FabSwingers.com forum: Bringing wife to the lifestyle

By *egavatid OP Man
4 weeks ago

Tallinn

If wife doesn't want to hear anything about swinging or group sex. How do I bring her to the lifestyle?

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
4 weeks ago

Manchester(ish).

You respect her wishes and don't.

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By *rasshopper201Man
4 weeks ago

kendal

With extreme difficulty rising the titanic might be easier I’ve been trying for years and not succeeded

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By *harAndBryCouple
4 weeks ago

Downham Market

"If wife doesn't want to hear anything about swinging or group sex. How do I bring her to the lifestyle? "

Is that your wife in the pics on your profile? Considering she wants nothing to do with the lifestyle, it seems odd that she's happy to have her pics there.

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By *igladAndLulahCouple
3 weeks ago

South East

"If wife doesn't want to hear anything about swinging or group sex. How do I bring her to the lifestyle? "

Respect her wishes and stop trying

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
3 weeks ago

Cambridgeshire

From the verifications on your profile, she's already tried it. Or was that with a woman who isn't your wife?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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3 weeks ago

East Sussex

"If wife doesn't want to hear anything about swinging or group sex. How do I bring her to the lifestyle? "

You don't.

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By *ev_1Couple
3 weeks ago

Bickliegh

You don't

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By *hegentlemanbullMan
3 weeks ago

Southam

"You respect her wishes and don't.

This is the right answer, chap.

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By *un.guy.88Man
3 weeks ago

walsall

I’m in the same boat and it’s shit

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By *nlyliveonce69Man
3 weeks ago

carlisle

If someone not interested there's nothing you can do.

Works both ways I was chatting one day a vanilla friend that knows what me and ex did . She tried to suggest it to man she was living with. He was very very against it Ie no gf of his going with anyone else.

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By *herrybakewellCouple
3 weeks ago

Staffordshire

As a couple, you join together....or not if its not a mutual agreement.

You don't talk someone into it.

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By *amsoonMan
3 weeks ago

Stornoway

"You respect her wishes and don't. Of course that is the morally correct answer. I say get on your knees and beg and grovel. Totally humiliate yourself. Then fuck her and cum within 30 seconds proving yourself as a totally inadequate lover.

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By *rey Sweat PantsMan
3 weeks ago

Oxford

"If wife doesn't want to hear anything about swinging or group sex. How do I bring her to the lifestyle? "

Its all about bringing her along in the journey and explaining what you want and woul like..sometimes people put up the walls too quick without looking at what you really want against the perceived reality

My wife was the most prudish women u could meet and then introduced her to my best mate and she became a cock slut literally!!!

Not always black and white

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By *nlyliveonce69Man
3 weeks ago

carlisle

When me and ex wife first got into it.

We very much thought soft swing watch others maybe in time we let other watch

We talked about things turned us on etc. We read adds together joking looking at others adds and pics, then having good sex together.

We first put a add to see if even got a reply just for fun of that,but all was done at her speed ,same as first time did meet a couple it was very much we just see how far we go no guarantees we will do anything. I think sometimes suggesting swinging can sound like I want fuck others not I want us to have fun together.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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3 weeks ago

East Sussex

"If wife doesn't want to hear anything about swinging or group sex. How do I bring her to the lifestyle?

My wife was the most prudish women u could meet and then introduced her to my best mate and she became a cock slut literally!!!

Not always black and white"

I think not wanting to hear anything about it is pretty black and white.

What is it with some men who can't accept their partner's how they are, always trying to change them 🤷‍♀️

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By *issmorganWoman
3 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

You ask her if she'd be interested op, if she says no again, you leave it well alone.

Swinging isn't for everyone and it's not for you to try and get her to do it, if she doesn't want to.

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By *irsSubCouple
3 weeks ago

Stockton

Let her know your feelings and respect hers. Her saying she isn't interested can mean two things 1, it's never going to happen or 2, it's not got happen now but she needs to process it. Either way respect her decision.

If it's number 2, pushing and nagging will make it less likely to happen and probably make your monogamous sex life worse. So just enjoy her

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By *ntercouplemaCouple
3 weeks ago

Here, for a bit

we eased into the lifestyle after playing with an older couple we met on holiday when we were younger. it was very social and we became friends quickly then one thing lead to another. this is why we enjoy the social element of the lifestyle a lot x

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By *ssexforlifeMan
3 weeks ago

wasall

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

Not sure this went quite the way he’d hoped.

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By *ddie7XXXMan
3 weeks ago

wigan

You don’t I was in the lifestyle before I met my wife she has known interest at all in it so I still play solo when I can and yes it with under the radar from her, I wish it wasn’t but that’s life and I have to be 😔

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By *arket Town CoupleCouple
3 weeks ago

Keighley

"If wife doesn't want to hear anything about swinging or group sex. How do I bring her to the lifestyle? "
Simply dont. This game is like a partnership. Both parties have to enjoy and be at ease, otherwise it will not ever work. Leave it be.

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By *eautyandthebeast86Couple
3 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

If she has made it very clear it’s not for her then you just have to accept it.

I gather when you first met and fell in love it was just you two so you were happy with that then. I’ve always said to my partner what happens if I don’t want to do it anymore and he simply said we would just stop as your my number one. That’s the kind of energy a relationship should have. Embrace your wife that you love.

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By *un Filthy FriendsMan
3 weeks ago

Maidstone, Kent

Gorgeous looking lady, so horny!

If you decide to start meeting again please get in touch. Would love to have some fun, caress those boobs

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By *ools and the brainCouple
3 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

Show her your profile and pic's I'm sure she'll let you know exactly how she feels.

Good luck with the divorce

Respect is everything as is consent, expect the consequences if you don't follow these rules.

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By *idcot58Man
3 weeks ago

didco

Mine used to swing then stopped when that happens its hard to get her to start again

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By *um n raisinWoman
3 weeks ago

taunton

guys on here need to understand that the amount of women who will have zero interest in these lifestyles is extremely low not even in the 1% more like 0.01% its very very low...just see how few women are online and then bare in mind half are men pretending to be women and then many are not here to meet just use the online social side .

couples are very very close relationships that develop with opem minded views these are again rare not as rare as single women but far and few in between ...

men look and see couples and then just think they are doing so shuld we.. not only that you guys marry these women uou should know them inside out but few do ... push her into the lifestyle and she will 100% break the marriage up seen it so many times people get into swinging for the wrong reasons = break up

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By *tlanshiaWoman
3 weeks ago

Chatham

"If wife doesn't want to hear anything about swinging or group sex. How do I bring her to the lifestyle? "

You respect her wishes and don’t try to pressure her into it.

It always amazes me what men think sounds acceptable to say out loud. You asked, she said no.

Either accept it and move on together. Or let her find someone who respects her and be with them

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By *ose and her beastCouple
2 weeks ago

Watford

You don't.

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
2 weeks ago

Bristol/ Daventry

"Mine used to swing then stopped when that happens its hard to get her to start again"

I can absolutely see why this is the case. It is rare to have good sex on a first encounter. It takes time to learn a body and so many guys don’t respond well to guidance/gentle encouragement. It doesn’t take many poor interactions to put one off, especially when it’s great with your actual partner. It’s just not worth the effort/mental load.

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
2 weeks ago

Norwich

My wife feels the same way about golf.

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By *ctionSandwichCouple
2 weeks ago

Newcastle under Lyme

You need to weigh up how valuable the relationship is for you over a quick thrill. Not anyone else's call to make.

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By *otfunx1Man
2 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Mine wants to come into lifestyle and i encourage her. Just need her to make next move and enjoy what she needs

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
2 weeks ago

Coventry

"If wife doesn't want to hear anything about swinging or group sex. How do I bring her to the lifestyle? "

The answer to your question is kind of in your question. How likely do think someone who wants nothing to do with a thing will do said thing?

Sounds like you've approached this conversation with her? Sometimes how you go about that can make all the difference. How does she feel about your participation in this lifestyle?

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
2 weeks ago

Cambridgeshire

"My wife feels the same way about golf."

"Honest dear, I was just trying to improve my golf when I googled swinging".

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By *eggy 70Couple
2 days ago

Romford

I am being pressurised into it

But I think it's just an excuse for him to fuck others

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By *ung nine inchMan
2 days ago

leeds

If your pussy horny like my wife’s have fun

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By *enny100Man
2 days ago

City

It’s like anything else. You’ve got to sell it !! Either it’s appealing or not a d just have to accept the final outcome . However sell away you’d be surprised it may be a yes ultimately 😉

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By *ellinever70Woman
2 days ago

Ayrshire

"I am being pressurised into it

But I think it's just an excuse for him to fuck others "

Crikey

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By *nlyliveonce69Man
2 days ago

carlisle

"My wife feels the same way about golf."

I agree why would anyone pay good money to hit tiny ball then drag trolly round a field 🤔

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By *icemember7Man
2 days ago

Worcester

Bring a guy home with you, tell her he's not had sex for years.

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By *aandLoCouple
2 days ago

Southampton

"I am being pressurised into it

But I think it's just an excuse for him to fuck others "

That sounds awful for you. Don't let yourself be pressured. It's likely to end in disaster for you both.

It's just sex at the end of the day, and should not be the defining factor of your relationship. Xx

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