FabSwingers.com forum: single male advice

By *r.Stamina321 OP Man
3 weeks ago

greenhithe

Evening good people of Fab!

could anyone give me any hints and tips on how to get meeting with women on here? or at the very least just have chats?

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By *eachbums40Couple
3 weeks ago

Midlands

"Evening good people of Fab!

could anyone give me any hints and tips on how to get meeting with women on here? or at the very least just have chats?"

Produce a decent profile

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By *r.Stamina321 OP Man
3 weeks ago

greenhithe

so what would consist of a decent profile?

ive been honest in mine, but looks like its not what ladies want to read

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By *wendolineFoxWoman
3 weeks ago

Chester

It’s honest, maybe - but tells me nothing. How do I know if I’m like minded or not? What exactly are you looking for? Your ‘exciting and fun times’ might be completely different from the next person - and that’s your selling point.

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By *iss DevilWoman
3 weeks ago

Bedford

"It’s honest, maybe - but tells me nothing. How do I know if I’m like minded or not? What exactly are you looking for? Your ‘exciting and fun times’ might be completely different from the next person - and that’s your selling point. "
this! Remember, OP, women read profiles, and are looking to see if there is any potential compatibility between you and them. They're not interested in generic "looking for women", they want to know exactly what you're after, as well as why they should choose you from thousands of other men here. Therefore, you need to make yourself stand out. Some variety of photos would be good, too.

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By *r.Stamina321 OP Man
3 weeks ago

greenhithe

That's quite a valid and fair comment!!

I never saw it like that.

I just didn't want to write an essay as most people/women don't read everything, or if they do, would just think.

do you think I should say what I'm looking for more, opposed to what I have written?

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By *r.Stamina321 OP Man
3 weeks ago

greenhithe

I think you're right, and as for a variety of photos, I don't have a six pack or muscles, and I've probably been wrong, but thought this is what most women on here are looking for

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By *iss DevilWoman
3 weeks ago

Bedford

"I think you're right, and as for a variety of photos, I don't have a six pack or muscles, and I've probably been wrong, but thought this is what most women on here are looking for"
your belief is wrong. There are some women that are looking for that, same as there are some women that are looking for very well endowed, then there are yet some women that are looking for black men only, or just straight/just bi. You are never going to be compatible with most people on here, therefore you should stop making assumptions what women are looking for and try to "sell" yourself.

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By *r.Stamina321 OP Man
3 weeks ago

greenhithe

I did mention I was probably wrong thinking this, but you are 100% right, I should concentrate on "selling myself" opposed to assuming what women want

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By *enAndJadeCouple
3 weeks ago

Somerton

"I think you're right, and as for a variety of photos, I don't have a six pack or muscles, and I've probably been wrong, but thought this is what most women on here are looking for"

In my experience women like dad bods best! My own preference would never ever be muscles or a 6 pack.

I actually think your profile is ok - but just a bit short. I quite liked what you wrote about social meets and then the physical stuff. That’s the thing though.. you’ll never please everyone and every woman has different taste/ turn ons. Just be yourself and try to sell your best points.

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By *ndrew CareyMan
3 weeks ago

Peterborough

"Evening good people of Fab!

could anyone give me any hints and tips on how to get meeting with women on here? or at the very least just have chats?"

Only advice I would give is to write your profile like you were trying to answer the question, tell me about yourself?

People like different things but not everyone would respond well to the fucking brains out part of your profile.

Yes, we are all adults here but sometimes, less is more.

Best of luck

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By *rectus HumongusMan
3 weeks ago

uranus

Why not just look at mens profiles and if they had success on here but while anyone can use words they do not give a clue to personality

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By *um n raisinWoman
3 weeks ago

taunton

for men there is simply NOT someone for everyone one this scene ...90/95% of men get nowhere or a odd meet 100 to 200 men per couple/woman .. simple maths indeed

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
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3 weeks ago

Central

Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people. This means that almost all messages to new contacts will not be replied to.

If you believe that are presenting yourself, so that others can make a decent appraisal of your suitability, then it's going to be about having realistic expectations and investing lots of hard work, to find the tiny minority who might want what you have.

Otherwise, going to Fab socials and swinging clubs, will get you introduced to more people and you can invest that way, in your swinging experience

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By *andystick72Man
3 weeks ago

kinky Street

We all need help.

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By *teve261970Man
3 weeks ago

Gateshead

"Evening good people of Fab!

could anyone give me any hints and tips on how to get meeting with women on here? or at the very least just have chats?"

Honestly! Try a club 1st, great way of meeting like minded people, but don't go for sex, treat it like a night out with friends.

Go out to have a laugh like you're starting a new hobby. Take advice, listen 👍

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By *dventurous biMan
3 weeks ago

tesside

Smile!

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By *ommyboy1000Man
3 weeks ago

blackburn

From my experience on fab it’s defo a woman’s game. Men can chase and the odd woman will reply or take a look at your profile. If you’re lucky you might get chosen but otherwise it’s a long frustrating experience. I have tried different kinds of profile descriptions and changed profile pictures often. Nothing seems to make a difference I’ve lost count of the messages I’ve sent that have been missed or ignored. Good luck fella

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By *ndrew CareyMan
3 weeks ago

Peterborough

"From my experience on fab it’s defo a woman’s game. Men can chase and the odd woman will reply or take a look at your profile. If you’re lucky you might get chosen but otherwise it’s a long frustrating experience. I have tried different kinds of profile descriptions and changed profile pictures often. Nothing seems to make a difference I’ve lost count of the messages I’ve sent that have been missed or ignored. Good luck fella "

Some advice if I may, try a different profile photo that isn't your penis.

Lots of women on the site find it a turn off.

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By *nigmatic PeachTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Huddersfield

It’s just a compatibility thing I feel. Not everyone likes everyone.

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By *r.Stamina321 OP Man
3 weeks ago

greenhithe

But my profile pic isnt my penis, or was that in reply to the guy that commented before you?

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By *erPleasureHisRulesCouple
3 weeks ago

Sheffield

"Smile!"

Yep this. So many men look miserable in their photos, puts us off instantly.

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By *r.Stamina321 OP Man
3 weeks ago

greenhithe

Fair point!! Maybe i should take a photo Smiling, and not at work! lol

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By *layfullsamMan
3 weeks ago

Solihull

Make your profile present the best version of you

Remove the schoolboy fuck each other’s brains out comment and the rest of that paragraph

Search other male profiles in your area that are successful and learn from them (don’t copy)

Good luck

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By *ndrew CareyMan
3 weeks ago

Peterborough

"But my profile pic isnt my penis, or was that in reply to the guy that commented before you?"

Yes, was the other guy

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By *artorialMan
3 weeks ago

weymouth

For me OP it was repeated visits to one club, you get known. Plus discovering, and yes it's a cliché, clothes maketh the man. Don't underestimate what your clothes say about you.

Good luck in your search

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By *harAndBryCouple
3 weeks ago

Downham Market

OP: your profile pic is your face which always goes down well when it lands in the inbox. It's also, it seems, a good looking face.

Unfortunately people can look very different from one pic to another and most people invariably pick the *best* photo of themselves as their profile. So take some more, in different outfits, some with a bit of body showing, etc. Have a good selection of six or seven pics and people will be more confident in knowing they fancy you.

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