FabSwingers.com forum: First time Cuckold story and Questions

By *hippetsAndPasties OP Couple
6 weeks ago

SouthWest

Hey everyone, first post here. Mainly just looking to chat and maybe get some advice from those of you with a bit more experience, especially any other cuckold guys.

So, me and my wife have swung before (same room, full swap with couples), but we took a long break… until very recently. We treat this as a bit of a hobby between us, something that’s just ours. We’ve almost nailed being completely open with each other before, during and after meets, and the aftercare side of things is a big part of why this works so well for us. We always check in with each other, and that’s what keeps it fun and safe.

We struck gold almost straight away when we started looking again. Found a guy who’s completely on our wavelength. He’s bi, which works great for us (I’m orally bi), he respects boundaries, and honestly he’s just a solid guy. He’s also slightly more well-endowed… and as it turns out, an absolute beast in the bedroom.

After about a week of chatting, we met for the first time and it was incredible. The chemistry between him and my wife was spot on. Plenty of passion, lots of kissing (which we’d discussed beforehand), and it all felt really natural. I was involved too, probably about 65% him / 35% me. We had no idea about his stamina, and after about 3.5 hours she had to call it, and he still didn’t finish.

The whole thing was wild. The connection, the energy, everything. It left us both on a bit of a dopamine high for days. It massively improved our own sex life and just left us wanting more. Even now I’ll randomly think back to certain moments or things that were said, and it hits in a really intense, good way.

A few days later we arranged a second meet (this past Thursday). This time I said I wanted to try a bit of a cuckold dynamic, even if just briefly, just to see how it felt. So the plan was for him to take her upstairs for 15 minutes while I stayed downstairs. He also knew I wanted to try a cleanup. Other than that, no real structure.

That 15 minutes… honestly one of the most intense feelings I’ve ever had. I lasted about 9 minutes before giving in and going upstairs, and they were very much enjoying their time together. We were there about 4 hours in total, and in that time I only briefly had sex with her twice. There was a fair bit of bi play (me with him), and even the parts I wasn’t sure I’d enjoy, like the cleanup, turned out to be something I was really into. After that, when it was my turn again, I didn’t last long at all.

So, if you’ve made it this far, here’s what I’d really like some input on:

When I first walked in, it was clear I wasn’t needed straight away, and I was okay with that. But for about half an hour I tried to get more involved with her, almost like I was looking for a turn… and they didn’t stop. I felt a twinge of jealousy and it caught me off guard. I pushed through it, and I’m really glad I did, because it passed and I realised they were just giving me exactly what I’d asked for. Has anyone got advice on how to handle that in the moment, or what mindset to keep during it?

Also, where do we go from here? Any suggestions on things to try, or scenarios to explore next? Suggestions VERY welcome!

I don’t think I’m quite ready for her to see him on her own yet, but it’s definitely a fantasy in the back of my mind. If anyone’s been there, I’d appreciate any advice on how to approach that step when the time feels right.

Overall, we’re both really happy and comfortable with everything we’ve done so far. Honestly, we haven’t had this much sex or felt this connected in a long time, if ever, and meeting him has taken things to another level for us.

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
6 weeks ago

Norwich

Sounds fantastic, well done. I hope it continues to work out and be thrilling for you. Not exactly what you’d hoped for as a piece of advice I’m sure but it’s well meant!

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By *edheadnBaldyCouple
6 weeks ago

Aberdeen

Loving the articulate male view on this OP will definitely be following the post with interest!

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
6 weeks ago

Bristol/ Daventry

Does it need to be cuckhold? It sounds like a Herero-flexible stag/vixen dynamic might be a better fit? Agree both of your wants and boundaries so that you both enjoy it.

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By *lippy02Man
6 weeks ago

edinburgh

Has some similar thoughts and experiences when initially meeting men but can only say glad I also went with thr flow in the longer run.

Just be honest with each other and treat it all as sex fun.

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By *ellinever70Woman
6 weeks ago

Ayrshire

Why not just enjoy what you've done and continue to do that?

You don't need to be aiming for another level up

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By *hippetsAndPasties OP Couple
6 weeks ago

SouthWest

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By *hippetsAndPasties OP Couple
6 weeks ago

SouthWest

"Does it need to be cuckhold? It sounds like a Herero-flexible stag/vixen dynamic might be a better fit? Agree both of your wants and boundaries so that you both enjoy it."

Could you explain the practical difference there? I presumed it fit more into the Cuckold category

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By *liandaCouple
6 weeks ago

london

this just goes to show that it isnt just about the fucking. what goes on in your mind is so important.

The first few times ali played without me it wasnt cuck fun at all. I would send her into a private room at a club with a guy - it was her being sub to me. The first time she met someone without me being there, i had arranged it and asked him to take her to a club.

But things were changing. The first time i really noticed it was when she was fucking a guy at a club she wasnt looking at me or trying to hold my hand or wriggle around so i got the best view of her pussy. this was a real change. i asked her about it - and she said she had decided she didnt really care if i was watching that time and was just thinking about herself. It was quite a shock, but i was turned on by the idea of her being so into it for herself.

it developed from there - she would get to the club before me and put on a show - not really thinking about whether i saw any of it or whether she had finished, or started again!, before i got there.

although i would be part of it some of the time, sharing her in every sense, other times i would have to wait my turn.

i would be so jealous, but that is really what makes it so intense. I like watching people fuck, but watching ali, or knowing what she is doing, was just so intense. you will start to revel in it - and if not, it probably isnt for you.

but i think it probably is - and i hope you both have a fantastic time exploring

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
6 weeks ago

Bristol/ Daventry

"Does it need to be cuckhold? It sounds like a Herero-flexible stag/vixen dynamic might be a better fit? Agree both of your wants and boundaries so that you both enjoy it.

Could you explain the practical difference there? I presumed it fit more into the Cuckold category"

Cuckold seems to have morphed into what was staged/vixen in some cases. Stag /vixen has no power dynamic or shame elements. Mr revels in Ms’ enjoyment of other men. Can join in as he wishes / can watch without intentional interference exclusion. It’s about mutual enjoyment and engagement.

Cuckold is (was)a F/m power dynamics where women’s pleasure comes before men’s (if men have any at all). There are shame elements such a small penis humiliation/ineptitude/inferiority.

I appreciate that language changes over time. But I always make sure there is clear communication before scenes/engagement to ensure everyone is agreed on the parameters/boundaries away from the labels as there are connotations and assumptions with both sets of labels.

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
6 weeks ago

Bristol/ Daventry

To add/clarify the above the cuckold’s pleasure comes secondary, the joining third (or more), can enjoy freely.

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By *rankieiamMan
6 weeks ago

reading

Love the story! Sounds fantastic! I was in a cuckold relationship got 7 years with an ex. In my opinion that moment of jealousy. Adds to it. Although where I was different, I was always happy to sit and watch and enjoy so never really felt left out. I liked it to be about them. I enjoyed the show.

But I think you’re feeling is totally natural. Although something you may get used to. I’m sure it added to the intensity?

Aren’t just the same type of scenario again, maybe try waiting about longer. It’s an incredible mind game. With a huge euphoric release at the end.

good work on the cleanup!

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By *erry 58Man
6 weeks ago

doncaster

I’ve played the role of bull for lots of cuck couples . You can get carried away when you get the lady in bed , but you have to respect they’re boundaries and try not to make it a one way meet

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By *wingfortippCouple
6 weeks ago

Dublin

Brilliant story and conversation. We are in a somewhat similar situation but the feelings change every time we meet someone new. The dynamic constantly changes and can be difficult to navigate 🙂

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
6 weeks ago

your bed

I think everyone plays differently and whilst you can put a name on it like cuckolding there is quiet a range of features in the cuckolding dynamic that people may or may not try along the way.

You could list everything here from voyeurism to cruel public humiliation. It's a very broad church although I think most people play at the lower end of the scale rather than some of the sissification, denial or worse stories that you might read about on the internet.

So probably the best advice is that like any swinger or alternative lifestyle couple, find the dynamic that works for you and try different things. If they work great you have found something new, if you find it's not to your taste or has a side impact that you can't handle then, agree not to go down that path again.

You can always (most of the time) take a step back and try something different.

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By *ason.1210Man
6 weeks ago

Coventry

I've found being the bull in this situation, and you really need to have boundaries sorted from the start, this is a fantasy for both in the couple, and it definitely needs to stay a pleasurable experience for them both throughout.

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By *elsbells2011Couple
6 weeks ago

Dunfermline

We are always curious to find other couples dynamics. Do the guys mainly arrange the meets for the wife’s or does the wife do most of the arrangements.

For us wife does most of the work. I really get off watching her picking and chatting with guys and seeing her get more into it as the meet gets closer. I have full access to fab so I can see everything unfold in the early stages then when it moves to telegram or WhatsApp it’s a real tease because I can then only imagine and she enjoys to tease.

Last few meets she has went on social meet before and met the guys first so by the time play meets are arranged they have both become familiar with each other adding to the excitement for me knowing there is already tension between them.

Last meet she even gave the guy her phone while they were in Starbucks and he was texting me and sent a few cheeky pics of her teasing.

When it comes to the play meet We have always allowed her and the guy to go up to the room 10-15 minutes before as I wait in the bar area just to allow them to get started but no sex until I’m there to watch. Mostly just kissing and stripping down to underwear.

As the op has said was strange for me also at first walking into a room and pretty much being ignored as they are in the middle of passionately snogging and exploring each other but it’s become a huge turn on just walking into and quietly sitting enjoying the show. Sometimes it’s gone all the way to the end of a very lengthy session before either of them

Has even acknowledged I’m even there since they have been too concentrated on each other.

Sometimes guys just leave then leave us to ourselves and others have hung around to enjoy the view as I then take my shot either cleaning kissing or fucking her after but usually I don’t last too long at all at that point.

What’s everyone else’s arrangements

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By *orthwest.Man
6 weeks ago

For me it’s simple. Being a bull doesn’t mean being an arrogant sod, dominating for the sake of it. If any guys on fab give this vibe, they aren’t a bull.

I like to have a long term set up, where I agree with the couple how it works. Sometimes the wife is in control, sometimes the cuck arranges things. My role is to adapt to what is comfortable for them and fill whatever gaps (no pun intended!) that they need. Respect is more important than anything.

Saying that, I do love winding up a cuck! Happy fabbing everyone!

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By *ound_n_stretcherMan
6 weeks ago

North West

Really great post and articulates brilliantly some of my own experiences as a stag partner.

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
6 weeks ago

Bristol/ Daventry

"For me it’s simple. Being a bull doesn’t mean being an arrogant sod, dominating for the sake of it. If any guys on fab give this vibe, they aren’t a bull.

Saying that, I do love winding up a cuck! Happy fabbing everyone! "

I organise all our meets (I work from home and get bored between teams calls).

I love it when a guy assumes, regardless of the fact I say that Mr isn’t a cuck and that we’re a S/V couple, that the guys assumes he is. He’s slight and a perfect gentleman.

They get their swagger on and try it on, then he unzips and flops it out with a massive *thunk* and joins in. There’s always a moment of terror/surprise. Those that stay/keep it up while keeping their ego in check are always great fun and get repeat meets.

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By *rMslaraCouple
6 weeks ago

Newport

Telegram?

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By *ee And MikeCouple
5 weeks ago

Cannock

As a cuckold couple for over 30 years then we’d say that you can’t really pigeonhole cuckolding into one thing in particular, what works for some, doesn’t for others.

I enjoy watching her play with other guys in an adult cinema or clubs whilst I’m cock caged but also enjoy the intimacy of being there for one (or two) guy meets.

Dee often cuckolds me with guys she might have met through, say work or friends so I’m not always present when she plays, but the frustration for me as a cuck is no less.

She has found her bi side more in recent years so she has cuckolded me with girls as well as guys, which is a slightly different dynamic but still good all the same.

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By *ouple_For_BuddyCouple
5 weeks ago

Newport

I can sympathise with your feelings.

I am not Cuckold as such, everything that we do is agreed between us. That said, she plays with other males and I join in where I can (two males playing with wife).

But sometimes it doesn't lend itself to that very easily.

Ultimately, the Wife enjoys it, but what it is important to remember is; she is doing this to please me as well as take some enjoyment for herself.

Not sure if that helps at all, but the dynamic works well for us.

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By *umi2Couple
5 weeks ago

Wild West

We view it - involving another male - just as another aspect of our sex lives, without necessarily giving it a label.

It's not really a big deal for us - other than it makes the Mrs extra horny knowing she's making another man aroused, and we subsequently have more sex as a result. Bonus!

But the Mrs has to like the other bloke enough to have sex - so personality is ultra important.

That's not really answering the original question, rather it's giving our perspective.

The erotic thoughts are really important - just some people seem to over-think things by putting it into a category

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By *elightfulMan
5 weeks ago

Ipswich /Colchester

Sounds perfect to me. I'd like that scenario and to be in your shoes. I can see the jealousy side but its something you want really.

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By *lack King DomMan
5 weeks ago

London

"Why not just enjoy what you've done and continue to do that?

You don't need to be aiming for another level up "

This

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By *ust him and herCouple
2 weeks ago

Colwyn Bay

"Hey everyone, first post here. Mainly just looking to chat and maybe get some advice from those of you with a bit more experience, especially any other cuckold guys.

So, if you’ve made it this far, here’s what I’d really like some input on:

Also, where do we go from here? Any suggestions on things to try, or scenarios to explore next? Suggestions VERY welcome!

Wow! There are so many things you’ve have said that I feel exactly the same about!! The dynamic between us is almost the same! The “I wasn’t needed” was a real turn on and a dynamic I am keen to repeat. I’m kinda responding on this thread hoping Mrs will know what you’ve had is exactly what I’d like! I know my ‘limitations’ and love her need and want for ‘extra’ but lack the confidence to let her go for it, it’s not the humiliation of the cuckold scene, it’s the acknowledgement of sexual fulfilment and the kink of knowing she’s being fulfilled that I like. The reclaim sex’ doesn’t need to be full on, just a ‘what we did’ talk in full, is what I like. As for scenarios - let her go out and come home sticky and knickerless and tell you all about it while looking you in the eyes then clean her up

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By *ust him and herCouple
2 weeks ago

Colwyn Bay

"Hey everyone, first post here. Mainly just looking to chat and maybe get some advice from those of you with a bit more experience, especially any other cuckold guys.

So, if you’ve made it this far, here’s what I’d really like some input on:

Also, where do we go from here? Any suggestions on things to try, or scenarios to explore next? Suggestions VERY welcome!

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By *amsoonMan
7 days ago

Stornoway

With my wife it started as a 3sum but over the years the cuckold element came in. Wasn't something we deliberately planned it just developed naturally.

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By *amasutra2011Couple
7 days ago

norbury

being a cuck is great. True love is to watch your loved being loved.

my wife worships cocks so i arrange for bulls and watch them. Sometimes i cum , simply watching up close, my wife's hungry pussy being pumped by a big cock.

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By *ung nine inchMan
7 days ago

leeds

Love watching Mrs been pounded by a cock bigger than mine

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