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By *eney OP   Couple
3 days ago

west mids

Me and my hubby have been looking at venturing out with our sex life for a while, we wanted to start with a woman to join us for our first experience of it but this seems to be an impossible experience.

We have signed up to lots of different sites and spoke to loads of (what we thought were genuine people - how wrong were we!) we would chat for ages and exchange pics but when it came to asking to video call or meet up we got ghosted every time😩

This is our last go at joining a site and trying to meet genuine people. Has anyone else experienced this as much as us?

And are there any ideas on the best ways to meet people?

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By *vaRoseWoman
3 days ago

Ankh-Morpork

Get yourself to some of the group socials. They are 100% social and no play so there’s no pressure whatsoever.

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By *izandpaulCouple
3 days ago

merseyside


"Me and my hubby have been looking at venturing out with our sex life for a while, we wanted to start with a woman to join us for our first experience of it but this seems to be an impossible experience.

We have signed up to lots of different sites and spoke to loads of (what we thought were genuine people - how wrong were we!) we would chat for ages and exchange pics but when it came to asking to video call or meet up we got ghosted every time😩

This is our last go at joining a site and trying to meet genuine people. Has anyone else experienced this as much as us?

And are there any ideas on the best ways to meet people?

"

Go to an organised social group meet or attend a club, some have newbies night.

Don't become discouraged with the amount of timewasters on this site, its par for the course but to find a single lady who is willing to join a couple and one that you find sexually appealing is a fair mountain to climb.

Good luck.

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By *acavityMan
3 days ago

Redditch

Single bisexual women who are swingers?

They are known as unicorns for a reason.

And you have a limited age range.

Maybe add a couple of years either end.

And unless you have a “one-penis-policy”, maybe look for couples with bisexual woman

Good luck and happy fabbing

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By *igladAndLulahCouple
3 days ago

South East


"Me and my hubby have been looking at venturing out with our sex life for a while, we wanted to start with a woman to join us for our first experience of it but this seems to be an impossible experience.

We have signed up to lots of different sites and spoke to loads of (what we thought were genuine people - how wrong were we!) we would chat for ages and exchange pics but when it came to asking to video call or meet up we got ghosted every time😩

This is our last go at joining a site and trying to meet genuine people. Has anyone else experienced this as much as us?

And are there any ideas on the best ways to meet people?

"

Go to a club or a social

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By *harAndBryCouple
3 days ago

Downham Market

Couple of things we'd add:

You've not asked for profile advice so we can't give it, but let's just say that *most* women don't like pics of genitals - they generally appeal to guys.

Definitely open yourself up to couples. We're a bit far away and maybe not what you're looking for but Char plays as a single, either on her own or with me put in the corner, so effectively a single woman. Many other couples play in a similar way.

Don't be too disheartened by the fakes. There's a LOT of "couples" accounts that might have been originally but now are just the male half. Look back on verifications, dates of photos, etc. Get to some socials and clubs and build a circle of local(ish) friends on here even if you've no intention of playing with them. You'll find that your local opportunities may well have been verified directly by someone you've met, or one step removed and it gives some peace of mind.

It is hard work, and we tend to look for the "easiest" demographic (single guys) but there are some great people on Fab.

(Bry)

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By *heSuccubusWoman
2 days ago

Darlington

I don't know how you address the video call request, but a couple of times it has put me off couples. When they are adamant they must have a video to make sure I'm not a fake profile.... and they are sat behind an unverified profile

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By *ichaelsmyMan
2 days ago

douglas

it is often difficult to find the people that match your requirements as so many will ignore what your profile actually says and interpose on to you.

use the filters, delete and block buttons when you need to do so.

there are so many different kinds of people on the site that you will not match with them all.

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By *eeshellsCouple
2 days ago

Reading

Single women aren't called unicorns for nothing. They can be choosey and as a result tend to look for what they want rather than wait to be approached.

As others have said, organised group socials and clubs are your best bets. So many fakes online.

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By *ose_and_OakCouple
2 days ago

Tamworth

You’re perfectly situated in the Midlands to look at clubs and socials.

In particular check out the Liberated Voice social and the V2V Club - they hold a social every Thursday which is no pressure, just a chance to check the place out, meet a few people and see if it’s for you.

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By *viatrixWoman
2 days ago

Gatwick

I’d be interested but according to your details, I am too old for you.

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By *leasure999Man
2 days ago

tilbury


"Me and my hubby have been looking at venturing out with our sex life for a while, we wanted to start with a woman to join us for our first experience of it but this seems to be an impossible experience.

We have signed up to lots of different sites and spoke to loads of (what we thought were genuine people - how wrong were we!) we would chat for ages and exchange pics but when it came to asking to video call or meet up we got ghosted every time😩

This is our last go at joining a site and trying to meet genuine people. Has anyone else experienced this as much as us?

And are there any ideas on the best ways to meet people?

"

Try to download threesome app from magazine play this site is hard no worth here ,for single men like me is almost imposible to meet somebody here because we are 95% men and only 5 women and couples but for a couple like you ,if you say is hard to find somebody here what can i say about me 😅,if you think i am ok for you i am here ,happy to do social same if you need if not try other app this site is going down a lot...i never meet somebody from here i meet in threesome app and tinder and i travel a lot in spain for fun ...

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By *stondb7Couple
2 days ago

Preston

Hope you don't mind us commenting....we were in a similar situation to you, albeit the other way wrong in that my wife wanted another guy to join us....when we started, we thought it would be a very simple thing....but we had exactly the same thing as you. What I can say is eventually it will happen, you'll find that special genuine person, and great times will happen....

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By * MRS ShyButNotShy MRSCouple
24 hours ago

Stoke


"Me and my hubby have been looking at venturing out with our sex life for a while, we wanted to start with a woman to join us for our first experience of it but this seems to be an impossible experience.

We have signed up to lots of different sites and spoke to loads of (what we thought were genuine people - how wrong were we!) we would chat for ages and exchange pics but when it came to asking to video call or meet up we got ghosted every time😩

This is our last go at joining a site and trying to meet genuine people. Has anyone else experienced this as much as us?

And are there any ideas on the best ways to meet people?

"

Can I ask why you wouldn't want to meet couples? It is so much easier than trying to find a single lady. My husband is straight I am bi. We normally start with the women playing together and then the men joining in. Both men get to be with 2 women and I get to play with everybody.

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By *oop87Man
13 hours ago

Salisbury

It is really hard to do. All of the 'encounters' ive had have been with people i kmow and trust rather than strangers

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