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By *inkAndNudge OP   Couple
4 weeks ago

Blackpool

This has probably been done to death but...I will take the heat.

Me and the other half are new to all this, to cut a long story short. We have been together a long time, (before we was 20) and i discovered recently she's had a fair few lesbian experiences prior haha

Since then we have chatted and we want to bring another woman into the ole sexy time...this surprisingly was her idea and she wants to do it on the basis I'm involved or there, I've told her I'm happy to be a spectator and cheer her on haha or take part (it is her kink).

We have no interest in another guy been involved and clubs are also a no go due to her been relatively shy, and not wanting people to know (I'm lucky she agreed to fab).

She admittedly isn't as open as me, but how do you approach another woman who appeals to both of you!! I appreciate what we are looking for is neigh on impossible (unicorn joke - horrendous) and we have the face pics what people request and we are also happy to join group chats outside of fab so we are not talking for each other but it's so difficult to get a reply.

Please share with us your secret or tips or tell us where we are going wrong

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
4 weeks ago

East Sussex

You're looking for one of the rarest types of fab member as you acknowledge.From what I've read from women who meet couples I gather that they have no desire to show a couple a good time or help someone relive past experiences but want to meet people who treat them as equals.

Perhaps start by contacting women and tell them what's in it for them

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By *inkAndNudge OP   Couple
4 weeks ago

Blackpool


"You're looking for one of the rarest types of fab member as you acknowledge.From what I've read from women who meet couples I gather that they have no desire to show a couple a good time or help someone relive past experiences but want to meet people who treat them as equals.

Perhaps start by contacting women and tell them what's in it for them "

That is sound advice! Makes total sense too thats use been naive. Why would you make yourself avaliable for the please of someone else, especially when your solo, Rookie error on our part. Thank you 😀

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By *inkAndNudge OP   Couple
4 weeks ago

Blackpool

Thank you

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By *aomilatteCouple
4 weeks ago

Midlands

You're one of thousands of couples looking for the same. Most single women prefer to chat to a couple face to face rather than through messages, they like to sense the chemistry in a couple. Clubs or socials are your best chance.

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By *inkAndNudge OP   Couple
4 weeks ago

Blackpool


"You're one of thousands of couples looking for the same. Most single women prefer to chat to a couple face to face rather than through messages, they like to sense the chemistry in a couple. Clubs or socials are your best chance. "

Appreciate your response and advice. I think because its early doors clubs are are a no go....for now. We're more than happy to chat then meet see how things go 1st so a social meet definitely not off the cards, we will add that into our profile. Were taking it as it comes too, no rush. What ive noticed people expect a response or meet within weeks. We have sent a few messages out to them who tickle the missus fancy but the inital messages where probably out of touch. We are leaening though 😆😁

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By *issmorganWoman
4 weeks ago

Yorks

Go to a club op.lots of couples have posted this same thing and many have said they found it easier to meet ladies,in real life at a club.

Many couples are all after that elusive bi fem for a ffm & so they're really in demand and hard to get the attention of, on here apparently.

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By *w funwifeWoman
4 weeks ago

near taunton

a couple finding a woman is proberly the hardest meets to get via fab not impossible but very hard alot of bi women wont be interested in coples and those who are will have to fancy both and thats where it most;y fails.

also bare in mind how few single women there are on fab then realise alot are fake ie men pretending then it dont take long to work out why its hard .

i wont meet women via fab i meet them in swinging clubs or me n hubs we'll find a gay pub / club /village and thats where i get most of my fem on fem action and quite a few dont care if hubs is in the room, you'll ne suprise gow quick you will fill your little black book with phone numbers

again im not saying ins not possible on fab as there are some truly stunning women on here most of them are looking for something within their own agenda meaning most couples are not for them its not a reflection on anyone its just how it is good luck xx

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By *estinysswingersCouple
4 weeks ago

Worsley

You said clubs are off limits. This is where we’re successful.

You might be successfully on here but be prepared for a long search on here.

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By *inkAndNudge OP   Couple
4 weeks ago

Blackpool

Thanks all we do appreciate the responses. We get it to, we know we are asking for a lot 😅 and i think all the rational and reasoning behind it some of you stated makes sense...especially the couple profile been fake. We've come accross a few "female" profiles too which seem a but suspect. I think the gay bar idea might be the one you know! Something i didn't even think about! Had many a good laughs in a gay bar! Thank you!!

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By *inkAndNudge OP   Couple
4 weeks ago

Blackpool

Wish there was an option to like a post.

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By *ethot69Couple
4 weeks ago

Knowsley

We agree with the other replies, but the other issue you have is no men involved - except you.

Meaning you're cutting your options by about 99.9%.

Because the question is why are you comfortable with your male watching/being nearby but not another as part of a couple? To the point of not even looking for fems who are in relationships?

That's your right to have preferences of course, and it's likely JUST preference, this isn't an accusation, but fems who do meet alone would see that as a potential red flag that the fem is being forced into it or there's a high level of insecurity.

The fem here for example meets couples alone, but not completely alone as a matter of safety, and a lot would feel the same way. So the male here would be in the office out the way or whatever, but would still be on site.

But as we say, it's preferences. But as others have stated, you are looking for the rarest of the rare.

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