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"I always attach a photo to a first message. I have a very public job and wish to control my privacy as much as possible " So do alot of people on here you can still share pictures and have a profile picture without showing your face or any significantly identifying photos. You also can't accomodate so it screams married man who is cheating. | |||
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"I am not married or cheating, but I'm not going to lie by claiming I can accom when I can't " That is ok just accept that it will therefore limit people who will want to reply and ultimately meet you. | |||
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"You need a profile pic. I’ll be honest if you were to message me I’d not read the message or look at your profile because you don’t have a profile picture. It’s literally the first thing people see" But then there are loads of people with lots of veris (men, ladies and couples) with no profile pic. It does limit things but not the be all and end all. | |||
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"You need a profile pic. I’ll be honest if you were to message me I’d not read the message or look at your profile because you don’t have a profile picture. It’s literally the first thing people see But then there are loads of people with lots of veris (men, ladies and couples) with no profile pic. It does limit things but not the be all and end all. " The OP asked for profile advice. I gave my personal opinion | |||
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"You need a profile pic. I’ll be honest if you were to message me I’d not read the message or look at your profile because you don’t have a profile picture. It’s literally the first thing people see But then there are loads of people with lots of veris (men, ladies and couples) with no profile pic. It does limit things but not the be all and end all. The OP asked for profile advice. I gave my personal opinion " Well you said he needs one which is not true but understand your own view. | |||
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"I always attach a photo to a first message. I have a very public job and wish to control my privacy as much as possible " If you're able to include public photos that colleagues etc won't identify you from, you'll increase your views. Many people searching just look for men who show public pics. Ideally not cock pics. Consider that people want to know more about you, than what you want too. | |||
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"You need a profile pic. I’ll be honest if you were to message me I’d not read the message or look at your profile because you don’t have a profile picture. It’s literally the first thing people see But then there are loads of people with lots of veris (men, ladies and couples) with no profile pic. It does limit things but not the be all and end all. " Disagree, you've said it yourself that the advice is to have a profile pic because I assume you've read from the 100s of advice threads. People that have veris with no profile pics can't be used as an example because maybe they did have one at the time of the meet, maybe they've blanked whilst uploading new, maybe ......so many reasons | |||
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"You need a profile pic. I’ll be honest if you were to message me I’d not read the message or look at your profile because you don’t have a profile picture. It’s literally the first thing people see But then there are loads of people with lots of veris (men, ladies and couples) with no profile pic. It does limit things but not the be all and end all. The OP asked for profile advice. I gave my personal opinion Well you said he needs one which is not true but understand your own view. " In my opinion he needs one. | |||
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"Just updated my profile. Does it need any more tweaks?" Decent bio, wouldn’t appeal to us directly but it’s better than 90% of them on here. It tells a bit about yourself and what you’re looking for, so that’s good. Problem is no one will read it because 99% of your messages will get deleted unread as you have no profile pic, then there are no pictures to view on your profile. You also don’t accommodate and there is zero explanation as to why. Add that to the fact you have no pictures, people will likely assume you’re cheating. That won’t put everyone off but it will put a large chunk of people off. It might not be true but that will be the assumption people make. There are no verifications either, so it’s a great start, still some way to go. | |||
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"I always attach a photo to a first message. I have a very public job and wish to control my privacy as much as possible " The vast majority of people on here require discretion. We have public jobs as well, yet have over 200 pics and videos not showing off who we are. It makes zero sense that you’re prepared to show your face to a stranger in a message, but won’t share any pics without your face. | |||
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"My kids chose to live with me after my divorce...one of them never leaves the house hence my inability to accommodate unfortunately " I’d add something like that to your bio, as it clears it up | |||
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"And veris require meets lol" Not really, this is a swinging site not a dating site. There are always swinging socials, or swinging clubs open everyday. Would always recommend single guys attend these, meet real people, make contacts, potentially have sex or play with people. The majority of people at these places have fab and will veri you. This in turn makes the possibility of getting a “meet” from here improved because you stand out. We don’t meet guys from here because it’s a nightmare but we used to and know many couples that still do. Now we wouldn’t entertain meeting someone who was unverified. You could go to a club or a social tonight and have a couple of veris on your profile by morning. It really isn’t that hard to have a profile that’s stands out | |||
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"I have added a public pic, I know its not brilliant but its a start. I am planning on attending socials as I am fully aware this isn't a dating site lol" Add it as a profile pic to | |||
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"I have added a public pic, I know its not brilliant but its a start. I am planning on attending socials as I am fully aware this isn't a dating site lol" Try setting the timer on your phone and put it at a height around shoulder chest height T shirt or shirt Step back about 8 feet Snap  | |||
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"It reads like someone asked an AI for the least offensive profile. It doesn't actually say anything at all about who you are or what you offer, just runs through the usual buzzwords and bland inoffensive hollow phrases. It is better written than most profiles. That might get you some attention. But I know I'm not alone in the eye roll and delete response to something that reads that way 💜" I find that slightly offensive as I did not use AI to create that profile. It took me a considerable amount to write. | |||
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"It reads like someone asked an AI for the least offensive profile. It doesn't actually say anything at all about who you are or what you offer, just runs through the usual buzzwords and bland inoffensive hollow phrases. It is better written than most profiles. That might get you some attention. But I know I'm not alone in the eye roll and delete response to something that reads that way 💜 I find that slightly offensive as I did not use AI to create that profile. It took me a considerable amount to write. " Okay. Apologies. It reads like someone read all the guides to the least offensive profile. It doesn't actually say anything at all about who you are or what you offer, just runs through the usual buzzwords and bland inoffensive hollow phrases. Better? 💜 | |||
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"Just updated my profile. Does it need any more tweaks?" You say "open minded" three times and "chemistry" three times so it sounds a little repetitive. | |||
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"It reads like someone asked an AI for the least offensive profile. It doesn't actually say anything at all about who you are or what you offer, just runs through the usual buzzwords and bland inoffensive hollow phrases. It is better written than most profiles. That might get you some attention. But I know I'm not alone in the eye roll and delete response to something that reads that way 💜 I find that slightly offensive as I did not use AI to create that profile. It took me a considerable amount to write. Okay. Apologies. It reads like someone read all the guides to the least offensive profile. It doesn't actually say anything at all about who you are or what you offer, just runs through the usual buzzwords and bland inoffensive hollow phrases. Better? 💜" Im afraid I do agree, it's a lot of words which sound impressive but when you break it down it actually tells you virtually nothing about the person writing it. There's no personality to it whatsoever. I can understand why it was suggested it had been written with AI, Im not saying it was. It just comes across as very bland and like you're trying to say all the right things. It might be ok on a normal dating site, but it on fab it feels almost too squeaky clean. | |||
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"The people without profile pics who say you don't need a profile pic 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Add some pics, be creative with them, show some imagination or humour. They don't have to be your face or cock. Give someone a reason to click on it. " Well its verifiable fact that you don't "need" one. It may of course limit your options but easy to find lots and lots of people who've met many without a profile pic so you don't "need" one The | |||
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"I think the AI/bland criticism is a bit harsh OP. Yes no wild information about sexual preferences or swinging experience/desires etc but plenty of info. For example, you mention interest in socials first and getting to know somebody a little. You mention attaching a pic so people know they will get to see you. Plenty who don't have these things. You come across as a normal person looking for a little bit of friendship and probably normalish one-on-one sex. OK not going to attract somebody looking for a little bit of more wild swinging or kink experience but most people on here aren't looking that. Wish you luck. " It reads as AI generated mainly because everything is a bit too neat and positive. It keeps repeating the same things about being genuine, respectful, open-minded, discreet and wanting good chemistry. There’s not much in there that feels specific, like a funny little detail, an opinion or just something slightly imperfect. It reads more like it’s trying to cover everything a good profile should say rather than just being someone talking normally about themselves. The bit about having a recent face picture and liking the social side doesn’t really change that. Those are normal things to mention, but they’re still written in the same very polished way and don’t really make the profile feel more personal. Especially since the very first answer from chatgpt on asking for a single male profile includes the line that they're probably more interesting than their profile picture makes out, it makes sense most people would mention something about pictures while they talk back to tweak it. But, all the points around why it reads as AI are still relevant even if it was not generated by AI. It still feels hollow because it’s mostly telling people what they like rather than showing them. It says they're funny, playful, affectionate, genuine, confident and good at conversation, but there’s nothing really there that lets someone see those things for themselves. There are no little details, stories, quirks or opinions that give people a feel for who they actually are. So instead of making someone think I’d like to get to know this person, it comes across more like a list of qualities they’re being asked to take your word for 💜 | |||
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"I think the AI/bland criticism is a bit harsh OP. Yes no wild information about sexual preferences or swinging experience/desires etc but plenty of info. For example, you mention interest in socials first and getting to know somebody a little. You mention attaching a pic so people know they will get to see you. Plenty who don't have these things. You come across as a normal person looking for a little bit of friendship and probably normalish one-on-one sex. OK not going to attract somebody looking for a little bit of more wild swinging or kink experience but most people on here aren't looking that. Wish you luck. It reads as AI generated mainly because everything is a bit too neat and positive. It keeps repeating the same things about being genuine, respectful, open-minded, discreet and wanting good chemistry. There’s not much in there that feels specific, like a funny little detail, an opinion or just something slightly imperfect. It reads more like it’s trying to cover everything a good profile should say rather than just being someone talking normally about themselves. The bit about having a recent face picture and liking the social side doesn’t really change that. Those are normal things to mention, but they’re still written in the same very polished way and don’t really make the profile feel more personal. Especially since the very first answer from chatgpt on asking for a single male profile includes the line that they're probably more interesting than their profile picture makes out, it makes sense most people would mention something about pictures while they talk back to tweak it. But, all the points around why it reads as AI are still relevant even if it was not generated by AI. It still feels hollow because it’s mostly telling people what they like rather than showing them. It says they're funny, playful, affectionate, genuine, confident and good at conversation, but there’s nothing really there that lets someone see those things for themselves. There are no little details, stories, quirks or opinions that give people a feel for who they actually are. So instead of making someone think I’d like to get to know this person, it comes across more like a list of qualities they’re being asked to take your word for 💜" Ok I take it back - Grok says 80-90% chance written by AI. It’s says your pair is 20% likely AI and my wonderfully person profile 40% | |||
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"Ok I take it back - Grok says 80-90% chance written by AI. It’s says your pair is 20% likely AI and my wonderfully person profile 40% "Again. The problem with AI profiles is that they're generic buzzwords and zero personal content. Whether AI or not, the generic buzzwords and nigh on zero personal content comments remain relevant to the original question. The actual use or not of AI becomes irrelevant 💜 | |||
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