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By *K86 OP   Couple
6 days ago

Tenterden

Hi all,

Myself and K are new to the lifestyle and very much enjoying the meets we’ve had. I’ve recently discovered that I find the idea of her being a Hotwife really appealing. My question (and I’m looking for answers from experienced couples) is how do we vet people properly, how do we ensure she is safe at all times and how do we get started in that aspect.

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By *w_cuckCouple
5 days ago

Cambridgeshire

We would suggest that firstly you want to agree how you will play, do you want to be dominated for you both want to to present in the meet etc. Once you know what you want you can start to look for the right guy

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By *rl444Man
5 days ago

sliema

Wow

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By *lectrictouchMan
5 days ago

inverarary


"We would suggest that firstly you want to agree how you will play, do you want to be dominated for you both want to to present in the meet etc. Once you know what you want you can start to look for the right guy"

Agree with this never settle for anyone out of convenience meet for several socials in different locations set boundaries and really get to know them

Try to arrange different days of the week and times

And be honest

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By *9alMan
5 days ago

Bridgend

I have met a few Hotwife couples normally the husband/partner is present or in the next room to play the pimp role & ensure safety

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By *aandLoCouple
5 days ago

Southampton

As the member above says, you need to agree on what you want the scenario to be, and clearly outline that to the guy(s.) If you don't you could find you're manipulated into a scenario you don't actually want, or the guy Mrs is meeting doesn't understand your dynamic and boundaries.

I don't meet strangers for sex but do have solo meets with guys we've already connected with as a couple. I do occasionally do the social alone. Both usually when Ja is too busy or away.

It's the dynamic we want and for us it's safer. So, I'm not perfectly placed to advise you if you intend to meet strangers for sex straight away.

I'd say never go against your gut feelings. If there's even the smallest thing in your pre meet communications that raises a red flag, drop them and move on. You will have plenty of choice 💕 Plus, only meet recently verified guys.

I'm inferring from your post safety is more important than the thrill of meeting a stranger in a hotel room so why doesn't Mrs initially meet the guy in a public place and they go together from there if she's comfortable?

If Mrs is meeting someone for the first time in the hotel room I'd personally only meet in decent hotels with a properly manned reception. You could scope it out before the meet, and Mr wait outside if that works for your scenario.

It can be a lot of hot fun but Mrs needs to feel safe to enjoy the meet. x Lo x

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By *rl444Man
5 days ago

sliema

Sounds hot Lo

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By *hed_twoCouple
5 days ago

Leighton Buzzard


"Hi all,

Myself and K are new to the lifestyle and very much enjoying the meets we’ve had. I’ve recently discovered that I find the idea of her being a Hotwife really appealing. My question (and I’m looking for answers from experienced couples) is how do we vet people properly, how do we ensure she is safe at all times and how do we get started in that aspect. "

Always have a few non spicy socials to check him out and see how respectful he is not only towards your wife but you also, see if there is that spark and connection as you will be trusting him with your wife.

Discuss anything you’re worried about with your wife.

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By *lectrictouchMan
5 days ago

inverarary


"Hi all,

Myself and K are new to the lifestyle and very much enjoying the meets we’ve had. I’ve recently discovered that I find the idea of her being a Hotwife really appealing. My question (and I’m looking for answers from experienced couples) is how do we vet people properly, how do we ensure she is safe at all times and how do we get started in that aspect.

Always have a few non spicy socials to check him out and see how respectful he is not only towards your wife but you also, see if there is that spark and connection as you will be trusting him with your wife.

Discuss anything you’re worried about with your wife.

"

All

Great advice it will

Be harder than you think to find the right gent trust me and don’t be rushed

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By *issmorganWoman
5 days ago

Calderdale innit

Always talk for as long as it takes her to be comfortable.

Have a social, with you both there to see how things go.

Make your boundaries clear and don't let anyone push them, unless you both want to.

Will you be going to the meet op? Or is it to filmed for you wot watch later etc.

Be clear what you're looking for and make sure anyone you meet knows this too.

Block single men and look for yourself too, let your partner choose the men she likes the look and sound off. Good luck.

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By *eancuriousdublinMan
5 days ago

dublin

I’m on tele gram if any one wants me to tribute there wife 9in hung and slim

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By *atentHeelsCouple
4 days ago

Salford

We’ve done it a lot and we only do it at clubs. To us it’s the only safe place you can try it for a first time. FAR safer than a hotel or ‘party’. Clubs have many people around for help should you need it.

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By *atentHeelsCouple
4 days ago

Salford

You can have as many socials as you want, that doesn’t mean anything when it comes to the act of the environment isn’t safe. Hence clubs are the safest place until you’re sure you’re willing to try it elsewhere

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By *WB85Man
4 days ago

Staffordshire

Your initial meet is a social and your husband can be present.

Dont rush anything either, a slower approach is a way of filtering those that are just in a rush to fuck.

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By *ouple_For_BuddyCouple
4 days ago

Newport

Always strictly meet socially at least once or more with Husband present.

Once found, the scenario is very exciting. We had a buddy for over a decade, most of the time I was present, but a few times it was amazing to come home and find her riding his cock or when I was away with work, to swtich on the Cams (as instructed) and see her having fun.

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By *abulincsCouple
4 days ago

near a bridge

Hey I love sharing my Mrs but she sets out terms of play only guys she’s attracted too and always I’m included in any play ,maybe why we get little interest in meeting as most guys only seem to think they are only one to satisfy her lol as she puts they are just extras to an incredible sex life we share boundaries are key . Then you will get the disrespectful guys if you say no to them start the name calling lol

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By *haredkinksCouple
4 days ago

Kent

Another recommendation for clubs

You can get a sense for the single guys there and spot the respectful ones that you find interesting x

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By *eenALongTime.....Man
4 days ago

......

Very keen to chat with couples and hotwives!

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By *ice_couple2012Couple
4 days ago

Leicester


"Another recommendation for clubs

You can get a sense for the single guys there and spot the respectful ones that you find interesting x"

This gets our vote too

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By *ellinever70Woman
3 days ago

Ayrshire

Have realistic expectations and let her look for men herself

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By *otPoshorBecksCouple
3 days ago

London


"Hi all,

Myself and K are new to the lifestyle and very much enjoying the meets we’ve had. I’ve recently discovered that I find the idea of her being a Hotwife really appealing. My question (and I’m looking for answers from experienced couples) is how do we vet people properly, how do we ensure she is safe at all times and how do we get started in that aspect. "

We vet single men in a variety of ways. Bob will read verifications very carefully and do a deep dive on people that have verified them. Sam tends to get men talking on fab and she won’t meet anyone with harsh language or bad manners.

We sometimes have a video chat too to make sure they look like their pics.

We tend to play with single guys at swinging clubs more so than private meets as we feel safer in a club setting. People tend to have better etiquette.

Bob meets hot wives separately too and has been vetted by the husband.

S&B

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By *herrybakewellCouple
3 days ago

Staffordshire

Clubs make the process very fast paced we find, and that isnt how we like it.

Different people, different processes of vetting people.

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