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By *daw42 OP   Man
2 days ago

Dunston

Been off and on here for a few years and had a few good times but it's still a struggle getting past the first message.

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By *oCalSwingerMan
2 days ago

Yorb Linda

Definitely a struggle here for sure unfortunately. I thought everyone understood the assignment 😈

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By *daw42 OP   Man
2 days ago

Dunston

Good luck 👍

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By *nnandElleCouple
2 days ago

Brackley

Ive a tip for single guys - when my wife and I are handing it to you on a plate, try actually fucking turning up!

Four cancellations/no shows in the past month havent exactly filled us with confidence when it comes to single guys here.

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By *issmorganWoman
2 days ago

Yorks

What are you saying in your messages op & are you only messaging those who you may be a good fit for?.

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By *alimaliWoman
2 days ago

Cymru Fach

Do you want any profile tips?

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By *ull of PuddinWoman
2 days ago

isle of munters

Are you asking for advice?

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By *eroLondonMan
1 day ago

Mayfair

I would focus on your profile.

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By *irAtlasMan
1 day ago

Dorking

Go.to the meets and events

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By *iceGuy999Man
1 day ago

Bolton/Wigan

Be open and honest - it all comes out in the wash if you are not

No means no - golden rule swinging

If at first your message does not get a reply or is deleted guess what the 2nd 3rd and all other messages end up the same as well. Let that sink in

Be respectful and if someone says you are not theres / our type then take it on the chin and move on

Fab is saturated with horny guys and every other type of guy under the sun. Its a struggle and first world problem.

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By *rectus HumongusMan
1 day ago

uranus


"Definitely a struggle here for sure unfortunately. I thought everyone understood the assignment 😈"

Clearly not everyone aware from outset how hard it is to get a meet you would think as the o p knew by now 😁

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By *one4goodMan
22 hours ago

Vale

Profile tips please

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By *acavityMan
21 hours ago

Redditch


"Profile tips please"

Well you have two public pictures, and one is someone else, and the other is your dick. Maybe a few more of the rest of you.

And you have not written anything (except “to be continued “).

If I was looking, I’d assume that you are too busy to meet, as you don’t have time to write what you are looking for, and what you can offer to the person who meets you.

Your profile is a shop window. Yours is currently boarded up.

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By *eroLondonMan
21 hours ago

Mayfair


"Profile tips please"

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The correct protocol is to create your own thread and ask for profile advice.

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By *one4goodMan
21 hours ago

Vale


"Profile tips please

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The correct protocol is to create your own thread and ask for profile advice."

My apologies, still learning the ways haha

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By *imply_SensualMan
21 hours ago

Cheshire

Be selective on who you are messaging.

Do they meet the 'type' you look for? Do they have enough information on their profile so you can write a decent response that shows you have read the profile.

Also, spot red flags, a single woman who has been here for months with no verifications and no verified photo are usually ones to avoid. You are unlikely to get a response from those.

Even verified profiles where all the verifications are from webcam... think about it, they are probably not here to meet and will be getting tons of messages after horny guys see them on cam.

Avoid copy and paste messages to make life easy for you, because they stand out like a sore thumb and will be ignored. Send a face picture instead of a cock picture.

Be realistic in your expectations... a lot arent so simply tailor how you message and how you present your profile so it gives the best first impression.

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By *one4goodMan
21 hours ago

Vale

Thanks, I try to tailor messages as much as I can and mostly get nothing back haha

*tiny violin*

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By *eroLondonMan
21 hours ago

Mayfair


"Thanks, I try to tailor messages as much as I can and mostly get nothing back haha

*tiny violin*"

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Ummm....I don't think that was necessarily directed at you.

Your first port of call is to sort out your profile. It needs work...

...Lots of work.

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By *its_and_TiramisuCouple
21 hours ago

North Somerset

My top tip?

Be yourself. Nobody else is you.

If you want to pretend to be someone else, using advice and tips from others, based on their own ideas of what makes a good profile then crack on.

But it wont reflect you.

It'll reflect a mish mash of thoughts and ideas from other people, who you don't know from Adam and who know nothing about you as a person. It'll make no difference to any perceived 'success' because you won't be able to replicate that artificially created personality in messages and communications.

If someone handed you the world's greatest profile in the whole of history with the best words and pictures ever seen, it may generate more initial interest for sure. But then you're left to your own devices when it comes to messages, chats and meets. And if the real you is nothing like the profile someone has seen then you're fucked. Or not as the case may be.

So again....just be you. If people are unable to present themselves in a way that interests others and can't hold a decent conversation online or in person then to me that's far more useful than finding out they used someone else's ideas (or worse, AI) to generate my/our interest.

We'd prefer to see /hear from the real person from the outset.

Obi

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By *riel13Woman
20 hours ago

Northampton

Tip for single guys... Lower your expectations, not your standards... And keep your dick to yourself, until asked for a look

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By *inkPomPomWoman
20 hours ago

Isle of Man


"Been off and on here for a few years and had a few good times but it's still a struggle getting past the first message."

I can only speak for myself but you have loads of willy pics and my personal pref is not to meet men who have 18 on their age range

No shade just my preference

Those two things would put me off but it looks alright generally

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By *igladAndLulahCouple
20 hours ago

South East


"Been off and on here for a few years and had a few good times but it's still a struggle getting past the first message."

I would look at your profile in the first instance. You have 1 video of your cock, you have 28 pictures and 17 of them are you cock in various states of hardness.

You’re bio has no information about you, what your want, what you’re looking for or what you can offer. You have zero verifications and as a man in his 50’s I think your age range is a bit out of whack as well.

If you’re not getting past the first message then I would reflect on that. Women and couples will 100% respond and engage with guys they fancy, or have their interest peaked by. There are 1000’s of men meeting couples and females from this site on a daily basis, so think about why you’re not one of them.

If you were a hot couple, or a sexy single female, with literally dozens of options in their inbox to respond to, would your profile and message entice you to respond. It’s 100% a you issue that only you can change.

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By *eautyandthebeast86Couple
19 hours ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

Given the thread after thread after thread on here of single blokes asking for tips, profile advice, how to get meets, why they are not getting replies etc it would seem it’s not just you that is having this problem.

Lots of couples ( can’t speak for singles ) are only looking for single men when it suits them and normally seek them or add a meet to their profile closer to the time when a meet is wanted. Locality, profile and pictures are the first thing they look at and then of course if a conversation was to be had it would probably be how you carry your self.

Just like another person said there is no point taking profile advice on what to write if it doesn’t reflect who you are and what you have to offer.

Also like others have said there are 1000s of single blokes to choose from and lots of them don’t even read profiles, we have stated we want locals no more than a hour away yet get messaged by people that live in Spain!

Also like someone else has said the minimum age of 18 is a bit of a red flag as although it’s ‘ legal ‘ it’s questionable why someone of your age would be seeking that and in fairness I think there’s not one 18 year single woman on here that would entertain such an age gap, I could be wrong of course.

The bottom line is we can all critique you until we’re blue in the face but the only person that can make it work for your self is you. It’s not a hook up site and it’s not dial a pussy, it isn’t a quick get your leg over and move on either. Meets do happen, meets will happen but patience is key.

Good luck OP.

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By *igBeardyDanMan
18 hours ago

Bilston

Try going to clubs and talking to people instead of getting lost in a sea of yellow.

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By *un guy300Man
18 hours ago

Swansea


"Do you want any profile tips?

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I would love some tops

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By *abioMan
18 hours ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Time, patience, basic common sense…

You work out the rest!

You don’t “learn” if you are “spoon fed”

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