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By *ightDesires OP   Couple
9 hours ago

Northampton

Quick question for the Fab hive mind...

Is our profile too long or too detailed?

We seem to get plenty of views, but not much engagement, so we're wondering if people are opening it, seeing a wall of text, and making a swift tactical retreat or maybe we just don't seem very approachable. 😂

We thought being open and detailed would help people get a feel for us, but perhaps we've accidentally written the director's cut.

No offence will be taken—we asked for feedback, so feel free to be brutally kind. 😄

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By *eliWoman
9 hours ago

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Erm it is rather long. The thing that would stop me replying the most though? It's AI. Not you.

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By *he MinionMan
9 hours ago

Surrey

I've seen longer.

If you feel it portrays you in the light you wish to be portrayed, then leave it.

Some wont like it, some wont mind.

Cant please everyone x

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By *wcoMan
9 hours ago

West Midlands

You need to get the Sydney warning up. A mate of mine didn't have it and when he got home from work one day his house had gone.

Do you rent?

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By *ed FlameWoman
9 hours ago

South Gloucestershire

Honestly I took one look and left.

That is way too long.

Sorry.

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By *ou only live onceMan
9 hours ago

London

I agree with Meli. AI language is a bit bleugh - quite hard to get past it.

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By *abulincsCouple
9 hours ago

near a bridge

We took one look thought no not wading through all that

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By *lim_funMan
9 hours ago

Hebden bridge


"Erm it is rather long. The thing that would stop me replying the most though? It's AI. Not you."

Maybe they just like using "-".

Didn't read too long.

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By *ightDesires OP   Couple
9 hours ago

Northampton

Thanks for the feedback we will look at changing it to something much shorter , that's already a fair few people saying it's too long , which we did have a feeling was the case.

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By *oneyBee200Woman
9 hours ago

Kent

I couldn’t read it all to be honest. Try and prioritise what is most important to you then the rest could be discussed in messages. Only a thought but if it’s all important then I’m out of ideas.

Good luck 🤞

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By *ensuallover1000Man
9 hours ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

It’s certainly detailed.

But fair play; Your profile - your rules 😃👍🏻

(I just gawk at pics mainly ‘cos I’m as lazy as all fu- well, suffice to say, I’m really lazy) 😁

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By *r_InnocentMan
9 hours ago

Rushden

It's rather long and doesn't really hold people's interest.

I would consider making it about a third of what it is.

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By *WB85Man
9 hours ago

Staffordshire

Its great that you know exactly what you're looking for, but it is rather long.

Its quite nice to give the main parts and discuss further when chatting to potential matches.

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By *hat.coupleCouple
9 hours ago

Kent

Eek! Can someone have a nose at our profile and let me know if its too long please? No AI used on ours at all but concerned if its too long now.

Ta muchly xx

Mrs x

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By *eekaboo BellyMan
9 hours ago

Bradford


"We took one look thought no not wading through all that "

Same

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
9 hours ago

Carlisle usually

There's a few chunks of that that even if they aren't AI are so generic and everyman that they're pointless.

Can I ask why it's single guys and single females? As opposed to males and females or guys and girls. I'm always put out by terms which other us as if we're a different species.

Most people aren't for most people. If not everyone who sees your profile contacts you that's fine. Most people won't be your people anyway 💜

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By *Effy-Woman
9 hours ago

Scotland

I'm not reading all of that.

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By *ision21Man
9 hours ago

Newcastle Under Lyme

Quick question for the Fab hive mind...

Is our profile too long or too detailed?

We seem to get plenty of views, but not much engagement, so we're wondering if people are opening it, seeing a wall of text, and making a swift tactical retreat or maybe we just don't seem very approachable. 😂

We thought being open and detailed would help people get a feel for us, but perhaps we've accidentally written the director's cut.

No offence will be taken—we asked for feedback, so feel free to be brutally kind. 😄

You're stating everything on your profile which you're looking for so from that perspective it's clearly outlined.

Some people will read, some won't.

Long profile, medium profile, short profile.

I don't think it matters too much really.

If you drop on it will probably be when you least expect it anyway.

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By *ANiCURETV/TS
9 hours ago

Winchester


"Quick question for the Fab hive mind...

Is our profile too long or too detailed?

We seem to get plenty of views, but not much engagement, so we're wondering if people are opening it, seeing a wall of text, and making a swift tactical retreat or maybe we just don't seem very approachable. 😂

We thought being open and detailed would help people get a feel for us, but perhaps we've accidentally written the director's cut.

No offence will be taken—we asked for feedback, so feel free to be brutally kind. 😄

You're stating everything on your profile which you're looking for so from that perspective it's clearly outlined.

Some people will read, some won't.

Long profile, medium profile, short profile.

I don't think it matters too much really.

If you drop on it will probably be when you least expect it anyway.

"

You know u can use the "Reply+quote "?

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By *ightDesires OP   Couple
9 hours ago

Northampton

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By *ightDesires OP   Couple
9 hours ago

Northampton


"There's a few chunks of that that even if they aren't AI are so generic and everyman that they're pointless.

Can I ask why it's single guys and single females? As opposed to males and females or guys and girls. I'm always put out by terms which other us as if we're a different species.

Most people aren't for most people. If not everyone who sees your profile contacts you that's fine. Most people won't be your people anyway 💜"

To be honest we didn't even think about the single guys/single females but it's a fair point and we will make that change.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
9 hours ago

Coventry

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
9 hours ago

Coventry

Stupid auto text, try again

Don't see anything specifically wrong. You seem to lay out your stall well. The bio is maybe on the longer side but not too long and it's all relevant. I've definitely seem longer ones. The pictures seem nice. Show good range and most importantly there's a few of the husband. I don't really see anything wrong per se. Without seeing your messages all I can say is keep getting yourselves out there and give it time.

Mr

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By *athomMan
9 hours ago

South Coast

Have you changed it already?

I’ve seen many much longer and far more demanding than this one

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By *eekaboo BellyMan
8 hours ago

Bradford


"Have you changed it already?

I’ve seen many much longer and far more demanding than this one "

Significantly. Was a word for word copy of war and peace before

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By *ightDesires OP   Couple
8 hours ago

Northampton


"Have you changed it already?

I’ve seen many much longer and far more demanding than this one "

Yes, we started to change it within the first few feedbacks we received 😂, we had a feeling it was too long.

Although it's still not as short as some , we don't feel we can go much shorter without losing some of the things we want to say.

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By *athomMan
8 hours ago

South Coast


"Have you changed it already?

I’ve seen many much longer and far more demanding than this one

Yes, we started to change it within the first few feedbacks we received 😂, we had a feeling it was too long.

Although it's still not as short as some , we don't feel we can go much shorter without losing some of the things we want to say."

😂 late to the party but saved an hour of my life

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By *parklingeclipseWoman
8 hours ago

Lincolnshire


"Quick question for the Fab hive mind...

Is our profile too long or too detailed?

We seem to get plenty of views, but not much engagement, so we're wondering if people are opening it, seeing a wall of text, and making a swift tactical retreat or maybe we just don't seem very approachable. 😂

We thought being open and detailed would help people get a feel for us, but perhaps we've accidentally written the director's cut.

No offence will be taken—we asked for feedback, so feel free to be brutally kind. 😄"

Caramel I read it all. Very detailed and specific and well written. People, if they are interested in getting to know you, should take the time to read your profile. I wish people would read mine sometimes. A lot shorter than yours, but it's annoying being asked certain things when my details are on my profile.

Happy Fabbing, and great pics by the way! Debs x

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By *ightDesires OP   Couple
8 hours ago

Northampton


"Quick question for the Fab hive mind...

Is our profile too long or too detailed?

We seem to get plenty of views, but not much engagement, so we're wondering if people are opening it, seeing a wall of text, and making a swift tactical retreat or maybe we just don't seem very approachable. 😂

We thought being open and detailed would help people get a feel for us, but perhaps we've accidentally written the director's cut.

No offence will be taken—we asked for feedback, so feel free to be brutally kind. 😄

Caramel I read it all. Very detailed and specific and well written. People, if they are interested in getting to know you, should take the time to read your profile. I wish people would read mine sometimes. A lot shorter than yours, but it's annoying being asked certain things when my details are on my profile.

Happy Fabbing, and great pics by the way! Debs x "

Awww thanks Debs , there are certainly people on here that just message off looking at the pictures and don't even read a shirt profile x

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By *AYENCouple
8 hours ago

Lincolnshire

I think it's great, it took me all of two minutes to read it - if a two minute investment of time is too long for someone then they're probably not going to be right for you anyway. K.

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By *oneyBee200Woman
8 hours ago

Kent

You are quick. Spot on now 👌

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By *ision21Man
8 hours ago

Newcastle Under Lyme

Quick question for the Fab hive mind...

Is our profile too long or too detailed?

We seem to get plenty of views, but not much engagement, so we're wondering if people are opening it, seeing a wall of text, and making a swift tactical retreat or maybe we just don't seem very approachable. 😂

We thought being open and detailed would help people get a feel for us, but perhaps we've accidentally written the director's cut.

No offence will be taken—we asked for feedback, so feel free to be brutally kind. 😄

You're stating everything on your profile which you're looking for so from that perspective it's clearly outlined.

Some people will read, some won't.

Long profile, medium profile, short profile.

I don't think it matters too much really.

If you drop on it will probably be when you least expect it anyway.

You know u can use the "Reply+quote "?

I did and have this time.

I just delete the quote in bracket text.

That ok?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
8 hours ago

SW1A1AA

Its a good profile. Not to long and very informative

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By *eekaboo BellyMan
8 hours ago

Bradford


"Quick question for the Fab hive mind...

Is our profile too long or too detailed?

We seem to get plenty of views, but not much engagement, so we're wondering if people are opening it, seeing a wall of text, and making a swift tactical retreat or maybe we just don't seem very approachable. 😂

We thought being open and detailed would help people get a feel for us, but perhaps we've accidentally written the director's cut.

No offence will be taken—we asked for feedback, so feel free to be brutally kind. 😄

You're stating everything on your profile which you're looking for so from that perspective it's clearly outlined.

Some people will read, some won't.

Long profile, medium profile, short profile.

I don't think it matters too much really.

If you drop on it will probably be when you least expect it anyway.

You know u can use the "Reply+quote "?

I did and have this time.

I just delete the quote in bracket text.

That ok?"

It's harder to tell what you wrote as a reply over what you was reading to

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By *eekaboo BellyMan
8 hours ago

Bradford


"Quick question for the Fab hive mind...

Is our profile too long or too detailed?

We seem to get plenty of views, but not much engagement, so we're wondering if people are opening it, seeing a wall of text, and making a swift tactical retreat or maybe we just don't seem very approachable. 😂

We thought being open and detailed would help people get a feel for us, but perhaps we've accidentally written the director's cut.

No offence will be taken—we asked for feedback, so feel free to be brutally kind. 😄

You're stating everything on your profile which you're looking for so from that perspective it's clearly outlined.

Some people will read, some won't.

Long profile, medium profile, short profile.

I don't think it matters too much really.

If you drop on it will probably be when you least expect it anyway.

You know u can use the "Reply+quote "?

I did and have this time.

I just delete the quote in bracket text.

That ok?

It's harder to tell what you wrote as a reply over what you was reading to"

Replying

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By *ision21Man
8 hours ago

Newcastle Under Lyme


"Quick question for the Fab hive mind...

Is our profile too long or too detailed?

We seem to get plenty of views, but not much engagement, so we're wondering if people are opening it, seeing a wall of text, and making a swift tactical retreat or maybe we just don't seem very approachable. 😂

We thought being open and detailed would help people get a feel for us, but perhaps we've accidentally written the director's cut.

No offence will be taken—we asked for feedback, so feel free to be brutally kind. 😄

You're stating everything on your profile which you're looking for so from that perspective it's clearly outlined.

Some people will read, some won't.

Long profile, medium profile, short profile.

I don't think it matters too much really.

If you drop on it will probably be when you least expect it anyway.

You know u can use the "Reply+quote "?

I did and have this time.

I just delete the quote in bracket text.

That ok?

It's harder to tell what you wrote as a reply over what you was reading to"

Ok a reply to this.

Is this better?

I just thought deleting the brackets was right.

I'm doing reply and quote now.

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