"I have been on the site for about two weeks. I found it from a BBC article and was unaware that it existed, and I became a gold member after a week as the site has potential.
I am separated after a long 20-year relationship and wanted to explore my sexuality. I am straight, but wanted more female partners and to explore those fantasies we can all have in life but often never explore.
Now, I am sure I made some mistakes in a few messages, but there seems to be a general lack of communication from people. I use no automation, and I was always polite. I had some messages where I added dirty talk, as the profile indicated that was a receptive response. That got one thank you and a wink. I am not a playboy writer, but I can do a reasonable impression. As a teenager, I read many stories where the girl got it up the bum as a final climax and liked it. I am not so sure; personally, I prefer the pussy.
I think the site's system is very good. It is lightweight and very powerful (probably on a Unix system).
But as a guy, women seem to be overwhelmed (I do not know what the true ratio is), but maybe that is simply the reason. I have had a couple of very nice replies, and thank you to those women who did (it makes you feel human). One lady and I chatted for a few days, but from the start she said she had no interest in me (I was fine with that), just giving some guidance on the site—we had a good chat, someone who is worthy of a star rating for good communication.
Dick pics and idiots seem to be the biggest frustration from the women's side, along with fake profiles. My biggest frustration is the lack of two-way communication—why are these girls/women posting on a site for swingers if they are not going to even have a conversation? I have been on the site for many hours over the last couple of days and sadly think it is unlikely to provide what I hoped.
Do not get me wrong—maybe I am a guy who is not sexy (too old) or does not have a 12-inch dick (I do not, but I am a good lover; I know what bits to press). But to be frank, at that size it is going to be very painful for most women, so good luck to them.
I can handle rejection—no problem. Radio silence is another thing entirely.
So I have a two-part question:
(1) What can I do to improve my profile, standing, and how do I do it?
(2) What site improvements can people recommend to stop the problems and encourage real interaction between people?
There seem to be people who pretend to swing, and God forbid you message somebody suggesting that you actually put down the phone and go and have sex with someone—a bit harsh, but you get my point.
I am sure there is more I can say. I have seen some wonderful women, some younger and amazing older ladies, so there is something for everyone. But why people will not interact a bit more suggests there is a problem. I do not understand—I have tried a few approaches. To see a message deleted is hard but understandable; seeing it read but with no response is some progress. The unread ones—I scratch my head. Being blocked is hard when there is no feedback.
So hopefully it is user error and Monty will adjust his approach with your input, and all will be well. Thank you for reading to the end.
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2 weeks on fab is 2 seconds in fabtime.
What were your expectations on meeting?
You stated maybe the site is not for you, that tells me there was an expectation.
Some people are here 8 months to a year and a half and still struggle to meet. You could have a good profile but there needs to be 2 way attraction.
You've stated you've seen attractive women of different ages but unless there's something in you they also find attractive then just block and move on.
Site rules are very simple, no reply means not interested and by replying to someone that you're nit interested opens up the inbox for future communication. That can be rude and aggressive
So it's better to block delete without reply.
I'd suggest using the search forums function for similar threads like this, site feedback suggestions And profile advice threads.
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