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What would you do in this situation

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By *omo2026 OP   Man
7 weeks ago

North West

Firstly it's a ture predicament I've got to.

So I am single to set the scene. Been speaking with a girl from work and it ended up with is arranging drinks in the city. Fast forward and we are out drinks flowing, she by chance bumped into her friend who's out with her hubby. Turns into a double date after we agreed to stick together....

Near the end of the night her hubby is on his phone for ages. Only happened to clock he's on fab isn't he.... Didn't say anything obviously at the time...

Mrs was absolutely beautiful and a flirt ....

What's your advice on what I should do here..

Outside of the complicated factors of this new girl I've been doing the ground work on its a no brainer - I would be looking for them now.

Would you message them off here and just go into the deep end saying I seen you are on fab yourself etc..Ive been added to their SM account.

Or do I sit on it and wait to see what they do and how I get on dating her mate for now

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By *j47Man
7 weeks ago

limerick

Is your date into a foursome

If they are mates it maybe dodgy trying it on as this is a new relationship

Fuck it go for it

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By *ove2pleaseseukMan
7 weeks ago

Hastings

If you piss the girl you went out for a drink with its game over.

And you can always find the couple on fab 👌

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By *eachlife49Man
7 weeks ago

ocean

Would she join you?

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By *aughtycplStokeCouple
7 weeks ago

Stoke-on-Trent

Firstly you’d need to find the couple on here, maybe start a conversation on here with them but don’t let on you know you have socially met until you know they are into you

Still get to know the girl and build up that relationship. You never know if she’s the one for you, she may even be into having her friends get involved too

Just play it cool and calm x

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By *izzygizzMan
7 weeks ago

manchester

Maybe your date has planned it with the couple to just “bump into you” see what they think of you!!

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By *omo2026 OP   Man
7 weeks ago

North West

Cheers for the reply. It was all a bit strange from the off. Just had a feeling they may have been into the lifestyle got the vibe straight away. Then later on in the night I just spotted the fab main page on the phone. Other things happened but can't DM you so won't go into it anymore for now.

I thought about a quiet word with the M but it wasn't the time or place for disclosing I was here given the girl I had taken out has no clue I'm on here.

I've had a good look for them but can't see them here. Now I'm wondering if hes solo and Mrs not in on it. Luckily I've added Mrs on her SM so watch this space maybe. X

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By *ndy and RuthCouple
7 weeks ago

swansea

Good luck

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By *omo2026 OP   Man
7 weeks ago

North West

Thanks 👍

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By *j and c 2Couple
7 weeks ago

mullingar

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
7 weeks ago

East Sussex

What is the actual predicament here?

How much do you know about the woman you were out for drinks with and what does 'doing The groundwork ' mean?

The other guy was really rude if he spent ages on his phone, I'd take that as a sign that he wasn't interested in the company. His wife was probably being friendly to make up for his bad manners

If I were in your shoes I'd just carry on seeing your colleague if she's interested and if I found the couple on here maybe send an introductory message.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
7 weeks ago

East Sussex

^^ or he was looking for a meet for later

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By *ipplebarnyMan
7 weeks ago

milton keynes

Look after your date first you will see the other couple around through the date and let it grow and develop

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By *ouple4camsCouple
7 weeks ago

Dundalk(ish)

Depends how you feel about the date. If you want to keep going down that track think with the big head and put the couple to one side for now.

Might be an option in the future but moving on that while still in the "getting to know her" phase may not send the right message.

And assume that anything you say to the friends will get back to your date.

One other point...

Although you've had some good advice here, you'd probably have had much more in the Support and Advice forum as a lot of people don't like stories and fantasies so maybe won't see it in here.

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By *inkPomPomWoman
7 weeks ago

Isle of Man

Kinda sad for the girl you're dating ngl

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By *ctionSandwichCouple
7 weeks ago

Newcastle under Lyme

They're a couple with a Fab profile. You are just another single man. Why make a social interaction awkward by bringing up Fab with them? He'll, you'll give a bad impression by doing so after they thought you were dating somebody else.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
7 weeks ago

Central

I'd give them discretion, unless they have confided to you that they swing.

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By *r_Tickle_OGMan
7 weeks ago

Staffs

This started as a date with your colleague, just keep going with that and enjoy. Forget about the couple, that's not an option.

If your new date has been doing the groundwork for something the 3 of them have planned, then lucky you but be realistic, it's highly unlikely in reality. So enjoy getting to know this woman and don't start the relationship with wanting to get together with this couple, it sounds like a disaster waiting to happen.

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By *issmorganWoman
7 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

If you don't wanna peruse things with the woman you were out with, do the right thing and let her down.

Don't keep seeing her and then try to hook up with her friend and husband, that's not a good look for you.

You can't presume it's been set up for you. Lots of people are on fab and don't tell their friends etc about it.

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By *rightonsteveMan
7 weeks ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Firstly you’d need to find the couple on here, maybe start a conversation on here with them but don’t let on you know you have socially met until you know they are into you

Still get to know the girl and build up that relationship. You never know if she’s the one for you, she may even be into having her friends get involved too

Just play it cool and calm x"

I agree with this approach.

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By *ellinever70Woman
7 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I can understand why some women just can't face the prospect of trying to date again...so often, men show that they're incapable of being in the present and enjoying what is actually right in front of them.

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By *WB85Man
7 weeks ago

Staffordshire

I'd do nothing.

Separate the 2 worlds to avoid conflicts in your private life.

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By *aramel.desiresMan
7 weeks ago

Surrey

Leave the couple alone for now.

Get to know your date and cross your fingers and toes that she would like to try the scene too.

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