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Loneliness over 50

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By *orumlurker26 OP   Man
5 weeks ago

The Shire

Slowly I have noticed that my close friend group has been shrinking over the last 10 years and it is now nonexistent. I am 53 with no one to call me on a Tuesday to go for a coffee. Everything seems to be on social media to me.

Does anyone else have this in their life. The phone stops ringing?

Is it that I am simply a bore?

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By *enayrshMan
5 weeks ago

ayr

Im in same boat

Moved to the north east dont know anyone

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By *orumlurker26 OP   Man
5 weeks ago

The Shire


"Im in same boat

Moved to the north east dont know anyone "

I know lots of people who come into my work and I get on well with, always get told we will arrange something but it never happens.

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By *enayrshMan
5 weeks ago

ayr

I know what u mean

Where are u

Dm me if you want

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By *ercuryMikeMan
5 weeks ago

Newtown / Oswestry

One tip.

I used to say to friends “we must grab a coffee sometime” or something similar and like others have said that time would never happen.

I now make the arrangement there and then and it’s made a big difference as you actually go out.

Everyone is just so busy that unless you make the arrangement it’s just not happening.

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By *vaRoseWoman
5 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

Men’s shed

Walking groups

Bowls

Andy’s man club if you need some mental health support too

Fix it groups

These are the things my dad took part in and still does after mum died.

He helps out at a monthly fix it group where folks bring in things like broken toys, or electrical items to be fixed. People share their skills.

He plays lawn and crown green bowls every week without fail and skittles in winter.

Have a think about the things you’re always wanted to try and do it

The men’s shed, Andy’s man club and the walking groups were amazing at making new friends and getting real time support too.

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By *WANDTGCouple
5 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

It's the opposite for me, I work on site and have around 10-15 men chatting or messaging during the day, so it's nice to have some free time at evenings or weekends.

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By *radually_RetiringMan
5 weeks ago

Bury

Same here - no actual friends, just co-workers and acquaintances really. Been that way for a long time now. I'm an introvert too so you sort of get used to it.

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By *estiswestMan
4 weeks ago

glasgow

It does happen yes, know the feeling

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

You're not alone in being lonely xx

It happens to many.

I wasn't ready for the school run to stop, the morning chats, the summer barbecue, the autumn fair, the sports, I hadn't realised that so much of my "social" life belonged to the kids.

Now I need to find the courage to join something new.

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By *ir SupremacyMan
4 weeks ago

Bolton

I'm The Opposite, I Was Long Time In The Army With People Around All The Time . Now I Love The Isolation And Peacefulness Its Nice .

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By *amasutra2011Couple
4 weeks ago

norbury

we found that over 50 are better, more reliable and more fun in swinging scene. Young simply want to release their pent up sexual ebergy but over 50s take time, socialise, turn up when promised, and are real good fun. when we are looking for fun on our trips, we actually prefer over 50s.

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By *orumlurker26 OP   Man
4 weeks ago

The Shire

Virtual coffee morning if anyone is free around 11 am

Message me to arrange.

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By *ock2025ukMan
2 weeks ago

Manchester

You dont have to be old to be lonely I am carer 48 and the loneliness is killing me daily

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By *otyouraverage1Man
2 weeks ago

enfield


"Slowly I have noticed that my close friend group has been shrinking over the last 10 years and it is now nonexistent. I am 53 with no one to call me on a Tuesday to go for a coffee. Everything seems to be on social media to me.

Does anyone else have this in their life. The phone stops ringing?

Is it that I am simply a bore?

"

Im in the same canoe all changed during covid and has got worse over years working nights doesn't help either

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By *hoenixmanMan
1 week ago

Faversham

No, you're not a bore mate. I moved just 21 miles last year for a job - I may as well have moved to outer Mongolia! Seen none of my friends group from where I used to live since then, and where I am now is as cold as ice when it comes to making new friends - even though there seems to be a high proportion of single women!!

I think life in general has changed over the past decade and it's dawning on a lot of us what we seem to have lost. I'm about 12 years older than you and I now run out of fingers to count the number of my school year who are no longer with us.

Chin up mate...

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By *ewMan2026Man
1 week ago

Chester and Liverpool


"Slowly I have noticed that my close friend group has been shrinking over the last 10 years and it is now nonexistent. I am 53 with no one to call me on a Tuesday to go for a coffee. Everything seems to be on social media to me.

Does anyone else have this in their life. The phone stops ringing?

Is it that I am simply a bore?

"

You need to ring people yourself. It’s hard sometimes but worthwhile. Everyone is so busy and it’s easy to forget about people when everyone is wrapped up in their own troubles.

I used to say I loved my own company but now I’m going through divorce the prospect of being alone a lot more is definitely scary

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By *axus 706Man
7 days ago

Droitwich

I have to agree with you, divorce almost done and was looking forward to being single, but now not so sure, Don’t do social media, never grew up with it. I can see why a dating site would be a great place to meet singles, but i got stung on a dating website, so once bitten twice shy, and all of them appear to have diabolical reviews. So here I am on fab

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By *heelerMan
7 days ago

Northants

I think a lot of loneliness is down to the cost of living where years ago you met friends at the pub for a pint after work or a games night that seems to have gone now ,parking costs at parks etc or go for ,a coffee over £4 now etc etc.

Thats my daily rant over.

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