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What defines a *couple*

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By *utiepiepants OP   Woman
5 weeks ago

Wishaw

Interested to see people's thoughts on this one

How many people swing regularly with same person but remain a single pringle?

How many single swingers have pictures of themselves with their f&ck buddy on their profiles but remain single in their *identity* in swinging?

I am confused by some people's interpretations

I am not the type to label or box myself - but it appears others feel the need to.

Help a gal out by giving me your thoughts.

Never thought I would have to use the *I identify as* phrase in here to explain my swinging fun

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By *hoirCouple
5 weeks ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

Two people with agreed upon close parameters.

C

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By *utiepiepants OP   Woman
5 weeks ago

Wishaw


"Two people with agreed upon close parameters.

C"

So - the converse is true also

You agree to be a couple within parameters- and you can agree to be single FWB or f@ck buddies

I think 🤔

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By *aylight hoursWoman
5 weeks ago

that place

For the purposes of swinging or casual sex the idea of a couple can be very diluted, ultimately two people that present/appear together and have an agreed common fuck goal. These two people could be real life partners, fwb or fuck buddies, long or short term, and have a high or low level of commitment to each other. All they have to be is in agreement to be presenting as a couple.

It's not for anyone to tell you you are in a couple just because you may have long-term partners, casual or committed, if that's what you're asking. Though if you apply existing partners' rules to your solo activity (eg. need permission from my Dom, never meet without bf etc), in which case a single account is misleading.

When meeting with couples ask after their type of relationship if that is important to you, most people will happily explain what kind of deal they're on.

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
5 weeks ago

Cambridgeshire

Great answer, Daylight Hours.

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By *utiepiepants OP   Woman
5 weeks ago

Wishaw

Yes that makes sense. Its not fir someone else to define your relationship type

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By *herrybakewellCouple
5 weeks ago

Staffordshire

The importance of this question is honesty.

There's a great difference in 2 people in a long term committed relationship to those that meet occasionally purely on a sexual basis.

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By *an1978Woman
5 weeks ago

Gwynedd/ Powys Border

I've seen some events insist on "real" couples. Proof of address, ID etc.

I guess the dynamic is different when you're just casual friends rather than a married couple.

As long as they're honest, it isn't up to me to define their relationship.

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By *utiepiepants OP   Woman
5 weeks ago

Wishaw


"The importance of this question is honesty.

There's a great difference in 2 people in a long term committed relationship to those that meet occasionally purely on a sexual basis.

"

Completely agree - 2 people can mutually agree to be a couple or not to be.

No one else should define it

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By *issmorganWoman
5 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I'd say, 2 people who meet others together regularly can be a couple.

There's lots of fwb couples and couples married to others, so if it's important, always ask them what their dynamic is.

I agree it's a bit duplicitous, when someone says they're single, then throw in they don't meet alone or need permission etc.

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By *ilbert777Woman
5 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

Often people will use their other half as an excuse for things they don't want

.. I was surprised to hear that I wouldnt be up for letting an ex go to a stag night but he didn't want to say that he didn't want to go/ didn't have the money for it. I guess that might be why single people are seeking permission? So slow things down or make it a more gentle no?

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By *lueDressWoman
5 weeks ago

Bath Somerset

A lot of people who have approached me over the years have been a couple, but only friends with benefits,married to other people.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
5 weeks ago

Coventry

People define themselves as they want. What others define themselves as may not be as you define them. I personally wouldn't get too rapped up in it. Its up to you if you see two people who come as a pair as enough of couple enough for you to fuck or not.

I think for us in terms of couples it's more a point of if they the right chemistry or not between them regardless of their background, format or label. We've seen some fuck buddies who work better together and seem more comfortable around each other than formal some couples.

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