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What do I do to actually meet someone on here?

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By *opbanana6969 OP   Man
5 weeks ago

Manchester

Hi everyone, I've been on here a while and for the most part simply perved, but recently single I decided to attempt to meet.

I'm no Brad Pitt but 6ft 2 ex rugby player with a nice girthy cock (not meant to be an advert lol).

I have no problem I'm the outside world but can simply not get anyone to take me serious on here

No veris won't help i know, or no profile pics (I send them when I message someone) but how do I get veris if nobody will meet me.

Amy advice on how to actually get a meet on, thanks guys 😊

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By *ave0012022Man
5 weeks ago

anywhere

Think most guys are in the same boat most of the any message i send doesnt even get read

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By *ew year new nameWoman
5 weeks ago

Bolton

Maybe youre messaging the wrong people. My profile is telling me you winked and messaged me 9 months ago. But you can't accom. So i wouldnt have replied. Maybe be a bit more selective

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By *iss DevilWoman
5 weeks ago

Bedford

A lot of people on here would see the lack of pictures and the "cannot accommodate" and conclude, whether rightly or not, that you are not single. And people don't want the potential drama associated with that situation. Try clubs or organised socials maybe, if you can?

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By *heron ShanMan
5 weeks ago

Durham

Rub yourself in honey under a full moon, then there is a spell you can chant while skipping backward around a fire holding a dildo in each hand.

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By *urious_BeanMan
5 weeks ago

South Manchester

And get some new pics. One half pic of your body doesnt say anything to a potential meet

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By *andystick72Man
5 weeks ago

kinky Street

Clubs to start

Chat to people,

Couples are a great dynamic

The rest will be easy

It helps to be fussy tho ,people say I have high standards, as I don't ride the local bikes

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By *artorialMan
5 weeks ago

weymouth

Castrate yourself, put on a dress/wig/ makeup - alternatively just go to a club and talk to folks (not just the women)

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By *andL2026Couple
5 weeks ago

Moray

Clubs, chat rooms, chat to people normally and it will come

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By *anda2018Couple
5 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

Having just read your profile, you mention elegance. However, your public picture is badly taken and all I can actually notice is your messy bathroom.

If you're looking for elegance maybe reflect that in your pictures. A well dressed man with clean shoes will grab my attention way before yet another anatomy pic.

As above, can't accommodate, can travel is always a red flag for us - screams that you're in a relationship.

Mrs

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By *abulincsCouple
5 weeks ago

near a bridge

We struggle to get meet or message replies we only message those we feel are looking for similar to ourselves

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By *opbanana6969 OP   Man
5 weeks ago

Manchester

Tried that, somebody winked me lol

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By *opbanana6969 OP   Man
5 weeks ago

Manchester

Hi thanks for that, never thought about it. I'll follow your advice 😊

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By *tlanshiaWoman
5 weeks ago

Chatham

Go to a club, you’ll meet people socially and most will veto you. You may also meet someone there to play with.

Failing that, keep trying. Be interesting and show an interest

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By *ew year new nameWoman
5 weeks ago

Bolton


"Maybe youre messaging the wrong people. My profile is telling me you winked and messaged me 9 months ago. But you can't accom. So i wouldnt have replied. Maybe be a bit more selective "

OP the fact i didnt reply 9 months ago means I wasnt interested then, and as you still can't accom I'm not interested now. So, not your signal to message me again. Keep things in the forum please

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By *naswingdressWoman
5 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Your profile is a lot about what you want, and not what you can offer. Given the uneven dynamics here, you might want to change that.

Consider uploading more pictures and make them recent.

It's still hard for guys, but those things will help.

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By *eroLondonMan
5 weeks ago

Mayfair


"Your profile is a lot about what you want, and not what you can offer. Given the uneven dynamics here, you might want to change that.

Consider uploading more pictures and make them recent.

It's still hard for guys, but those things will help. "

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I agree. All this ^.

"***FACE PICTURES AVAILABLE ON REQUEST **" always resonates negatively with me. Do you really need to say this?

Photos, OP...lots more photos. The one you currently have looks like a half-hearted attempt. All I keep looking at is the bathroom towel in the background. I don't even notice you there.

Even the smallest things can be off-putting: your name "_opbanana6969" hardly rolls of the tongue with ease. "69" is so clichéd on here.

The bottom line is that most women will look at the profile before even considering to engage with you or read even open your messages.

Good luck, OP. 🌿

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By *M696969Couple
5 weeks ago

Wisbech

I love to see a man dressed to impress.. white shirt.. white t shirt with well fitting jeans... Or photos that are a bit imagitive..good luck x

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By *onetstratCouple
5 weeks ago

Stanley

Put yourself in the position of the person you want to meet.

Would you want to meet you? If the answer's no, change accordingly.

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By *aughtyAlex2021Woman
5 weeks ago

X

Off to look at the profile and be nosey

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By *aughtyAlex2021Woman
5 weeks ago

X

Take a better picture is the main thing for me.

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By *essTTWoman
5 weeks ago

Birmingham

"I promise I’m more fun than my age suggests."

What does this even mean?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
5 weeks ago

Central

You state a lot that could be fixed easily OP. You could take your own guidance.

People have to know what you will give to them, as it's less about what you want.

You are very close to many good clubs. Look which are right for you and your budget and then get known by more people. Also get to Fab(. socials thumb)

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago


"Hi everyone, I've been on here a while and for the most part simply perved, but recently single I decided to attempt to meet.

I'm no Brad Pitt but 6ft 2 ex rugby player with a nice girthy cock (not meant to be an advert lol).

I have no problem I'm the outside world but can simply not get anyone to take me serious on here

No veris won't help i know, or no profile pics (I send them when I message someone) but how do I get veris if nobody will meet me.

Amy advice on how to actually get a meet on, thanks guys 😊 "

The fact you’ve just gone and described your physical appearance is a bit of a giveaway as to why you might not be getting meets. If all you’ve got to offer is your height and “girthy cock”, you’re not going to get much interest.

Add to that the fact you can’t accommodate, I’m not surprised you’re finding it tough going. If you can’t accommodate then people will automatically assume that you’re married or living with someone. While some people might not have an issue with that, most either think you shouldn’t be cheating on your other half (regardless of whether you claim she is aware or not) and/or cannot be arsed with the drama.

My advice would be to show that you’ve carefully read their profile. Mention something from their profile that you’re also into. While most people aren’t looking for anything serious, they are looking for a connection at least of sorts. If you can show or start that connection, you’re in with a better chance.

Decent and recent photos go a long way too. Personally, I think Fab should cut off photos from before 2020. Provide a clear face pic in your first message if you don’t have one on your profile.

Be patient and not desperate. If they don’t reply, don’t take it personally, just move on.

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