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By *onymerton OP   Man
over a year ago

walthamstow

I know this is a silly subject to bring up on a swingers site but here it goes, i splilt up with My ex girlfriend to get with a girl i met on a night out with a friend 4 years ago, things seemed really stale with my then girlfriend so i thought id give this new girl a try, i was 26 at the time, and caused her a lot of hurt, i never stopped thinking about her and now im single i saw her last week whilst driving and im now thinking of contacting her, is it best to let sleeping dogs lie, or test the water with her?

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

She's an ex for a reason.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

You're going to do what you want to do, but bear in mind she might have a current boyfriend. Who's bigger than you. And a MMA practitioner. And homicidal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sack the idea dude

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By *ssexdelights69Couple
over a year ago

Basildon

did she see you? is she thinking the same? leave it a week or two and if you are still thinking about it then, nothing ventured nothing gained

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just churned this over in my mind quite frantically.

There are many reasons for and against but I think ultimately is boils down to the fact that you left her for someone else.

Doe she really deserve any more heartache from you?

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By *onymerton OP   Man
over a year ago

walthamstow

Maybe your right mate, to be honest when i broke up with her i was young and stupid, plus i had a few issues at the time, im pretty sure she is still single and if i got back with her id make sure id never hurt her again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe your right mate, to be honest when i broke up with her i was young and stupid, plus i had a few issues at the time, im pretty sure she is still single and if i got back with her id make sure id never hurt her again"

Well if you really mean it give it a try, but if she says no, I wouldn't pursue it out of respect to her.

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By *onymerton OP   Man
over a year ago

walthamstow

Thanks mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tread carefully. You hurt her once so she may not welcome an approach from you with open arm. Good luck though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U need to ask urself why it ended in the first place? And even though u may have had issues at the time and being young ... What makes u think it won't happen again! Personally I would never go back... But its totally up to u x

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By *nvercoupleCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

Nothing ventured nothing gained. Ask her out for a coffee. If she agrees let her take the lead and go at her pace.

If she agrees be prepared for alot of anger against you from her family and friends. It was them that had to pick up the pieces when you left her.

Best of luck

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By *onymerton OP   Man
over a year ago

walthamstow

Thanks legs, and your legs are amazing by the way

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By *onymerton OP   Man
over a year ago

walthamstow


"Nothing ventured nothing gained. Ask her out for a coffee. If she agrees let her take the lead and go at her pace.

If she agrees be prepared for alot of anger against you from her family and friends. It was them that had to pick up the pieces when you left her.

I know, her mum was never to keen on me anyway, for all i know she could well tell me to clear off, but il never know if i dont test the water

Best of luck"

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

would you tell her your a fab member if u got her back or are you planning on starting the whole thing again based on a lie?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks legs, and your legs are amazing by the way"

You're welcome and thanks

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By *onymerton OP   Man
over a year ago

walthamstow

Nah id come off here, i havent been sexually active on here for almost a year and just use it at the moment for forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do it! My brother was in the same position I encouraged him to contact her and they got back together, going strong now! You never no!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

go for it, what else apart from her telling you to bugger off can happen?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So since you dumped her have you often thought about getting back with her? Or is it just now you are single that getting back with her seems a good idea?

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By *riendlymasseurMan
over a year ago

birmingham Warwickshire &Worcestershire

Go for it mate! No regrets!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for it you never know she could be the one for you

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By *onymerton OP   Man
over a year ago

walthamstow


"So since you dumped her have you often thought about getting back with her? Or is it just now you are single that getting back with her seems a good idea?"

Yeah i always thought about her, but at the time id been with her for 3 years and was under pressure to take the next step, i think i wasnt ready at the time

And was looking for a way out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So since you dumped her have you often thought about getting back with her? Or is it just now you are single that getting back with her seems a good idea?

Yeah i always thought about her, but at the time id been with her for 3 years and was under pressure to take the next step, i think i wasnt ready at the time

And was looking for a way out"

Maybe I'm wrong but you seem to think she will just go back with you as if nothing happened: she's probably still mad at you or simply doesn't care about you anymore...

Why not just sending her a message like "hey, I saw you recently and I tought I'd take some news" and then go with the flow!

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By *onymerton OP   Man
over a year ago

walthamstow


"So since you dumped her have you often thought about getting back with her? Or is it just now you are single that getting back with her seems a good idea?

Yeah i always thought about her, but at the time id been with her for 3 years and was under pressure to take the next step, i think i wasnt ready at the time

And was looking for a way out

Good shout mate, your right as shes hardly gonna be friendly with me

Maybe I'm wrong but you seem to think she will just go back with you as if nothing happened: she's probably still mad at you or simply doesn't care about you anymore...

Why not just sending her a message like "hey, I saw you recently and I tought I'd take some news" and then go with the flow!

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol! your going to try and get back with a woman that you dumped so you could ride someone else.

Good luck, your going to need it and learn to sleep with one open if you do get back together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You never know... sometimes you can forgive (to the condition that the other doesn't fuck up again, but that's another story!)

If you really miss her, have changed and are ready to make efforts to be nicer with her, get in touch with her and see what happens (might become friends at least)... If you don't, just go your own way and leave her alone!

It's just my advice but I think it's the best for the both of you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes u could say she's an ex for a reason and I'm much a believer in that if u can leave for someone else(whether or not cheating involved) in ur head she wasn't right for u. Think why is it ur thinking if her? If its answers like ur bored/singke/curious back away. If its genuinely u have feelings for her and she's not just a space filler then contact her. She may feel the same but prepare urself for both response. Hope things work out for u xx

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By *ucy and CarlCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

I know where I would tell you to go. Saying that I might say yes. Give it a while then do the same thing to you just to give you a taste of your own medicine

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"I know this is a silly subject to bring up on a swingers site but here it goes, i splilt up with My ex girlfriend to get with a girl i met on a night out with a friend 4 years ago, things seemed really stale with my then girlfriend so i thought id give this new girl a try, i was 26 at the time, and caused her a lot of hurt, i never stopped thinking about her and now im single i saw her last week whilst driving and im now thinking of contacting her, is it best to let sleeping dogs lie, or test the water with her?"

your dead a long time mate, test the water and if you get a drop dead you sh.t at least youll know where you stand.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts


"Maybe your right mate, to be honest when i broke up with her i was young and stupid, plus i had a few issues at the time, im pretty sure she is still single and if i got back with her id make sure id never hurt her again"

The thing is, you can't promise that! People change and feelings change so there are no guarantees in life.

You "got bored" of her once, so what's to stop it happening again?

And are you sure that right now it's not just a case of keeping her on the back burner as pursuing the other girl didn't work out? Because that's how I'd feel.

She's your ex for a reason, I'd leave it as that.

- Amy. x

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I know this is a silly subject to bring up on a swingers site but here it goes, i splilt up with My ex girlfriend to get with a girl i met on a night out with a friend 4 years ago, things seemed really stale with my then girlfriend so i thought id give this new girl a try, i was 26 at the time, and caused her a lot of hurt, i never stopped thinking about her and now im single i saw her last week whilst driving and im now thinking of contacting her, is it best to let sleeping dogs lie, or test the water with her?"

You found her stale and the first chance you got you went sniffing elsewhere. Now you're single and bored you want to inflict yourself on your ex.

Not looking stale now you're on your jack. Hopefully she's moved on. Leave her alone and go trawl your selfish arse elsewhere!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did she know you dumped her in favour of someone else? Because women don't like that you know. At a guess I'd say (assuming she did know) that she either hates you or has totally gotten over you, 4 years is a long time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you need to write to Simon Bates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know this is a silly subject to bring up on a swingers site but here it goes, i splilt up with My ex girlfriend to get with a girl i met on a night out with a friend 4 years ago, things seemed really stale with my then girlfriend so i thought id give this new girl a try, i was 26 at the time, and caused her a lot of hurt, i never stopped thinking about her and now im single i saw her last week whilst driving and im now thinking of contacting her, is it best to let sleeping dogs lie, or test the water with her?"

so it happened 4 years ago..you caused her alot of hurt...yet never stopped thinking about her????

so done your thing for 4 years and now back to her?? why now????

surely if u didnt stop thinking about her you would of done something sooner?? and what happened to the girl you went off with???

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By *ombshellWoman
over a year ago

islington

ex's are ex's for a reason, onward and upward... you wouldnt go back to a lit firework would you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe your right mate, to be honest when i broke up with her i was young and stupid, plus i had a few issues at the time, im pretty sure she is still single and if i got back with her id make sure id never hurt her again"

Mate u r on swingers site and as u r single u on here 4 what ?

Am gonna guess sex , u r like me my friend a filthy bastard and I think always liable 2 cheat , if u really like / love your ex let it go u finished her 4 some1 else and the reason u left her was cause more than likely the other girl was either fitter or dirter

Enjoy your weekend

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