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By *eney OP   Couple
7 weeks ago

west mids

Me and my hubby have been looking at venturing out with our sex life for a while, we wanted to start with a woman to join us for our first experience of it but this seems to be an impossible experience.

We have signed up to lots of different sites and spoke to loads of (what we thought were genuine people - how wrong were we!) we would chat for ages and exchange pics but when it came to asking to video call or meet up we got ghosted every time😩

This is our last go at joining a site and trying to meet genuine people. Has anyone else experienced this as much as us?

And are there any ideas on the best ways to meet people?

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By *vaRoseWoman
7 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

Get yourself to some of the group socials. They are 100% social and no play so there’s no pressure whatsoever.

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By *izandpaulCouple
7 weeks ago

merseyside


"Me and my hubby have been looking at venturing out with our sex life for a while, we wanted to start with a woman to join us for our first experience of it but this seems to be an impossible experience.

We have signed up to lots of different sites and spoke to loads of (what we thought were genuine people - how wrong were we!) we would chat for ages and exchange pics but when it came to asking to video call or meet up we got ghosted every time😩

This is our last go at joining a site and trying to meet genuine people. Has anyone else experienced this as much as us?

And are there any ideas on the best ways to meet people?

"

Go to an organised social group meet or attend a club, some have newbies night.

Don't become discouraged with the amount of timewasters on this site, its par for the course but to find a single lady who is willing to join a couple and one that you find sexually appealing is a fair mountain to climb.

Good luck.

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By *acavityMan
7 weeks ago

Redditch

Single bisexual women who are swingers?

They are known as unicorns for a reason.

And you have a limited age range.

Maybe add a couple of years either end.

And unless you have a “one-penis-policy”, maybe look for couples with bisexual woman

Good luck and happy fabbing

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By *igladAndLulahCouple
7 weeks ago

South East


"Me and my hubby have been looking at venturing out with our sex life for a while, we wanted to start with a woman to join us for our first experience of it but this seems to be an impossible experience.

We have signed up to lots of different sites and spoke to loads of (what we thought were genuine people - how wrong were we!) we would chat for ages and exchange pics but when it came to asking to video call or meet up we got ghosted every time😩

This is our last go at joining a site and trying to meet genuine people. Has anyone else experienced this as much as us?

And are there any ideas on the best ways to meet people?

"

Go to a club or a social

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By *harAndBryCouple
7 weeks ago

Downham Market

Couple of things we'd add:

You've not asked for profile advice so we can't give it, but let's just say that *most* women don't like pics of genitals - they generally appeal to guys.

Definitely open yourself up to couples. We're a bit far away and maybe not what you're looking for but Char plays as a single, either on her own or with me put in the corner, so effectively a single woman. Many other couples play in a similar way.

Don't be too disheartened by the fakes. There's a LOT of "couples" accounts that might have been originally but now are just the male half. Look back on verifications, dates of photos, etc. Get to some socials and clubs and build a circle of local(ish) friends on here even if you've no intention of playing with them. You'll find that your local opportunities may well have been verified directly by someone you've met, or one step removed and it gives some peace of mind.

It is hard work, and we tend to look for the "easiest" demographic (single guys) but there are some great people on Fab.

(Bry)

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By *heSuccubusWoman
7 weeks ago

Darlington

I don't know how you address the video call request, but a couple of times it has put me off couples. When they are adamant they must have a video to make sure I'm not a fake profile.... and they are sat behind an unverified profile

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By *ichaelsmyMan
7 weeks ago

douglas

it is often difficult to find the people that match your requirements as so many will ignore what your profile actually says and interpose on to you.

use the filters, delete and block buttons when you need to do so.

there are so many different kinds of people on the site that you will not match with them all.

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By *eeshellsCouple
7 weeks ago

Reading

Single women aren't called unicorns for nothing. They can be choosey and as a result tend to look for what they want rather than wait to be approached.

As others have said, organised group socials and clubs are your best bets. So many fakes online.

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By *ose_and_OakCouple
7 weeks ago

Tamworth

You’re perfectly situated in the Midlands to look at clubs and socials.

In particular check out the Liberated Voice social and the V2V Club - they hold a social every Thursday which is no pressure, just a chance to check the place out, meet a few people and see if it’s for you.

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By *viatrixCouple
7 weeks ago

Gatwick

I’d be interested but according to your details, I am too old for you.

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By *leasure999Man
7 weeks ago

tilbury


"Me and my hubby have been looking at venturing out with our sex life for a while, we wanted to start with a woman to join us for our first experience of it but this seems to be an impossible experience.

We have signed up to lots of different sites and spoke to loads of (what we thought were genuine people - how wrong were we!) we would chat for ages and exchange pics but when it came to asking to video call or meet up we got ghosted every time😩

This is our last go at joining a site and trying to meet genuine people. Has anyone else experienced this as much as us?

And are there any ideas on the best ways to meet people?

"

Try to download threesome app from magazine play this site is hard no worth here ,for single men like me is almost imposible to meet somebody here because we are 95% men and only 5 women and couples but for a couple like you ,if you say is hard to find somebody here what can i say about me 😅,if you think i am ok for you i am here ,happy to do social same if you need if not try other app this site is going down a lot...i never meet somebody from here i meet in threesome app and tinder and i travel a lot in spain for fun ...

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By *stondb7Couple
7 weeks ago

Preston

Hope you don't mind us commenting....we were in a similar situation to you, albeit the other way wrong in that my wife wanted another guy to join us....when we started, we thought it would be a very simple thing....but we had exactly the same thing as you. What I can say is eventually it will happen, you'll find that special genuine person, and great times will happen....

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By * MRS ShyButNotShy MRSCouple
7 weeks ago

Stoke


"Me and my hubby have been looking at venturing out with our sex life for a while, we wanted to start with a woman to join us for our first experience of it but this seems to be an impossible experience.

We have signed up to lots of different sites and spoke to loads of (what we thought were genuine people - how wrong were we!) we would chat for ages and exchange pics but when it came to asking to video call or meet up we got ghosted every time😩

This is our last go at joining a site and trying to meet genuine people. Has anyone else experienced this as much as us?

And are there any ideas on the best ways to meet people?

"

Can I ask why you wouldn't want to meet couples? It is so much easier than trying to find a single lady. My husband is straight I am bi. We normally start with the women playing together and then the men joining in. Both men get to be with 2 women and I get to play with everybody.

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By *oop87Man
7 weeks ago

Salisbury

It is really hard to do. All of the 'encounters' ive had have been with people i kmow and trust rather than strangers

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By *erefornaughtyfun69Man
6 weeks ago

bishop auckland

Yh there are alot of fakes or time wasters on here very few genuine honest people like myself on here dont help the genuine ones

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By *leasure999Man
4 weeks ago

tilbury

Dear couple ,here we are 95% single men and only 5%(single women and couples included) for my experience i try to spoke with more 500 couples and single women included and the answer was 99% they play only with couple and some of them told me i need at least 10 verification ,one couple told me a remember i need 20 verification because they are genuine 😅 ,and told them happy to do social or video call to show mthem i am not a fake or waste timer, afterall i receive around 50 messages per day from gay and bi guys but not only single from a women or a couple ,this site is will be called soon gay site or just for couple who looking for a couple,

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
4 weeks ago

Bognor Regis

Trying to engage people on fab is pretty difficult, try and engage a bi female and it's even harder.

I find most success with women and couples in clubs.

Trying to get people to commit to a meet or even a social etc can be hard. There are group socials etc which are good to go to to get involved and make connections.

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By *GoodGirlGemxCouple
4 weeks ago

Scotland


"I don't know how you address the video call request, but a couple of times it has put me off couples. When they are adamant they must have a video to make sure I'm not a fake profile.... and they are sat behind an unverified profile "

I agree video calling can be off putting for some people especially if it’s a demand. Video calling is something I don’t do. One of the main reasons I don’t do it is I have kids who are around most of the time so it’s just not practical when you tell people this they sometimes do accuse me of being fake or ask me to just go to another room 🤦‍♀️ I now have it on my profile

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By *allySlinkyWoman
4 weeks ago

Leeds

I would never do a video call and I have only once done a phone call which was to get an invitation to a party in someone's home.

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By *eorgesdad69Man
3 weeks ago

Long Eaton

Pity husband isn’t bi as that would open up a new avenue of fun I had one couple I met for over 6 months regularly till covid 💔 and several other bi couples who loved the bisexual nature of play, wasn’t always full sex with the man, in fact rarely it was mutual oral fun mainly.

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By *wendolineFoxWoman
3 weeks ago

Chester

From a profile point of view, ensure that it’s clear what you offer - basically, why should one of the most sought after demographics choose you over everyone else?

But, yes, as everyone else has said - organised socials or clubs might be more straightforward.

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By *ichaelsmyMan
3 weeks ago

douglas

persistance is the best way, but then people should be finding youselves on this site. so you might get lots of messages from single men.

so use the message filters

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
3 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

As a single woman, I second socials and clubs. A lot of people just want the fantasy of meeting but are too scared to follow through with an actual meet or video call.

I'm autistic, and a lot of people on the sites are neurodivergent or introverted so they find it easier just to only type and text. Obviously, I like real sex so I make an effort to go to socials to help my social skills because at the end of the day my goal is real intimacy not fantasy intimacy. Some people are just happy with the fantasy and have zero intention of meeting.

I'm pretty clear on my profile about how I meet couples. And since my ME/CFS diagnosis, I won't be travelling very far away, and I don't accommodate because 1. my flat is tiny and 2. I now have social services coming in and out.

Safety is the number 1 priority for single women, and if you give them any hint of not being safe, they will bolt.

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By *leasure999Man
3 weeks ago

tilbury


"As a single woman, I second socials and clubs. A lot of people just want the fantasy of meeting but are too scared to follow through with an actual meet or video call.

I'm autistic, and a lot of people on the sites are neurodivergent or introverted so they find it easier just to only type and text. Obviously, I like real sex so I make an effort to go to socials to help my social skills because at the end of the day my goal is real intimacy not fantasy intimacy. Some people are just happy with the fantasy and have zero intention of meeting.

I'm pretty clear on my profile about how I meet couples. And since my ME/CFS diagnosis, I won't be travelling very far away, and I don't accommodate because 1. my flat is tiny and 2. I now have social services coming in and out.

Safety is the number 1 priority for single women, and if you give them any hint of not being safe, they will bolt."

I am from tilbury and looking for social in tilbury or basildon i post on forum but nobodysay nothink ,you know where is sociak around here ?,i meet people from other site but not only single one from this site yet i try to spoke with many people for many of them i told them i can do video call or social first if they want for safety but to many waste of time here ,they are to scared for a meet,they don t meet because i am not verified by woen or couple in person ....

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By *herrybakewellCouple
3 weeks ago

Staffordshire

It is difficult, but you'll eventually find the right people, and it will just work well.

Personally, theres lots of emphasis on organised socials and clubs, but they never live up to the hype in my opinion.

Good luck with your search.

Mr.

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By *imandHer111Couple
3 weeks ago

Cheshire

How do we find these group socials? This is what we would like ideally

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By *eautyandthebeast86Couple
3 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

Unicorns are called that for a reason and to find a genuinely bi one who isn’t just ‘ curious ‘ are even harder. In 5 years we have had 3 unicorns , only one actually played with me the other two were just all over my fella and gave me just a boob squeeze. I was very left out and had put me off ‘ unicorns ‘ now. We find it better to find couples with a bi lady and have had much more luck with that and much more mutual enjoyment.

Good luck

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By *izandpaulCouple
3 weeks ago

merseyside


"How do we find these group socials? This is what we would like ideally "

On the forum threads in your local area or you could always set up a pub meet / social yourselves, we did, it was great.

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By *ympho6969Woman
3 weeks ago

glasgow

I've met couples for bi fun in the past but got tired of it being more about the men watching than the women trying now things. Many probably feel the same.

I stopped doing it a while ago and will only meet couples with straight women now. Im not bi enough to be bothered by it

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