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By *harlie00 OP   Woman
2 weeks ago

leek

Interested to know from other women on the site if you get this? I might be overthinking it

Had a meet yesterday, the guy was great, really sexy, there wasn't a lot of foreplay which may have been a mistake. So we had only been fucking for 5 mins when he said I was going to make him cum. I eased off, but he said it was ok - he could always carry on afterwards. So a couple of mins later he cums, then we change position and he carries on, still hard - not something I've experienced before. But after he came, something changed in me, it was like a switch flicked that said 'its over' and I couldn't get back into it. I think I'm truth it's because there have been a lot of times where I've not been enjoying it, so having the guy cum means I can stop.

It feels like I missed out on some great sex because in my head a guy cumming creates a sense of relief that it's over. And I also think the guy's not going to be that interested once he's cum. And now I'm sad for myself about that.

Can anyone relate at all?

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By *issyfaggotfayeTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Bolton

When I slept with girls, I would ensure they cum at least 3 or 4 times because to satisfy your lover was of priority to me x I mean, who wants to be classed as being shit in bed?

You're a rather hot girl, so I get that the guy may have been hyper stimulated but maybe clearer communication between you both could've resulted in more foreplay for longer and just ease him down a step or so then give him the best of you once he's settled down and not so willing to cum so quickly.

I think maybe your mindset might be conditioned from a previous relationship because once a guy cums then it usually means it's over. I suggest your next partner should focus on pleasing you for much longer and when you're on the verge of your 4th or 5th orgasm, you will probably be happier mentally for him to cum with your next orgasm x you're worth it x

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By *ilady_cncWoman
2 weeks ago

Swadlincote

Relief its over says a lot.

Take your time gorgeous, learn what pleases you x

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By *ncognitoGirlWoman
2 weeks ago

Liverpool

Ooof, relief is such a powerful adjective in that sense.

I can relate in a way with some of the times I had with my ex-husband. I won’t go into detail on that, it’s in the past.

Consider why you feel a man’s orgasm is a finishing point? You are not in service to anyone but yourself. Your pleasure matters and you have a voice. Tell your partner what you want, ask for more foreplay if you want it. It’s your experience too.

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By *aandLoCouple
2 weeks ago

Southampton

I can definitely completely loose interest for various reasons during sex.

For example if oral isn't working for me, as often it doesn't, I seem to subconsciously switch off. Completely lose interest and nothing can get me back in the mood.🤷

For me oral needs to be preceded by other stimulation and lots of it, then while I won't orgasm through oral I can enjoy it.

I wouldn't think about your conundrum too deeply OP, but just go with the fact you recognise that there wasn't enough foreplay. Make sure more time is spent on it next time.

Sometimes we forget that our pleasure is equally as important as our partners and those partners may need guidance as to what works for us personally. We need to be self centered sometimes. xx

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By *xSirenaxxWoman
2 weeks ago

x

For many of us ladies once a man cums it usually is over. And yes a sexual partner who cums quickly can at times be quite disappointing. Especially if they are selfish in pursuit of their own pleasure.

Very easy to rush to the penis in vagina bit of sex and think the goal is his climax. Take your time and don't be afraid to guide your sexual partners on how to pleasure you and what turns you on and make sure that you also climax (maybe even a few times) before him.

Don't be afraid to take control, my last long term partner would always rush to pounding away and cum far too quickly. He also thought if he'd fingered me and made me cum a couple of times that was sufficient. So I took control of what positions we did so I could keep penetrative sex slow and edged him. Meant I at least had the opportunity to cum fully before him.

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By *herrybakewellCouple
2 weeks ago

Staffordshire

The sex never feels the same after the guy has come...even if he insists he's a repeater.

Maybe there is a little bit of psychology in it.

One thing I've learnt along the way is to delay the penetration part of sex and enjoy everything else along the way.

I've had to many occasions where I've made the guy cum first and then I'm left dissapointed.

One guy actually told me, he loses all interest after he ejaculates.

Mrs.

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By *vonCalling2022Couple
2 weeks ago

Whyteleafe

This happens a lot. The build up is so sexy, it’s natural that post ejaculation things fall a bit flat

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
2 weeks ago

Bognor Regis

Aww yes if there isn't much foreplay even if the sex itself is good I am always disappointed and feel a little flat.

I hate feeling rushed and even if they can repeat it's not always the same.

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By *wingshot321.Couple
2 weeks ago

Nearby


"Interested to know from other women on the site if you get this? I might be overthinking it

Had a meet yesterday, the guy was great, really sexy, there wasn't a lot of foreplay which may have been a mistake. So we had only been fucking for 5 mins when he said I was going to make him cum. I eased off, but he said it was ok - he could always carry on afterwards. So a couple of mins later he cums, then we change position and he carries on, still hard - not something I've experienced before. But after he came, something changed in me, it was like a switch flicked that said 'its over' and I couldn't get back into it. I think I'm truth it's because there have been a lot of times where I've not been enjoying it, so having the guy cum means I can stop.

It feels like I missed out on some great sex because in my head a guy cumming creates a sense of relief that it's over. And I also think the guy's not going to be that interested once he's cum. And now I'm sad for myself about that.

Can anyone relate at all? "

I see what you mean, we had a guy over the other day who cum after an hour but we had a break for 10 minutes, then went upstairs for round two and was even more intense, I think if you have a break first and chat you build up again for more fun

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By *harlie00 OP   Woman
2 weeks ago

leek

Thank you for the helpful responses. I guess I've just not been used to loads of foreplay, not making my own needs clear and prioritising my own pleasure.

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