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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We have been on and off the site for a couple of years now, and also use another site for both socials and for arranging meets. It is mainly single guys we meet via here and couples in clubs but in the five/six years we have been swinging, we have NEVER sent that first message to anyone asking if they fancy meeting and always leave it to the other party to make the first move.

Is it just us that take the more back seat approach and wait and see who makes contact and then see if we all get on. Or do other couples just get out there and message?

Plus, what the heck do you say to someone on first meet (apart from 'Hi, fancy a shag' kind of message)

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

not true miss!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are very proactive in messaging/winking/ fabbing photos of the people we like, we find it works better in meeting the kind of people we like.

With regards to what you sy on the first meet... what's wrong with just holding a normal conversation that includes the swinging dynamic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We tend to message first but leave them to offer a meet first. Although sometimes that can take a while.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I quite often make the first move. Only I know the type of man I really like so why wait for them to possibly contact me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are very proactive in messaging/winking/ fabbing photos of the people we like, we find it works better in meeting the kind of people we like.

With regards to what you sy on the first meet... what's wrong with just holding a normal conversation that includes the swinging dynamic? "

Exactly what we do !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I quite often make the first move. Only I know the type of man I really like so why wait for them to possibly contact me?"

I like the cut of your gib young lady; great approach!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it`s the same in clubs I find, guys are easy to approach and chat to whereas you never seem to know how to approach the ladies without feeling you`re wrong for starting the ball rolling.

Please tell me the etiquette

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad to hear we're not the only ones!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"not true miss!!!!! "

It is true, you invited us for a brew, so we drove the 300+ mile round trip for a brew

Also, big typo in my first post, it should have said what do you say in the first message, rather than the first meet (We are ok at the meet, just hopeless at dong the first message to someone)

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By *wingersrus465Couple
over a year ago

Cheshire

We are the same too, I struggle making the first move (Jill)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most single guys are pretty pro active when it comes to messaging, winking and hotlisting.

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