FabSwingers.com forum: Ptsd

By *eralDeviant OP Woman
1 week ago

Hull

So just wondering how people manange to get over bad experiences.

Ive done everything in the last 8 years and day to day dont have an issue, just abit cautious. But yesterday went to a social event and ptsd took over and i was suddenly outside trying to pull myself back into my body. All because someone walked at me a little too loudly, too fast and blocked my exit.

The blocked exit thing is a persistant problem.

I cant seem to unlearn, its engrained, automatic

Im fine until i try to ooen up to community or life at all and then its all exsactly the same as though zero therapy has been attended.

Any tips, any grounding ideas, brain retraining i dunno at this point

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
1 week ago

East Sussex

I can't help with that but I didn't want to read without bumping this. Maybe someone with experience will have some useful strategies for you

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By *eralDeviant OP Woman
1 week ago

Hull

Much appreciated i know its abit out of step with the theme of the site but it was situations around this site which caused the issues, seems fitting to ask here based on that.

Its like the styles of consent convo that is avoided here too. Funny the things fab finds taboo

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By *onderWomanWlvWoman
1 week ago

Wolverhampton

Have you heard of EMDR therapy? It was life changing for me. I was lucky enough to get it on the NHS.

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By *eralDeviant OP Woman
1 week ago

Hull

"Have you heard of EMDR therapy? It was life changing for me. I was lucky enough to get it on the NHS."

I could not access it before.. Thanks for the idea ill see if its something i can pursue again.. It might be a little less niche now and be something affordable and private.

I did read that walking activates the brain in similar ways and bilateral tapping.

Just need a brain hack, catches me out and eachtime its such a shock to the system.

Im really pleased you had a positive experience with it and shared, thankyou

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By *he Happy ManMan
1 week ago

Merseyside

"So just wondering how people manange to get over bad experiences.

The blocked exit thing is a persistant problem.

I cant seem to unlearn, its engrained, automatic

Im fine until i try to ooen up to community or life at all and then its all exsactly the same as though zero therapy has been attended.

Any tips, any grounding ideas, brain retraining i dunno at this point"

I think a therapy called EFT would help you. EFT = Emotional Freedom Technique.

Do some research and find a good EFT therapist in your area. Ask questions. Ask if they know how to help people with PTSD.

Don't judge them on price. A therapist charging more does not mean they are better than others therapists charging less.

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By *ichaelsmyMan
1 week ago

douglas

i have sent you a private message

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
7 days ago

Central

Psychology has developed greater experience at dealing with people with PTSD, so it's worth considering therapy with someone with expertise

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By *ctionSandwichCouple
7 days ago

Newcastle under Lyme

You block the exit or doorway before they do. Problem solved.

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By *tlanshiaWoman
7 days ago

Chatham

It can be a long and painful process, and often it doesn’t feel there is an end. I promise there is.

Do you attend with people you trust? Having a check in buddy sometimes helps.

Otherwise talking therapies and perhaps a controlled exposure therapy might work

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By *lassiccokeorpepsimaxCouple
6 days ago

Cardiff

EMDR. As PP said, life-changing x

Mrs x

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By *eralDeviant OP Woman
6 days ago

Hull

Feel i should feed back abit incase anyone else needs this at somepoint too, as ive had a couple of really good suggestions.

Direct from Dms 'never, ever, ever be afraid to talk to someone, get information, advice or anothers experience. because that will help you to understand your own.'

Rapid Eye Movement Desensitisation Therapy. REMD/ EMDR has been suggested several times now and it is something ive looked into before and i think is more available now. (Ive used walking and bilateral tapping up until now).

Practical suggestions,

A check in to keep grounded, lower the stress or going with someone.

Writing a diary of 'triggers not trauma' a phrase i think im going to embrace as it feels like a way forward. So patterns can be identified, root 'triggers' can be managed. (such as this example for me, it wasnt the guy walking with purpose and being loud, it was the fact i was sat down, if id been standing moving my position out of feeling threat would have been easier and not a reflex).

Scents, 1 harsh/horriable to bring you back to now and 1 pleasant for a steadying grounding in the present.

Small fidget to help stay focused in the present or at least in your own body as a way of navigating known 'triggers'.

I just want to say this doesnt seem to go away, but i really appreciate the suggestions with how to manage and reduce the times that triggers seemingly come out of no where.

Thanks for catching me folks, truely needed the community and grateful to you all x

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By *imon and saffyCouple
6 days ago

southampton

EMDR if you don't have the money or the time delay is too much you can try it for yourself.

It originally came from a therapist having a long walk in the countryside while thinking about their issues. They found that they felt better afterwards. As you walk looking around you at different things have a think about what is bothering you. It could help.

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By *eve500Man
6 days ago

Leeds

Suggest Bufo and Ayahuasca.

They don't cover the symptoms like drugs do, they give you the tools to face the trauma that causes the ptsd. I've seen many helped massively in this way.

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By *our New Play ThingsCouple
5 days ago

Leyland

I understand where you’re coming from OP.

Have you tried the psychological shrug? Deep breath in nice and slow, really into your diaphragm. Then when you’re almost full, stop, and do one short sharp intake of breath and hold for a second or two.

Longer term, inner child work can be incredibly

Impactful. It’s amazing what we hold onto from childhood and how it comes out in so much that we experience as an adult.

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By *ustintime69Man
3 days ago

Forest Hill

I don’t have any simple answers to complex issues but it has to be said that anyone blocking your exit like that needs to be told that they are a predator and out of order!

Fab and the contacts you meet should always be consensual even for those who like the rougher end of the fab spectrum!

Oh and also I have spent a long time engaging in various talking therapies for childhood and relationship issues and it has made me feel safer, not necessarily happier but definitely more comfortable with myself, it just took finding the right therapist for me to make it work m!

Good luck and hope you find a pathway that works for you

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By *iCurious4WomenMan
1 day ago

Inverclyde

"So just wondering how people manange to get over bad experiences.

The blocked exit thing is a persistant problem.

I cant seem to unlearn, its engrained, automatic

Im fine until i try to ooen up to community or life at all and then its all exsactly the same as though zero therapy has been attended.

Any tips, any grounding ideas, brain retraining i dunno at this point"

It may sound strange, but ashwagandha, rhodiola rosea, and magnesium has helped me deal with PTSD.

It’s certainly not an easy condition to live with. I hope you manage to get better x

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By *lassiccokeorpepsimaxCouple
1 day ago

Cardiff

Any tips, any grounding ideas, brain retraining i dunno at this point

It may sound strange, but ashwagandha, rhodiola rosea, and magnesium has helped me deal with PTSD.

It’s certainly not an easy condition to live with. I hope you manage to get better x

I've heard good things about magnesium too. Will have to give it a go!

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By *26StitchMan
14 hours ago

Hucknall

EMDR is a brilliant therapy. Its such a dumb and simple idea but it takes training to do it. The theory is this: when we remember something we unconsciously move our eyes into one corner looking up. When we imagine something we move our eyes to a different direction. What we are doing is 'looking' at different parts of our brain as we are accessing them.

Trauma memory is stuck in your short term memory buffer. It needs to be processed and filed in the long term memory storage.

By getting you to focus on the memory, an emdr practitioner will ask you to move your eyes in a certain pattern, essentially using them like a cursor to access the parts of your brain needed to drag the memory from the short term buffer , through your processor, and back again until it drops into your long term memory and loses its emotional connection.

Emdr is available on the nhs via step 3 iapt services (talking therapy) but its not the favoured technique. Trauma focused cbt is generally tried first (there's more ppl qualified) , but the key thing is if one technique doesnt work GO BACK AND ASK FOR AN ALTERNATIVE. that way you can access emdr.

Good luck

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By *iCurious4WomenMan
11 hours ago

Inverclyde

Any tips, any grounding ideas, brain retraining i dunno at this point

It may sound strange, but ashwagandha, rhodiola rosea, and magnesium has helped me deal with PTSD.

It’s certainly not an easy condition to live with. I hope you manage to get better x

I've heard good things about magnesium too. Will have to give it a go!

Magnesium Glycinate, Magnesium L-Threonate, and Magnesium Taurate are the most effective forms for mental health due to high bioavailability and specific neurological benefits

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