FabSwingers.com forum: 3sum with a friend

By *ojobi21288 OP Man
6 days ago

Ryde

looking for advice/experiences. I'm a bi guy in an open marriage who's been invited to join a female friend and her fuck buddy for a bi mmf. My wife knows and is completely cool with it but I've never played with friends and am worried about potential down sides.

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By *omRachCouple
5 days ago

Wirral

I introduced one of my best friends into our bedroom many years ago and it never did our friendship any harm whatsoever. The guy we used had a kinky side to him & was different from all of my other mates - it just seemed so natural with him, we would never have asked any of my other pals.

Only you know this person, have a chat with her & express any concerns you're currently having and try and work through them.

She seems to believe you have something to offer and is placing a lot of faith in you so that appears to be a huge positive. Also, try and get some feel about the 3rd party before agreeing as all 3 need to feel comfortable for it to work well.

Good luck OP, what a fantastic dilemma to have

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By *andL_walesMan
5 days ago

near you

First ever 3 sum happened when my mate joined us, all enjoyed but kept it as just the one time with him so it didn’t get complicated.

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By *herrybakewellCouple
5 days ago

Staffordshire

Our swinger world is kept very separate to our ordinary life....to prevent any awkward moments that can occur.

Good luck either way OP.

Mrs.

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By *AYENCouple
5 days ago

Lincolnshire

We met a guy through work who became a friend and, for the last couple of years or so, my wife's fwb.

It works for us but it doesn't mean it will work for others as they're are many different factors to consider. K.

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By *unner6969Man
5 days ago

Maidstone

" looking for advice/experiences. I'm a bi guy in an open marriage who's been invited to join a female friend and her fuck buddy for a bi mmf. My wife knows and is completely cool with it but I've never played with friends and am worried about potential down sides."

If it doesn’t feel right, don’t do it.

Personally, I keep my Fab life totally separate from real life / but it’s up to you.

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By *hatsWhatCoupleCouple
5 days ago

Northampton

We have a principle, ‘make friends out of swingers and not swingers out of friends’

Works for us. Only you know the answer to your situation. Make sure it’s worth it

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By *uernseyFun50Man
5 days ago

Guernsey

"We have a principle, ‘make friends out of swingers and not swingers out of friends’

Works for us. Only you know the answer to your situation. Make sure it’s worth it "

That advice has served me well in the past.

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By *udandBryanCouple
5 days ago

Boston

We actually started singing with friends, it was great and made no difference to our friendship.

It won't work for everyone, but you never know unless you try.

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By *ojobi21288 OP Man
5 days ago

Ryde

Think im the kinky friend in this situation lol

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By *ojobi21288 OP Man
5 days ago

Ryde

Thats how I usually operate, was surprised to be asked to be perfectly honest. Going to putbon my big boy pants and have a talk with them about it.

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By *ellinever70Woman
4 days ago

Ayrshire

"We actually started singing with friends, it was great and made no difference to our friendship.

It won't work for everyone, but you never know unless you try. "

Was it a vocal harmony?

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By *otshot14Woman
4 days ago

tunbridge wells

I'm looking for some advice on both side,

So I've had fwb, open relationship all in the past even had a 3sum for my birthday.

Now in a new relationship and he is asking for a ffm,which I don't mind,do I keep it as a one off like I had and I'm a little bit confused as to how I will feel watching him with her,though he said he is happy to watch us both play.

Sadly the problem really lies with me,as my open one,he cheated on me,as he wasn't telling the girls that he had me at home.

So how do I kind of stop that side of the jealousy and will he cheat come into play.

Bit confused right now.

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By *en3021Man
3 days ago

york

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By *ee And MikeCouple
3 days ago

Cannock

We have some friends that Dee has played with and cuckolded me with in the past, if anything it’s adds to the scenario and provides an element of comfort with the familiarity aspect.

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By *aithRestorerMan
3 days ago

Bolton

I started doing Fab and meets and the like around 3 years ago.

I told my 2 close friends( a married couple) about it around 1 year ago.

For months we would simply chat about my meets as they were always curious what I was getting up to. They are a very open, sexually liberated couple anyway so the conversations felt natural and comfortable. Cut to around 3 months later, they asked about Fab and said they were interested in joining. I helped set up their profile, give them general tips on how everything works, what to avoid, things of that nature.

They took a few trips to a local club and lived every moment. In December I got with a play partner and extended and invite to a club night to my friends with my partner. They gleeefully agreed and joined us. Throughout the night my partner kept mentioning that she knew for a fact my friends wanted us all to play together and had actually wanted a 3 some for a very long time.

That night we all played, it was fantastic, no hint of awkwardness of issue. A month later on Christmas day me and my partner went to their home, had a social friendly evening and played again.

After this occasion my Mrs made a point of telling me they really wanted a 3 some and was more than happy for me to do it.

So after a refreshinglyfrank and honest conversation decided we would have the 3some. It was phenomenal without going into detail it was batter than I could have hoped for. Since then we have had 2 more 3somes and each simply gets better.

Providing you are all honest and forthright with each other and communicate I do not see it being an issue. It has made no negative impact on our friendship, if anything it has enhanced it.

Go for it OP, being open and be honest, enjoy.

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By *its_and_TiramisuCouple
3 days ago

North Somerset

"We have a principle, ‘make friends out of swingers and not swingers out of friends’

Works for us. Only you know the answer to your situation. Make sure it’s worth it "

This is very sound advice! 👌👌

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By *omRachCouple
2 days ago

Wirral

"Think im the kinky friend in this situation lol "

So you're the hubby AND the prospective lover??? Hmm!

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By *weetButNaughty95Couple
2 days ago

Cannock

I once had a friend come back to mine and he and Mrs had a great time, it was a hot night.

But afterwards he went all weird about it, distanced himself. I don't really speak to him any more.

It's taught me not to mix vanilla life with this naughty lifestyle, as some people don't get it and freak out.

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By *ot So First TimersCouple
2 days ago

Aberdeen

We never play with anyone we know. Like to keep it very private which is why we mostly only play when we are away from home

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