FabSwingers.com forum: Could you be sacked if found on here

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We asked a question on exchanging face pics and a couple of single guys came back with 'I could be sacked if found on here'. Got us thinking ... could you ?

We worry about reputation and family, friends finding out but if an employer found you on a swingers site we don't think they could sack you under employment law.

It's your private life and your sexual preferences are your own business. If an employer were to sack you for being on a dating site or a gay dating site then we think they would be taken to an employment tribunal. Why should a swinging site be different as long as what you do is not illegal. Are we wrong or could you really be sacked if found on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We asked a question on exchanging face pics and a couple of single guys came back with 'I could be sacked if found on here'. Got us thinking ... could you ?

We worry about reputation and family, friends finding out but if an employer found you on a swingers site we don't think they could sack you under employment law.

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By *easing_twoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol, Thornbury

Under equality and diversity legislation no they cannot sack you it would be discrimination

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if on a works computer and depending on the job..you could be!

but otherwise no.. what people do in there time is nothing to do with work. this site is legal and for consenting adults

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

Could you be sacked yes. Could you subsequently win a tribunal, currently yes but our employment rights are being lessened by the government. Would you get re-employed after the tribunal depends on the industry. The construction industry for example has a very bad reputation over holding black lists of any employees believed, wrongly or rightly, to have been trouble makers and having taken an employer to a tribunal in that industry would have almost certainly got your name on the list (which should probably be typed in a very dodgy 'war film' German accent).

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

we got a new system at work recently and prior to that I had to sign a form to say I wouldnt use it inappropriately ...I would never use it for here or FB as they can see what I am accessing

..I use my own phone at work or my own laptop/ipad. we dont have wireless at work either so use tethering on my fone. .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Could you be sacked yes. Could you subsequently win a tribunal, currently yes but our employment rights are being lessened by the government. Would you get re-employed after the tribunal depends on the industry. The construction industry for example has a very bad reputation over holding black lists of any employees believed, wrongly or rightly, to have been trouble makers and having taken an employer to a tribunal in that industry would have almost certainly got your name on the list (which should probably be typed in a very dodgy 'war film' German accent)."

Knowing the construction industry I don't think anyone would bat an eyelid if one of the guys was on a swinging site. Unless the employer was jealous. Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends on the job, there are code and conduct elements of many jobs..they wont want possible publicity

I worked for ann summers...I broke the code of conduct revealing I was in fact a man...sigh

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"We asked a question on exchanging face pics and a couple of single guys came back with 'I could be sacked if found on here'. Got us thinking ... could you ?

We worry about reputation and family, friends finding out but if an employer found you on a swingers site we don't think they could sack you under employment law.

It would depend on the job and circumstances..... ask the Glasgow police officer who was honey-trapped by the Sunday Mail with a fake female profile last year!!!

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

suppose if you're a priest/vicar you could be sacked

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We asked a question on exchanging face pics and a couple of single guys came back with 'I could be sacked if found on here'. Got us thinking ... could you ?

We worry about reputation and family, friends finding out but if an employer found you on a swingers site we don't think they could sack you under employment law.

It would depend on the job and circumstances..... ask the Glasgow police officer who was honey-trapped by the Sunday Mail with a fake female profile last year!!!"

Yes but the policeman posted pics in his uniform which breached his terms and conditions. If you don't use work equipment to access the site and don't use do silly things like post in your work uniform then you can't be sacked.

This site is like a more direct dating site so anyone on here has rights to a private life. Those saying they would be sacked if they showed a face pic on here are wrong. Embarrassed if found out but not likely to lose their jobs.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Anyone working in education needs to be careful, teachers can and have been sacked for posting "indecent" pictures of themselves on the net. You may well be reinstated after a tribunal but would find it very hard to move jobs and pretty tough to stay in the same one.

Lots of contracts have a clause about bringing the profession into disrepute and that can be interpreted in many ways.

As long as you don't draw attention to yourself unduly I think you're probably ok and sending a face picture clothed is hardly obscene.......well I suppose it depends what you look.like.

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"We asked a question on exchanging face pics and a couple of single guys came back with 'I could be sacked if found on here'. Got us thinking ... could you ?

We worry about reputation and family, friends finding out but if an employer found you on a swingers site we don't think they could sack you under employment law.

It would depend on the job and circumstances..... ask the Glasgow police officer who was honey-trapped by the Sunday Mail with a fake female profile last year!!!

Being found out on here can (depending on contractual wording) be enough to be covered under a "bringing an organisation into disrepute" clause.

Personally I won't engage in conversation with anyone who doesnt show a face pic... but some people can be correct in saying they could lose their jobs in extreme circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... could you really be sacked if found on here? "

Another group of people who should be wary are people with less than 12 months' service with their employer. Employers can dismiss these 'new' staff members without giving a good reason, and the staff member has no right to claim unfair dismissal. Under these circumstances, a swinger might not even know that swinging was the reason for his/her dismissal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if on a works computer and depending on the job..you could be!

but otherwise no.. what people do in there time is nothing to do with work. this site is legal and for consenting adults

If employer deems it to be bringing business into disrepute they could especially if in work time and on their computers.

The poster who said they cannot under diversity regulations etc sre not correct as this boils down to not the site but howvand when accessed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know of a lorry driver that was on here who got sacked for having a meet in his cab. Wasnt very good for company image when his meet posted a pic naked tied to the front of his truck with the trucks name on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if on a works computer and depending on the job..you could be!

but otherwise no.. what people do in there time is nothing to do with work. this site is legal and for consenting adults

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yes unless in there time and there computer..but that would apply to any site you would be on in works time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know of a lorry driver that was on here who got sacked for having a meet in his cab. Wasnt very good for company image when his meet posted a pic naked tied to the front of his truck with the trucks name on it"

Sorry, but that made me laugh out loud. What a silly billy. There is such a things as being careful and discreet

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

Knowing the construction industry I don't think anyone would bat an eyelid if one of the guys was on a swinging site. Unless the employer was jealous. Lol. "

True I doubt it would be the grounds for dismissal in that industry, unless someone wanted you out and was looking for a reason but generally others are easier to find. The issue was that this is an industry with a well documented history of blacklisting anyone considered a disenter and that would definitely include anyone opting to fight a tribunal. This situation may exist in other industries but better hidden.

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By *uroladiesCouple (FF)
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I could be sacked. It's the code of conduct thing. There are a number of professions that (understandably) need their employees to hold particular views/moral standards. As a whole society doesn't get swinging and add 2?2 and get 5.

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

"... could you really be sacked if found on here?

It was being discussed, by government ministers, that this would get extended to 24 months to aid the competitiveness of our businesses but I'm not sure if it got any futher than that.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

"if on a works computer and depending on the job..you could be!

but otherwise no.. what people do in there time is nothing to do with work. this site is legal and for consenting adults

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Although not quite the same, a few years ago I was called upon to be a note taker in a disciplinary. A female member of staff had put a video up on RedTube of her and her boyfriend, doing what comes naturally. However, she was wearing her Pets At Home uniform. Made the front page of The Sun and everything. She was suspended and put through the disciplinary procedure.

In the end she was given a final written warning for bringing the company into disrepute. They didn't sack her simply for the increase in footfall and consequently profit in her store after the front page headline, of men coming through trying to get a gawp of her.

And the moral of the story, there is no such thing as bad publicity!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no ...... our boss knows we are on here and has even taken photo's for people we know (he is an amateur photographer) .... in reality - no one cares anyhow - the state of the country and peoples social lives , most people are on dating sites or whatever anyhow ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be open and honest in who and what you are and the reality of it is, that no one actually gives a monkeys ....... Gay people dont have a problem , why should swingers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Under equality and diversity legislation no they cannot sack you it would be discrimination"

'swinging' is not a protected characteristic. They would not discriminatory. They may be in breach of your employment contract or other employment law, depending on your employment status, length of service etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely its nobody's business but your own, even if you have a high-flying job, as long as its not made public and no=one where you work find out then why should you get sacked? If they did, then chances are its because they are on here theirselves?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Be open and honest in who and what you are and the reality of it is, that no one actually gives a monkeys ....... Gay people dont have a problem , why should swingers?"

because its illegal to discriminate on the grounds of sexual orientation. Being a swinger is unlikely to get you sacked but some of the pictures posted on here could in certain professions.

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By *rightloonMan
over a year ago

Stafford

OK Firstly: Don't be a plonker - not in works time and not with works equipment etc.

Secondly: Do you have a job where your character, integrity blah are critical?

Thirdly: Do you have many enemies at work who are trying to find anything to pin on you?

If not then all is totally fine.

I once starred in a highly controversial documentary on the Occult. The editing was not exactly flattering. I came over as a half crazed lunatic TBH. I talked about sex magick in a very graphical way.

I came out on film about this. Very few people knew this side of me beforehand.

I walked into work the next day..... People were clearly in shock..... I heard that the MD said: "That's not normal" at which point is secretary said: "I'd like to have an Tantric orgasm that lasts for days...." at which point he averted his gaze, shut up and it was never mentioned again.

Cue new found respect and notoriety.....??!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... could you really be sacked if found on here?

It was being discussed, by government ministers, that this would get extended to 24 months to aid the competitiveness of our businesses but I'm not sure if it got any futher than that."

yes its 24 months for unfair dismissal, discrimation has no minimum limit tho, but I doubt you would successfully prove discrimination in this case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be open and honest in who and what you are and the reality of it is, that no one actually gives a monkeys ....... Gay people dont have a problem , why should swingers?

because its illegal to discriminate on the grounds of sexual orientation. Being a swinger is unlikely to get you sacked but some of the pictures posted on here could in certain professions."

I'd argue that swinging is a lifestyle activity and not an orientation. Gay straight bi transgender etc are orientations but having a gangbang with strangers is a lifestyle

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

You don't choose to be gay or bi, you do choose to be a swinger, therefore it is not discrimination to sack you because you are a swinger.

Same as you can be fired for having tattoos, because they are a choice.

Basically if you choose to do something then you can be fired and not claim discrimination.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

unfair dismissal, claims, discrimination?...... ffs does anybody just wanna meet us and have a shag?

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By *uroladiesCouple (FF)
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Be open and honest in who and what you are and the reality of it is, that no one actually gives a monkeys ....... Gay people dont have a problem , why should swingers?

because its illegal to discriminate on the grounds of sexual orientation. Being a swinger is unlikely to get you sacked but some of the pictures posted on here could in certain professions.

I'd argue that swinging is a lifestyle activity and not an orientation. Gay straight bi transgender etc are orientations but having a gangbang with strangers is a lifestyle"

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

"Anyone working in education needs to be careful, teachers can and have been sacked for posting "indecent" pictures of themselves on the net. You may well be reinstated after a tribunal but would find it very hard to move jobs and pretty tough to stay in the same one.

Lots of contracts have a clause about bringing the profession into disrepute and that can be interpreted in many ways.

As long as you don't draw attention to yourself unduly I think you're probably ok and sending a face picture clothed is hardly obscene.......well I suppose it depends what you look.like."
thank goodness my pictures are not too indecent!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of contracts have a clause about bringing the profession into disrepute and that can be interpreted in many ways.

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Thank god im not a teacher then, just a very little cog in school environment

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok so some people have talked about morals and lifestyle choices leading to dismissal. What if your married and choose to have an affair and you a teacher (not having affair with a pupil or other teacher). Is that more immoral than being single and being on a swingers site? Would you be sacked ?

People have said you can't help being gay but maybe you can't help being a swinger or wanting to pursue sexual experimentation. Can swingers help wanting to extend their sexual experiences any more than gay people want to be with members of the same sex?

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look at this..... If some one is not willing to give his face picture to someone he has something to hide. Your employer is not going to sack you for being on a swing site.

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

" I look at this..... If some one is not willing to give his face picture to someone he has something to hide. Your employer is not going to sack you for being on a swing site. "

I am not employed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I imagine in some cases it is possible to be sacked from being on a swing site, right or wrong doesn't always come into it.

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Ok so some people have talked about morals and lifestyle choices leading to dismissal. What if your married and choose to have an affair and you a teacher (not having affair with a pupil or other teacher). Is that more immoral than being single and being on a swingers site? Would you be sacked ?

It isn't down to how we view ourselves but how others view us and that depends in this situation on the job we're in.

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

"Yes, I imagine in some cases it is possible to be sacked from being on a swing site, right or wrong doesn't always come into it.

Nowadays, You'd take the company to court and winn millions....so its not going to happen...unless that company has a death wish!

Your sexual preferences / attitude/ wishes/ desires/ appetites are irrelevant to your performance in a job...and that is all a company is interested in!

There are circumstances where the privacy and safety of a person become paramount but there is too much to say about that to limit it to this small forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is only one answer "NO"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"suppose if you're a priest/vicar you could be sacked"

a vicar ..no , as he is allowed to be sexually active ..i actually know a vicar on here

a priest ..yes ..as he is sworn to celibacy

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

teachers have "resigned" over pictures that they have published on the net of themselves on gay and straight sites. When I say resigned it was a case of jumping before being pushed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some naive viewpoints on here. The 'bringing the profession into disrepute' clausd is very capable of losing you your job. Being on here wouldn't cause that but a pic of your pussy being stuffed with your beaming face would. Teachers have been suspended for bikini 'glamour' shots ffs. Its about company image, not your freedoms or right to express yourself. Teaching, the judiciary, police, childcare etc all have expectations of moral conduct, rightly or wrongly, hypocritical or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know of a lady who was on deal or no deal and she worked in home care. The day after she won her 50p a newspaper reported a story on her of having a website for photography that contained explicit material. The problem was that wasn't her, it was the lady next to her on the show. The company asked her resign as it was an embaressment to them. She refused as she said all the customers knew the truth. So as she was on a zero hour contract they stopped giving her work and she had no choice to leave.

No idea what happened to her after.. But I hope she got back at that newspaper.

So I would def say if anyone in that profession was found on here, its not going to be good for them.

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By *EXY50ishWoman
over a year ago

Anywhere and nowhere

"Some naive viewpoints on here. The 'bringing the profession into disrepute' clausd is very capable of losing you your job. Being on here wouldn't cause that but a pic of your pussy being stuffed with your beaming face would. Teachers have been suspended for bikini 'glamour' shots ffs. Its about company image, not your freedoms or right to express yourself. Teaching, the judiciary, police, childcare etc all have expectations of moral conduct, rightly or wrongly, hypocritical or not"

V well said, and true. I would NEVER show a face pic. If people dont want to meet/chat then so be it. Ive said it before in here on similar posts and will say it again, someone could be pug ugly but be a damn good fuck. On a dating site a facepic might matter but on here ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In some professions where you have access to confidential information swinging could be considered a stackable offence as you could be a blackmail risk. This is particularly true if you have to sign the official secrets contract.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

no - I'm self-employed

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By *EXY50ishWoman
over a year ago

Anywhere and nowhere

"In some professions where you have access to confidential information swinging could be considered a stackable offence as you could be a blackmail risk. This is particularly true if you have to sign the official secrets contract."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As far as i understand it from my employers point of view, your employer can only stake a claim if:

1 - you make a direct link to working for/with them

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2 - by doing so, you bring the organisation in to disrepute

Social media is a hot topic with a lot of employers and I have been aware of a lot of individuals disciplined and/or dismissed from various organisations for their online activities on social media.

Be very careful, if you put up a face pic then that should be fine, just do not link yourself in anyway to your employer and, talk openly about (and name) your employer or colleagues and/or write any details about (and name) your employer then you should be fine

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As far as i understand it from my employers point of view, your employer can only stake a claim if:

1 - you make a direct link to working for/with them

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2 - by doing so, you bring the organisation in to disrepute

Social media is a hot topic with a lot of employers and I have been aware of a lot of individuals disciplined and/or dismissed from various organisations for their online activities on social media.

Totally agree. It's about linking to your company and linking your face and naughty pics. If you avoid this and are discreet you should be fine.

Was just thinking how similar being a swingers today must be like being gay 40 years ago. People are talking about immorality, blackmail, etc. and the way society judged gay people in those days Now rightly things have changed.

Perhaps we need a swinging couple in Coronation Street to change all that. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

BIG word disrepute ! and YES ! you could be sacked for being on this site ! as most employers would find it DISREPUTABLE ! and who ! would claim unfair dismissal ! and have there name in the PRESS ?

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

My work is care work for the elderly and it's agency. It's a private firm that caters mostly to the wealthy and prides itself on professional staff. I expect what I would get is not the sack but no hours work given. I would not dare share my swinging lifestyle at work.

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By *illynmintCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

If the Vatican find out, I will be buggered, literally !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll be out of work in a few weeks anyway so it don't matter anymore, won't have a job to get the sack from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a guy do this, refused to give me his mobile number incase his work found out but in all reality it wasnt his work he was worried about it was his gf! Haha

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

As with anything I'd say it just depends...

In certain professions you'd have to be careful, I have a friend who's a teacher and the school prohibits Facebook/twitter accounts, doubt they would allow FS.

You'd be daft to do anything on work property/location or anything that links you to a company.

Provided you are discrete and sensible then most people should be fine. It's not illegal, just a choice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Far more likely to be sacked for using FAB during working hours when one is supposed to be working, IMHO.

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

"Far more likely to be sacked for using FAB during working hours when one is supposed to be working, IMHO.

Agree... Wasting company time would be an easy way to fire someone, regardless of which site it is! Bet someone has been fired with a candy crush addiction lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We asked a question on exchanging face pics and a couple of single guys came back with 'I could be sacked if found on here'. Got us thinking ... could you ?

We worry about reputation and family, friends finding out but if an employer found you on a swingers site we don't think they could sack you under employment law.

It would depend on the job and circumstances..... ask the Glasgow police officer who was honey-trapped by the Sunday Mail with a fake female profile last year!!!"

Yes but he was on duty, as long as you don't use a work computer during working hours (even on a break) you could be laid off

Mayby ask your employer :p

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By *lentyoffun40Couple
over a year ago

Lancashire

I think I could ! Almost definitely

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