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Making the first move

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By *hyButSinfulCpl OP   Couple
3 weeks ago

Sheffield

So we’ve been in this naughty hobby for abit but we still struggle to make the first move so we can know and read the signs if a couple like us and we like them but really struggle to take that leap even if it’s just for a kiss anyone else feel like this and any advice or tips would be greatly appreciated.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
3 weeks ago

East Sussex

We sometimes used to play a game of forefeits (giving people the option to refuse any forfeit they weren't comfortable with), once we played strip poker with a guy and sometimes we'd just start kissing each other.

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By *heekyCharmMan
3 weeks ago

Lancashire


"So we’ve been in this naughty hobby for abit but we still struggle to make the first move so we can know and read the signs if a couple like us and we like them but really struggle to take that leap even if it’s just for a kiss anyone else feel like this and any advice or tips would be greatly appreciated.

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I would ask the question: “Do you like touching or kissing?” and then lead with that…

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By *urreyNotSoNewbiesCouple
3 weeks ago

Surrey

In clubs we find saying something like ‘we’re off to have some fun, would you like to join us?’ Is fairly direct but gives the other parties an option to decline if they’re not feeling it.

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By *aandLoCouple
3 weeks ago

Southampton


"In clubs we find saying something like ‘we’re off to have some fun, would you like to join us?’ Is fairly direct but gives the other parties an option to decline if they’re not feeling it."

We've used that question a few times and it works well. It isn't pressuring anyone into having to bluntly refuse us.

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By *hyButSinfulCpl OP   Couple
3 weeks ago

Sheffield

Thank you for the feed back everyone some good ones to try for next time

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By *eeshellsCouple
3 weeks ago

Reading

The female from an experienced couple came up to Sheshells at a party and said "do you kiss women?"

We've since used it to great success 🎉

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By *inkerbell_and_silverfoxCouple
3 weeks ago

London

Oh we're definitely stealing that line!

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By *oyboxcouple1Couple
3 weeks ago

Kilmarnock

We may need to uses this line too. We not good at reading people lol

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By *entleman JayMan
3 weeks ago

Leeds


"In clubs we find saying something like ‘we’re off to have some fun, would you like to join us?’ Is fairly direct but gives the other parties an option to decline if they’re not feeling it."

This. “We’ve really enjoyed chatting to you. We are going to find a room now. It would be great if you joined us but if not, have a good night”

Don’t die wondering.

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By *WB85Man
3 weeks ago

Staffordshire

We always found this the hardest part of clubs. 4 years in the scene and never swapped in a club.

Private meets just work better for us.

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By *iscreetfuncpl12Couple
3 weeks ago

Somerset

We find if we are playing together in the couples room at a club , it happens (or doesn’t) organically. A look, brush of a hand beckoning. You can usually get an idea if they would like to join you if they move closer. Our non club meets normally start with a social. The second meet is for play but it is still sometimes tricky to instigate play despite all four of you having agreed ahead of time the next meet would be clothes off. I have had to resort to saying shall we get naked, usually to much relief all round!

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By *heSuccubusWoman
3 weeks ago

Darlington

I just try and keep it casual. 'we are going for a wander round upstairs if you want to come?' kind of thing. It makes it easy because they can either accept, or if they would like to decline they are declining the invitation to look around the play rooms and not you directly.

To be honest, if somebody whipped out an ice breaker game I'd be off lile a shot! But, each to their own.

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By *hyButSinfulCpl OP   Couple
3 weeks ago

Sheffield

So for example we’re naked in the hot tub with another couple the chat is flowing and everyone is getting along nicely and flirting eyes all around

so then at that point would it be ok to ask for a kiss to get things going ?

How would you word it or are we just overthinking it

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By *irty DiamondsCouple
3 weeks ago

London - South East and West

Interested in the answer to the spa question...

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By *teelCityCoupleCouple
2 weeks ago

Sheffield


"So for example we’re naked in the hot tub with another couple the chat is flowing and everyone is getting along nicely and flirting eyes all around

so then at that point would it be ok to ask for a kiss to get things going ?

How would you word it or are we just overthinking it "

I would say definitely just starting a bit of gentle playful touching and then ask in a fun way for kissing between the couples and see where it leads

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By *hyButSinfulCpl OP   Couple
2 weeks ago

Sheffield


"So for example we’re naked in the hot tub with another couple the chat is flowing and everyone is getting along nicely and flirting eyes all around

so then at that point would it be ok to ask for a kiss to get things going ?

How would you word it or are we just overthinking it

I would say definitely just starting a bit of gentle playful touching and then ask in a fun way for kissing between the couples and see where it leads "

Noted and definitely be trying it out

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