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"I have seen some people treating fab like a dating website. Folks! it is fabswingers not a match making service! " It's not predominantly a dating site but there has been lots of couples came out of meeting on here so why not what's the problem | |||
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"I have seen some people treating fab like a dating website. Folks! it is fabswingers not a match making service! " Suppose that’s true. You don’t swipe left/right on here. | |||
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"I have seen some people treating fab like a dating website. Folks! it is fabswingers not a match making service! " what is it then instant shag | |||
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"I have seen some people treating fab like a dating website. Folks! it is fabswingers not a match making service! " Wanted - nice lady with amazing skills in the kitchen (nice boobs a bonus) for a relationship. No marriage proposal until I’ve tasted your Lemon Drizzle!!!! | |||
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"Fab is different for everyone. As long as the people who you connect with are on the same wave length then there's no right or wrong. I can't stand it when people come out with the line, 'we're all here for the same thing!' We're really not "Very very true.  | |||
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"I have seen some people treating fab like a dating website. Folks! it is fabswingers not a match making service! " As an unverified male I am a little uncertain if you are best placed to advise people of the purpose of this site  | |||
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"I have seen some people treating fab like a dating website. Folks! it is fabswingers not a match making service! " Very true but we still need have a selection criteria, we are not jumping into bed with anybody. Interestingly your profile says you are only interested in couples and females up to the age of 70 and you have excluded single men and TV/TS so even you are being selective. | |||
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"I have seen some people treating fab like a dating website. Folks! it is fabswingers not a match making service! what is it then instant shag " Nope definitely not lol | |||
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"I have seen some people treating fab like a dating website. Folks! it is fabswingers not a match making service! " Errrr, surely they can use it however they want to? | |||
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"Fab is different for everyone. As long as the people who you connect with are on the same wave length then there's no right or wrong. I can't stand it when people come out with the line, 'we're all here for the same thing!' We're really not "That's what we've come to realise in the relatively short time we've been on the scene: there's are numerous different dynamics, some work for us and some don't. None are more valid than any other. | |||
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"I have seen some people treating fab like a dating website. Folks! it is fabswingers not a match making service! " Aw diddums. You not knee deep in fanny like you expected🙄🤷♀️🤣 | |||
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"I have seen some people treating fab like a dating website. Folks! it is fabswingers not a match making service! " People can use the platform in whatever way they wish. Why do you feel that people use it like a dating service? | |||
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"I have seen some people treating fab like a dating website. Folks! it is fabswingers not a match making service! " why do you care how others use the site? | |||
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"I have seen some people treating fab like a dating website. Folks! it is fabswingers not a match making service! " Could have fooled me about either function. Going by what gets posted in the forum, it predominantly offers mutual support for men wanking as soon as the wife goes out! | |||
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"I have seen some people treating fab like a dating website. Folks! it is fabswingers not a match making service! As an unverified male I am a little uncertain if you are best placed to advise people of the purpose of this site "Ouch!!! Lol. | |||
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"I have seen some people treating fab like a dating website. Folks! it is fabswingers not a match making service! " What gives you the right to decide what is and isn’t fab. It can be whatever you want it to be. Many people go on dates and many have got married from meeting on here. You sound bitter. | |||
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"Fab is different for everyone. As long as the people who you connect with are on the same wave length then there's no right or wrong. I can't stand it when people come out with the line, 'we're all here for the same thing!' We're really not "So true that, well put!! | |||
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"It's not an esc*rting site either yet people treat it like one." Omg this!!! You’re so right. I was literally going to come and say the same thing. Guys just messaging with their requirements like they’re asking me for a service! Or alternatively addressing my husband directly and asking if they can meet me like it’s his decision! He’s not my pimp 🤣 | |||
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"I have seen some people treating fab like a dating website. Folks! it is fabswingers not a match making service! " Fab is for talking about sex. Dating sites are for actually getting sex. It's simple enough  | |||
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"I have seen some people treating fab like a dating website. Folks! it is fabswingers not a match making service! Fab is for talking about sex. Dating sites are for actually getting sex. It's simple enough "Spot on. It is not uncommon for first meets from dating sites to be 'a hole in one' if the mutual attraction is there... | |||
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"I have seen some people treating fab like a dating website. Folks! it is fabswingers not a match making service! " People are free to use fab how they want imo No difference between this and people using dating sites to get laid Not my circus 🤡 not my monkeys 🙊 | |||
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"I have seen some people treating fab like a dating website. Folks! it is fabswingers not a match making service! " And it's also not a free pros titute site either | |||
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"I have seen some people treating fab like a dating website. Folks! it is fabswingers not a match making service! Fab is for talking about sex. Dating sites are for actually getting sex. It's simple enough
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It is not uncommon for first meets from dating sites to be 'a hole in one' if the mutual attraction is there..."The thing dating sites have over Fab is; they actually have women looking to meet men in them! 😁 I really only look at Fab as a way of meeting couples these days 👍 | |||
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"I have seen some people treating fab like a dating website. Folks! it is fabswingers not a match making service! And it's also not a free pros titute site either" You are probaby right about not free, in quite a few instances! | |||
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"I have seen some people treating fab like a dating website. Folks! it is fabswingers not a match making service! " Well, it is a match service. Just one with a very sexual nature. Some people, like me, probably don't hugely fit in with vanilla folks. If I were to find a match on here, it would be as good a place as any to find one. | |||
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"I have seen some people treating fab like a dating website. Folks! it is fabswingers not a match making service! " Thats shocking I hope nobody is using a dating site for just casual hook ups. | |||
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"OP seems obsessed with what his needs are, as stated on his profile, and seemingly looks down on those who state, by way of their profiles,that they are open for more if the chemistry is right. I've found on here that a fully open mind leads to lots of fun and, in my case, relationships based within the life. To come on here with a closed mind is to miss opportunity in my opinion, but for some people a closed mind is their limit. Each to their own..... "I think in reality the Op is making a statement for airtime, which I have no issue with, and probably doesn't have a strong opinion on the matter. Especially given that he started the thread and never came back... 😉 | |||
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"I have been reading all if their opinions. It is interesting how people interpret it differently! I am not against anything but if someone joins a wrong platform it would make it harder for them to achieve their objective and would cause them frustration and confusion.. something that I have seen happening a lot here ! " It's the nature of text. To be fair it's a very open question and not really clear about the context. In what way have you seen frustration and confusion, are you able to explain that? Is it people asking upfront for connection or more, or is it people that hook up and one of them is treating it as if it is a relationship or trying to move it into that? I've had the latter myself on a few occasions, but I'm quite clear and honest about what I'm doing and what I want from someone. One individual was upset I was talking to a couple and had an assumption that we were exclusive, despite that never having been agreed and us meeting on a dating website. But it's life, people get attached, particularly if you're sharing intimate situations together and you are doing it on the basis of a connection. | |||
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"Mate have some respect if people dont like what they see then its up to them i look at profile if it says no signal men i respect that and move on thats what its about sorry" Hope we are not talking about that infamous signal man who got his phimosis lacerated whilst playing with a Hoover Dustette in his signal box! | |||
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"Agree, however having to submit your face picture to a random woman on the internet and be ignored as if youre an animal wanting adopted is woeful. Makes me feel like nothing " Regrettably I think on Fab it has to be accepted that not everyone is attracted to the person. I do however always politely say no thank you but if I contact someone and get ignored, I don't let it bother me....I just move on to search for others | |||
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"I have seen some people treating fab like a dating website. Folks! it is fabswingers not a matchmaking service! " Lol! I don't date. But a lot of people don't understand the difference between dating, friendship, play partner, clubmate, acquaintance, associate and peer, lover, companion, kinking, swinging and naturism. Lol! They don't know where the boundaries and expectations are. They don't know what they want and how to get what they want and where to get what they want. I don't want a relationship and I don't want to have to do girlfriend or wife duties and expectations. I do not want to be available to a man 16 hours a day. I want to have my fun with a mixed gender group and then go home to peace and quiet alone and put my phone on do not disturb until whenever I feel like turning it off. I am not in the business of massaging a man's ego for free or being his emotional support animal or unpaid psychotherapist. A lot of single men on Fab are insecure and then expect women and couples to help them with that while they are trying to get their rocks off. It's draining for most and a turn-off for many. The constant demand for attention from one person. That's poor social skills and poor emotional intelligence. In some ways, it's selfish to only focus on what you want and not consider if the other person wants what you want. Some people just want a one-off fuck and other people will try to turn that into a relationship for their ego. That's why most of my swinging is done at a swinger club.....where the true swingers are, rather than people who just want to pick up an individual for sex in their home or hotel and then discard them whenever. Because let's be honest that's what happens with most of the meets on Fab, Tnder or Grndr. After nearly 4 years in the lifestyle, I now have clubmates that I'm happy to play with or just watch or just have a cuddle with. It's a stability with intimacy and a social comfort that I need when my own personal life is too complex and demanding for most single men. People are free to use Fab how they wish but reality will always bite you in the ass. You can spend weeks and months chatting online to someone and then when something newer and shinier catches their eye, they will drop you because it wasn't a deep connected bond for them in the first place. If you are fucking the same person multiple times a week for weeks on end, it's only human nature that you've now created an emotional bond that one or more of the people involved do not want to let go of and want it to evolve into a deeper relationship! Then there are the people who do not create emotional bonds naturally and only want to feel sexual pleasure. They never connect to people mutually. It's only to get their pleasure and then they are off onto the next thing or person. You need to know who you are compatible with and if you are all on the same page and if you stop being on the same page and compatible best to cut all contact. | |||
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"Agree, however having to submit your face picture to a random woman on the internet and be ignored as if youre an animal wanting adopted is woeful. Makes me feel like nothing " Don't do it then. You can set your own rules too. | |||
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"I have seen some people treating fab like a dating website. Folks! it is fabswingers not a match making service! " Tinder wasn’t intended to be a dating site, but a heterosexual version of grindr. A hook-up app But people use it the way they want. | |||
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"I have seen some people treating fab like a dating website. Folks! it is fabswingers not a match making service! " Who says? People access fab for all sorts of reasons, but that's not for you to judge. I'm a tad fed up with people, almost always solo men, telling me what I can and cannot use fab for! | |||
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"I have seen some people treating fab like a dating website. Folks! it is fabswingers not a match making service! As an unverified male I am a little uncertain if you are best placed to advise people of the purpose of this site "Excellent response | |||
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"I have seen some people treating fab like a dating website. Folks! it is fabswingers not a match making service! " What’s your interpretation then OP? Yes it’s a swingers site but for those looking to also date, it’s easier to get an honest answer here than the actual dating sites. | |||
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"I have seen some people treating fab like a dating website. Folks! it is fabswingers not a match making service! " Life’s short and tomorrow’s never promised If 2 like minded souls find happiness through here and make a perfect couple they’d get my congratulations The world’s a bit of a sh1t show at the moment so let’s support each other in the pursuit of happiness wherever it can be found | |||
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"I have seen some people treating fab like a dating website. Folks! it is fabswingers not a match making service! " Let people be. If that's what they're doing and it doesn't affect you, or they're not doing any harm. Let them. It's really not for you to decide that someone's approach to soemthing is wrong, simply because it doesn't align with yours. Opinion is fine, dictation is not. | |||
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"No they dont Its nothing to do with "pity fucks" or any other immature phrase you want to use We all know when people say there needs to be an attraction they mean "i am justifing my existance on this site" The sooner people realise we are all the same wity no standards tgr better" Why would people have to justify their existence on here? Also speak for yourself with regards to standards I’m not fucking anyone I don’t find hot, if anything I’m on here to fulfil my fantasies so I probably set my standards higher than normal 🤣 | |||
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"Why? Seriously have you not seen the people it attracts? I dont mean physically. People are only on here due to low self respect and self esteem. And we all know those who say otherwise are in denial. If that was tje case there would not be so much immature blocking going on, conversations would be had!. It wouldnt surprise me if i am unable to post after this for saying the truth... it wouldnt be the first time. I dont think they liked me calling out the bull that is "no reply is a polite no", noone not even FAB can change the meanings of words. A no thank you is a polite no. But of course it is easier to blame everyone than look closer to home " That may be the only reason you’re on here but you can’t speak for everyone. | |||
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"Why? Seriously have you not seen the people it attracts? I dont mean physically. People are only on here due to low self respect and self esteem. And we all know those who say otherwise are in denial. If that was tje case there would not be so much immature blocking going on, conversations would be had!. It wouldnt surprise me if i am unable to post after this for saying the truth... it wouldnt be the first time. I dont think they liked me calling out the bull that is "no reply is a polite no", noone not even FAB can change the meanings of words. A no thank you is a polite no. But of course it is easier to blame everyone than look closer to home " I have neither low self respect or self esteem which is why I won’t lower my standards and fuck anyone. I am happily married and fab is a fun addition to our marriage not the be all and end all. I think you’re projecting a bit here tbh | |||
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"Why? Seriously have you not seen the people it attracts? I dont mean physically. People are only on here due to low self respect and self esteem. And we all know those who say otherwise are in denial. If that was tje case there would not be so much immature blocking going on, conversations would be had!. It wouldnt surprise me if i am unable to post after this for saying the truth... it wouldnt be the first time. I dont think they liked me calling out the bull that is "no reply is a polite no", noone not even FAB can change the meanings of words. A no thank you is a polite no. But of course it is easier to blame everyone than look closer to home " Look. I’m the kind of person who has no self esteem, reads junk mail cover to cover and even i don’t send polite no thankyou messages. It doesn’t actually make anyone feel better, and typically I end up having to block the men i said a polite no thankyou to later because they just keep messaging, expecting me to change my mind. Also? Sex is sex. I don’t have lower standards because I meet someone from Fab. I still have to believe I will be safe with them, I have to be attracted to them, and I have to suspect they’re going to be both good company AND good in bed, otherwise my vibrator is quicker, closer, and doesn’t care if I shave my legs or not. | |||
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"But of course it is easier to blame everyone than look closer to home " That would seem to be truer than you know... | |||
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"my vibrator is quicker, closer, and doesn’t care if I shave my legs or not. " TBF I don't either, I'll give you quicker and closer though.  | |||
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"I have seen some people treating fab like a dating website. Folks! it is fabswingers not a match making service! " Over the last 18 years I've managed to find a several FWB's who I went on dates with, two partners and a wife (not in that order) via Fab. I've probably dated more via Fab than I ever did before joining. And trust me, it's a lot easier to find a partner who will be interested in swinging on the site than it ever will be finding one in the real world that's keen and interested. But then I suspect many singles (men especially) would never consider swinging with a partner if they found one and only use the site to fill (or at least try to fill) a gap in their sex life because they can't source physical interaction off-site. Or is that just me being cynical....🤔🤔 Obi | |||
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"But then I suspect many singles (men especially) would never consider swinging with a partner if they found one and only use the site to fill (or at least try to fill) a gap in their sex life because they can't source physical interaction off-site. Or is that just me being cynical....🤔🤔 Obi" If I met someone outside the swinging world and they weren't interested in it, I would prioritise the relationship over this, sure. But outside of that, yes, I think you're being a bit of dick making comments like that, if im honest. | |||
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"...if someone joins a wrong platform it would make it harder for them to achieve their objective and would cause them frustration..." • Who decides this is the wrong platform? | |||
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"But then I suspect many singles (men especially) would never consider swinging with a partner if they found one and only use the site to fill (or at least try to fill) a gap in their sex life because they can't source physical interaction off-site. Or is that just me being cynical....🤔🤔 Obi If I met someone outside the swinging world and they weren't interested in it, I would prioritise the relationship over this, sure. But outside of that, yes, I think you're being a bit of dick making comments like that, if im honest." Many men are just here for sex and not swinging. But even if you disagree, why does having that opinion make someone a dick? | |||
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"But then I suspect many singles (men especially) would never consider swinging with a partner if they found one and only use the site to fill (or at least try to fill) a gap in their sex life because they can't source physical interaction off-site. Or is that just me being cynical....🤔🤔 Obi If I met someone outside the swinging world and they weren't interested in it, I would prioritise the relationship over this, sure. But outside of that, yes, I think you're being a bit of dick making comments like that, if im honest." And your comment didn't make you look like a dick.... ok then🤣🤣 | |||
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"“Dick” is harsh, but ‘smug male half of a couple in Fab firing off the ubiquitous condescending comments against single guys’ is a mouthful to be fair…. It’s been a recurring theme for me over the years, whether in Fab, the other site I use for meets, or the vanilla world, to have a lady wanting to move to an exclusive arrangement (yes, with me! Who knew?), fairly quickly. That’s single ladies, and the ‘less than single’ ladies. I’m seeing three ladies at the moment, two of them for around 5 years, the newest only a few months now, but very much wanting me all to herself….👍" Why would I feel smug about it? It's an observation and theory that I've seen for nearly two decades on here. I have nothing against single guys at all and nothing against them being on Fab. I joined as a single guy and have been one again since. There are plenty of great single guys in the scene and we've met loads and aill meet many more. The fact remains that many guys are simply here for 1-2-1 hook ups, not to swing. Many of the same would never in a million years consider dating someone they met on Fab, nor having a relationship with them. They see a distinct line between women on Fab and women off site, as if those here are perfect for NSA sex but only that, and that they're not the kind of people they'd look to settle down with. If it's 'condescending' to view those that treat women with double standards when it comes to sexual activities differently, then so be it - happy to wear that label. People can use the site how they wish of course. It ceased to be a site just for swingers long, long ago. 🤷♂️ Obi | |||
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"“Dick” is harsh, but ‘smug male half of a couple in Fab firing off the ubiquitous condescending comments against single guys’ is a mouthful to be fair…. It’s been a recurring theme for me over the years, whether in Fab, the other site I use for meets, or the vanilla world, to have a lady wanting to move to an exclusive arrangement (yes, with me! Who knew?), fairly quickly. That’s single ladies, and the ‘less than single’ ladies. I’m seeing three ladies at the moment, two of them for around 5 years, the newest only a few months now, but very much wanting me all to herself….👍 Why would I feel smug about it? It's an observation and theory that I've seen for nearly two decades on here. I have nothing against single guys at all and nothing against them being on Fab. I joined as a single guy and have been one again since. There are plenty of great single guys in the scene and we've met loads and aill meet many more. The fact remains that many guys are simply here for 1-2-1 hook ups, not to swing. Many of the same would never in a million years consider dating someone they met on Fab, nor having a relationship with them. They see a distinct line between women on Fab and women off site, as if those here are perfect for NSA sex but only that, and that they're not the kind of people they'd look to settle down with. If it's 'condescending' to view those that treat women with double standards when it comes to sexual activities differently, then so be it - happy to wear that label. People can use the site how they wish of course. It ceased to be a site just for swingers long, long ago. 🤷♂️ Obi " I met a woman in Fab back in 2014, who pretty much turned my world upside down, and had we actually made that leap, I have no doubts at all, that she and I would have become a genuine swinging couple. I’ve met several ladies since, and remain in contact with a select few, making friendship connections which may not slot neatly in to the ‘swinging’ box, but we all love hearing about each other’s shenanigans, and do meet up when we can. What were you looking for, when you were here as a single guy? | |||
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"“Dick” is harsh, but ‘smug male half of a couple in Fab firing off the ubiquitous condescending comments against single guys’ is a mouthful to be fair…. It’s been a recurring theme for me over the years, whether in Fab, the other site I use for meets, or the vanilla world, to have a lady wanting to move to an exclusive arrangement (yes, with me! Who knew?), fairly quickly. That’s single ladies, and the ‘less than single’ ladies. I’m seeing three ladies at the moment, two of them for around 5 years, the newest only a few months now, but very much wanting me all to herself….👍 Why would I feel smug about it? It's an observation and theory that I've seen for nearly two decades on here. I have nothing against single guys at all and nothing against them being on Fab. I joined as a single guy and have been one again since. There are plenty of great single guys in the scene and we've met loads and aill meet many more. The fact remains that many guys are simply here for 1-2-1 hook ups, not to swing. Many of the same would never in a million years consider dating someone they met on Fab, nor having a relationship with them. They see a distinct line between women on Fab and women off site, as if those here are perfect for NSA sex but only that, and that they're not the kind of people they'd look to settle down with. If it's 'condescending' to view those that treat women with double standards when it comes to sexual activities differently, then so be it - happy to wear that label. People can use the site how they wish of course. It ceased to be a site just for swingers long, long ago. 🤷♂️ Obi I met a woman in Fab back in 2014, who pretty much turned my world upside down, and had we actually made that leap, I have no doubts at all, that she and I would have become a genuine swinging couple. I’ve met several ladies since, and remain in contact with a select few, making friendship connections which may not slot neatly in to the ‘swinging’ box, but we all love hearing about each other’s shenanigans, and do meet up when we can. What were you looking for, when you were here as a single guy?" What was I looking for? Mainly to meet with couples. That soon evolved into attending clubs and socials. I had a few FWB's that I saw regularly and regular people that I met when working away in the same places. It was as much a social lifestyle as it was sexual. One off 1-2-1's weren't what I was looking for. If I'd wanted that I'd have joined POF or Tinder. There's no reason why singles can't swing. Personally to me, the difference is in the attitude held and the avenues explored. As I said, people can use the site as they wish. But in my head there'll always be a difference between 'swingles' and singles. 🤷♂️ And that won't ever change. Obi | |||
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"I have seen some people treating fab like a dating website. Folks! it is fabswingers not a match making service! " what do you mean? | |||
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"But then I suspect many singles (men especially) would never consider swinging with a partner if they found one and only use the site to fill (or at least try to fill) a gap in their sex life because they can't source physical interaction off-site. Or is that just me being cynical....🤔🤔 Obi If I met someone outside the swinging world and they weren't interested in it, I would prioritise the relationship over this, sure. But outside of that, yes, I think you're being a bit of dick making comments like that, if im honest. Many men are just here for sex and not swinging. But even if you disagree, why does having that opinion make someone a dick?" It doesn't, and you'll notice that isn't what I said. And that's not what he said either. My issue is more with how he put it. "would never consider swinging with a partner" is more than bit presumptuous, and then he follows it up with "because they can't source physical interaction off-site." What? If they can't "source physical interaction" off the site, they aren't going to be able to source it here either, so this part doesn't even make sense. If you just want a shag or a GF, there's many easier ways than coming here. It just comes across as if he's putting the boot in to some nebulous group of men, who I'm not sure even exist, for reasons that don't seem to extend beyond stroking his own ego AKA being a bit of a dick. Don't get me wrong I like the guy, his posts are normally decent, I just feel like he missed the mark on this one. | |||
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"Why? Seriously have you not seen the people it attracts? I dont mean physically. People are only on here due to low self respect and self esteem. And we all know those who say otherwise are in denial. If that was tje case there would not be so much immature blocking going on, conversations would be had!. It wouldnt surprise me if i am unable to post after this for saying the truth... it wouldnt be the first time. I dont think they liked me calling out the bull that is "no reply is a polite no", noone not even FAB can change the meanings of words. A no thank you is a polite no. But of course it is easier to blame everyone than look closer to home " Would you have said that if you had met  | |||
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"It's not an esc*rting site either yet people treat it like one. Omg this!!! You’re so right. I was literally going to come and say the same thing. Guys just messaging with their requirements like they’re asking me for a service! Or alternatively addressing my husband directly and asking if they can meet me like it’s his decision! He’s not my pimp 🤣 " Haha yes this!! So many entitled, delusional pricks on here! x | |||
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"Why? Seriously have you not seen the people it attracts? I dont mean physically. People are only on here due to low self respect and self esteem. And we all know those who say otherwise are in denial. If that was tje case there would not be so much immature blocking going on, conversations would be had!. It wouldnt surprise me if i am unable to post after this for saying the truth... it wouldnt be the first time. I dont think they liked me calling out the bull that is "no reply is a polite no", noone not even FAB can change the meanings of words. A no thank you is a polite no. But of course it is easier to blame everyone than look closer to home " Wow. We have come across a few of your posts on the forums and they’re all doom and gloom. Maybe it isn’t a fuck fest as you expected when you signed up. Try having a couples profile, we will often get an influx of hundreds of messages. You’re saying we are supposed to reply to every one of them to say ‘no thank you’, which then almost always leads to a follow up message by them asking why, or how they could change our mind, or even abusive messages (Ellie has been called a slut (and more) too many times because we said no). | |||
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"Even so, we understand it's not a dating site, but I wish the people we reach out to would at least reply. Sometimes we would like to know what we're doing wrong. We're starting to find it shocking on here, except when it comes to arranging a club night." • I would say yours is one of the better profiles I've come across. I'm genuinely surprised, for once. | |||
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"Might be because I (female) don't want to fuck the men. That clearly means IGNORE FOREVER Then as for women, I truly believe it's just all talk. They are all up for meeting then you never hear from them again. " Fab is awash with fantasists and armchair swingers these days.  | |||
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"People still need to be attracted There are no pity fucks " Agreed | |||
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