FabSwingers.com forum: Images vs words

By *umi2 OP Couple
1 week ago

We've got a disclaimer in our profile that basically says we're a bit boringly vanilla not sex-crazed nymphos, but occasionally post raunchy videos - more for extra titilation and a bit of an ego boost for the Mrs.

Is it our own stupid fault to expect people to (hopefully) enjoy the videos but also actually read our profile?

Are we just sending the wrong message with the vids?

Happy for anyone's thoughts?

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By *enAndJadeCouple
1 week ago

Somerton

I would imagine that the sort of guys you’re looking to meet (the ones with a bit more depth and who aren’t just looking for pics and vids to wank over) will look beyond your visual content read to the bottom of your bio. I don’t think you’re sending the wrong message putting lots of vids up - you’re rightly proud of your wife and it’s a healthy, sexy dynamic.

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By *umi2 OP Couple
1 week ago

"I would imagine that the sort of guys you’re looking to meet (the ones with a bit more depth and who aren’t just looking for pics and vids to wank over) will look beyond your visual content read to the bottom of your bio. I don’t think you’re sending the wrong message putting lots of vids up - you’re rightly proud of your wife and it’s a healthy, sexy dynamic. "

Thank you! Not just for the positive support but also for the intelligent reply. It gets so disheartening on here when you get message after message that are mindlessly inane

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By *tlanshiaWoman
1 week ago

Chatham

I’ve come to the conclusion that asking a select group of men on here to read is like asking a fish to ride a bike. Pointless.

However, post whatever videos you want too. Their reactions to it says everything about them.

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By *iver78Man
1 week ago

barton upon humber

I always read profiles ( I know it's a rear ).you should be able to post whatever pics and vids you like.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
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1 week ago

Central

Fab is a fairly open website, where you'll find a very broad range of people, looking for diverse things. Even without this, most people are not mutually compatible with most other people.

You'd imagine that profile text would be the most influencing aspect of a profile. But it's often the images and viewers horniness that rules

In some respects, it's helpful when others make it abundantly clear that they are not mutually compatible with you.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
1 week ago

Coventry

We keep our bio deliberately sparse. We know what were looking for when we find it. So we don't want to give people preconceived ideas, just chat to them and see where it flows. Yes we have our filthy moments, we have a good sex life. However experience has identified what we really enjoy with the right people.

For us the hottest and most enjoyable experiences have been just really chilled, long, tottal carefree experiences with great connection and chemistry. No proformance, no objective, just everyone vibing and feeling completely comfortable in their own skin around eachother. This was something that was reinforced recently we took a vanilla FF couple back to our hotel room the other weekend. Not swingers, we just got chatting to them at a sports event and there was just this effortless 4 way chemistry. Frankly it was beautiful, everyone flowed between each other effortlessly. Lots of laughs, cuddles, kissing and intimacy intertwined with some hot sex. Just pure free love all throuh night till they left the following morning. For us it just highlighted the pinnacle of what we're after and find so hard to find.

We find this natural and effortless dynamic especially hard with single males. We are a straight male couples however that male platonic chemistry and carefree, equal 3 way chemistry is still so important. Kissing, cuddles, intimacy as well as Mrs Misfit being totally ravished. Its a chemistry and energy we find women are naturally more attuned to. So for us the true unicorn on the scene is the right Single guy.

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By *asualWolfandSlutCouple
1 week ago

Stroud

We use the fact that they clearly haven’t read the profile as a way of ing out the guys that we wouldn’t bother with so it’s an immediate block. They’ve essentially self filtered so we don’t have to

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
1 week ago

Cambridgeshire

I think the problem is that a lot of guys wrongly believe that the only way to overcome the sex imbalance on here is to spam as many people as possible and hope eventually to get lucky.

For those guys, reading your profile is a waste of time because they could be spending that time messaging 10 other couples without reading their profiles. And they don't care whether you're compatible or not, because why waste their time checking, when they can get you to do it?

It's what the economists call a perverse incentive.

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By *asualWolfandSlutCouple
1 week ago

Stroud

Repeating the same actions and expecting a different outcome is what Einstein called the definition of insanity.

We don’t bother having to them out. They do it for us. We’re the ones getting plenty of fun. They aren’t lol

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
1 week ago

Cambridgeshire

"Repeating the same actions and expecting a different outcome is what Einstein called the definition of insanity."

But to be fair, Einstein was a scientist and not a salesman. There are some things in life you do need to try, try and try again.

Though sending the same message repeatedly to the same couple would definitely be madness.

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By *WB85Man
6 days ago

Staffordshire

I find graphic content really off putting, and I know I'm not alone in that.

But most men have a different view on that, so the bigger majority of the site wont be put off.

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