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By *ryanythingonceor2 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

merthyr tydfil

I see fab is on the news saying that women have been forced into this lifestyle by their partners I think it’s horrifying that this has happened and I want to offer help to anyone who is genuinely in this predicament male or female as I’m sure if males are doing it to their partners then females are too anyone can write to me at any time and I will do all I can to help even if you just need a friendly person to vent on also whatever you say would be treated in the strictest confidence

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
2 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Generally if they're being coerced I'd expect them to be on a couples profile, meaning the offending partner could also see those messages.

They're also much less likely to be the more active person on here 💜

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By *ryanythingonceor2 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

merthyr tydfil

I agree less likely but not impossible

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By *xSirenaxxWoman
2 weeks ago

x

There is a huge element of responsibility on the people meeting couples to ensure that they have the fully informed enthusiastic consent of both parties and if there any doubts to walk away.

And to call out people when they share images of other people.

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By *ryanythingonceor2 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

merthyr tydfil

I one hundred percent agree this should be be something that people want not forced into makes me so angry

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
2 weeks ago

near Putney Heath


"There is a huge element of responsibility on the people meeting couples to ensure that they have the fully informed enthusiastic consent of both parties and if there any doubts to walk away.

And to call out people when they share images of other people. "

It's hard to have informed enthusaitic consent when it's:

1.anonymous sex,

2.CNC scenarios and

3. people who let their libido and egos override their gut instinct to double and triple check that everything is consensual.

I've seen this happen in kink where people say yes when they actually mean no!!

I'm autistic you tell me yes my brain thinks you mean yes. ( minefield for austistic men) I have to rely on moving a different way and not jumping in the deep end to avoid misunderstandings. Misunderstandings still occur but less likely criminal ones for me.

It's why I play in clubs with witnesses and attend workshops for my safety and other people's safety!

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By *xSirenaxxWoman
2 weeks ago

x


"There is a huge element of responsibility on the people meeting couples to ensure that they have the fully informed enthusiastic consent of both parties and if there any doubts to walk away.

And to call out people when they share images of other people.

It's hard to have informed enthusaitic consent when it's:

1.anonymous sex,

2.CNC scenarios and

3. people who let their libido and egos override their gut instinct to double and triple check that everything is consensual.

I've seen this happen in kink where people say yes when they actually mean no!!

I'm autistic you tell me yes my brain thinks you mean yes. ( minefield for austistic men) I have to rely on moving a different way and not jumping in the deep end to avoid misunderstandings. Misunderstandings still occur but less likely criminal ones for me.

It's why I play in clubs with witnesses and attend workshops for my safety and other people's safety!"

CNC scenarios with complete strangers leave both parties complete at risk of things going wrong and really should only be considered with someone you know well and trust.

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By *hisIsMe58Man
2 weeks ago

Winchester

OP, I applaud your motives of help but I feel the site should offer an anonymous way of reporting abuse. A mechanism to report a partner without highlighting their couples account or their singles account.

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By *inkPomPomWoman
2 weeks ago

Isle of Man

Ngl my start here was definitely down to a man suggesting it

Definitely wouldn't have a boyfriend locally as everyone's other half is on here, literally

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By *ormalguyforfunmMan
2 weeks ago

Lovely Wales

So I’ve been thinking about this. And the whole concept of a single couples account is massively flawed because it’s ridiculously easy for one person to have control.

Change how it works. To create a couple account, BOTH parties must have an individual account. They then both link, both verify their identity. Messages can be sent to them as individuals or as a couple. When as a couple it goes to both.

Every month both parties have to continue to opt in to the couples account. If they don’t it gets closed. And there should absolutely be an anonymous reporting button.

Also, when someone verifies a couple, they should be given a stop and think notice which gives them the red flags to watch out for, again with a report concerns button.

It’s not foolproof. But it would maybe help.

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By *ussexcouple40Couple
2 weeks ago

Sussex


"I see fab is on the news saying that women have been forced into this lifestyle by their partners I think it’s horrifying that this has happened and I want to offer help to anyone who is genuinely in this predicament male or female as I’m sure if males are doing it to their partners then females are too anyone can write to me at any time and I will do all I can to help even if you just need a friendly person to vent on also whatever you say would be treated in the strictest confidence "

Do you want to offer that help Mr creepy

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
2 weeks ago

Cambridgeshire


"I see fab is on the news saying that women have been forced into this lifestyle by their partners I think it’s horrifying that this has happened and I want to offer help to anyone who is genuinely in this predicament male or female as I’m sure if males are doing it to their partners then females are too anyone can write to me at any time and I will do all I can to help even if you just need a friendly person to vent on also whatever you say would be treated in the strictest confidence "

I'm sorry, but it comes across as if you're on the hunt for vulnerable females.

Best to leave it to the experts.

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By *ussexcouple40Couple
2 weeks ago

Sussex


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I'm sorry, but it comes across as if you're on the hunt for vulnerable females.

Best to leave it to the experts. "

100% agree. VERY CREEPY

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By *ryanythingonceor2 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

merthyr tydfil

I actually have dealt with this type of thing as a profession and if you weren’t so blinded by your ignorance you would have noticed I asked both genders what pathetic judgement you have shown

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