FabSwingers.com forum: Advice for a Virgin

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey All,

This must be the most embarrassing post anyone has ever posted on a swingers site. I'm still a virgin (by choice) but Im ready to lose it and experience my first time. Reality is that at the moment I don't have time for a relationship and I don't do the whole clubbing scene etc. Which is why I decided to see what this site was all about.

I was wondering if any kind hearted souls had any advice for a very inexperienced individual? What to watch out for etc.? Also why are so many women so uncomfortable with taking a guys virginity, if its ok with me, what is about the psychology of the thing that a few of the women I've talked to feel so uncomfortable about it??

This is a swingers site right, y'all are meant to be uninhibited!

Anyways your opinions are greatly appreciated and please go easy on me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find another place to loose it. Women on here tend tlifet experience from their men. Not someone who is likely to cum before his dick is out of his pants.

Go down the normal route of meeting a woman in real life, getting to know her and having her take it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably best to go for an escort then

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...how did you come across this site - just out of interest? Seems an odd place to find a virgin?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate if you're a student then you've got no excuses ...what else do students do apart from have sex and drink shit loads ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Roger that...

But like I said I don't have time for a relationship at this point in my life and how much longer can I stay a virgin. No, I'm ready to lose it...

And no...please no....I do not and never want to pay for sex. I may be desperate but not THAT desperate and I have my own morals to uphold.

Thanks for that advice though..

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Personally I'd go with the Escort advice. They are likely to be more patient, as at the end of the day you are a pay check.

To some it may be a fetish on here to take a virginity, but at the end of the day, I'm here (personally) to get laid, not to be a teacher, and I think a lot of women will feel the same way.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Nah, we get about one alleged virgin posting a week!

Personally, I'm here for hedonistic pleasure not human biology 101!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oh gosh...I think I'm going to spend the next few messages explaining why Im a virgin. In reply to the one about students...we're not all the same you know! Some of us study 5/6 year courses that brutal...keeping up with that lone, the sports and societies works you 5am until midnight almost every week until breaks.

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

You don't need to have a relationship to find a woman in real life to fuck.

I'm with the others on here, I want experienced lovers on my meets, not someone who doesn't have a clue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh gosh...I think I'm going to spend the next few messages explaining why Im a virgin. In reply to the one about students...we're not all the same you know! Some of us study 5/6 year courses that brutal...keeping up with that lone, the sports and societies works you 5am until midnight almost every week until breaks.

Well I did a PhD ...which meant that, including the two degrees I read for prior to the research, I was studying intensively for 7 years ...but believe me my friend there was plenty of time and desire for extra curricular activities - you speak of societies etc... Well they have socials - go in one once the socially lubricating device of alcohol is flowing ...the world will be your oyster

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hahaha...thanks buddy...only problem is I don't drink. And the utmost respect to you! You're like every ladies dream guy...totally ripped and highly educated. I think I've found a role model to aspire towards?;)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hahaha...thanks buddy...only problem is I don't drink. And the utmost respect to you! You're like every ladies dream guy...totally ripped and highly educated. I think I've found a role model to aspire towards?;)"

I've had two meets in 5 months ...

I'd look elsewhere for a role model lol still I wish you the best of luck.

Personally I'd go away and come back again in a few years with a few notches on your bedpost ...this is the one place where women won't frown upon the notches (well most won't).

Good luck friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok make that 3 months ...it just feels like 5 lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Roger that...

But like I said I don't have time for a relationship at this point in my life and how much longer can I stay a virgin. No, I'm ready to lose it...

And no...please no....I do not and never want to pay for sex. I may be desperate but not THAT desperate and I have my own morals to uphold.

Thanks for that advice though..

This confused me, you say you are desperate but not THAT desperate to pay for sex , so are you saying that you think on here you will find easy free sex? Desperate enough to find someone to do it for nothing but heaven forbid that you would have to pay for it!! Good luck with that lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No....what I'm saying is paying for sex for ME is immoral. That is a personal thing...and each to their own.

The other thing is, I do still believe that some emotions are involved in sex, even though I may seem so gung ho about losing it and to greater or lesser degrees paying for sex take every last bit of joy out of it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I still want it to be special with a caring couple or understanding woman, not with some dispassionate hooker, for whom taking my virginity is a matter of cash. And to be honest I have found those kind of couples and women on this site. It's just been about meeting the right person...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But of course there are also the many who are interested but can't come to terms with taking my virginity...Those are the women that confuse me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't have to drink to be out clubbing. T-totals can have more fun on a night out than those that are d*unk. I think you're going to have to bite the bullet and just do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will try and be constructive here. If you are genuinely a virgin then a swingers site is not going to be your best chance as most if not all the women on here want a good time with somebody who can please them.

Also if you don't have the time to go and meet people in normal life you won't have the time for this lifestyle either as its not a free sex site. You still have to spend time getting to know others before they would drop their knickers.

If you feel paying for sex is immoral fine the only other choice as we see it is get to a club but you will have to pay to get in

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

to be honest.... if you are being real and honest, then i couldn't think of a worse way of losing your virginity

its suppose to be something special, and i don't think you do yourself any favours by saying its immoral to pay, because that implies that you are here because people are cheap....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi mate

First of all I've seen a lot worst posts!

Second I understand your busy. I work more than was is considered to be 'full time' which is often the case in many professions. I also study part time having done so for the past six years. I'm 'studying' right now (apparently!)

Balancing it is hard. Part of the reason I am here really is because of not being to meet people socially.

What everyone has said though is right. You will not find much sympathy here as we are all here for our own interests and not necessarily to help others. Sadly I have not come across many people with the fantasy of taking a virginity.

Most people would recommend the services of an escort. I understand you don't want that.

My only other thought would be online dating, pof etc.

Losing your virginity is an emotional experience. I dont think doing it with a stranger is the best idea but it is your choice. I also think that most women, whether through this site or otherwise would be uncomfortable with the idea taking it on a casual basis.

Its not like blokes who dreams of virgins! females are different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I still want it to be special with a caring couple or understanding woman, not with some dispassionate hooker, for whom taking my virginity is a matter of cash. And to be honest I have found those kind of couples and women on this site. It's just been about meeting the right person..."

losing your virginity with a couple would be a bit odd pal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"to be honest.... if you are being real and honest, then i couldn't think of a worse way of losing your virginity

its suppose to be something special, and i don't think you do yourself any favours by saying its immoral to pay, because that implies that you are here because people are cheap...."

How does that imply people on here are cheap? Like to know how you worked that one out?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Will try and be constructive here. If you are genuinely a virgin then a swingers site is not going to be your best chance as most if not all the women on here want a good time with somebody who can please them.

If you feel paying for sex is immoral fine the only other choice as we see it is get to a club but you will have to pay to get in "

I do think a lot of people use this site due to not having enough time for a social life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you feel paying for sex is immoral fine the only other choice as we see it is get to a club but you will have to pay to get in

I do think a lot of people use this site due to not having enough time for a social life"

Never understand this how if people don't have the time to have a night out do they have time to meet people on here

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Student right? Go out to your Student Union or an AU night out and if you have any sort of confidence, i'm sure you'll have no trouble pulling.

Sorry if that sounds crass, but if you are at the point where you just want to lose your virginity, then do what is best for you. I don't think using this site for that purpose is best (or even good) for you.

Best of luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you feel paying for sex is immoral fine the only other choice as we see it is get to a club but you will have to pay to get in

I do think a lot of people use this site due to not having enough time for a social life

Never understand this how if people don't have the time to have a night out do they have time to meet people on here

Because you get to know people through email exchange and telephone calls.

Im not saying I dont have time for the occasional night out but if I do go out I dont necessarily want to be chasing girls who I may or may not like to fulfil my desires. The great thing about this site is we all state what we want, from whom as well as showing our private bits!

It means we can fit our sex life around our 'normal' life and still get what we need and crave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't you mean virgin on the ridicules.....wrong room for this thread should be in stories and fantasy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Student right? Go out to your Student Union or an AU night out and if you have any sort of confidence, i'm sure you'll have no trouble pulling.

Best of luck."

The other point is are you telling people you are a virgin? I think this idea (whilst one of the better) might have some failings in that you may not like the idea of sleeping with someone who is intoxicated and they many not like the idea you are a virgin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are genuine then the best way to lose your virginity is totally up to you. I suspect given the option most people would like to change who,when,where and how they lost theirs. (Not me! Swedish model beach New Year's Eve tropical island,but I digress). Good luck and hopefully it all works out for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think that echoes a few of the reason I decided to join this site. The whole atmosphere and approach to finding someone appropriate is a bit more civil.

Whoever suggested I was suggesting sex here is free or cheap, has misunderstood my arguement against paying. To clarify...I understand there are people here who do that, and as respect their opinions it's not for me.

There's something special about connecting with people on an emotional and social level on a site like this that sets this and prostitution apart. I hope that makes it clearer, where I stand on that?? I really don't mean to offend anyone...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And that's kind of the point...yes, I do NOT want to lose it on a d*unken night out...please no...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But that would be impossible anyway as I don't drink, so it would mean taking advantage of d*unk girls...oh this is becoming far too philosophical and ethical lol...on the brighter side, thank you to ALL of you for your opinions. Really interesting thoughts...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey All,

This is a swingers site right, y'all are meant to be uninhibited!

Anyways your opinions are greatly appreciated and please go easy on me...

This also bothers me, you seem to be surprised that any woman would feel uncomfortable with just because you aren't. This may come as a shock but most women are on here for their sexual pleasure so without being rude, having sex with a virgin is not gong to appeal to the majority. However I'm sure if you stick with it you will find someone suitable .Just try to remember that you are on a NSA site , so you aren't automatically entitled to anything. Your situation is quite specific so you should expect to have to look a bit harder. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Goodness! I never said I was entitled to anything!

But thank you for your advice, I know it's means in good faith.

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

OP - your original post is honest but i agree that most users here will not be looking for someone like you.

You've kept your virginity for your own reasons, respect to you but why not find someone you know to share that experience with? It doesn't have to be alcohol fueled, but get to know someone and have fun.

Then come back and enjoy finding more experiences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Goodness! I never said I was entitled to anything!

But thank you for your advice, I know it's means in good faith."

I know you didn't but you posted asking why women would feel weird about, so I'm just offering some advice in general.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP - your original post is honest but i agree that most users here will not be looking for someone like you.

Then come back and enjoy finding more experiences

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"But that would be impossible anyway as I don't drink, so it would mean taking advantage of d*unk girls...oh this is becoming far too philosophical and ethical lol...on the brighter side, thank you to ALL of you for your opinions. Really interesting thoughts..."

I don't drink, and never have done. I also never took advantage of any d*unk girls in uni. Not all people who go out drinking do so to get hammered. Many still have control of their mental and physical faculties in order to make a consentual decision to have sex assuming they fancy you.

So try socialising with your peers and see what happens. Or revolutionary idea, you might find a sober girl who wants to have sex with you (trust me, it happens)

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lol, blackshadow, this conversation could go round and round in circles...I think you ave to be on the course that Im studying to really understand the dynamics. I'm never in one please for longer than 3months constantly posted at various sites, and then on top of that the peers around you are ultra- competitive and work focused. The course itself is relentless...So where oh where do you find the time and place to properly court a woman who you might want to fall in love with. I would do that I a heart beat if I knew I had the time and inclination to take for the long- term. I am not in the business of breaking- hearts and truth is for relationships I just don't have the time, for something more casual- yes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This psycho-analysis could go on forever lol...I feel so exposed now in front of you all...but I've laid my heart and thoughts out there, for you ALL to see..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mate if you're a student then you've got no excuses ...what else do students do apart from have sex and drink shit loads ??"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cannot believe this fantasy thread is still going if you’re a virgin and cannot get any pussy at your age it time you bent over and take it like a bitch

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"But of course there are also the many who are interested but can't come to terms with taking my virginity...Those are the women that confuse me...

why do they confuse you? You have said you have clear ideas on what you want to happen, why can't they?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

This is a swingers site right, y'all are meant to be uninhibited!

Anyways your opinions are greatly appreciated and please go easy on me...

being unhinhibited doesn't mean that people will do just anything or will be happy to have sex with a virgin.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think it's because I don't understand why they find taking a guys virginity a bit of a taboo? I posed the question, because I thought it was intriguing. But it's a small point in the bigger picture, and you are absolutely right, everyone is allowed to have their own clear opinions.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes, point taken. You are absolutely right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am i alone in struggling to take the o p seriously

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes, lol. No just kidding...take it how ever way you want to take it, but I would love to hear everyone's thoughts. That's why it was posted.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I think it's because I don't understand why they find taking a guys virginity a bit of a taboo? I posed the question, because I thought it was intriguing. But it's a small point in the bigger picture, and you are absolutely right, everyone is allowed to have their own clear opinions."

What is the bigger picture?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok really think your best chance is to go to a club and just don't mention virgin you will stand a better chance

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can I just say thank you to those people who have private messaged with your encouraging words and advice. Y'all are the best! It's why this site is so great...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seen almost identical threads before and surely I can't be the only one who doesn't think he's a virgin for a second. Just my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've got no answer to that...because there's no way I can prove otherwise. All I can say is, would this really be something I'd be advertising on a swingers site? If you want to know exactly how inexperienced I am I suggest you read my profile. It's embarrassing enough to have laid myself so bear in a public forum...but worth it for everyone's thoughts which mean so much to me.

Believe what you will...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seen almost identical threads before and surely I can't be the only one who doesn't think he's a virgin for a second. Just my opinion."

Totally agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it is taboo, I just don't see what a woman would think she would get out of it unless she had a thing for it. Maybe better to not focus so much on losing your virginity and maybe try getting to know people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interests

Adult Parties, Anal, Cuckolding, Dogging, DP, Fisting, Oral, Rimming, Role Play, Safe Sex, Same Room Swapping, Separate Room Swapping, Spanking, Threesomes, Toys, Voyeurism, Watersports,

how can above be your Interests if you have never tried it and your an alleged virgin

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yup...and that's what I've been doing!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Interests

Adult Parties, Anal, Cuckolding, Dogging, DP, Fisting, Oral, Rimming, Role Play, Safe Sex, Same Room Swapping, Separate Room Swapping, Spanking, Threesomes, Toys, Voyeurism, Watersports,

how can above be your Interests if you have never tried it and your an alleged virgin"

everyone has fantasies and if presented with a list you could have a pretty good idea of what you might like to try. There are things on our profile we haven't tried yet but we still know we might enjoy them.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Yup...and that's what I've been doing!

if you quote the post you're answering it will be easier for us to see whose reply you mean

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

They're interests...fantasies. Are you telling me you never dreamt of naughty stuff when you were a virgin or even before trying it?

Funny fact. I actually didn't even know what dogging was until I googled it...interesting but not the way to lose your virginity I guess.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't think it is taboo, I just don't see what a woman would think she would get out of it unless she had a thing for it. Maybe better to not focus so much on losing your virginity and maybe try getting to know people. "

Sorry...still learning to use this forum...yes below comment was to above:

'Yup...and that's what I've been doing'

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Sorry...still learning to use this forum...yes below comment was to above:

'Yup...and that's what I've been doing'"

Don't apologise, everyone is new to everything at some point in their life. You will be learning fast about forum interaction I suspect

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

I personally don't find anything remotely appealing about a male virgin but wish you all the best

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I personally don't find anything remotely appealing about a male virgin but wish you all the best

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Brains, and the body of a god: you really can have it all!

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"Lol, blackshadow, this conversation could go round and round in circles...I think you ave to be on the course that Im studying to really understand the dynamics. I'm never in one please for longer than 3months constantly posted at various sites, and then on top of that the peers around you are ultra- competitive and work focused. The course itself is relentless...So where oh where do you find the time and place to properly court a woman who you might want to fall in love with. I would do that I a heart beat if I knew I had the time and inclination to take for the long- term. I am not in the business of breaking- hearts and truth is for relationships I just don't have the time, for something more casual- yes. "

Sorry i tried. You sound lazy and bullheaded. In any case, beat of luck. Make a new thread when you pop your cherry.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sorry i tried. You sound lazy and bullheaded. In any case, beat of luck. Make a new thread when you pop your cherry."

Ouch, I think you misunderstood my post.

But thank you for your well wishes...and yup no problem, will report back in the following months!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As has already been said, Fab is not really the place for virgins. The vast majority of people are looking for people that are experienced at sex so they can get the most pleasure out of an encounter. You have to think about what you as a virgin have to offer them and use that to sell yourself. Have a go at searching other forum posts about "virgins" and you will see that for the most part they do not get a positive response. Good luck though

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Am i alone in struggling to take the o p seriously

Nope, as I said earlier, virgins post on here every week...on their way to meet Lord Lucan on Shergar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've popped a few cherries in my time on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suspect, based on some of your responses,you may have posed the question because it may have something to do with your PHD but then I am nasty and suspicious at times...

Perhaps you thought it might even be a bit of a fetish for some and they'd be beating your door down in order to unload you of your burden...

It's not taboo...it's just not very appealing nor at all interesting to be honest...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I suspect, based on some of your responses,you may have posed the question because it may have something to do with your PHD but then I am nasty and suspicious at times...

Perhaps you thought it might even be a bit of a fetish for some and they'd be beating your door down in order to unload you of your burden...

It's not taboo...it's just not very appealing nor at all interesting to be honest...

Lol...am not doing a PhD, but youre on the right lines. No, no, and no...wow that is so off. I never thought it would be a 'fetish' for some people. The thought of taking someone's virginity as a 'fetish' sends shivers down my spine.

The only reason I'm so explicit about it is, if I was ever to meet with anyone, I would want them to how inexperienced I was. That would make it more comfortable for all parties.

Whether it is or not to one's interests is an intensely personal thing and I respective everyone's opinions likewise.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just a final thanks to everyone who contributed with their opinions and thoughts! Will take it all on- board...

Happy swinging!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What time is Jackanory on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You contradict yourself quite a bit you have saved your virginity for a reason and you say you have morals yet you are on a swingers site looking for an easy way to loose it. This is not the place for you.

What is the rush. Carry on with your studies when it feels right it will happen x

Hey nearly a year without sex here so will be a virgin again lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for your feedback!

I think you need to step into my body to really understand the yearning to feel the gentle touch of a woman. It's a yearning that's been there for almost 8 years...most wouldn't last 1 year.

I think that feeling is something most guys could relate to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but your not going to get the connection you are looking for from a random stranger x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yup...but I'm not looking for any lasting or deep connection, just a connection. Which is something that you all look for on this site. I get the impression swingers don't just sleep with any guy or girl, it's after some chat, discussion, a few drinks and of course the joy of each other's company.

But I sincerely do take your point and concern. All registered...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yup...but I'm not looking for any lasting or deep connection, just a connection. Which is something that you all look for on this site. I get the impression swingers don't just sleep with any guy or girl, it's after some chat, discussion, a few drinks and of course the joy of each other's company.

But I sincerely do take your point and concern. All registered..."

Ok then if you want to meet other swingers start of by looking for socials in your area and take it from there get to know people face to face x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yup- that's good advice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Listen OP no one is a virgin by choice at 24, and some of the advice on here is pretty terrible.

I.E just walk into a student bar and you will magically get laid, that's not going to happen.

First of all declaring yourself a virgin is never a good idea, really is it. People will assume there's a problem straight away. I'm glad you're not opting for a hooker, because that would be a pretty crass way of losing your virginity.

You sound like a nice, hard working guy. A more date orientated website sounds better for you mate, good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks so much for your heartfelt advice! Sincerely appreciate it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"to be honest.... if you are being real and honest, then i couldn't think of a worse way of losing your virginity

its suppose to be something special, and i don't think you do yourself any favours by saying its immoral to pay, because that implies that you are here because people are cheap...."

I knew if you'd commented, it would be along the same lines as me, Fabio.

Couldn't have summed it up better.

OP - either you are indulging in a sophisticated wind up, or you are genuine. Giving you the benefit of the doubt, I would seriously suggest you back away from the Swinging world and find a lady you like and see where it goes, and lose your virginity that way - if that is what you are truly looking for.

Swinging is all about sexual liberation and, from the various comments you have made, I think you need to start talking from a position of knowledge rather than ill-informed 'morality' before YOU come off worse. And, believe me, it WILL be YOU who is the one who will be most affected by dipping your toe into this world - not anyone else on here....

ted.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Listen OP no one is a virgin by choice at 24, and some of the advice on here is pretty terrible.

I.E just walk into a student bar and you will magically get laid, that's not going to happen.

You sound like a nice, hard working guy. A more date orientated website sounds better for you mate, good luck!"

My youngest is 22, her friends are around the same age, 25 the oldest in her group: all virgins. They are all deeply religious that may account for it. Just returned from a religious retreat in Wales with her friends.

Left Wales at 11, drove non stop, got home at six...she gone to church.

Where did I go wrong!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha well your certainly not the most saintly role model on here

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

the point i was trying to make, is if you valued your virginity and losing it so little as much as it feels.... you could fix in by paying for it...

it doesn't feel like a morality thing.... more a cost thing!

you say that you don't have time for socialising and clubs, but to be honest as good as the site is... it is only one piece of the puzzle, and a lot of the networking that is done is actually done by socialising and clubs....

crossing out lots of altenatives before you start is just making the pond you are fishing in smaller and smaller...

it just feels you are starting from a negative and generalising view... it in sense of starting with "i wont's..." rather than starting with "i will..."

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Haha well your certainly not the most saintly role model on here

I know, she prays for my soul!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha I bet you would make a sexy nun x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Fabio- thank you! All advice noted!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha I did it! They knew though and it was cool. The dude was down to play too so I checked a wholllle lot of boxes that day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fabio- thank you! All advice noted!!"

wow guys

what did you tell him???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

losing your virginity with a couple would be a bit odd pal"

Haha I did it! They knew though and it was cool. The dude was down to play too so I checked a wholllle lot of boxes that day

(Repost as I missed the '+quote' button... )

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

well i was a car sex virgin ... a sex on a beach virgin ... a sex in a pool virgin ... we all have to start somewhere xx

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Ah he's gone. Maybe he popped his cherry pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

His name...Sid U Niversity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah he's gone. Maybe he popped his cherry pmsl "

Or he found the virgin bit doesn't work. Back to the drawing board....

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