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My Fwb wants me to restrain her

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By *teve2024 OP   Man
6 weeks ago

Corby

She has these restraints that hook around your bed and wants me to blindfold and restrain her, what should I do when I have her restrained, I need some ideas

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By *ldbutable1Man
6 weeks ago

hewish

my domme had me blindfolded and what she used on me i had to guess what it was , from feathers to a string of beads drawn across me, a pin wheel adds a nice short impact

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By *layfullsamMan
6 weeks ago

Solihull


"She has these restraints that hook around your bed and wants me to blindfold and restrain her, what should I do when I have her restrained, I need some ideas"

Off to the pub

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By *esYesOMGYes!Man
6 weeks ago

Didsbury

Take your time, start gentle, blow gently on her skin, touch her lightly, whisper in her ear. Make her wait for the big O. Focus on the journey not the destination.

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By *he MinionMan
6 weeks ago

Surrey

Pinwheels, paddles, ice, wax, chains, feathers, hot (ish) things, cold things. (I like cold things), kisses. Tongues, fingers, scratching, stroking. Breath. Soft things, hard things. Lots of kitchen utensils are great for this if you dont have things !

Its all sensory, teasing play.

Caress her body, worship it. She is giving it over to you be being restrained and blindfolded. Tease the orgasm out of her !

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By *omeotherguyMan
6 weeks ago

Sheffield/London/Derbyshire


"She has these restraints that hook around your bed and wants me to blindfold and restrain her, what should I do when I have her restrained, I need some ideas"

Start by surprising her with where and how you touch her. Vary the contact and the pace. Use different sensations like fingers, toys, feathers, ice, even the end of a belt lightly dragged over the skin. Tease more vulnerable areas like the neck, stomach and inner thighs, and pay attention to how she reacts. When something clearly gets a response, stay with it and build on it.

A blindfold can make everything feel more intense because she can't anticipate what's coming next, so sound, touch and timing matter even more. Contrast is nice, a more gentle touch followed by something firmer. When you can't see, you focus more on the other senses, so it can heighten the feeling of what someone does.

If she wants restraint, I'd talk first about what kind of experience she wants from it. Does she want teasing, control, intensity, helplessness, praise, a bit of fear, or to feel pushed slightly out of her comfort zone in a way that still feels safe? Agree limits first, maybe have a safeword, and then play confidently within that space.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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6 weeks ago

East Sussex

Ask her. I cannot express this strongly enough, ask the woman that you will be with. It's fine to get ideas but run them past her before you start

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By *igladAndLulahCouple
6 weeks ago

South East


"She has these restraints that hook around your bed and wants me to blindfold and restrain her, what should I do when I have her restrained, I need some ideas"

Ask her what she wants, if she already has the restraints she is probably used to that type of play and knows what she likes and wants

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By *ldbutable1Man
6 weeks ago

hewish

I do not like being restrained fully so my mistress would wrap a silk scarf around my wrist , loosley so i didnt panic , but if i moved then play stopped

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By *teve2024 OP   Man
6 weeks ago

Corby

That's great advice from all apart from the Pub one lol but thanks for all the help and I'll let you know how it goes

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By *layfullsamMan
6 weeks ago

Solihull


"That's great advice from all apart from the Pub one lol but thanks for all the help and I'll let you know how it goes "

I thought the pub one was the best one

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago


"She has these restraints that hook around your bed and wants me to blindfold and restrain her, what should I do when I have her restrained, I need some ideas"

Sounds like she wants to submit you, with you being in charge

If you need help thinking of ideas maybe you aren't the right sort of Domme for her

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By *icentiousCouple
6 weeks ago

Up on them there hills

Talk,set boundaries then feed off her reactions, let her body dictate don’t go with a plan, what she says and her sensuality might be two different things,finally make sure there is a safe word or physical safe sign.

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

Used to do this to my wife before we had kids. It was some of the best sex we ever had, very hot 👌

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By *rasshopper201Man
5 weeks ago

kendal

I had an more mature lad it ask me to do this to her her husband helped me set it up in there bedroom I told him Cx what I was going to do and he agreed that it would be good fun and to see her reaction when she was tied up I placed the blindfold on her all comfy asked her she was happy with everything she nodded then her husband was down stairs and he rang the door bell she immediately shouted out oh god who’s this coming at this time of night I pretended to talk to someone in a whisper I don’t think I’ve ever seen anyone start to panic and wriggle trying to get out of the straps her hubby was bent over double I removed the blindfold of her and when she saw there was no one she called the pair of us bastards and laughed it was a great night broke the ice she never ask me again to tie her up

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By *ack DawXXXMan
5 weeks ago

Weybridge

I used to do this with an ex. Blindfolds, tied down with ballgag in her mouth.

I would then watch whatever I wanted on TV.

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By *oobsandbeard69Couple
5 weeks ago

Birmingham

Ask her what she likes!! A lot of these ideas would genuinely bore me 😂

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