FabSwingers.com forum: Advice please

By (user no longer on site) OP
7 weeks ago

Please be honest— is there anyone here who has a boyfriend but he doesn’t know you’re on here? I got into a relationship before I registered here. What would you suggest I do? Thanks xx

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By *allySlinkyWoman
7 weeks ago

Leeds

It seems a bit ironic you are asking us to be honest, when it's not something you are yourself !

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By *sm265Woman
7 weeks ago

Perthshire

Bit late to ask this question if you were in the relationship prior to joining Fab, and your profile is over a year old.

You asked for honest opinions... in my opinion lies and cheating are never a good thing in any relationship and I feel sorry for your partner.

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By *all me FlikWoman
7 weeks ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

My partner knows I'm here plus we have couples profile. Personally I would say you need to decide what you want. If you want a partner but don't want to share the lifestyle with him then either the lifestyle or the partner has to go.

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By *ingDQueenKCouple
7 weeks ago

Ipswich

🤨 stop cheating on your partner would be my first response

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By *elightfulMan
7 weeks ago

Ipswich /Colchester

You'll get a lot of people judging you on here lol. Its up to you. Lots of people carry on this lifestyle while in a relationship without telling them. If you are happy enjoying the sex then carry on.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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7 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Please be honest— is there anyone here who has a boyfriend but he doesn’t know you’re on here? I got into a relationship before I registered here. What would you suggest I do? Thanks xx"

You have four options

Tell him

Leave fab

Leave him

Continue as you are

None of us can really advise you further than that but most people in your position go for option 4 it seems

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By *herrybakewellCouple
7 weeks ago

Staffordshire

How would you feel if it was the other way around?

If you were in a relationship and you found out he was secretly on a swingers website and fucking other ladies.

It answers your own question.

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By *uliette500Woman
7 weeks ago

Hull

Sorry OP nobody else can tell you what you should do with your life. You have to make a decision you are comfortable with.

This thread will fill up with all the 'super moral' people who will start ripping you a new one for cheating on your partner.

The simple fact is we don't know what is going on in your relationship that makes you feel the need to be on here but there obviously is something. You just need to decide for yourself.

I hope you have a thick skin because you'll need it for the replies you'll get on here.

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By *partharmonyCouple
7 weeks ago

Tonbridge

Might he want to join in?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
7 weeks ago

Leeds

Maybe he is already here ?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
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7 weeks ago

Central

Just being 100% honest with everyone, is my best advice. Maybe your partner suspects that his trust is better placed elsewhere. And you could honour him by being fully honest

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By *issmorganWoman
6 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Either delete your profile and be happy with your bf.

Or tell him you're on here and let him make his decision. Why didn't you just delete your profile, when you met him?.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
6 weeks ago

Leeds

" Why didn't you just delete your profile, when you met him?.

OP made her profile after she started the relationship.

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By *issmorganWoman
6 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

" Why didn't you just delete your profile, when you met him?.

OP made her profile after she started the relationship. "
. Ah yeah

In that case op, tell him and let him find someone who deserves him.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
6 weeks ago

Coventry

I think two main factors to look at:

First: How far into the relationship and where do you see it going? Is it very early days? Or is this something proper with a possible future? If the latter then you shouldn't be ongoing on like this and I refer you to point two. If its the former I understand not throwing the baby out with the bath water before its a little more established but don't me meeting other people (thats out of order).

Second: Why would you want to be in a relationship where you can't be yourself and loved for who you are? If this lifestyle is a must in your life then you need to be with someone who at the very least respects your participation in it even if it's not for them. So whoever you're with don't live a lie. Be honest with them about your desires. If this is not for them and they don't accept you for you then they are not for you. Any healthy relationship should be based on honesty and openness even when the subject is a difficult conversation. So be with someone you can be free and your authentic self with.

Don't live a lie, its no good for anyone. I would say exactly the same for a guy.

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By *uttercupWoman
6 weeks ago

Borders

I hope he finds a good honest loyal woman to enjoy life with soon

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By *eautyandthebeast86Couple
6 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

I don’t think anyone can give you advice on your own love life but people can give opinions.

Ask your self these questions and then maybe you can evaluate.

If you were in a relationship prior to joining, what is it that made you join?

Is being on here worth the risk of losing your partner if they were to find out?

If you found out they were doing the same how would you feel ?

Do you feel you could approach the subject about being a couples swinger?

We have seen on here that most viable long term relationships are built on trust, communication and loyalty.

With out that most relationships eventually break down, bottom line is you need to evaluate if you see it going anywhere. Good luck OP.

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By *haringiscaring1980sCouple
6 weeks ago

Kettering

It's probably worth you speaking to your partner about it and being honest. I always told my partners I was into the whole swinging thing from the start of any relationship.

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