FabSwingers.com forum: new male can't seem to meet

By (user no longer on site) OP
4 weeks ago

hi guys I have been on this site for a while and I don't seem to get any messages of anyone who is serious any help would be much appreciated Blackpool

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By *WB85Man
4 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Theres lots of similar threads and your profile is similar.

No profile pic for many is a no. It doesn't have to be your face....just something fun and friendly.

2 public pics....both your dick. Is that all you have to offer?

Very basic bio...doesn't really sell yourself and the 420 reference may not help.

Seriously though....treat fab like a regular dating site, you wouldn't have your dick on public show there.

Good luck.

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By *issmorganWoman
4 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

So all we know is you're 420 friendly, 21 and have a penis op.

Would you meet yourself based on that?.

The warning at the end, is as long as what you've written.

It needs other pics and more info.

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By *arryandhedgehogCouple
4 weeks ago

Essex

You ignored all the advice given in the other thread you started even after someone said you’ll be back asking why you’re not getting any meets.

Your profile is terrible do better before you start trying to contact people.

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By *harAndBryCouple
4 weeks ago

Downham Market

"hi guys I have been on this site for a while and I don't seem to get any messages of anyone who is serious any help would be much appreciated Blackpool "

You've literally been given the answers both here and in your previous post. You're now showing yourself as someone that can't be bothered to put any effort in at all.

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
4 weeks ago

Didcot

"hi guys I have been on this site for a while and I don't seem to get any messages of anyone who is serious any help would be much appreciated Blackpool "

Drop the 420 reference for a start, I'm surprised Fabswingers allows mention of illegal substances, or at least slang terms for them, Fabguys has a zero tolerance policy, even mention of legal highs are banned.

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By *onyHoveMan
4 weeks ago

North East

Read similar threads...you will find plenty of sage advice throughout

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

Your profile is rubbish it says and shows nothing except you are 21, you smoke and have a cock.

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By *rectus HumongusMan
4 weeks ago

uranus

With you being on the site a while you should know the score regarding amount of males to females.

Not exactly rocket science and to see the problem.

Males are like a tiny fish in the ocean.

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By *rectus HumongusMan
4 weeks ago

uranus

"Your profile is rubbish it says and shows nothing except you are 21, you smoke and have a cock."

Well said, as a male myself it does my head in the same questions by men

Just wish they read the multitude threads on this topic.

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By *rectus HumongusMan
4 weeks ago

uranus

"hi guys I have been on this site for a while and I don't seem to get any messages of anyone who is serious any help would be much appreciated Blackpool

You've literally been given the answers both here and in your previous post. You're now showing yourself as someone that can't be bothered to put any effort in at all."

I guess based on the o p starting same thing time after time perhaps he needs help from mummy how to converse with women😄

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By *ink vixenCouple
4 weeks ago

Medway

It certainly is a mystery and there’s literally nothing you can do about it is there?

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By *onyHoveMan
4 weeks ago

North East

It's crazy.

If there's something that piques my interest here I do a forum search and have a read. It's always illuminating.

There's a wealth of great information on them there pages!

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By *ndy_blue_eyesMan
4 weeks ago

Dewsbury

Ye I'm afraid it's not a great bio might appeal to a 20 year old idk but your looking upto age 40 just can't see it working for a lady old enough to be your mum.

Do a local search who's near without filters this might give you some answers. I did one recently 1 female 3 couples 4tv and 53 guys. Not great for a average guy

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By *lan157Man
4 weeks ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

Here is what you do OP. You get yourself a regular girlfriend and you suggest to her that you should try swinging. She agrees and you go off to clubs and meet meet other people and your swinging. Much easier than being a single man on fab .

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By *iss DevilWoman
4 weeks ago

Bedford

OP, I'm not going to repeat what others said, but I have one question- did you go to the event at Club Play that you asked to be added to the list for? If yes, ask the club/host to verify you, as that is going to help, to some extent. Your profile does need a lot of work, and many people on here would not want a 21 year old anywhere near them as they may have kids your age, or look for more mature people.

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By *ornyste 1000Man
4 weeks ago

Durham Langley Park

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By *oobsAreMyKryptoniteMan
4 weeks ago

Bicester

Am I the only one who read this and checked out his profile, and was confused - where does it say he's had a penis operation?

"So all we know is you're 420 friendly, 21 and have a penis op."

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By *ull of PuddinWoman
4 weeks ago

isle of munters

"Am I the only one who read this and checked out his profile, and was confused - where does it say he's had a penis operation?

So all we know is you're 420 friendly, 21 and have a penis op."

Lol OP is opening post, op is opening poster

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By *eeshellsCouple
4 weeks ago

Reading

To put it bluntly: You haven't bothered with your profile, so why would we even bother replying to you?

Are your messages as lacking in content as your profile?

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By *ornyste 1000Man
3 weeks ago

Durham Langley Park

Any advice are is it me

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By *oiluvfunMan
3 weeks ago

Penrith

"hi guys I have been on this site for a while and I don't seem to get any messages of anyone who is serious any help would be much appreciated Blackpool "

OMG! You live in Blackpool OP, and you're looking to meet women in Fab? That's literally your first mistake, and probably the biggest lol! I remember sitting in the Albert, getting a meal before venturing up to Club Play. There were so many groups of ladies flitting in and out of there while I was in, it really got me fired up for a great evening ahead! Would any of these ladies be in Club Play I wondered? Everyone in the Fab forum recommends you to "Just go to a club", "just be nice, and sociable, you'll be fine"......so long as there are any women in of course!

The point I'm making OP is; you will meet more ladies on a Wednesday night pretty much anywhere around Blackpool, than you will in..........6 months in here? Just get out and about in the 'normal' bars and pubs, and you'll be fine. Maybe come back to Fab when you need a rest from actually meeting women

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By *oiluvfunMan
3 weeks ago

Penrith

"Any advice are is it me "

Too many guys in Fab, versus woefully too few ladies. Literally searching for a needle in a haystack.

Durham is a great night out too! Don't waste your time in here bud

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By *essTTWoman
3 weeks ago

Birmingham

2 lines on the profile and 2 blurry pictures....

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By *inkPomPomWoman
3 weeks ago

Isle of Man

"With you being on the site a while you should know the score regarding amount of males to females.

Not exactly rocket science and to see the problem.

Males are like a tiny fish in the ocean."

Not sure it's a numbers game in this instance

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By *oiluvfunMan
3 weeks ago

Penrith

"2 lines on the profile and 2 blurry pictures...."

Bloke in my local updates has one line on his profile, which reads thus;

"No point writing anything in here no one reads it"

He has one pic of his crotch in a pair of trackies.

He got a meet on Friday....

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By *harAndBryCouple
3 weeks ago

Downham Market

"Any advice are is it me "

Take a look at your pics and whittle them down as they're all very much the same, though better than most guys.

But your profile text....literally nothing that tells anyone anything about you or why we'd want to meet you.

Yes, it's mostly physical attraction here for a lot of people, but we still need to know we can have a conversation!

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By *essTTWoman
3 weeks ago

Birmingham

"2 lines on the profile and 2 blurry pictures....

Bloke in my local updates has one line on his profile, which reads thus;

"No point writing anything in here no one reads it"

He has one pic of his crotch in a pair of trackies.

He got a meet on Friday....

And this has annoyed you, why?

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By *oiluvfunMan
3 weeks ago

Penrith

"2 lines on the profile and 2 blurry pictures....

Bloke in my local updates has one line on his profile, which reads thus;

"No point writing anything in here no one reads it"

He has one pic of his crotch in a pair of trackies.

He got a meet on Friday....

And this has annoyed you, why?"

It hasn’t “annoyed” me as such, I was pointing out someone with even less perceived ‘effort’ on their profile can still get meets. The guy has zero previous meet verifications too.

Feel free to dm me if you’d like to view his profile, as being a single guy in Fab, whatever I say is completely untrustworthy 👍

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By *essTTWoman
3 weeks ago

Birmingham

"2 lines on the profile and 2 blurry pictures....

Bloke in my local updates has one line on his profile, which reads thus;

"No point writing anything in here no one reads it"

He has one pic of his crotch in a pair of trackies.

He got a meet on Friday....

And this has annoyed you, why?

It hasn’t “annoyed” me as such, I was pointing out someone with even less perceived ‘effort’ on their profile can still get meets. The guy has zero previous meet verifications too.

Feel free to dm me if you’d like to view his profile, as being a single guy in Fab, whatever I say is completely untrustworthy 👍"

I don't need to view his profile

I don't spent any time at all monitoring other people's profiles

And outside of these threads I rarely check profiles

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By *ornyste 1000Man
3 weeks ago

Durham Langley Park

Any advice is welcome

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By *ovinglife!40Man
3 weeks ago

"hi guys I have been on this site for a while and I don't seem to get any messages of anyone who is serious any help would be much appreciated Blackpool "

It's a very poor profile.

The warning is an absolute waste of time.

And you speak of drugs.

Were you actually expecting any contact??

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By *ovinglife!40Man
3 weeks ago

"hi guys I have been on this site for a while and I don't seem to get any messages of anyone who is serious any help would be much appreciated Blackpool "

And two cock photos.

Absolutely fantastic!!

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By *harAndBryCouple
3 weeks ago

Downham Market

"Any advice is welcome "

Can almost excuse hijacking someone's thread once, but twice? Maybe start your own then you'd know what advice is for you and not the OP.

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By *urvyMummy90Woman
2 weeks ago

Manchester

Put some effort into your profile.

I was getting 150 messages a day from single guys, some of them had great profiles, guess what, I replied to them because I feel they had put the effort into it. A nice bio, make me laugh or smile....some nice photos not just of your phallus. All we know from your profile is that you have a cock and you like to puff.....ohh and you're from Blackpool.

If you don't stand out, you ain't going to get noticed in the tsunami of messages we get.

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By *tlanshiaWoman
2 weeks ago

Chatham

As others have said, your profile is bad. No pfp and age alone would have it deleted without being read for me.

Put in effort, add pics that aren’t your dick. And show people who you are.

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By *ersatilefoxMan
2 weeks ago

Notts

Unfortunately even with a standout profile we outnumber women 100:1 they have a massive gene pool to choose from, so it's pot luck for most guys on here. Keep trying, don't get disheartened, it does happen.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
2 weeks ago

Norwich

"hi guys I have been on this site for a while and I don't seem to get any messages of anyone who is serious any help would be much appreciated Blackpool

And two cock photos.

Absolutely fantastic!!"

And not even good cock photos

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By *ssexlad35Man
2 weeks ago

Hullbridge, Essex

Maybe try and interact with people in the forums too, dont get expect a meet, or for somehting to happen, im pretty new to all this as well but understand that everyone on here are human and like to chat and have a laugh, get to know people, interact.

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By *urvyMummy90Woman
2 weeks ago

Manchester

If you're serious.....give your profile some work and maybe try an event at a swingers club where single males are welcome. It shows people you are serious about meeting and also it gives you the opportunity to come across in person. Fewer guys in a club that there is on here so you have a better chance to connect.

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By *iscreetfuncpl12Couple
2 weeks ago

Somerset

OP. Where does one buy shares in FAB now it’s a publicly traded entity? Maybe worth a punt now the cash ISA limits are being reduced.

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By *ull of PuddinWoman
2 weeks ago

isle of munters

2 weeks later and there's no change to the profile apart from status which is 4 20, so I suspect the OPs using the site to find that kind of buddy

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By *carlettsWoman
2 weeks ago

Harpenden

Can I even be bothered.....

Nope

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By *oobsAreMyKryptoniteMan
2 weeks ago

Bicester

They've rocketed to the moon since the great smut famine of '22 and now you can only buy them "under the counter". My investment has doubled, and of course I was planning to HODL and one day purchase a small Spanish island with them, but I'm nothing if not kind and generous to a fault - if anybody wants £1K-worth just send £500 cash and I'll post them to you so you can double your money as well

"OP. Where does one buy shares in FAB now it’s a publicly traded entity? Maybe worth a punt now the cash ISA limits are being reduced. "

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By *ondickMan
2 weeks ago

hanpton

Hi everyone, was hoping for some advice. I’m not getting many meets or messages and I’m wondering if there’s anything I should change about my profile.

I’d really appreciate any honest feedback on what makes a profile stand out. Is it the photos, the bio, verification, or something else? Any tips from people who’ve had success would be great. Thanks in advance!

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By *ete123321Man
2 weeks ago

wexford

I find it very frustrating not getting a reply back in know so many females get loads of messages but I would really like some response and interaction if my profile is Sh*t I'm happy to take advice thanks

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Central

What makes someone stand out, is when your profile is fully you and people can assess how much they like you. Most will never be mutually compatible and so you can only predict that and know that they can accurately assess you and you've given it your best

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By *ull of PuddinWoman
2 weeks ago

isle of munters

I'd say to anyone the posted here for profile advice to use the search forums function

There's 100s of advice threads

The common theme is NO dic pics as a profile pic

I'd also say realising it's a site for naughty shenanigans but does it really have to be all about that in the bio?

I'd rather read an interesting profile with humour, hobbies, personality than a profile that says 'I'll make it fun and make you come'

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By *lan157Man
2 weeks ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

"I'd say to anyone the posted here for profile advice to use the search forums function

There's 100s of advice threads

The common theme is NO dic pics as a profile pic

I'd also say realising it's a site for naughty shenanigans but does it really have to be all about that in the bio?

I'd rather read an interesting profile with humour, hobbies, personality than a profile that says 'I'll make it fun and make you come'"

I wonder if listing hobbies could be a clinching factor in getting interest ?. Would " I like to play the piano" be more successful than " I stay up all night playing computer games" for example. Ultimately I suppose if it's a hobby you share it could help but some would put me off. "I am rarely seen without a wine glass in my hand" for example.

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By *rectus HumongusMan
2 weeks ago

uranus

"Theres lots of similar threads and your profile is similar.

No profile pic for many is a no. It doesn't have to be your face....just something fun and friendly.

2 public pics....both your dick. Is that all you have to offer?

Very basic bio...doesn't really sell yourself and the 420 reference may not help.

Seriously though....treat fab like a regular dating site, you wouldn't have your dick on public show there.

Good luck. "

I agree fully with you. One thing I wish that some topics could be pinned so folk can read segments on the topic just saves the same question asked day after day.

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By *hisfuckingguyMan
2 weeks ago

Bradford

He's gone

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By *b03Man
2 weeks ago

Exeter

Another one bites the dust

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By *omsarah73Couple
2 weeks ago

Suffolk

I think people join and think there going to meet someone in ten minutes.

Your profile and how you show yourself is one of the main things.

Go to socials in you area say hello to people then verified posts will come and that will help.

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By *umagain58Man
2 weeks ago

London

"I think people join and think there going to meet someone in ten minutes.

Your profile and how you show yourself is one of the main things.

Go to socials in you area say hello to people then verified posts ex will come and that will help."

Exactly. You can’t expect instant response as a guy on here and if you do it shows lack of understanding in my view. It took me a very long time to get my first meet on here after lots of nice chats. Had some fun since with nice people and hope it can continue if I am lucky enough

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By *oiluvfunMan
2 weeks ago

Penrith

"I'd say to anyone the posted here for profile advice to use the search forums function

There's 100s of advice threads

The common theme is; there are only 6 single females in Fab for the entire UK. Look elsewhere online if you're actually looking to meet single ladies. Otherwise; just enjoy the banter of the Forum "

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By *umagain58Man
5 days ago

London

"hi guys I have been on this site for a while and I don't seem to get any messages of anyone who is serious any help would be much appreciated Blackpool "

Did any of this help you or anyone else

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