though It is different. It should be more free flowing and include you stopping normal activities to allow him have his way with you and then simply returning back to whatever it was you were doing!

That sounds horrendous.

I wouldn't say horrendous but I just can't grasp how people have the time and flexibility. Some bloke turning up on my doorstep uninvited for sex there and then?!. And I work in a secure environment so that's a none starter also.

Family, friends, work and running my home are all more important than sex. If he called to check I'm free then fine, but that's not free use really is it? 🤷It doesn't have to be like that. It can for periods where everyone has time and are relaxed. A day and night over a weekend where everyone is relaxed and has time to play that way. It could be over the course of an evening either. "

Aah, that sounds a much more enjoyable idea.

A weekend of uninhibited sex with a trusted friend. Our friend and hubbie could tag team it so I could have free use too! I think we'd all like that. 😻

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