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By *miley_charlie OP   Man
4 weeks ago

Pendle

All advice welcome =)... Been on here over 2 years now.. had lots of views but not many replies..

Would love some feedback as to what I may be doing wrong other than not going to clubs. TYIA =)

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By *ngry IngridWoman
4 weeks ago

Cardigan

First thing I notice is that all your photos have emoji's across your face. If you don't want to have your face shown, just crop it out.

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By *ull of PuddinWoman
4 weeks ago

isle of munters

Looking for couples but then contradict yourself by only ff couple.

You don't need to write your height in your bio as it's already in the category.

Emojis are quite childish, there's other ways to block your face out.

Dick pics in private gallery leave something to the imagination.

Your into role play so maybe write more on that?

Hobbies? Non sexual interests? Something that someone might feel they could connect with?

Sorry to be harsh

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By *ollie and hughCouple
4 weeks ago

Leighton Buzzard

Get rid of the emojis, have full body pics, doesn't need to be naked, maybe some nice attire. Put dick pics in private gallery. Maybe make your bio a bit longer, something more about yourself as it seems a bit generic. We're all here to have fun, but what makes you stand out from all the other single guys?

Also to note, fab is heavily saturated with single men, so it's a lot more harder for your profile to stand out more. So attending socials/clubs would be best too, as word of mouth goes a long way and you can boost those verifications up.

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By *eddy- SEMan
4 weeks ago

eltham

I would also love some feedback from women and couples. It’s really hard to break through and getting chatting. I feel once people give me a chance I do ok, but so many messages go unread

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By *miley_charlie OP   Man
4 weeks ago

Pendle

Not harsh and much appreciated thank you x

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By *miley_charlie OP   Man
4 weeks ago

Pendle

Thanks for your advice =) x

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By *lowercandyWoman
4 weeks ago

Lancashire


"All advice welcome =)... Been on here over 2 years now.. had lots of views but not many replies..

Would love some feedback as to what I may be doing wrong other than not going to clubs. TYIA =)"

Photos: you have a whole body swap the photos for things you are willing to show instead of all the emojis, however have a face pic to at least send with a message.

You have a small age range then you have shunk the pool further by saying you want an FF couple...

The blub now is out of sync with the information above it and doesn't really say much about what you want/offer

Your profile is your shop window and if you were walking by would you stop?

Also this is my thing I really dislike the "job" excuse..

Do you message people who are seeking what you offer

Do you send an actual message or just hi, do you relate it to their profile

Have you looked at going to some of the organised socials

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By *rincessr84Woman
4 weeks ago

Ards area

"If you're into a bit of fun" that rules me out then, I hate fun, thats why I'm on fab

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
4 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"You have a small age range then you have shunk the pool further by saying you want an FF couple..."

I mean, there's 107 ff couples looking to meet a man within that age range within 1500 miles, and the count cap of 300 is reached for men seeking such within 5 miles. I don't like those odds 😂

As has been said, the emojis look childish, using more body shots with the face cropped rather than pasted over would improve chances considerably.

The blurb says what the profile data does with a generic likes fun and discretion tacked on. That doesn't tell anyone anything. What do you actually want, what do you offer, what makes you stand out? If there's no information there I know I'm not going to chase, I'll just look at the profile of the next message and see if that one actually tells me anything useful in terms of compatibility and attraction 💜

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By *entlemanG8orgeMan
3 weeks ago

Midlands

Get rid of the smiley face!

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By *he Happy ManMan
3 weeks ago

Merseyside

It never ceases to amaze me how many people ask for advice on their profile and then ignore the advice.

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
3 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Go Bi, that should sort it! 😁

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By *harAndBryCouple
3 weeks ago

Downham Market

One tip....follow advice when you've asked for it. People DO look at forum posting history and this thread has just made you look like an attention seeker with no intention of changing anything.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
3 weeks ago

near Putney Heath


"All advice welcome =)... Been on here over 2 years now.. had lots of views but not many replies..

Would love some feedback as to what I may be doing wrong other than not going to clubs. TYIA =)"

If you do not want to go to clubs and socials for the North West, you might need to get more cam verifications.

More photos posed like the men in GQ. Less like selfies and um...mug shots.

Also use Grammarly. I do because I have brain fog and brain glitches. Picks up spelling mistakes better than autocorrect.

What do you enjoy doing in life because fucking and working? Conversation Foreplay and Aftercare pillow talk is nice but you can't do it if you have nothing to talk about!!

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By *xSirenaxxWoman
3 weeks ago

x

If nobody is replying, don't just review your profile, review your messages. They're far more likely to be the reason you're being ignored.

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By *ull of PuddinWoman
3 weeks ago

isle of munters

Sometimes I think threads where the op does nothing should be closed

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
3 weeks ago

Cheshire


"One tip....follow advice when you've asked for it. People DO look at forum posting history and this thread has just made you look like an attention seeker with no intention of changing anything."

Absolutely this

You’ve been given some great advice and ignored all of it.

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By *erPleasureHisRulesCouple
2 weeks ago

Barnsley

I was just thinking that. So many guys ask the advice and people give them so really good tips but rarely do they take that advice

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By *igladAndLulahCouple
2 weeks ago

South East


"All advice welcome =)... Been on here over 2 years now.. had lots of views but not many replies..

Would love some feedback as to what I may be doing wrong other than not going to clubs. TYIA =)"

The emoji photos personally for us is a major no, I can’t explain why, I just can’t take it seriously.

You have a veri which is good but it would be better if you had more and have gone to socials or clubs.

Also the thing that would put us off is you saying you’re looking for something more potentially. We don’t see that as swinging and this isn’t tinder

You could have a bit more detail in your profile

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By *ull of PuddinWoman
2 weeks ago

isle of munters


"I was just thinking that. So many guys ask the advice and people give them so really good tips but rarely do they take that advice"

Yep it's not changed

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Central

A single man providing what he thinks his intended audience needs will speak volumes. If he thinks he's doing that to his best, then it's an honest reflection of him, rather than what another would give

In any case, most people are not mutually compatible with most other people. So almost no messages will get a physical reply, or will reach a dead end.

Going to clubs and Fab socials is the only other way to present yourself, so others can decide if there's possible attraction

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By *miley_charlie OP   Man
2 weeks ago

Pendle

Thanks for this... I think I set the profile up a while ago with. FWB who I dont think was fully interested I will take a look at the age range thing... I am abit rubbish with the bio stuff but will have a go at updating.. if I am honest I am a little bit nervous about going to clubs alone as I am not sure what to expect or the protocol etc... also I am afraid of someone seeing me on here who may know me from my job which could cause problems.

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By *miley_charlie OP   Man
2 weeks ago

Pendle

Thank you =) I will have a look at my bio and try to make it more appealing =) This is something I struggle with in fairness. It is hard to talk about yourself. But these comments are helping =)

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By *miley_charlie OP   Man
2 weeks ago

Pendle

I have face pics in my friends only pics.. I used the emoji as I am not that savvy and dpnt know how to blur my face =) x

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By *miley_charlie OP   Man
2 weeks ago

Pendle

I appreciate all of the advice =).. I have taken a lot of whats been said on board so thanks everyone x

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By *harAndBryCouple
2 weeks ago

Downham Market

OP: Just a heads-up. If you do "reply + quote", people can see who/what you're replying to.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
2 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"I have face pics in my friends only pics.. I used the emoji as I am not that savvy and dpnt know how to blur my face =) x"

It's generally not expected to have a full face pic on a profile.

But both blurring and emojis don't go down well.

Crop the face out of the photo. If that means there's nothing actually left in the photo, choose another photo 💜

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By *miley_charlie OP   Man
2 weeks ago

Pendle


"OP: Just a heads-up. If you do "reply + quote", people can see who/what you're replying to."

Thank you! 🤦 I bet I'm coming across as a right douche haha I am actually not as bad as I'm coming across =/ hopefully 🤣

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By *miley_charlie OP   Man
2 weeks ago

Pendle


"I have face pics in my friends only pics.. I used the emoji as I am not that savvy and dpnt know how to blur my face =) x

It's generally not expected to have a full face pic on a profile.

But both blurring and emojis don't go down well.

Crop the face out of the photo. If that means there's nothing actually left in the photo, choose another photo 💜"

👍👌 thank you I will have a look at uploading some better pics.. I am not really a guy who takes lots of posey pics of myself or particularly have lots of pics taken of me 🫣

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
2 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"👍👌 thank you I will have a look at uploading some better pics.. I am not really a guy who takes lots of posey pics of myself or particularly have lots of pics taken of me 🫣"

That goes for most people. Take some. Set your phone to recording video and move around a bit, watch it back and see what works. You can take stills from there if they're any good or take a proper photo with any ideas from watching the playback 💜

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By *erPleasureHisRulesCouple
1 week ago

Barnsley


"I have face pics in my friends only pics.. I used the emoji as I am not that savvy and dpnt know how to blur my face =) x

It's generally not expected to have a full face pic on a profile.

But both blurring and emojis don't go down well.

Crop the face out of the photo. If that means there's nothing actually left in the photo, choose another photo 💜

👍👌 thank you I will have a look at uploading some better pics.. I am not really a guy who takes lots of posey pics of myself or particularly have lots of pics taken of me 🫣"

We get a lot of guys sending some terribly took pics my advice learn how to take a decent selfie. Go online and get some ideas.

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By *UBLINCASTLEMan
1 week ago

DUBLIN

I think you will find it's the same for a lot of men. I've learned not to take this place too seriously and have zero expectations. Have had 1 Two year FWB relationship, a few coffee meets and attended a social a few times.

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